Annoying ignorant hearing people stories - Page 3

**shel90** · 07-01-2011, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by amandaraemay

I'm hearing, and I used to work at McDonald's. I am not fluent in ASL, but everytime we had a Deaf customer, I would tell the other workers to send them to my register so we could all avoid confusion, and make ordering a little easier on the customer. One day, I had a customer come up to me and sign their order. I tried to confirm everything, but just to be sure, they wanted to write it down. I got the woman a pad and pen, and she wrote everything down. A shift manager saw us chatting through sign, came over, snatched the paper away, handed her a menu in braile, and spoke really loud and slowly "POINT FOOD YOU WANT PLEASE. HAVE NICE DAY THANK YOU." The customer was really offended and angry, and I had to apologize profusely to her.

Seriously!? Braile menu? She's Deaf, not blind, stupid

Speaking of fast food restaurant stories. Yesterday, my brother and I stopped by Taco bell after work. He doesnt have any speech skills but he knows how to communicate with hearing people very well. So, he went first to put his order in and told the lady he wanted tacos. The lady spoke so sloowly "HHHHHHHHHAAAAAARRRRDDD or SSSSSSSOOOOFFFTTT?" My brother signed "hard as an erection." When I saw what he signed, I tried so hard not to laugh but the cashier didnt catch the obvious ASL sign for "erection". So he got his order in and then my brother told me that he will grab salsa for me. I signed back, "Sure" and then went to order for myself. Yes, I have speech skills so I used them. The lady said to me, "Please tell your client that his order number is this and that and pls tell him thank you for coming to taco bell." I almost started laughing...she thinks my brother is from a group home and I am his one-on-one resident counselor. I tried to keep a straight face while order because I was thinking of the sign he used and what she said. I was so tired so when I am that tired, I laugh easily. Then, I got my order and went to get my drink. Told my brother what the cashier said to me and that she probably thinks he is low functioning so my brother was like, "Fine...she assumes because I cant speak, I am low-functioning...ok, I will act like one." So, he proceeded to act like one in the restaurant but with very exagerrated goofy facial expressions and arm movements. I told him to STOP because I could not contain my laugher so I got my order and ran out of the restaurant and bust out laughing in the parking lot. I told my brother that he was bad!

He said if the lady cashier wanted to stereotype deaf people then I will give her what she wants.

AlleyCat · 07-01-2011, 10:38 AM

I saw you posting something about this on FB. I wish I could've been there to see it. Must've been funny as hell. I like your last statement about the stereotyping.

**shel90** · 07-01-2011, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by AlleyCat

I saw you posting something about this on FB. I wish I could've been there to see it. Must've been funny as hell. I like your last statement about the stereotyping.

What really made me lose it was when before he walked out the door, he grabbed the taco bell ringer and started swinging it so hard to make loud clanging noises and people turned to look at him. He crossed his eyes and made his lips stretch and said "Babababababa" with flapping his arms like a bird. That made me run out because I couldnt look at the customers and the workers to see their reaction.

**Bottesini** · 07-01-2011, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

What really made me lose it was when before he walked out the door, he grabbed the taco bell ringer and started swinging it so hard to make loud clanging noises and people turned to look at him. He crossed his eyes and made his lips stretch and said "Babababababa" with flapping his arms like a bird. That made me run out because I couldnt look at the customers and the workers to see their reaction.

DeafCaroline · 07-01-2011, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by MidnightSun

WOW, I know this comment will not be popular, but that's never stopped me from saying anything I feel before so...I really do understand your obvious anger with the people each of you mentioned, and all the others who just do not understand deafness.

But it's nice to have a place to vent and others would totally get what I mean. i don't usually express anger with hearing people making ignorant comments for the reasons you've mentioned - they just don't know. I do try to inform them like "yes, I can lipread but it's a myth that deaf people are perfect lipreaders" etc etc but I don't address them with rage on a daily basis nor am I even capable of that.

But here? I will vent because I need to get these things off my chest instead of having them build up and fester inside me.

**Smithtr** · 07-01-2011, 04:08 PM

I have hearing friends ignored to deaf culture because not fair because communication,

they don't understand because deaf culture! whom is don't understand how, rude on communication to hearing ignored deaf culture, deaf hurt upset!

AlleyCat · 07-01-2011, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

What really made me lose it was when before he walked out the door, he grabbed the taco bell ringer and started swinging it so hard to make loud clanging noises and people turned to look at him. He crossed his eyes and made his lips stretch and said "Babababababa" with flapping his arms like a bird. That made me run out because I couldnt look at the customers and the workers to see their reaction.

Your brother sounds like a riot!

Speedy Hawk · 07-01-2011, 05:30 PM

Your brother sounds great Shel!! That is so funny. I wonder what they think after that performace!!

**shel90** · 07-01-2011, 07:54 PM

Yea, my brother is outrageous sometimes. He has guts to embarass himself and anyone who is with him in public. Most of the time, it is me.

**KristinaB** · 07-01-2011, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Yea, my brother is outrageous sometimes. He has guts to embarass himself and anyone who is with him in public. Most of the time, it is me.

He totally sounds like a blast.

jillio · 07-01-2011, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by AlleyCat

I can so totally relate to every single thing you posted just now.

I totally hate the "I'll pray for you" -- I've had that numerous times. Pray for what? Nothing's wrong with me, ma'am or sir!

Yeppers. I've posted before about the stranger in Walmart who saw me signing with my son when he was about 7 or 8. She told him God would heal him if he prayed hard enough. He told her he wasn't sick.

jillio · 07-01-2011, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Speaking of fast food restaurant stories. Yesterday, my brother and I stopped by Taco bell after work. He doesnt have any speech skills but he knows how to communicate with hearing people very well. So, he went first to put his order in and told the lady he wanted tacos. The lady spoke so sloowly "HHHHHHHHHAAAAAARRRRDDD or SSSSSSSOOOOFFFTTT?" My brother signed "hard as an erection." When I saw what he signed, I tried so hard not to laugh but the cashier didnt catch the obvious ASL sign for "erection". So he got his order in and then my brother told me that he will grab salsa for me. I signed back, "Sure" and then went to order for myself. Yes, I have speech skills so I used them. The lady said to me, "Please tell your client that his order number is this and that and pls tell him thank you for coming to taco bell." I almost started laughing...she thinks my brother is from a group home and I am his one-on-one resident counselor. I tried to keep a straight face while order because I was thinking of the sign he used and what she said. I was so tired so when I am that tired, I laugh easily. Then, I got my order and went to get my drink. Told my brother what the cashier said to me and that she probably thinks he is low functioning so my brother was like, "Fine...she assumes because I cant speak, I am low-functioning...ok, I will act like one." So, he proceeded to act like one in the restaurant but with very exagerrated goofy facial expressions and arm movements. I told him to STOP because I could not contain my laugher so I got my order and ran out of the restaurant and bust out laughing in the parking lot. I told my brother that he was bad!

He said if the lady cashier wanted to stereotype deaf people then I will give her what she wants.

I love your brother!

cookingmom · 07-01-2011, 08:32 PM

I WORK AT A MCDONALDS in Ky and we have several deaf that come there why do you suspose? because three of us can sign and those that can't have pen and paper handy we treat them ,ike everybody else

inmate23 · 07-01-2011, 11:01 PM

shel your brother sounds halious

jillio · 07-02-2011, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by cookingmom

I WORK AT A MCDONALDS in Ky and we have several deaf that come there why do you suspose? because three of us can sign and those that can't have pen and paper handy we treat them ,ike everybody else

Absolutely. Word spreads quickly through the deaf community about places of business that are "deaf friendly". It is a shame that the business community doesn't realize the best form of advertising is to accommodate the deaf. They are loosing out on the business of a very large segment of the population.

Hollykins1 · 07-04-2011, 10:24 AM

How true! I used to work for a large retailer and just a few miles away is a Deaf Academy. Because of that we'd get a fair amount of deaf customers. After awhile I noticed that many would wait in my line even if another line was shorter. Why? Because even though my ASL and signing was very clumsy - I made the effort to communicate and be friendly.

Now as my own hearing is declining, I notice even more how impatient people can be with the HOH or Deaf. (or anyone who doesn't speak the language, has a disability, needs extra time because they are elderly...so on and so on....) I'm glad I wasn't that way when I was totally hearing.

**deafskeptic** · 07-05-2011, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by AlleyCat

Me too! I guess some hearies think that all deafies should know one another

QFT!

**deafskeptic** · 07-05-2011, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by jillio

I love your brother!

Me too!

**deafskeptic** · 07-05-2011, 12:39 AM

I had a nurse tell me the other night that I was quite intelligent for knowing why I have surgery scars on my chest, left arm and right leg. (All are a result of my heart bypass surgery). I'm thinking is this nurse for real when I asked her if she actually met people who had no idea why they had scars like mine. I'm thinking oh great I have an audist on my hands.

**deafskeptic** · 07-05-2011, 12:41 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Yea, my brother is outrageous sometimes. He has guts to embarass himself and anyone who is with him in public. Most of the time, it is me.

That's what brothers are for.

AlleyCat · 07-05-2011, 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

I had a nurse tell me the other night that I was quite intelligent for knowing why I have surgery scars on my chest, left arm and right leg. (All are a result of my heart bypass surgery). I'm thinking is this nurse for real when I asked her if she actually met people who had no idea why they had scars like mine. I'm thinking oh great I have an audist on my hands.

*smh*

That kind of reminds me of the time I brought my car to a repair shop. The guy at the counter beamed at me every time he asked me a question and I answered it. He said "you're doing quite well!" and I asked why, he said he had no idea deaf people knew anything. Oh, and, the questions? My name, address, and license plate number. Um.....

ladysolitary85 · 07-05-2011, 05:42 AM

"How can you work if you can't hear?"

"HELLLOOOOO? CAN YOU HEAR ME? ARE YOU LISTENING" (usually over the phone)

BecLak · 07-05-2011, 10:27 PM

One thing that annoys me is when I respond to something said and ask the person to kindly repeat it because I didn't catch it. They start right back at beginning again and repeat what I did manage to process, but stop just where I need it repeated. When asked to repeat it again - same thing happens. I end up having to repeat back what I understood. All in all, it is quite an unnecessary exhausting process.

Another time is when people have big lovely teeth to look at but when talking you can't see past their teeth as they are talking through their teeth. Impossible to lipread.

DeafTim · 07-05-2011, 11:30 PM

I dont like when hearing people standing in front of me anywhere and talking about you as if you dont know they are talking about you. I mean, do they think we're dat fookin' stupid? Makes my blood boiled. Wanna talk about me, make sure I know what you are saying about me so I can defend myself. Know what I mean? I hate when they leave out important informations about you so they can look at you the wrong way. Is it me or all of us been through it? People lie about you deserve a major butt-whoopin'!

warpedpink · 07-05-2011, 11:43 PM

These are all great! I originally started this thread so I could win a drinking game (which I lost) but I'm happy to see that it became a place where everyone could laugh about the silly and sometimes stupid things they do.

Liza · 07-06-2011, 06:21 AM

Just got a form in Spanish to fill out prescription for my deaf dog at Target. Sometimes people think I speak Spanish when they see me using ASL. This has happened to me twice. Idiots.

Speedy Hawk · 07-06-2011, 01:12 PM

Lately this one annoying thing hearing do (my family).

They say something I got some part okay and miss out some and when I try to tell them to repeat, they start from beginning from WHOLE thing. I don't want repeat WHOLE thing, I just want you repeat that bit I missed! It goes kinda like this (blah means I got it) (miss means I missed what being said):

blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah miss miss miss.

I ask them repeat last few words they go right from start

blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah (they stop here).

I ask them why are you stopping, repeat that last one!

blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah miss miss miss.

I give up!! They give up!! They make it as if it is my fault somehow.

Mudkipz · 07-06-2011, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by amandaraemay

I'm hearing, and I used to work at McDonald's. I am not fluent in ASL, but everytime we had a Deaf customer, I would tell the other workers to send them to my register so we could all avoid confusion, and make ordering a little easier on the customer. One day, I had a customer come up to me and sign their order. I tried to confirm everything, but just to be sure, they wanted to write it down. I got the woman a pad and pen, and she wrote everything down. A shift manager saw us chatting through sign, came over, snatched the paper away, handed her a menu in braile, and spoke really loud and slowly "POINT FOOD YOU WANT PLEASE. HAVE NICE DAY THANK YOU." The customer was really offended and angry, and I had to apologize profusely to her.

Seriously!? Braile menu? She's Deaf, not blind, stupid

Jeeze! I cringed as I read this. I bet the manager even thought he was smart while doing that.

AlleyCat · 07-06-2011, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Speedy Hawk

Lately this one annoying thing hearing do (my family).

They say something I got some part okay and miss out some and when I try to tell them to repeat, they start from beginning from WHOLE thing. I don't want repeat WHOLE thing, I just want you repeat that bit I missed! It goes kinda like this (blah means I got it) (miss means I missed what being said):

blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah miss miss miss.

I ask them repeat last few words they go right from start

blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah (they stop here).

I ask them why are you stopping, repeat that last one!

blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah miss miss miss.

I give up!! They give up!! They make it as if it is my fault somehow.

Oh, I so can relate to that! ^^^

Oftentimes it is just the very last sentence of something that I missed, so I always say, "can you repeat just that last sentence, please"

And I get, "what? huh?"

Me: "just the last sentence"

And they either repeat it ALL or forget by then what that last sentence even was. Oh well. Nevermind !!

Mudkipz · 07-06-2011, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by DeafTim

I dont like when hearing people standing in front of me anywhere and talking about you as if you dont know they are talking about you. I mean, do they think we're dat fookin' stupid? Makes my blood boiled. Wanna talk about me, make sure I know what you are saying about me so I can defend myself. Know what I mean? I hate when they leave out important informations about you so they can look at you the wrong way. Is it me or all of us been through it? People lie about you deserve a major butt-whoopin'!

I so know what you mean and it really boils me up too when someone talks about me as if I couldn't understand. I can see your face and your eyes looking at me, so excuse me!

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cookingmom Registered User Join Date: May 2011 Location: ohio Posts: 31	I WORK AT A MCDONALDS in Ky and we have several deaf that come there why do you suspose? because three of us can sign and those that can't have pen and paper handy we treat them ,ike everybody else JAMES09 likes this.

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Hollykins1 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Tavares, FL Posts: 277	How true! I used to work for a large retailer and just a few miles away is a Deaf Academy. Because of that we'd get a fair amount of deaf customers. After awhile I noticed that many would wait in my line even if another line was shorter. Why? Because even though my ASL and signing was very clumsy - I made the effort to communicate and be friendly. Now as my own hearing is declining, I notice even more how impatient people can be with the HOH or Deaf. (or anyone who doesn't speak the language, has a disability, needs extra time because they are elderly...so on and so on....) I'm glad I wasn't that way when I was totally hearing. cmdrwhitewolf and JAMES09 like this. __________________ DX: Meniere's Disease 6/10 HOH and learning ASL VNS: 11/2/10

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AlleyCat Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In my time zone Posts: 10,833	I saw you posting something about this on FB. I wish I could've been there to see it. Must've been funny as hell. I like your last statement about the stereotyping.

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Speedy Hawk Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: England Posts: 816	Your brother sounds great Shel!! That is so funny. I wonder what they think after that performace!!

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deafskeptic Premium Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 14,512	I had a nurse tell me the other night that I was quite intelligent for knowing why I have surgery scars on my chest, left arm and right leg. (All are a result of my heart bypass surgery). I'm thinking is this nurse for real when I asked her if she actually met people who had no idea why they had scars like mine. I'm thinking oh great I have an audist on my hands. __________________ Left ear implanted with Med-El on April 24 2007. Activated on May 9th. Upgraded to Opus 2 9/10/2010 Think Pink. FREE JILLIO!

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ladysolitary85 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: CA Posts: 1,518	"How can you work if you can't hear?" "HELLLOOOOO? CAN YOU HEAR ME? ARE YOU LISTENING" (usually over the phone)

07-05-2011, 10:27 PM	#83 (permalink)
BecLak Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 2,116	One thing that annoys me is when I respond to something said and ask the person to kindly repeat it because I didn't catch it. They start right back at beginning again and repeat what I did manage to process, but stop just where I need it repeated. When asked to repeat it again - same thing happens. I end up having to repeat back what I understood. All in all, it is quite an unnecessary exhausting process. Another time is when people have big lovely teeth to look at but when talking you can't see past their teeth as they are talking through their teeth. Impossible to lipread. __________________ Severely deaf from birth. Deaf with a Purpose. God designed me this way so I do everything by God's Grace. Exodus 4:11 Ignorance is no longer bliss. Be Educated. KEEP IN STEP WITH ME: Sign Text Email Pen and Paper

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DeafTim Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Utica,OH Posts: 2,327	I dont like when hearing people standing in front of me anywhere and talking about you as if you dont know they are talking about you. I mean, do they think we're dat fookin' stupid? Makes my blood boiled. Wanna talk about me, make sure I know what you are saying about me so I can defend myself. Know what I mean? I hate when they leave out important informations about you so they can look at you the wrong way. Is it me or all of us been through it? People lie about you deserve a major butt-whoopin'! __________________ It might be,it could be...It is! A homerun! HOLY COW!! Harry Caray Mitt: I have 5 point plan President Obama: Mitt doesnt have 5 point plan, He has one point plan! (ZINGER) Mitt Romney is a scam!!

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warpedpink Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: California Bay Area Posts: 832	These are all great! I originally started this thread so I could win a drinking game (which I lost) but I'm happy to see that it became a place where everyone could laugh about the silly and sometimes stupid things they do. __________________

07-06-2011, 06:21 AM	#86 (permalink)
Liza Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Jacksonville Posts: 4,367 Blog Entries: 2	Just got a form in Spanish to fill out prescription for my deaf dog at Target. Sometimes people think I speak Spanish when they see me using ASL. This has happened to me twice. Idiots.

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Speedy Hawk Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: England Posts: 816	Lately this one annoying thing hearing do (my family). They say something I got some part okay and miss out some and when I try to tell them to repeat, they start from beginning from WHOLE thing. I don't want repeat WHOLE thing, I just want you repeat that bit I missed! It goes kinda like this (blah means I got it) (miss means I missed what being said): blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah miss miss miss. I ask them repeat last few words they go right from start blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah (they stop here). I ask them why are you stopping, repeat that last one! blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah miss miss miss. I give up!! They give up!! They make it as if it is my fault somehow.

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