Do you believe in grounding your child/children?

JeepGirl · 02-02-2007, 09:47 PM

I would like a feedback whether you believe in grounding your child or children or not? If your kid fought in school, would you ground him/her? If your kid talks back, makes bad grades, disobey you , etc, would you ground him/her? How long do you ground him/her for? If you don't believe in grounding, how do you punish your child for wrong doing? I'm just really curious. I've never been grounded before and my boyfriend has. My boyfriend has the military punishment since his step-dad was in the army. So he was pretty strict. I grew up almost never getting in trouble. I have talked in class, made a couple of bad grades, fought with another student and so on, but never once been grounded.

Now, my boyfriend and I have an issue whether to ground my daughter for talking in class but yet she made the A-B honor roll. That's one of the reason i didn't ground her but to talk to her about not talking in class and wait til the teacher gives permission for the kids to talk in class. My boyfriend thinks the opposite. He thinks we should ground her for like 2 days to make her realize its not funny and its serious. I kinda agree with him but I feel bad.

I would be happy to hear from your side and tell me how you punish your child. I'm not speaking of spanking.. only on how to punish and in what way.

thanks

SherryCherish · 02-02-2007, 09:52 PM

Well, i do believe in dipcline the kids, almost like grounding. It only way to make them learn the leasson from wrong and right. I always make them time out for 5 mins or, take things that their's favorite. Its usually works. The kids must to obey and listen the parents. The only way to make them behave and grow up better. I see alots of parents didn't punish their kids, but the kids behave so awful and disrespect, and i don't like it all. So, it only lead them grows better from right and wrong. So, team work is only make it easy each other to help out. Well, don't feel bad, cuz u know she was doing wrong, and it will help her to understand its not right thing to do. Well, hope that would help ya.

GalaxyAngel · 02-02-2007, 09:55 PM

you believe in grounding your child or children or not?
Yes, I do believe grounded my child and depend the case situation how's bad or minor..

If your kid fought in school, would you ground him/her?
Yes, I will grounded my child if it's serious matter related the school.. and will have my child grounded a day within no contact their friend via phone or visiting friend's place.

How long do you ground him/her for?
Related school (Fight Student or Arguments) Teacher: Grounded my child a day.
Related School failing their test: Not approve grounded my child because of that.. Try their best effort work goal pass the test.. I believe my own philosophy.
Related my home failing obey family's rules: Depend how many days their grounded...

**Cheri** · 02-02-2007, 10:15 PM

Yes, I do grounding punishments, such as not playing outdoors with friends, or having friends over, or not having to play with their video games. Depends on how bad it is, When my son got a bad grade on his report card, I would grounded him for one week, and if it happens again he would be grounded for another week and even discuss the bad grade with him, and why he went from A to C, if he needed help with anything he could have asked me, and even discuss how education was important and that should be his first priority than his friends or any other activities. He's very smart but getting a bit lazy with his school work, because he seems to chooses his friends and been spending so much time with his friends and not doing much with his school work, I cut that so he could improve better, and only spend weekends with his friends so that he could do better in school.

My youngest son has been talking in class twice, but I don't grounded him over that, I just talked to him about it, and how important education is for him, and he should not be talking in class, should focus his attention on his teacher and his school work, and talking is later when it is allowed. I even told him if it happens again, Don't make me come to your class, sit and watch you like a hawk, I know I got through him good on that one, I could see his face looks frighten.

Lol!!!

**shel90** · 02-02-2007, 10:36 PM

If grounding works with the child, then yes. There are some children who do not care if they got grounded or not so a different kind of discipline is needed for those children.

I try to find the kind of punishment that will fit the "crime". Like one time, my daughter went outside with her socks on even after I told her twice to put her shoes on. So, I made her wash all her dirty socks by hand. She never went outside without shoes again.

I ground my daughter for giving me a bad attitude about math homework or for getting into trouble at school.

Other bad behavior, I try to find the punishment that closely correlates with the "crime". I dont want to ground her too much that she becomes resistant to it where it isnt effective anymore.

sara1981 · 02-02-2007, 11:08 PM

that good topic this question

im wishes i would have children one days and i will give their punish or grounded from school depends principals and teachers's comments says.

if i give my children go anywhere i dont think so you should go! like underages clubs,parties,etc.

if my kids gone without my permission if need know where you going?

i dont wanted my kids get grounded if my kids using their own computer,their cells phone will be limit 30 minutes or less if dont listen to me they took computer and cell phone for 1 weeks or 6 weeks between.

mostly teen kids always obey parents they know where going like underages clubs,parties,etc.

moonflower · 02-02-2007, 11:12 PM

i believe in grounding yes to control their behavior and they need to think twice to not to make the mistake again

**Angel** · 02-03-2007, 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

If grounding works with the child, then yes. There are some children who do not care if they got grounded or not so a different kind of discipline is needed for those children.

I try to find the kind of punishment that will fit the "crime". Like one time, my daughter went outside with her socks on even after I told her twice to put her shoes on. So, I made her wash all her dirty socks by hand. She never went outside without shoes again.

I ground my daughter for giving me a bad attitude about math homework or for getting into trouble at school.

Other bad behavior, I try to find the punishment that closely correlates with the "crime". I dont want to ground her too much that she becomes resistant to it where it isnt effective anymore.

Yeah same here btw I like what you did to your daughter when she went outside with her socks on after you even told her a couple of times to put her shoes on, and made her wash all her dirty socks, I should try that next time, that was a good one....

RebelGirl,

Hon you don't have to ground your daughter just because she talk during class since she is an honor roll students, sounds like she is doing very well in school but the talking is what getting her in trouble, I know that is wrong but alot of children been doing that too, talk to your daughter and make sure she doesn't do it again, and that she can get in trouble if she conitune to talk during class, I've told my boys the same thing, and they know they don't want to get in trouble by the school and by me..

**Liebling:-)))** · 02-03-2007, 02:33 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

If grounding works with the child, then yes. There are some children who do not care if they got grounded or not so a different kind of discipline is needed for those children.

I try to find the kind of punishment that will fit the "crime". Like one time, my daughter went outside with her socks on even after I told her twice to put her shoes on. So, I made her wash all her dirty socks by hand. She never went outside without shoes again.

I ground my daughter for giving me a bad attitude about math homework or for getting into trouble at school.

Other bad behavior, I try to find the punishment that closely correlates with the "crime". I dont want to ground her too much that she becomes resistant to it where it isnt effective anymore.

I´m the same as you as well...

I got Danny to clean his shoes himself. I told him to take old shoes or sport shoes if they want to play scoocer or any sports.... He come home with mud on his clothes and shoes... He said that his mates play scoocer at last minutes... so he like to play with them... It´s not first time... I got him to wash his clothes in the bathroom tub and clean shoes... I told him to not go out or watch TV/computer games until their clothes and shoes are clean. I watched and listen my son

until he worn out....and mad and wash his clothes.

I got Danny to clean bicycle as well... I told him that he can´t go out unless his bicycle has to be clean. Why? We will pay penatly fine if Police see dirty bicycle with no light... Of course he have to pay the repair or re-new out of his pocket money. He know and don´t like it... that´s why he have to take care of bicycle...

About school, teachers asked parents permission in agreement contract before our children go in school... We questioned school before sign the agreement contract what kind of grounding they will make on our children. Accord law, they are not allow to spank them and harsh punishment but just punishment/grounding. Teacher grounded them for write "I must not play..." repeat in 50 lines - or no one day outing trip or no sport or whatever... If they have the problem then contact us for our support. We have to come to school to support teacher to deal our children.

Come home from school - no TV and computer games but play games with us and communicate with us.

I told my children... if they lost school workpapers, pen or whatever then they have to pay out of their pocket money... they have to learn to take care of their school workpapers... I only buy new one if their workpapers, pen, ink etc are running out.

**Liebling:-)))** · 02-03-2007, 02:50 AM

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Originally Posted by RebelGirl

I would like a feedback whether you believe in grounding your child or children or not

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Good thread... Depend on difference... I will try to answer on your each questions.

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If your kid fought in school, would you ground him/her?

Listen child´s talk first and will explain them to not do that again.. If they repeat then they will deserve my ground. If there´re bully then is a different story.

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If your kid talks back, makes bad grades, disobey you , etc, would you ground him/her?

Yes to all except bad grades. I would not ground my child for bad grades but talk to them and try to find out what problems they have... then solve this issues with teacher... how can we help my children etc.

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How long do you ground him/her for?

See my response post to Sheld90´s post.

I ground my children for few days for disobey house rules. (1 to 3 days)

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If you don't believe in grounding, how do you punish your child for wrong doing? I'm just really curious.

See the example of my response post to Shel90.

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That's one of the reason i didn't ground her but to talk to her about not talking in class and wait til the teacher gives permission for the kids to talk in class. My boyfriend thinks the opposite. He thinks we should ground her for like 2 days to make her realize its not funny and its serious. I kinda agree with him but I feel bad.

I agree with you to talk your daughter first and tell her to not do that again next time. If she ignore you then is her ground. I don´t agree with your boyfriend for ground your daughter right way... First talk then your daughter will remember your warning and will not do that again next time.

**lilylover72** · 02-03-2007, 04:51 PM

I would give my son ground if I need. My stepson never had ground from his mom and my husband. I tried give him ground but my husband didnt allow. He ended up jail and will return to jail again. I told my husband that See you never give him any punishment. My husband learned his mistake because he never been ground from his mother. I am so glad that he dont live with us anymore. I was ground few times from my parent. I respected my parent and did good at school. My husband didnt get much trouble and he was always good boy.

***VamPyroX*** · 02-04-2007, 02:56 AM

I think that every kid should be punished for their negative behavior.

Lately, I've been seeing spoiled kids. Remember the arrest of 3 girls for beating up 1 girl? That's cuz they weren't fully educated and were probably not raised well by their parents.

I've been punished while growing up. Sometimes, it was severe. However, I wouldn't be that severe with my kids, but I would still punish them when necessary.

**OldNavyGirl** · 02-04-2007, 09:37 AM

kids like rules to teach them a lesson. it helps them to learn from their wrong doings. learning from right and wrong.

**Jolie77** · 02-04-2007, 10:36 AM

It depends on which situation in order to ground a child for his/her behavior or whatever happened. I believe that when a child does something wrong then yes, he/she will have to learn what comes their way by facing the consequences of his/her actions. That includes grounding.

There are privileges, allowances, curfews and many more that the kids will have to realize it's for them to keep unless they did something wrong then those privileges should be taken away.

If it was an empty threat then the kids would be thinking "Oh, Mom/Dad said this but they didn't do it. So that means I can do it again because they will do the same thing again." with a shrug on their shoulder. So of course, I am sure everyone knows by now that it is always important to put an united front when the kids are around to show them what's right and wrong.

**Foxrac** · 02-04-2007, 12:02 PM

Yup, I did but against to grounded any child who under 13 years old or unable to go out with friend, also other punishment would be corner, stay room, loss of stuff like take Wii or toys away, paperwork like write an sentence and more way to do instead of grounded.

Grounded will be nothing to get benefit if child is feeling in isolated, such as not like to hang out with friend or go out to other place then other punishment need to be applied to learn their lesson.

**Foxrac** · 02-04-2007, 12:05 PM

I'm against on spanking on children because it considered to be child abuse, that's UNACCEPTABLE...

deafaussie · 02-05-2007, 01:36 AM

I do ground my step-children by taking away their privileges such as XBOX, Sidekick, World of Warcraft, Internet and going out from home. Usually, I dont do that in first instance as I would sit down and talk things over along with stern warning. if second instance strikes again then so be it and make sure period for grounding is set and does not change. So the child will know that its a final and ultimate decision by the parents

deafaussie · 02-05-2007, 01:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Pacman

I'm against on spanking on children because it considered to be child abuse, that's UNACCEPTABLE...

Spanking is a borderline acceptance in the community and to the public. Its a case by case basis of child abuse and the law does not involve in this matter if the child gets spanked on the hand or butt because of the punishment they need to deserve. It is NOT ACCEPTABLE to spank or hit from the neck up, or create bruises or purple marks on bodies My parents did spank on my butt and has learned a lot of lessons in life.

My two sisters still does that on their children at a last resort after their punishment options have run out.

JeepGirl · 02-05-2007, 01:55 AM

Wow.. those are great feedbacks!!! first of all, I didn't ground my daughter for talking in class.. I had a talk with her and she understand what I said and meant it.

thank you all for listening and giving feedbacks! I certainly hope we'll have more feedbacks!

***VamPyroX*** · 02-05-2007, 02:15 AM

Okay... so, what if your child refuses to listen to you?

Are you going to punish him?

Opal · 02-05-2007, 06:31 AM

I would give them grounding punishment to cancel going to Disco, or Friday's Church group, refused to give two older daughters a lift to work after school hours, and tell them to catch a taxi to work if they are bitchy to me!!!!

For school reports, it is unfair to me, because one is very clever doing one year ahead for her age, other is average, other is struggle, so I don't give them punishment, or reward present. No favourism.

**Foxrac** · 02-05-2007, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by deafaussie

Spanking is a borderline acceptance in the community and to the public. Its a case by case basis of child abuse and the law does not involve in this matter if the child gets spanked on the hand or butt because of the punishment they need to deserve. It is NOT ACCEPTABLE to spank or hit from the neck up, or create bruises or purple marks on bodies My parents did spank on my butt and has learned a lot of lessons in life.

My two sisters still does that on their children at a last resort after their punishment options have run out.

It doesn't matter since spanking on butt or hand is considered to be child abuse since it's illegal to do that at school, such as teachers who did that.

deafaussie · 02-05-2007, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Pacman

It doesn't matter since spanking on butt or hand is considered to be child abuse since it's illegal to do that at school, such as teachers who did that.

I never said teachers or schools. Only parents can and I said its a 'borderline' abuse and the law will not be involved if the parents take controlled punishment aka smacking in the butt or something like that.

DeafSCUBA98 · 02-08-2007, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

If grounding works with the child, then yes. There are some children who do not care if they got grounded or not so a different kind of discipline is needed for those children.

I try to find the kind of punishment that will fit the "crime". Like one time, my daughter went outside with her socks on even after I told her twice to put her shoes on. So, I made her wash all her dirty socks by hand. She never went outside without shoes again.

I ground my daughter for giving me a bad attitude about math homework or for getting into trouble at school.

Other bad behavior, I try to find the punishment that closely correlates with the "crime". I dont want to ground her too much that she becomes resistant to it where it isnt effective anymore.

yeah i agree with that..

one time my son was splashing water in bathroom. and i made him to clean whole bathroom floor by hand.

it seems to work that way.

i don't believe in punish kids over bad grades only if they're trying their best to accompolish their grades.. it will hurt their self-esteem.
its best to find out why the kid is failing the grade and make some adjustments.

every parent have their own ideas. I believe kids shouldn't talk DURING class time.. but during break, social time, or talking about class is okay. not just to chat and chat and chat about fanisty, boys, girls, etc. during class isn't allowed.

some teachers jump their borders and assumed that they're talking when they're accually asking other students for help with something related to class.

as long in ur problem. it varies on parent to parent.

My believe should talk over it.. if it happens again.. then have to do something about it like punish. once they get older.. they're in college. teacher won't do much when they're talking and not listening to the teacher.

**Cheri** · 02-08-2007, 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by DeafSCUBA98

i don't believe in punish kids over bad grades only if they're trying their best to accompolish their grades.. it will hurt their self-esteem.
its best to find out why the kid is failing the grade and make some adjustments.

I'm sorry I disagree, because one thing your child isn't even a honor roll student yet and my son has been a honor roll student for over 3 years straight and all sudden this year he had gotten a C on his report card and I do know my son is very smart but it seems that he is getting a bit lazy with his school work lately, I do know why it changes because he spends so much time with his friends and not spending more times on his school work, I cut that and even grounded him so he knows I'm dead seriously about how important education is for him, and don't want to see him far behind or failing.

I guess you have to walk the miles in our shoes before even comment that you won't do anything about their bad grades when it has not even happened to your own child yet. I am not trying to be blunt but sometimes parents and non-parents say things like that before experience it first with their own child.

**Cheri** · 02-08-2007, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Pacman

It doesn't matter since spanking on butt or hand is considered to be child abuse since it's illegal to do that at school, such as teachers who did that.

Sorry to burst your bubbles there, but corporal punishment still are allowing in some schools as for today, My junior high had corporal punishment also being spanked with a paddle. Some states has already banned corporal punishment, some states are allowing corporal punishment.

**Foxrac** · 02-08-2007, 11:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Sorry to burst your bubbles there, but corporal punishment still are allowing in some schools as for today, My junior high had corporal punishment also being spanked with a paddle. Some states has already banned corporal punishment, some states are allowing corporal punishment.

Well, most of them are illegal since many school district don't want have CP in their school, even their state is allowed them to offers CP for kids.

It does banned in my state, also same in CA too except for private school.

**Cheri** · 02-08-2007, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Pacman

Well, most of them are illegal since many school district don't want have CP in their school, even their state is allowed them to offers CP for kids.

It does banned in my state, also same in CA too except for private school.

Yes, I am aware of CA outlawed the corporal punishment, but not in my state of Ohio (depends on which city)

Here's the listing of states which outlawed corporal punishment, which states have restricted uses of corporal punishment, and which states allows corporal punishments...

Corporal punishments

JeepGirl · 02-08-2007, 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Yes, I am aware of CA outlawed the corporal punishment, but not in my state of Ohio (depends on which city)

Here's the listing of states which outlawed corporal punishment, which states have restricted uses of corporal punishment, and which states allows corporal punishments...

Corporal punishments

Same here in my state.. they're allowed to paddle with only the parents permission.

**Cheri** · 02-08-2007, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by RebelGirl

Same here in my state.. they're allowed to paddle with only the parents permission.

Yep, I see that your state was on the list too.

I remembered when I was in junior high there was no permission needed for parents approval, I did got spanked so many times with a paddle, the principal made me bend over and touch the ground with my hands.

02-02-2007, 09:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
JeepGirl Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: In the South Posts: 6,364	Do you believe in grounding your child/children? I would like a feedback whether you believe in grounding your child or children or not? If your kid fought in school, would you ground him/her? If your kid talks back, makes bad grades, disobey you , etc, would you ground him/her? How long do you ground him/her for? If you don't believe in grounding, how do you punish your child for wrong doing? I'm just really curious. I've never been grounded before and my boyfriend has. My boyfriend has the military punishment since his step-dad was in the army. So he was pretty strict. I grew up almost never getting in trouble. I have talked in class, made a couple of bad grades, fought with another student and so on, but never once been grounded. Now, my boyfriend and I have an issue whether to ground my daughter for talking in class but yet she made the A-B honor roll. That's one of the reason i didn't ground her but to talk to her about not talking in class and wait til the teacher gives permission for the kids to talk in class. My boyfriend thinks the opposite. He thinks we should ground her for like 2 days to make her realize its not funny and its serious. I kinda agree with him but I feel bad. I would be happy to hear from your side and tell me how you punish your child. I'm not speaking of spanking.. only on how to punish and in what way. thanks

02-02-2007, 09:52 PM	#2 (permalink)
SherryCherish Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: somewhere in USA Posts: 4,550	Well, i do believe in dipcline the kids, almost like grounding. It only way to make them learn the leasson from wrong and right. I always make them time out for 5 mins or, take things that their's favorite. Its usually works. The kids must to obey and listen the parents. The only way to make them behave and grow up better. I see alots of parents didn't punish their kids, but the kids behave so awful and disrespect, and i don't like it all. So, it only lead them grows better from right and wrong. So, team work is only make it easy each other to help out. Well, don't feel bad, cuz u know she was doing wrong, and it will help her to understand its not right thing to do. Well, hope that would help ya. __________________ Have a great 2007 year!

02-02-2007, 09:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
GalaxyAngel Registered User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Alberta,Canada Posts: 13,626	you believe in grounding your child or children or not? Yes, I do believe grounded my child and depend the case situation how's bad or minor.. If your kid fought in school, would you ground him/her? Yes, I will grounded my child if it's serious matter related the school.. and will have my child grounded a day within no contact their friend via phone or visiting friend's place. How long do you ground him/her for? Related school (Fight Student or Arguments) Teacher: Grounded my child a day. Related School failing their test: Not approve grounded my child because of that.. Try their best effort work goal pass the test.. I believe my own philosophy. Related my home failing obey family's rules: Depend how many days their grounded... __________________ Parent's proud our children.

02-02-2007, 10:15 PM	#4 (permalink)
Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,819	Yes, I do grounding punishments, such as not playing outdoors with friends, or having friends over, or not having to play with their video games. Depends on how bad it is, When my son got a bad grade on his report card, I would grounded him for one week, and if it happens again he would be grounded for another week and even discuss the bad grade with him, and why he went from A to C, if he needed help with anything he could have asked me, and even discuss how education was important and that should be his first priority than his friends or any other activities. He's very smart but getting a bit lazy with his school work, because he seems to chooses his friends and been spending so much time with his friends and not doing much with his school work, I cut that so he could improve better, and only spend weekends with his friends so that he could do better in school. My youngest son has been talking in class twice, but I don't grounded him over that, I just talked to him about it, and how important education is for him, and he should not be talking in class, should focus his attention on his teacher and his school work, and talking is later when it is allowed. I even told him if it happens again, Don't make me come to your class, sit and watch you like a hawk, I know I got through him good on that one, I could see his face looks frighten. Lol!!! __________________ Avoid being a victim of a stroke, a stroke can happen to anyone at anytime. You will never know how devastating this could be until you had live through it. It affects everybody. So Support Stroke Awareness to find a cure and hope.

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shel90 Let It Snow!!!! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A place where crabs are popular Posts: 40,290 Blog Entries: 3	If grounding works with the child, then yes. There are some children who do not care if they got grounded or not so a different kind of discipline is needed for those children. I try to find the kind of punishment that will fit the "crime". Like one time, my daughter went outside with her socks on even after I told her twice to put her shoes on. So, I made her wash all her dirty socks by hand. She never went outside without shoes again. I ground my daughter for giving me a bad attitude about math homework or for getting into trouble at school. Other bad behavior, I try to find the punishment that closely correlates with the "crime". I dont want to ground her too much that she becomes resistant to it where it isnt effective anymore. __________________ "Wine improves with age. The older I get, the better I like it." --- Anonymous

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02-02-2007, 11:08 PM	#6 (permalink)
sara1981 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: North Little Rock,Ar Posts: 7,049	that good topic this question im wishes i would have children one days and i will give their punish or grounded from school depends principals and teachers's comments says. if i give my children go anywhere i dont think so you should go! like underages clubs,parties,etc. if my kids gone without my permission if need know where you going? i dont wanted my kids get grounded if my kids using their own computer,their cells phone will be limit 30 minutes or less if dont listen to me they took computer and cell phone for 1 weeks or 6 weeks between. mostly teen kids always obey parents they know where going like underages clubs,parties,etc. __________________

02-02-2007, 11:12 PM	#7 (permalink)
moonflower Registered User Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Washtenaw County, Michigan Posts: 5,762	i believe in grounding yes to control their behavior and they need to think twice to not to make the mistake again

02-03-2007, 04:51 PM	#11 (permalink)
lilylover72 I love purple! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: USA Posts: 2,943	I would give my son ground if I need. My stepson never had ground from his mom and my husband. I tried give him ground but my husband didnt allow. He ended up jail and will return to jail again. I told my husband that See you never give him any punishment. My husband learned his mistake because he never been ground from his mother. I am so glad that he dont live with us anymore. I was ground few times from my parent. I respected my parent and did good at school. My husband didnt get much trouble and he was always good boy.

02-04-2007, 02:56 AM	#12 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: 40.18, 58.41 Posts: 34,139	I think that every kid should be punished for their negative behavior. Lately, I've been seeing spoiled kids. Remember the arrest of 3 girls for beating up 1 girl? That's cuz they weren't fully educated and were probably not raised well by their parents. I've been punished while growing up. Sometimes, it was severe. However, I wouldn't be that severe with my kids, but I would still punish them when necessary. __________________ Check out my city... C L I C K H E R E! (If you've already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

02-04-2007, 09:37 AM	#13 (permalink)
OldNavyGirl Premium Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere in Illinois Posts: 3,753	kids like rules to teach them a lesson. it helps them to learn from their wrong doings. learning from right and wrong.

02-04-2007, 10:36 AM	#14 (permalink)
Jolie77 Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Kentucky, USA (The Bluegrass State) Posts: 8,514 Blog Entries: 1	It depends on which situation in order to ground a child for his/her behavior or whatever happened. I believe that when a child does something wrong then yes, he/she will have to learn what comes their way by facing the consequences of his/her actions. That includes grounding. There are privileges, allowances, curfews and many more that the kids will have to realize it's for them to keep unless they did something wrong then those privileges should be taken away. If it was an empty threat then the kids would be thinking "Oh, Mom/Dad said this but they didn't do it. So that means I can do it again because they will do the same thing again." with a shrug on their shoulder. So of course, I am sure everyone knows by now that it is always important to put an united front when the kids are around to show them what's right and wrong. __________________ Isaiah 33:6 - "He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the Lord is the key to this treasure."

02-04-2007, 12:02 PM	#15 (permalink)
Foxrac Need Stormtroopers? Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Zaphias Posts: 32,475	Yup, I did but against to grounded any child who under 13 years old or unable to go out with friend, also other punishment would be corner, stay room, loss of stuff like take Wii or toys away, paperwork like write an sentence and more way to do instead of grounded. Grounded will be nothing to get benefit if child is feeling in isolated, such as not like to hang out with friend or go out to other place then other punishment need to be applied to learn their lesson. __________________ In Moto We Trust

02-04-2007, 12:05 PM	#16 (permalink)
Foxrac Need Stormtroopers? Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Zaphias Posts: 32,475	I'm against on spanking on children because it considered to be child abuse, that's UNACCEPTABLE... __________________ In Moto We Trust

02-05-2007, 01:36 AM	#17 (permalink)
deafaussie Registered User Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Orange County, CA Posts: 338	I do ground my step-children by taking away their privileges such as XBOX, Sidekick, World of Warcraft, Internet and going out from home. Usually, I dont do that in first instance as I would sit down and talk things over along with stern warning. if second instance strikes again then so be it and make sure period for grounding is set and does not change. So the child will know that its a final and ultimate decision by the parents

02-05-2007, 01:55 AM	#19 (permalink)
JeepGirl Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: In the South Posts: 6,364	Wow.. those are great feedbacks!!! first of all, I didn't ground my daughter for talking in class.. I had a talk with her and she understand what I said and meant it. thank you all for listening and giving feedbacks! I certainly hope we'll have more feedbacks!

02-05-2007, 02:15 AM	#20 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: 40.18, 58.41 Posts: 34,139	Okay... so, what if your child refuses to listen to you? Are you going to punish him? __________________ Check out my city... C L I C K H E R E! (If you've already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

02-05-2007, 06:31 AM	#21 (permalink)
Opal Registered User Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 3,763 Blog Entries: 1	I would give them grounding punishment to cancel going to Disco, or Friday's Church group, refused to give two older daughters a lift to work after school hours, and tell them to catch a taxi to work if they are bitchy to me!!!! For school reports, it is unfair to me, because one is very clever doing one year ahead for her age, other is average, other is struggle, so I don't give them punishment, or reward present. No favourism. __________________ (\ (\ (=' x') (,('')('')

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