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Unread 06-27-2011, 01:01 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Nevermind has to be the most hated word in the Deaf community.
INDEED ITS THE ****ING MOST HATED WORD FROM THE HEARIES TO US DEAFIES GRRRR


hey let's ban the use of the word "nevermind" to deaf people, lets make it illegal as in same catergory as verbal assault because it is a harmful communicative method to treat deaf people.
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Unread 06-27-2011, 01:10 AM   #32 (permalink)
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She sounds like a normal girl.
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Unread 06-27-2011, 01:18 AM   #33 (permalink)
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Normal?
I wasn't referring to speech, ya know!
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Unread 06-27-2011, 05:50 PM   #34 (permalink)
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One thing I really don't like from hearies is: "You must be really smart to talk!". As if intelligence got do with speech, there plenty dumb people out there can speak and plenty intelligent people out there cannot use speech. Once I told them speech is NOTHING do with intelligence and they refused to believe it.
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Unread 06-27-2011, 07:31 PM   #35 (permalink)
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WOW, I know this comment will not be popular, but that's never stopped me from saying anything I feel before so...I really do understand your obvious anger with the people each of you mentioned, and all the others who just do not understand deafness. But that's my point, it may be annoying and some may say or do ignorant things, but don't you understand "they, the hearing" just don't get it, and probably never will unless they themselves experience deafness. Each of you have every right to be angered by the things you've had to endure by those who really just can not understand and probably never will. My problem is that instead of behaving like them, ignore them, refuse to do business with them, or just make a statement like, "so sorry if me deafness inconveniences you".

See I know for a fact, that most hearing people will never understand our world. Unless they choose to educate themselves (doubtful), or they or someone close to them becomes deaf. I just don't see anything positive coming out of behaving the same way they are, rude or ignorant. When I was hearing I made the same stupid mistakes most hearing do, I will admit it.
I just really had NO idea what it was like. Then overnight I became profoundly deaf, can't even hear my own voice. My own family who loves me,
didn't know what to say or how to approach me..they had to be taught as I had to learn...I really wish the deaf would take the "higher road" and not resort to the same ignorant type statements, the hearing make to us. It achieves nothing but furthering the anger and misunderstanding. My brother, who I love dearly went to the library and got a sheet on finger spelling and learned to finger spell with both hands..lol..he's amazing. My point being when I came home from the hospital after 2 weeks of testing, and the answer of "well we really do not know why you are deaf" My brother sat with me and taught me to finger spell. He said he saw the terror in my eyes sitting in the hospital bed, crying and screaming (I had no idea how loudly I was talking).
He decided he and I would learn the simplest way to communicate with out writing. I am Blessed to have him. But you see, he chose to educate himself so that we could communicate. Every hearing person in the would should know simple finger spelling. Kids learn it in a few days.
So, I apologize if I have offended any of you, but please, understand the hearing, for the most part do not have a clue to what we are experiencing. Is that their fault for saying these totally ridiculous things...I don't think it is.

I take responsibility for educating those around me, and if they do not want to take the time to learn 26 letters in hand movements..then OK we are going to lose each other or write everything..I just do not think it is fair to
rage on a hearing person who YES, says and does inapropriate or riduculous things because they just can not understand what our lives are like unless they themselves become HOH or deaf. Peace to you all, I do not expect you to agree, but those are my true feelings. Just because I am deaf does not mean I am going to act and/or react with anyless grace or dignity then I had when I was hearing. I myself am still working on Tolerance, but I'm getting there...Midnight♥♥♥♥ (with a little love we can change the world)
I would have loved to have a brother like you! I could not care if mine dropped dies ! You're so lucky !!
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It drove me nut when I was out with Finlay and he would be in uniform , the vest that said 'hearing dog' on both sides and on his leash and collar! People would come up to me and whisper something to me!! It was if they where trying to see if I am really HOH! I would tell them I am really HOH and can't hear you or I wound not say anything and walk away.
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I always feel left out in my whole hearing family expect my grandparents. My family would want us to watch bootleg movies together, they never download a CC from website which I told them to. I told them that I can't watch movies without CC and they would say like "We don't have CC! Just watch together." I told them many time to download CC from website for every movies they downloaded. Sometime I downloaded a movies with a CC, they rarely watch with me. WTF. Most of the time, they would just talk about whatever, I ask them, they sometimes would say "I will tell you later" or "Wait! We are talking!". I would ask my brother most of time and he would say "I don't know.". For my grandparents, I never feel left out because they always let me know what going on. I'm glad I didn't have a reget when I made a choice to move in with my Grandparents.
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Unread 06-27-2011, 11:08 PM   #38 (permalink)
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Why don't you get one of them cochlear implant things?

If I had a nickel for every time someone asked me that...
Oh my god...you and me both....you and me both...

no words can explain it.
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INDEED ITS THE ****ING MOST HATED WORD FROM THE HEARIES TO US DEAFIES GRRRR


hey let's ban the use of the word "nevermind" to deaf people, lets make it illegal as in same catergory as verbal assault because it is a harmful communicative method to treat deaf people.
Oh yes,...soooo ****ING hated that I no longer am passive about it. I now bitch at hearing people who say it to me. I make an ugly scene now so that people are no longer comfortable with me. Well, apparently they arent comfortable with my deafness to begin with if this whole my speaking up makes them uncomfortable with..so since then, I have CUT them out of my life.
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Unread 06-28-2011, 02:51 AM   #40 (permalink)
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Lately hubby and I put up with well-meaning but very ignorant medical staff when they learn we're Deaf & I'm DeafBlind and pregnant with twins. They always exclaim "You know you're having 2 (2 fingers!) babies in there!" *points to belly* We're like... no sh*t but we nod our heads and say yup! One of these days I'm going to pull a dumb comment and say "you mean it's not gas?!" Immaculate conception, it ain't for sure!
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I was grocery shopping several years ago when two women, in their early 20s came up to me to tell me I was wearing hearing aids because I was a sinner. They said God had decided to punish me for doing evil things by making me hearing impaired.

At first, I thought it was some kind of a sick joke. I had never met them before, I had not even noticed them - they walked up behind me and tapped my shoulder and started telling me all this. I just stood there and was like

I told them to leave me alone and stopped shopping ... just left. I did not hang around to find out what "sect" of Christianity they represented ... but it was that day that I realized why Christians get such a bad rap.
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Thanks for that brainstorm.
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Unread 06-28-2011, 04:30 AM   #43 (permalink)
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Oh my god...you and me both....you and me both...

no words can explain it.
ME TOO grrr
guess what those 2 feminst lecturers (freinds) been banging about this and 10 years ago they gave me good marks for good sociology/education essays on deaf languages, social problems and now WTF they saying ' why do you get a what this special operation they have - oh implant' then i say ah cochlear implant nah im too deaf for that, id never be a hearing person, and its is unethical to me AND THEY STILL DONT ****ING GET IT...

unbelievable
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Unread 06-28-2011, 05:19 AM   #44 (permalink)
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Lets just throw them to the nearby time machine and send them off to where dinosaurs exists.
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I was grocery shopping several years ago when two women, in their early 20s came up to me to tell me I was wearing hearing aids because I was a sinner. They said God had decided to punish me for doing evil things by making me hearing impaired.

At first, I thought it was some kind of a sick joke. I had never met them before, I had not even noticed them - they walked up behind me and tapped my shoulder and started telling me all this. I just stood there and was like

I told them to leave me alone and stopped shopping ... just left. I did not hang around to find out what "sect" of Christianity they represented ... but it was that day that I realized why Christians get such a bad rap.
I am a devout Believer in Christ, yet those kind of people and statements made so often by people who carry the name 'Christian' makes me cringe to my very core. Note: I don't use the term 'Christian' when I refer to myself because it is all due to silly, senseless people like that.
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Unread 06-28-2011, 06:32 PM   #46 (permalink)
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That once someone finds out you are deaf then they have to tell you every person they know that even knows someone that is deaf. Real or fiction. "Like that soap opera have you seen that?" or "my sisters friend has a cousin that has kid" I realize they are just trying to relate and that is better than ignoring me but damn, I am tired of hearing this and just because I am deaf doesn't mean it is all I can talk about!
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Unread 06-28-2011, 06:34 PM   #47 (permalink)
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That once someone finds out you are deaf then they have to tell you every person they know that even knows someone that is deaf. Real or fiction. "Like that soap opera have you seen that?" or "my sisters friend has a cousin that has kid" I realize they are just trying to relate and that is better than ignoring me but damn, I am tired of hearing this and just because I am deaf doesn't mean it is all I can talk about!

Hahaha! I find it hilarious when I tell someone I'm deaf and they would say "oh, I know this deaf guy Bob in Chicago, you know him?"
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Hahaha! I find it hilarious when I tell someone I'm deaf and they would say "oh, I know this deaf guy Bob in Chicago, you know him?"
People expects deaf people to know the entire deaf network of the U.S
Me neither!!
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Unread 06-30-2011, 08:04 AM   #49 (permalink)
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I'm hearing, and I used to work at McDonald's. I am not fluent in ASL, but everytime we had a Deaf customer, I would tell the other workers to send them to my register so we could all avoid confusion, and make ordering a little easier on the customer. One day, I had a customer come up to me and sign their order. I tried to confirm everything, but just to be sure, they wanted to write it down. I got the woman a pad and pen, and she wrote everything down. A shift manager saw us chatting through sign, came over, snatched the paper away, handed her a menu in braile, and spoke really loud and slowly "POINT FOOD YOU WANT PLEASE. HAVE NICE DAY THANK YOU." The customer was really offended and angry, and I had to apologize profusely to her.

Seriously!? Braile menu? She's Deaf, not blind, stupid
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"YOU CAN TALK?? But you are deaf!!?!!"

This came from a person who for years watch me sign with other deaf at the Post Office. One day I decided to strike up a conversation with that person and led of with: "Good evening. How are you." The above is the respond I got back.
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One thing I really don't like from hearies is: "You must be really smart to talk!". As if intelligence got do with speech, there plenty dumb people out there can speak and plenty intelligent people out there cannot use speech. Once I told them speech is NOTHING do with intelligence and they refused to believe it.
I have to repeat this daily! You are so-so-so right, speech has nothing to do with intelligence.

B.T.W. (and help me out here) remember the guy in Los Angles "discovered"begging on a street and is said to have the best speech. There is a news video somewhere of this.
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One time I went to a church with a guy I was dating at that time, a woman showed up behind us when we were sitting on a pew and started hollering, "Tell God you love Jesus Christ and he will heal you!!" She started preaching to us and shook our heads around as if it'd cure our deafness. I was half speechless, half bursting with laughter. It was so ridiculous.

Never went to a church again after that.
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One time I went to a church with a guy I was dating at that time, a woman showed up behind us when we were sitting on a pew and started hollering, "Tell God you love Jesus Christ and he will heal you!!" She started preaching to us and shook our heads around as if it'd cure our deafness. I was half speechless, half bursting with laughter. It was so ridiculous.

Never went to a church again after that.
Ugh! something similar happened to me - a christian friend of my father wouldn't shut up about those religious pilgrimmages to places where people become miraculously healed and kept trying to convince me I should give it a shot. I was like WTF?
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One time I went to a church with a guy I was dating at that time, a woman showed up behind us when we were sitting on a pew and started hollering, "Tell God you love Jesus Christ and he will heal you!!" She started preaching to us and shook our heads around as if it'd cure our deafness. I was half speechless, half bursting with laughter. It was so ridiculous.

Never went to a church again after that.
Yea, I have had religious fanatics tell me that if I believed in God or abide his rules, I will be cured. I was a child at the time...what the hell is that kind of message to say to a kid? Stupid people.
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I was grocery shopping several years ago when two women, in their early 20s came up to me to tell me I was wearing hearing aids because I was a sinner. They said God had decided to punish me for doing evil things by making me hearing impaired.

At first, I thought it was some kind of a sick joke. I had never met them before, I had not even noticed them - they walked up behind me and tapped my shoulder and started telling me all this. I just stood there and was like

I told them to leave me alone and stopped shopping ... just left. I did not hang around to find out what "sect" of Christianity they represented ... but it was that day that I realized why Christians get such a bad rap.


I'm so sorry to hear they did that to you. That's one that hasn't happened to me yet. I am a Christian and it bothers me when people just don't use the brain God gave them. Please forgive them because they do not understand us. There are a lot of problems that I see with Christians today, but that one breaks my heart. Again I'm sorry for people like that.
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One time I went to a church with a guy I was dating at that time, a woman showed up behind us when we were sitting on a pew and started hollering, "Tell God you love Jesus Christ and he will heal you!!" She started preaching to us and shook our heads around as if it'd cure our deafness. I was half speechless, half bursting with laughter. It was so ridiculous.

Never went to a church again after that.
I can't blame you for not going to church again. I have had people pray over me and ask God to heal me so many times it is crazy. Not like this person did to you though. I go to a church that has a Deaf Ministry. I love it and it is amazing to watch how much the hearing respect us there . Please don't let people like that turn you away from Christ. They not stupid just not understand and would like something to blame for our deafness and think we all should be the same .
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I'm so sorry to hear they did that to you. That's one that hasn't happened to me yet. I am a Christian and it bothers me when people just don't use the brain God gave them. Please forgive them because they do not understand us. There are a lot of problems that I see with Christians today, but that one breaks my heart. Again I'm sorry for people like that.
That's pretty common . Are you hearing?
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Hahaha...yea, I get that as well.
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