Annoying ignorant hearing people stories - Page 40

nightwolf · 08-31-2012, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by soulchill

Anyone know where the Annoying Hearing Anonymous group meets in NC? I need to sign my daughter up.

Daughter - "mwah mwah bobble the fr___t"
Me - "I can't understand you. You have to speak louder"
Daughter - "Nevermind."
Me - "What?!"
Daughter-"I SAID NEVERMIND!"

Ten minutes later...

Daughter - "Mmmbl soccer fr__ mwah t__t"
Me - "I can't understand you."
Daughter - "Nevermind!"

I don't know if she needs speech therapy or she's just not getting it.

i think they meet close to asheville mall lol

justagirl · 09-02-2012, 07:01 AM

I hate the "Oh, I'm so sorry" and "I'll pray for you." WTF! There is nothing to pray for, this is who I am, what's wrong with that? I like me and the person I am. And why are you sorry? I've had something like the subway thing happen to me as well. Once I finally realized what the person was telling me, I just laughed at myself and said, I'm sorry I misunderstood you, I'm very HOH I thought you said..."blah blah blah" I was still embarrassed but she smiled at me and said, "That's okay." But I've had other really bad experiences as well, but I've learned to just shrug them off...sometimes that can be really hard to do. The other thing I hate, is when I tell people I read lips. They start mouthing stuff and asking, "So, what did I say?" Um, did I say going to allow you to give me a test?? Uh, no... The other one is, "You're deaf? But you can talk!"

justagirl · 09-02-2012, 07:13 AM

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Originally Posted by rthib1960

As a "hearing person", (although my wife swears that I am deaf as I like to listen to the TV with the volume WAY up) I don't understand the above comment at all.

To the degree possible, I can appreciate the frustration of dealing with people who do not understand what it means to be deaf. I also understand your aversion to the statement, "I'll pray for you", although I'm sure any person who says that means well and deserves a polite "Thank you" IMO.

The statement "Nothing is wrong with me, ma'am or sir" is what I (as a hearing person) do not understand. From the perspective of a person who is trying to communicate with you, there is something wrong. The natural human mode of oral communication is not able to be utilized. Whatever the cause, deafness is a deficiency that causes difficulty in communciation between "hearing" and "deaf" or "HOH" persons. It is definitely a problem, and something is definitely wrong. Obviously it does not lessen the value of any person. I believe we are all of equal value in God's eyes.

So, I've probably stuck my foot in it here. If you (of the deaf community) find this offensive, I apologize in advance. It certainly is not the purpose of this post. I just think it is important to acknowledge the reality of any given situation, and look at from different perspectives.

All the best!
Ron

I think it's just we hear it so often all the time...it gets to be hard to take. Now this is my opinion but I like to think when someone says, "I'll pray for you." that if that person is that religious then it should dawn on them that this is the way God made them..and in God's eyes they are perfect. To me, I am who I am, this is the way that God made me...in his image as flawed as it may seem to other people. I'm proud to be deaf. I'm not different just special.

Another masterpiece he created, just like no two snowflakes are alike, neither are people. And I think that is great, it's what makes us unique.

I do have a higher tolerance than some when it comes to the comments and believe me I get them A LOT but I will admit it does get old and I do try to see it from their point of view. Sometimes people just blurt things out without thinking about it. A lot of people just don't get deaf/HOH people just like they don't get disable people in wheelchair or blind people, or people with mental disorders. I think some people on here are just venting their feelings just as I have done. I won't lie...sometime it just hurts. It would be like someone coming up to you and saying something like... "Is this your grandson?" and you saying, "No, this is my son." And them replying, "Really? But you're so OLD!!! Did you adopt?"

That is just my view, I do understand what you are saying though, really I do. I like to think that some people are really just trying to be nice but...sometimes you can only take so much.

ambrosia · 09-02-2012, 10:12 AM

Stopped at a burger king last night for dinner (obviously not the drive thru that's just crazy talk lol) on my way out I passed a guy that works there coming in, he was probably late teens early 20's. I get almost to my car when i hear him say something. So I turn around..."what!?" he says "Whats on your ears?"
OMG seriously?? I've had children ask me, hell I've had them touch my hearing aids and ask what's in your ear? But a grown person? o_0 what the hell?? I resisted the urge to tell....I hope you like working at burger King, you're going to be here forever because you're an imbecile. I resisted that urge, and just answered "hearing aids".

justagirl · 09-02-2012, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ambrosia

Stopped at a burger king last night for dinner (obviously not the drive thru that's just crazy talk lol) on my way out I passed a guy that works there coming in, he was probably late teens early 20's. I get almost to my car when i hear him say something. So I turn around..."what!?" he says "Whats on your ears?"
OMG seriously?? I've had children ask me, hell I've had them touch my hearing aids and ask what's in your ear? But a grown person? o_0 what the hell?? I resisted the urge to tell....I hope you like working at burger King, you're going to be here forever because you're an imbecile. I resisted that urge, and just answered "hearing aids".

I'm so sorry that, that happened to you. Firstly I just have to say what an asshole! I grown man should not be asking that...and he should know what it is. Dumbass. Children I understand, they are just curious and have probably never seen a HA before...and I think it's sweet when they ask about things like that. Children are always enthralled over my hearing dog Charlie. But a grown man..ugh...we deal with enough without that. Seriously I'm surprised he got a job at Burger King, seems like it would be too tough of a job for him to do. Hmmmm....makes you wonder just how far he got in school doesn't it? And people think the deaf are stupid??? I can handle people being curious and asking questions but don't be stupid and rude.

I was in Wal Mart once and there was this stupid cashier in her early 20's very late teens...who was trying to flirt with my husband who completely ignored her. And she looked over at Charlie (my service dog) and was said, "You can't bring animals into the store." I said, "I'm sorry, can you not read? And pointed to his vest and said, "Do you see that, it says HEARING DOG" (I slowly enunciated this for her.) And she looked at me in disgust and said, "What are you deaf." I said, "Very good...yes I am." And turned to my husband and said, "She actually might have some knowledge in that head of hers." She turned back to my husband and continued to try and flirt with him. He then said to her, "Is there some reason you are making scary googly faces at me? Or is it just because your slow?" He just gave it right back to her...I love him so much. Neither of us could stop laughing, we also reported her to her manager.

soulchill · 09-02-2012, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ambrosia

Stopped at a burger king last night for dinner (obviously not the drive thru that's just crazy talk lol) on my way out I passed a guy that works there coming in, he was probably late teens early 20's. I get almost to my car when i hear him say something. So I turn around..."what!?" he says "Whats on your ears?"
OMG seriously?? I've had children ask me, hell I've had them touch my hearing aids and ask what's in your ear? But a grown person? o_0 what the hell?? I resisted the urge to tell....I hope you like working at burger King, you're going to be here forever because you're an imbecile. I resisted that urge, and just answered "hearing aids".

Hahaha-
Ambrosia talking into sleeve - "The suspect is entering now. I've been made. Complete the search of his house and have the dogs check out his car."

GrayEagle · 09-03-2012, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by justagirl

I was in Wal Mart once and there was this stupid cashier in her early 20's very late teens...who was trying to flirt with my husband who completely ignored her. And she looked over at Charlie (my service dog) and was said, "You can't bring animals into the store." I said, "I'm sorry, can you not read? And pointed to his vest and said, "Do you see that, it says HEARING DOG" (I slowly enunciated this for her.) And she looked at me in disgust and said, "What are you deaf." I said, "Very good...yes I am." And turned to my husband and said, "She actually might have some knowledge in that head of hers." She turned back to my husband and continued to try and flirt with him. He then said to her, "Is there some reason you are making scary googly faces at me? Or is just because your slow?" He just gave it right back to her...I love him so much. Neither of us could stop laughing, we also reported her to her manager.

HA! Good for your husband, LOL!

Sometimes people are just really crass and rude.

Jess · 09-03-2012, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ambrosia

Stopped at a burger king last night for dinner (obviously not the drive thru that's just crazy talk lol) on my way out I passed a guy that works there coming in, he was probably late teens early 20's. I get almost to my car when i hear him say something. So I turn around..."what!?" he says "Whats on your ears?"
OMG seriously?? I've had children ask me, hell I've had them touch my hearing aids and ask what's in your ear? But a grown person? o_0 what the hell?? I resisted the urge to tell....I hope you like working at burger King, you're going to be here forever because you're an imbecile. I resisted that urge, and just answered "hearing aids".

OMG Is he that obvious?!

justagirl · 09-03-2012, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by GrayEagle

HA! Good for your husband, LOL!

Sometimes people are just really crass and rude.

Thank you GrayEagle, my husband doesn't take anything off anybody when it comes to my deafness. Same goes with our son. And yes, it's one thing to honestly be ignorant and uninformed but another to be crass and rude and just down right mean.

Shaylor · 09-08-2012, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by MidnightSun

WOW, I know this comment will not be popular, but that's never stopped me from saying anything I feel before so...I really do understand your obvious anger with the people each of you mentioned, and all the others who just do not understand deafness. But that's my point, it may be annoying and some may say or do ignorant things, but don't you understand "they, the hearing" just don't get it, and probably never will unless they themselves experience deafness. Each of you have every right to be angered by the things you've had to endure by those who really just can not understand and probably never will. My problem is that instead of behaving like them, ignore them, refuse to do business with them, or just make a statement like, "so sorry if me deafness inconveniences you".

See I know for a fact, that most hearing people will never understand our world. Unless they choose to educate themselves (doubtful), or they or someone close to them becomes deaf. I just don't see anything positive coming out of behaving the same way they are, rude or ignorant. When I was hearing I made the same stupid mistakes most hearing do, I will admit it.
I just really had NO idea what it was like. Then overnight I became profoundly deaf, can't even hear my own voice. My own family who loves me,
didn't know what to say or how to approach me..they had to be taught as I had to learn...I really wish the deaf would take the "higher road" and not resort to the same ignorant type statements, the hearing make to us. It achieves nothing but furthering the anger and misunderstanding. My brother, who I love dearly went to the library and got a sheet on finger spelling and learned to finger spell with both hands..lol..he's amazing. My point being when I came home from the hospital after 2 weeks of testing, and the answer of "well we really do not know why you are deaf" My brother sat with me and taught me to finger spell. He said he saw the terror in my eyes sitting in the hospital bed, crying and screaming (I had no idea how loudly I was talking).
He decided he and I would learn the simplest way to communicate with out writing. I am Blessed to have him. But you see, he chose to educate himself so that we could communicate. Every hearing person in the would should know simple finger spelling. Kids learn it in a few days.
So, I apologize if I have offended any of you, but please, understand the hearing, for the most part do not have a clue to what we are experiencing. Is that their fault for saying these totally ridiculous things...I don't think it is.

I take responsibility for educating those around me, and if they do not want to take the time to learn 26 letters in hand movements..then OK we are going to lose each other or write everything..I just do not think it is fair to
rage on a hearing person who YES, says and does inapropriate or riduculous things because they just can not understand what our lives are like unless they themselves become HOH or deaf. Peace to you all, I do not expect you to agree, but those are my true feelings. Just because I am deaf does not mean I am going to act and/or react with anyless grace or dignity then I had when I was hearing. I myself am still working on Tolerance, but I'm getting there...Midnight♥♥♥♥ (with a little love we can change the world)

I just want to say that I'm 16 and hearing and for a year and a half I've been teaching myself sign language and researching deaf culture and I would love a deaf friend to sign to

Just saying

BecLak · 09-10-2012, 05:47 PM

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Why is it when you tell people you are Voice-off, they still proceed to ask you if you want/have hearing aids? :rolleyes:

SteveB · 09-10-2012, 10:50 PM

It's ignorance. It happens to every minority...Deaf, racial, gay and lesbian, blind, etc...sorry if I missed yours. It's a fact of life, you gotta deal. Its easier to expect that hearies are going to be noobish about Deaf experience But the stories are freekin hilarious...keep em coming.

Ok, here is mine. Apple products always auto-correct hearies as "hearties.". WTF?

behindthemask · 09-10-2012, 11:04 PM

A man screamed at me saying "YOU CAN'T SPEAK ENGLISH?" after I told him I can't hear. The man was drunk at the time and his constant screaming made me want to cut his tongue off and punch him in the adam's apple. But of course I didn't do anything and just waited until he shut the f*** up.

Stealth521 · 09-11-2012, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by soulchill

Hahaha-
Ambrosia talking into sleeve - "The suspect is entering now. I've been made. Complete the search of his house and have the dogs check out his car."

Reminds me of way back when underground raves were a big thing. I learned early on to not wear my HA. People thought I was a narc.

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Stealth521 · 09-11-2012, 06:32 PM

I'm a bit surprised I haven't read this one. Happened to me all the time as a kid, and on a rare occasion as an adult.

People would get the idea it would be funny to silently mouth words to me so I'd think my HA isn't working. Seemingly oblivious to the fact that I still hear the background noise. Never one on one... Always putting on a show for a crowd.

In high school I had a wrestling teammate try it on me. The first time I called him out on how foolish he was. The second occasion the same thing but made it clear don't do it again. The third time he came to lying on his back bleeding profusely from his nose.

Not condoning violence (I was a dumb kid)

faesecret · 09-26-2012, 01:46 PM

I went to lake compounce with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, and I met a deaf man at the park. I had unfortunately been unable to continue my lessons, so I was a bit rusty. We signed a little bit, just enough to trade names, say that we enjoyed that particular ride, and talk about whether or not I could sign and how I wanted to learn some more. I just remember being profoundly embarrassed because I made some obvious and stupid mistakes.

I had on huge glasses because of the sun; I forgot to take them off my face so that he could see my eyes. I also felt terrible that I had such limited ASL knowledge, and so I couldn't really have a decent conversation with him. I fumbled with my signs and messed up a lot. Either way, I was really pleased that he was so nice to me, especially with my mistakes. As soon as I'm able, I will be getting back into my lessons. Unfortunately the timing was off before.

Bebonang · 09-27-2012, 02:23 AM

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Originally Posted by faesecret

I went to lake compounce with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, and I met a deaf man at the park. I had unfortunately been unable to continue my lessons, so I was a bit rusty. We signed a little bit, just enough to trade names, say that we enjoyed that particular ride, and talk about whether or not I could sign and how I wanted to learn some more. I just remember being profoundly embarrassed because I made some obvious and stupid mistakes.

I had on huge glasses because of the sun; I forgot to take them off my face so that he could see my eyes. I also felt terrible that I had such limited ASL knowledge, and so I couldn't really have a decent conversation with him. I fumbled with my signs and messed up a lot. Either way, I was really pleased that he was so nice to me, especially with my mistakes. As soon as I'm able, I will be getting back into my lessons. Unfortunately the timing was off before.

When you were signing to him, the sunglasses is really distracting sometimes unless the Deaf signer are not bothered with your sunglasses. Usually the Deaf signer like to look at your face for expression, not the eyes only, the whole face for expression. I am glad he was patient with you when you are having trouble signing to him and made some mistakes. Yes, you need to improve your signs so that you can sign better with him or any Deaf people. There should be a Deaf event where you can meet more Deaf people if you feel like signing with them. Remember remove your sunglasses for the full face expression. Only wear the prescription glasses that you need to see like regular glasses. That is all I want to say to clear that up.

needsleep · 10-04-2012, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by justagirl

I was in Wal Mart once and there was this stupid cashier in her early 20's very late teens...who was trying to flirt with my husband who completely ignored her. And she looked over at Charlie (my service dog) and was said, "You can't bring animals into the store." I said, "I'm sorry, can you not read? And pointed to his vest and said, "Do you see that, it says HEARING DOG" (I slowly enunciated this for her.) And she looked at me in disgust and said, "What are you deaf." I said, "Very good...yes I am." And turned to my husband and said, "She actually might have some knowledge in that head of hers." She turned back to my husband and continued to try and flirt with him. He then said to her, "Is there some reason you are making scary googly faces at me? Or is it just because your slow?" He just gave it right back to her...I love him so much. Neither of us could stop laughing, we also reported her to her manager.

You guys are AWESOME!

NismoS14 · 10-04-2012, 09:51 AM

A drunk hearing man who was sipping double shot glasses of whiskey at the bar asked me, "How the fack can you understand me if your deaf?" I told him that I can hear with my hearing aids a bit and that I can read lips pretty well. My ex, who is hearing, was explaining to the man about my hearing loss. That drunk man started to cry about me being deaf while i was trying not to laugh. He was cool for buying me and my ex a couple of drinks.

needsleep · 10-04-2012, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by NismoS14

A drunk hearing man who was sipping double shot glasses of whiskey at the bar asked me, "How the fack can you understand me if your deaf?" I told him that I can hear with my hearing aids a bit and that I can read lips pretty well. My ex, who is hearing, was explaining to the man about my hearing loss. That drunk man started to cry about me being deaf while i was trying not to laugh. He was cool for buying me and my ex a couple of drinks.

That guy's got issues.

I, as a hearing person, can't even begin to express how embarrassing it is to be in the same category as these people you are all writing about. x_x

**KristinaB** · 10-05-2012, 10:16 PM

I didn't actually witness this man saying anything, but this evening I was at a Deaf Coffee Chat at a Panera Bread and my son always goes with me in case I fall. He will sit nearby and while I am sitting with everyone, he will surf the internet or read at fanfiction.org. Seems he overheard some man sitting at a nearby table making all kinds of rude comments about the "handicapped people who can't talk". My son said he just about decked the guy. He explained that we were deaf/hoh people who meet monthly for a chat and visit and have a good time. This guy went on to say that we shouldn't meet in public and ruin things for the "able bodied people". Son got really mad, and went to get the manager. Explained what was going on and the man was asked to leave. I was told all this on the way home as my back was to him.

rockin'robin · 10-05-2012, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by NismoS14

A drunk hearing man who was sipping double shot glasses of whiskey at the bar asked me, "How the fack can you understand me if your deaf?" I told him that I can hear with my hearing aids a bit and that I can read lips pretty well. My ex, who is hearing, was explaining to the man about my hearing loss. That drunk man started to cry about me being deaf while i was trying not to laugh. He was cool for buying me and my ex a couple of drinks.

..Love this story!....It's happened to me before also and I offered the man a napkin to dry his eyes....

DeafTim · 10-05-2012, 11:34 PM

I get weird attention from certain folks b/c I wear a hearing aid. I really dont mind about the attention, hey whynot. Anyway, after I ordered my meal at Wendy's the other day, this female cashier stand back and looked up as she was coolin herself. I looked up to see and she was standin right under the a/c on ceilin. I then looked at her and she smiled right at me. I guess a lot of deafies are mentally challenged.

CrazyPaul · 10-06-2012, 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by DeafTim

I get weird attention from certain folks b/c I wear a hearing aid. I really dont mind about the attention, hey whynot. Anyway, after I ordered my meal at Wendy's the other day, this female cashier stand back and looked up as she was coolin herself. I looked up to see and she was standin right under the a/c on ceilin. I then looked at her and she smiled right at me. I guess a lot of deafies are mentally challenged.

Maybe a hearing aid turns her on so she had to cool off like that?

Kat01 · 10-11-2012, 12:56 PM

The best thing to happen is when we go into a restaurant as a family. My sister is the only one who speaks as she is hearing. My dad can speak but refuses to.

Yesterday we were in the restaurant and we were signing all out in conversations at the table. The waitress came up and took our drink order and was really friendly. She did not seem to mind that we were deaf or anything. She even gave us free dessert for not getting angry when she misunderstood my father's drink order. My sister normally translates for us when my parents get lazy and feel like the "hearing world owes us for the stupidity in it."

So, while we are eating people are staring at us and my sister suddenly gets very angry. She gets really red faced and turns to a table next to us and starts yelling.

Apparently, the table said, "How can those people be allowed to take that table? Those stupid deaf people are going to order so much food we cannot get ours out faster."

Then the table was shocked that my sister was a hearie and then an argument broke out. Then my dad got mad at my sister for calling hearie people out on their stupidity and said all hearing people were stupid. My sister got upset for this and asked if he meant her too and my dad responded she had her stupid moments because she didn't know what it was like to be deaf.

Unfortunately, my parents really dislike hearing people a lot. So, they fight with my sister a lot and I felt bad for her last night. But I was glad that she was defending us and called the people out on their remarks.

DeafTim · 10-11-2012, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by CrazyPaul

Maybe a hearing aid turns her on so she had to cool off like that?

You silly bastard....

She wasnt bad lookin,either.

Auroke22 · 10-12-2012, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Speaking of fast food restaurant stories. Yesterday, my brother and I stopped by Taco bell after work. He doesnt have any speech skills but he knows how to communicate with hearing people very well. So, he went first to put his order in and told the lady he wanted tacos. The lady spoke so sloowly "HHHHHHHHHAAAAAARRRRDDD or SSSSSSSOOOOFFFTTT?" My brother signed "hard as an erection." When I saw what he signed, I tried so hard not to laugh but the cashier didnt catch the obvious ASL sign for "erection". So he got his order in and then my brother told me that he will grab salsa for me. I signed back, "Sure" and then went to order for myself. Yes, I have speech skills so I used them. The lady said to me, "Please tell your client that his order number is this and that and pls tell him thank you for coming to taco bell." I almost started laughing...she thinks my brother is from a group home and I am his one-on-one resident counselor. I tried to keep a straight face while order because I was thinking of the sign he used and what she said. I was so tired so when I am that tired, I laugh easily. Then, I got my order and went to get my drink. Told my brother what the cashier said to me and that she probably thinks he is low functioning so my brother was like, "Fine...she assumes because I cant speak, I am low-functioning...ok, I will act like one." So, he proceeded to act like one in the restaurant but with very exagerrated goofy facial expressions and arm movements. I told him to STOP because I could not contain my laugher so I got my order and ran out of the restaurant and bust out laughing in the parking lot. I told my brother that he was bad!

He said if the lady cashier wanted to stereotype deaf people then I will give her what she wants.

that is so great x'D

ParkerMax · 10-19-2012, 07:51 AM

I was doing my motorcycle course and the instructor said "I reckon deaf drivers are better drivers, they actually pay attention to the road!"

^^ That's not annoying btw... for me anyway.

DianeR11 · 10-19-2012, 10:49 AM

First of all...I don't wish deafness on anyone, however I am so grateful to have found others who struggle with this everyday problem.

Everyday I have to tell someone, "I'm sorry, I'm deaf...can you look at me?" I suppose I shouldn't use the I'm sorry part...How do others out there address this to the hearing?

At a work related birthday celebration, everyone was gathering in the conference room to sing happy birthday. A co-worker said "When Diane comes in the room, let's everyone lip-sync so she's the only one singing." Man, people piss me off!

**KristinaB** · 10-19-2012, 08:10 PM

I actually had a person at AT&T today on the phone ask me why I would have a landline and internet if there were deaf and hoh people in the house. I told her, in the family of 5, there was 1 deaf, 2 hoh, (1 mild 1 severe) and 2 hearing people and that the internet was required for my VP. She then said she didn't know what a VP was and why did I need it. She was an idiot.

09-02-2012, 10:12 AM	#1174 (permalink)
ambrosia Registered User Join Date: May 2012 Location: Myrtle Beach, SC Posts: 1,698	Stopped at a burger king last night for dinner (obviously not the drive thru that's just crazy talk lol) on my way out I passed a guy that works there coming in, he was probably late teens early 20's. I get almost to my car when i hear him say something. So I turn around..."what!?" he says "Whats on your ears?" OMG seriously?? I've had children ask me, hell I've had them touch my hearing aids and ask what's in your ear? But a grown person? o_0 what the hell?? I resisted the urge to tell....I hope you like working at burger King, you're going to be here forever because you're an imbecile. I resisted that urge, and just answered "hearing aids". Jess and Janicke 31 like this. __________________ People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost.~Dalai Lama

09-10-2012, 05:47 PM	#1181 (permalink)
BecLak Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 2,116	Wirelessly posted Why is it when you tell people you are Voice-off, they still proceed to ask you if you want/have hearing aids? :rolleyes: __________________ Severely deaf from birth. Deaf with a Purpose. God designed me this way so I do everything by God's Grace. Exodus 4:11 Ignorance is no longer bliss. Be Educated. KEEP IN STEP WITH ME: Sign Text Email Pen and Paper

09-10-2012, 10:50 PM	#1182 (permalink)
SteveB Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Washington DC Posts: 92	It's ignorance. It happens to every minority...Deaf, racial, gay and lesbian, blind, etc...sorry if I missed yours. It's a fact of life, you gotta deal. Its easier to expect that hearies are going to be noobish about Deaf experience But the stories are freekin hilarious...keep em coming. Ok, here is mine. Apple products always auto-correct hearies as "hearties.". WTF? __________________ "Sing like no one is listening, love like you've never been hurt, dance like no one is watching! And live like its heaven on earth." Mark Twain

09-11-2012, 06:32 PM	#1185 (permalink)
Stealth521 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: NE Ohio Posts: 67	I'm a bit surprised I haven't read this one. Happened to me all the time as a kid, and on a rare occasion as an adult. People would get the idea it would be funny to silently mouth words to me so I'd think my HA isn't working. Seemingly oblivious to the fact that I still hear the background noise. Never one on one... Always putting on a show for a crowd. In high school I had a wrestling teammate try it on me. The first time I called him out on how foolish he was. The second occasion the same thing but made it clear don't do it again. The third time he came to lying on his back bleeding profusely from his nose. Not condoning violence (I was a dumb kid) justagirl and Cearuilin like this. __________________ Truth is treason in the Empire of Lies.

09-26-2012, 01:46 PM	#1186 (permalink)
faesecret Registered User Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Wilton, CT; Kingston, RI; Princeton, NJ Posts: 38	My stupid mistakes as a hearing person I went to lake compounce with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, and I met a deaf man at the park. I had unfortunately been unable to continue my lessons, so I was a bit rusty. We signed a little bit, just enough to trade names, say that we enjoyed that particular ride, and talk about whether or not I could sign and how I wanted to learn some more. I just remember being profoundly embarrassed because I made some obvious and stupid mistakes. I had on huge glasses because of the sun; I forgot to take them off my face so that he could see my eyes. I also felt terrible that I had such limited ASL knowledge, and so I couldn't really have a decent conversation with him. I fumbled with my signs and messed up a lot. Either way, I was really pleased that he was so nice to me, especially with my mistakes. As soon as I'm able, I will be getting back into my lessons. Unfortunately the timing was off before.

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09-02-2012, 07:01 AM	#1172 (permalink)
justagirl Registered User Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: AZ Posts: 345	I hate the "Oh, I'm so sorry" and "I'll pray for you." WTF! There is nothing to pray for, this is who I am, what's wrong with that? I like me and the person I am. And why are you sorry? I've had something like the subway thing happen to me as well. Once I finally realized what the person was telling me, I just laughed at myself and said, I'm sorry I misunderstood you, I'm very HOH I thought you said..."blah blah blah" I was still embarrassed but she smiled at me and said, "That's okay." But I've had other really bad experiences as well, but I've learned to just shrug them off...sometimes that can be really hard to do. The other thing I hate, is when I tell people I read lips. They start mouthing stuff and asking, "So, what did I say?" Um, did I say going to allow you to give me a test?? Uh, no... The other one is, "You're deaf? But you can talk!"

09-10-2012, 11:04 PM	#1183 (permalink)
behindthemask Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Raccoon City Posts: 453	A man screamed at me saying "YOU CAN'T SPEAK ENGLISH?" after I told him I can't hear. The man was drunk at the time and his constant screaming made me want to cut his tongue off and punch him in the adam's apple. But of course I didn't do anything and just waited until he shut the f*** up.

10-04-2012, 09:51 AM	#1189 (permalink)
NismoS14 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: CT Posts: 90	A drunk hearing man who was sipping double shot glasses of whiskey at the bar asked me, "How the fack can you understand me if your deaf?" I told him that I can hear with my hearing aids a bit and that I can read lips pretty well. My ex, who is hearing, was explaining to the man about my hearing loss. That drunk man started to cry about me being deaf while i was trying not to laugh. He was cool for buying me and my ex a couple of drinks. __________________ Deaf DRIFT-A-HOLIC I <3 240sx/Silvia

10-05-2012, 10:16 PM	#1191 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,764	I didn't actually witness this man saying anything, but this evening I was at a Deaf Coffee Chat at a Panera Bread and my son always goes with me in case I fall. He will sit nearby and while I am sitting with everyone, he will surf the internet or read at fanfiction.org. Seems he overheard some man sitting at a nearby table making all kinds of rude comments about the "handicapped people who can't talk". My son said he just about decked the guy. He explained that we were deaf/hoh people who meet monthly for a chat and visit and have a good time. This guy went on to say that we shouldn't meet in public and ruin things for the "able bodied people". Son got really mad, and went to get the manager. Explained what was going on and the man was asked to leave. I was told all this on the way home as my back was to him. Bebonang, DeafBadger and needsleep like this. __________________ Taking life one day at a time.

10-05-2012, 11:34 PM	#1193 (permalink)
DeafTim Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Utica,OH Posts: 2,327	I get weird attention from certain folks b/c I wear a hearing aid. I really dont mind about the attention, hey whynot. Anyway, after I ordered my meal at Wendy's the other day, this female cashier stand back and looked up as she was coolin herself. I looked up to see and she was standin right under the a/c on ceilin. I then looked at her and she smiled right at me. I guess a lot of deafies are mentally challenged. __________________ It might be,it could be...It is! A homerun! HOLY COW!! Harry Caray Mitt: I have 5 point plan President Obama: Mitt doesnt have 5 point plan, He has one point plan! (ZINGER) Mitt Romney is a scam!!

10-11-2012, 12:56 PM	#1195 (permalink)
Kat01 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 18	The best thing to happen is when we go into a restaurant as a family. My sister is the only one who speaks as she is hearing. My dad can speak but refuses to. Yesterday we were in the restaurant and we were signing all out in conversations at the table. The waitress came up and took our drink order and was really friendly. She did not seem to mind that we were deaf or anything. She even gave us free dessert for not getting angry when she misunderstood my father's drink order. My sister normally translates for us when my parents get lazy and feel like the "hearing world owes us for the stupidity in it." So, while we are eating people are staring at us and my sister suddenly gets very angry. She gets really red faced and turns to a table next to us and starts yelling. Apparently, the table said, "How can those people be allowed to take that table? Those stupid deaf people are going to order so much food we cannot get ours out faster." Then the table was shocked that my sister was a hearie and then an argument broke out. Then my dad got mad at my sister for calling hearie people out on their stupidity and said all hearing people were stupid. My sister got upset for this and asked if he meant her too and my dad responded she had her stupid moments because she didn't know what it was like to be deaf. Unfortunately, my parents really dislike hearing people a lot. So, they fight with my sister a lot and I felt bad for her last night. But I was glad that she was defending us and called the people out on their remarks.

10-19-2012, 07:51 AM	#1198 (permalink)
ParkerMax Registered User Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 4	I was doing my motorcycle course and the instructor said "I reckon deaf drivers are better drivers, they actually pay attention to the road!" ^^ That's not annoying btw... for me anyway.

10-19-2012, 10:49 AM	#1199 (permalink)
DianeR11 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Cali Posts: 7	First of all...I don't wish deafness on anyone, however I am so grateful to have found others who struggle with this everyday problem. Everyday I have to tell someone, "I'm sorry, I'm deaf...can you look at me?" I suppose I shouldn't use the I'm sorry part...How do others out there address this to the hearing? At a work related birthday celebration, everyone was gathering in the conference room to sing happy birthday. A co-worker said "When Diane comes in the room, let's everyone lip-sync so she's the only one singing." Man, people piss me off! __________________ *Sometimes the things we hold onto aren't nearly as important as the things we let go of. "The feeling of being unwanted or alone is the greatest poverty" -Mother Theresa

10-19-2012, 08:10 PM	#1200 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,764	I actually had a person at AT&T today on the phone ask me why I would have a landline and internet if there were deaf and hoh people in the house. I told her, in the family of 5, there was 1 deaf, 2 hoh, (1 mild 1 severe) and 2 hearing people and that the internet was required for my VP. She then said she didn't know what a VP was and why did I need it. She was an idiot. __________________ Taking life one day at a time.

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