Frisky Feline

Why don't you change hearing peoples attitudes when they treat Deaf deaf hoh people in general? They are the one who makes Deaf deaf hoh people that way due to the attitude issue.

Lastly, just socialize with asl users than being online. if you could not find any where deaf people then search harder.

Deafness

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LoveBlue

Botts and other don't like hearing people posting on this thread because it's supposed to be thread for deaf/Deaf people to post their frustrations with hearing people. It's ok for hearing people to read it, but they should not post in it.

BTW, nevermind is not a word. It's "never mind" - two words. So I wouldn't trust your spell check if it did not indicate that it was wrong.

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Bottesini

You have a little trouble reading? I don't believe the post you responded to was addressed to you.

If I have a problem with you, I will let you know it. No use looking to start trouble with me.

I will try to pay you no nevermind...

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warpedpink

Happy one year anniversary to this post

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purplewowies

I posted a story in here once.

But only because I was REALLY angry. And other than that I really only read it.

And I hate it when people come in and post something like "aww ur complaining about nothing suck it up"

>:-(

david40price

@ Frisky Feline "Why don't you change hearing peoples attitudes when they treat Deaf deaf hoh people in general? They are the one who makes Deaf deaf hoh people that way due to the attitude issue.

Lastly, just socialize with asl users than being online. if you could not find any where deaf people then search harder."

I do change their attitudes as I encounter them. I honestly don't run into people every day that act rude or ignorant, but when I do, I do correct their attitude, if it is possible. I am new to your world, so I have only encountered this so much, but when I see it, I won't stand for it.

@LoveBlue "Botts and other don't like hearing people posting on this thread because it's supposed to be thread for deaf/Deaf people to post their frustrations with hearing people. It's ok for hearing people to read it, but they should not post in it.

BTW, nevermind is not a word. It's "never mind" - two words. So I wouldn't trust your spell check if it did not indicate that it was wrong."

I understand what you are saying that this thread is for Deaf and HOH people only however; I looked at the very top and I could not find anything that indicated it was only for Deaf and HOH so if I can't find it, neither can other people. And yes, I do spell never mind as nevermind, but that is how I learned to spell it and believe it or not, have an english dictionary that shows it this way. So perhaps there are two ways to spell it?

@Bottesini "Agreed and understand what you are saying. I realize the comment was not meant for me. I guess I was just a little surprised that you were beating someone up who was making an effort. I have no issues with you."

Again, I was not trying to offend anyone here. Just give us "hearies" some slack. Some of us are trying and not all of us are assholes.

Bottesini

The original post made it abundantly clear what this thread was for, not to mention the title itself.

And as for beating up someone, I just reversed what he was saying to deaf and turned it back to hearing.

Please be a little less emotional and more analytical.

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coolgirlspyer90

I understand that you are trying hard to learn ASL and understand our deaf culture. But honestly, If you see this thread titled and underlined "annoying ignorant hearing people stories" then maybe you shouldn't come in here and be all mad about it. This thread is mainly for deaf people venting out their frustrations from the reality that we go through with everyday. Don't judge us unless you've been into our shoes.

Passivist

Great advert for co-operation Is this about getting fair play for us all or just having ago at hearing ? If the latter we are NOT amused.

caz12

this old thread....i no understand computer or quite got hang of this site yet,just seem strange keep thread open after a year.
back to your subject,i could say same that i appear to be one of few brits on prodminatly american site but i incorperated so i not sure what your point is,i have read many hearing posts on here no one seems to have hump

Passivist

Not quite the only Brit here

zoe1972

thanks for the tip. I say it all the time thinking I don't want to be a pain.

zoe1972

Sitting in library and I can't stop laughing. Yes, when us hearing people are that stupid feel free to tease, humiliate and mock. I hate when people yell louder at my client. I just want to smack them.

Bottesini

Actual post by an hearing user. I am annoyed that they think the must write like this to talk to Deaf people!

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So I been reading a lot of post about deaf and hearing relationships. About how they don't work out. And about when girl ditch guy as soon she finds out he deaf.

I don't know. Do you guys ever assume that girl is intimated by you. Personal experience I saw this guy in class. My first thought was "wow he cute". And then I finds out he smart in math when he solves an calculus problem on board. He has great smile - basically my dream guy. But then he signs and I'm thinking "huh? He deaf?!". Okay this not going to work. And it wasn't because he deaf! But because that basically a sign saying its not going work and he to good for me. I was competely interested but I was scare to talk to him. All his friends are deaf and I didn't want to took stupid. So I gave up. Good thing I did anyways because my friend like him too and unlike me she went for it. But he reject her saying "only date deaf girls". What heck that?

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Lau2046

He probably did you both a favor. If anyone is that bigoted that they can't see beyond the end of their nose - they'll be missing out on a lot - and so would you to try and have a relationship with someone that limited.

KarissaMann05

It is sad that some people still think Deaf people shouldn't have children because they're defective ones.

I wish no one tell Deaf people have no right to have or to adopt kids. Good grief...

Smiliekiwi

Phew taken me 3 days to read this thread!

Hi I'm a hearie... hopefully with a small h...

When I was a child my HoH Nana told me how she hated people saying Never mind.. I always remembered that!

I have been learning NZSL for over 10 years, and have found some wonderful friends because of it.
And have had some of the odd questions asked by hearie friends... It is good to be able to educate them.

I just want to say, I have found deaf people to be patient. When they converse with me, they watch to see if I understand.. and if I don't they happily repeat until I do.

I have 'enjoyed' reading this thread.. and Love some of your comebacks!
("Hey, He just tried to propose to me" )

A Nihilist

From living 33 years as a HoH person I've come to the conclusion that I don't try to explain to everyone my issue because the problem is if I explain it then people start treating me like a "special person" and it makes it even worse.

They then start talking reeeaalllllyyy ssssllllooowwwwww and then they start saying, "Why don't you learn ASL?"

Boobookitty

This thread is hilarious !
Love the fast food drive through stories. I'm not so nice about it lol I tell them when get to window their machines a piece of crap- Wah Wah Wah
I've unfortunately lost my patience with mean people This year ( hearing aids /paper weights don't work hardly anymore ) My kids are teens and they hate how people can be to me. My babies lol
Also ,apparently you can catch Deafness according to people,must be it. When people find out about my hearing they ignore me ,hurry and get away from me,or look at me like I'm sick. At my work if I go for break, two women in my dept. will stop talking, stare at me and start texting each other ( ignorant) But whatever their loss. ( I usually time it now and don't go when they do)
Have been told they were surprised how smart I am since they hardly ever hear me talk. I take my aids out at work,sounds distract me and give me headaches sometimes.
Love all the stories- I know I've said it before. So nice to have people to relate to,to share experiences,stories,vent lol
I'm very happy my cousin told me to find something like this site.

Frisky Feline

wonder why did they tell you to learn ASL?

A Nihilist

Just ignorant/stupid and don't realize the ramifications of being deaf.

To show you what I mean here's a true story:

In a party, I'm having fun chatting with this girl and then she says, "I love this song!" and then I say, "I can't hear that, I have a hearing problem"

Girl: What, you have a hearing problem? (Frowny face)
Me: Yeah was born with it
Girl: Really I had no clue, you speak really well!
Me: Yep
Girl: You ought to learn sign language
Me: If only knew sign language I wouldn't be able to talk to you
Girl: Oh yeah (duh face)

Frisky Feline

interesting that is how she see this way. Guess she may be an airhead girl...

Audiofuzzy

"annoying ignorant hearing people stories"

what if the hearing person feels she/ he is not ignorant nor annoying???

Fuzzy

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purplewowies

Well... sometimes people are ignorant and annoying but don't realize it, or they adamantly deny their ignorance and/or annoying-ness (?) because they *can't* be wrong/ableist/audist.

And then there are hearing people that read these stories and think that the deaf people who wrote them think that all hearing people are that way...

busybee

I have one. Two nights ago I was sitting at a bar watching the game (go Royals!) and this guy starts talking to me. The place has loud music and tvs and is kind of dark. I tell him that I am hard of hearing and am and that he can write me a note. We were both a little drunk but he starts going on about how well I speak, I tell him that I'm not Deaf, just hard of hearing and this is a place where it is hard to hear. He keeps on about it and then is all " you have a special gift to share with the world" He got all sappy and I just wanted to smack him.

Marie579

How about this one??! All the older people I'm around, hear fine til they're talking with me,when I constantly have to remind them I'm hoh they tell me oh yeah I am too!! No, you're just forgetful, and I have to remind you to quit walking away while you're talking to me!! Or please don't turn around or start blocking your mouth with your hands...or dang it, forget it!!! We've been through it already! We're family!! And people in public, if my family doesn't get it....

DeafTim

I dont know if this happens alot to deaf people who wear hearing aids..dont you hate when a cashier close their hand and knock on the counter just to test your hearings..that happened to me last night..just wanna say piss off b/c I know what you're doing..know what I mean..it can be offensive sometimes.

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caz12

never see a cashier do that....most of the time have no trouble have to ask if being little over sensitive,some people are rude some deaf people very rude live let live,expect and accept and put each other right when need arise...i had more pig ignorent people in respect to my daughter who brain damage very bad but not deaf

Bebonang

When will the hearing people stop being soooooo audists? I am sooo sick of their superior ways trying to control us to get their ways of not wanting to understand us by not providing ASL interpreters. Mostly it is about not wanting to paying for ASL or sign language interpreters, when there is a social problem like the police department or at the Justice court or at the hospital or any kind of emergency or needed help to get an interpreters. They managed to hurt us in the process, even taking the children away from the deaf parents. It is really sick where you have to deal with them in the hearing society.

EDIT: We have a right to have sign language interpreters. We are not suppose to pay for sign language interpreters. In public services, they have to pay for it when it is an emergency or need help when we could not afford it ourselves as we are not rich.

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caz12

i never heard of children being taken away from deaf parents,reminds me of welsh last century welsh langage banned or american indians australian aborigeny all native langage banned
i not a terp but have been used at local police station communicate it just happened as a by product of something i was doing at the time in police station.Unpaid.but for court or something serious a qualified terp be used but may wait long time...what upset me the guy i was signing with done nothing wrong he scared someone in a big shop he was frustrated and shouting loud no one understood him made difficult cos he was greek,we got his parents down only to discover they spoke little english and no bsl...ended up getting his brother who was two hours away....poor man had commited no crime...it was one worse handled case i ever seen but not uncommon.i had another guy not deaf but had voice problems he did bsl but as back up rather than as langage again it was frustration with member of public i was bit surpples to his need but i helped a bit.
you talk about spelling mine is awful,i have hand problems and to re-do mistake is painful i dont know how spell checker work i got dylexia /dyspractia pointless trying dont know if i looking at right thing or not