Rules in Deaf culture? - Page 4

**deafskeptic** · 08-02-2011, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Beowulf

There would be no way he could ignore a gift wrapped box of soiled diapers on his front steps. Mwuh hah hah hah.

You're awful!

jillio · 08-02-2011, 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

You're awful!

But it does paint an hysterical picture, doesn't it?

**deafskeptic** · 08-02-2011, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by jillio

But it does paint an hysterical picture, doesn't it?

Yes.

horselover61 · 08-02-2011, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs Bucket

Ah ah ah!

I'd never remove you Beowulf, we've been friends for far too long. Days dating back to the DC/DL days, I value our friendship very much.

I find it very sad that some people feel the need to justify their actions by PMing me and explaining to me after the fact what happened. Not once but twice. I am still in the hospital; recovering. We have two very beautiful daughters that I am fiercely protective of. I spent almost 9 months carrying them and I will be damned if I allow anything to happen to them.

It is at MY own discretion to share information and it is not YOUR own business to share information that isn't your OWN business to begin with. Just because I was happy to share information with you all in the first place doesn't grant YOU the courtesy to abuse it.

Those removed from MY own FB knows why; I shouldn't have to explain why. Once again, what I share here and at FB is MY own business and is at my OWN discretion- not for YOU to decide to advertise at another place.

This is something called common courtesy, respect and allowing another person their own privacy. I'm just very disappointed that my family had to be the subject of discussion.

I've been much more than gracious and this is the straw that broke the camel's back. Being a Mom now, you're dealing with another person now. Screw with me, you're screwing with my whole family and I don't like it one bit. Back off, period.

Sorry that you have to go thru this crap. I didnt know about this til Beowolf told me about it. I was disappointed and was sad that you got hurt. I am on your side. Here is my Hugs.

Also I havent been in AD for a while. Once in a while I will pop up but not as often like I did in the past. Again

Grummer · 08-02-2011, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Here is a violation of a rule in Deaf culture. A hearing person coming into a Deaf cultural environment, and then attempting to define and change the existing characteristics of that environment.

yeah happened here alrrady we kicked out a hearing man for being so grumpy and telling us what is acceptable amount of food to eat in the after-games dinner, (it was me who he picked on!), and im skinny but i eat like a horse, and he gets shitty everyone told he to eff off , dont come back playing pool as member again...seriously he was really moody and rude. We do what we like, its our club, no hearies is allowed to tell us what to do. Mind you i didnt even know what was going on at the time i was too busy enjoying chatting and for last 2 weeks he hasnt came back so other members told me their decision, I didnt even Whine a bit. they just didnt liked him getting shitty shaking fists (he was an aged tempermental boxer) so out he went.. i was never afraid of him anyway

**Smithtr** · 08-02-2011, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

Thank for nothing!! You have successfully ruined my day.

he is misunderstand! many time 1,0000 confused crap!

**Smithtr** · 08-02-2011, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

Right, but they still deleted the friendship on FB. Ah well - drphil just doesn't understand how to stop fueling fights, disagreements and confusion. Time for me to add him to my ignore list I think.

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I am apologzied, respect to to alldeaf member

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**KristinaB** · 08-02-2011, 07:02 PM

I am working very hard to stay off my rant regarding this whole debacle. All I can do is move on.

Still haven't gotten a response to the question I posted way back, but maybe it wasn't important enough.

**KristinaB** · 08-02-2011, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

I have a question regarding something I think would fall under "Rules for Deaf Culture".

I know it is considered rude to leave the room or building when at a deaf function without explaining. What I am finding at deaf church is, When we are done, people will chat amongst each other. I will sometimes join in, if only to learn more ASL. Seeing as I am on time restraints due to my family, I sometimes am unable to spend much time after church, so I try to explain that I have to go and deal with family. Well, I keep getting stopped by this person, then that person and it seems that another 1/2 hour goes by and I haven't been able to leave. At what point do I say, "Enough is enough, I have to go" without it being rude?

This was the question I asked earlier.

**Bottesini** · 08-02-2011, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

This was the question I asked earlier.

Make the rounds saying goodbye, and have to get home. Then leave.

AlleyCat · 08-02-2011, 07:07 PM

Leave when you need to leave. You shouldn't have to feel like you need to make any excuses, whether they're excuses or not. Simply say something like "I have to go to "such and such place" and if you should get questioned (which they shouldn't, because then that'd be rude on THEIR part), you can simply say that you have something to take care of. Even if it's something as simple as dinner, lunch, your MIL, the cats, whatever. You don't need to explain it. I won't let people corner me into giving explanations when it's none of their business. If I want/need to go, I'll go. You are so sweet, Kristina, to worry about others thinking you are rude. But really, you do what you need to do.

**KristinaB** · 08-02-2011, 07:10 PM

Thank you Botti and Alley Cat. I really wanted to make sure I wasn't being rude at all. They are a great bunch of people and I would hate to ruin any of the friendships I am making.

**Smithtr** · 08-02-2011, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

Thank you Botti and Alley Cat. I really wanted to make sure I wasn't being rude at all. They are a great bunch of people and I would hate to ruin any of the friendships I am making.

you mistake on fault, protect to boudarie! that is why!

I understand you feeling mistake jump easy exciting because mistake happened!

drphil · 08-02-2011, 08:13 PM

As usual wise advice from Bottesini-consider.

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

jillio · 08-02-2011, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

Make the rounds saying goodbye, and have to get home. Then leave.

Agreed.

**Smithtr** · 08-02-2011, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

Make the rounds saying goodbye, and have to get home. Then leave.

true I agree you!

drphil · 08-02-2011, 10:31 PM

Agreed Bottesini offers wise advice. Cheers.

Relax in the Rocking Chair with a huge pitcher of Iced tea.

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

BecLak · 08-03-2011, 02:45 AM

I also am learning a lot from the advice given to your question Kristina, thanks for asking. :-)

**Banjo** · 08-03-2011, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by drphil

Cheers to Mrs Bucket. Enjoy your twin daughters.

Shut up.

drphil · 08-03-2011, 06:29 PM

Is the above #109- the ultimate of "Deaf culture"friendliness?

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

**Smithtr** · 08-03-2011, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by drphil

Is the above #109- the ultimate of "Deaf culture"friendliness?

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

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**Banjo** · 08-03-2011, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by drphil

Is the above #109- the ultimate of "Deaf culture"friendliness?

Actually, I am telling you to shut up because you are being rude and inconsiderate toward my friends, Mrs. Bucket and her husband.

jillio · 08-03-2011, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by drphil

Is the above #109- the ultimate of "Deaf culture"friendliness?

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

No. It's telling you to shut your freaking mouth and put a hold on your typing fingers. You have already pissed people off talking about Mrs. B and things that are none of your concern. You are being rude, unthinking, insensitive, and a complete horse's ass by continuing. Nothing friendly about it. Friendliness doesn't work with people like you.

**TXgolfer** · 08-04-2011, 12:21 AM

This has to be the most ridiculous thread I have ever seen. It's like watching recess. The guy makes one comment, not even a bad comment, about something that has already posted and now he is the villian.....what a joke. Nobody gets Oreos after naptime.

jillio · 08-04-2011, 12:39 AM

Guess you missed Mrs. B's reaction to the whole ordeal. She was very upset, as was her husband. And it is her call to make.

**TXgolfer** · 08-04-2011, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Guess you missed Mrs. B's reaction to the whole ordeal. She was very upset, as was her husband. And it is her call to make.

Yeah I saw that......How exactly was Dr Phil to know that wasn't public info....he read it on AD before he posted it. It's not like he made a negative comment about it I can see why she would be mad at the Facebook friends who posted it here though.

jillio · 08-04-2011, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by TXgolfer

Yeah I saw that......How exactly was Dr Phil to know that wasn't public info....he read it on AD before he posted it. It's not like he made a negative comment about it I can see why she would be mad at the Facebook friends who posted it here though.

Doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand that you don't talk about what is not yours to talk about. Especially when he used it as an excuse not to take an action.

**TXgolfer** · 08-04-2011, 12:53 AM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand that you don't talk about what is not yours to talk about. Especially when he used it as an excuse not to take an action.

Sounded like he was being considerate of the new arrivals to me *shrug*

jillio · 08-04-2011, 01:39 AM

The mother and father of the new arrivals see it differently. And it is their call to make.

Consensus here is that it was completely innapropriate.

drphil · 08-04-2011, 08:00 AM

TXgolfer- welcome to another episode of the "deaf twilight zone". Even Rod Serling would be amazed!
If the above is "real" on computer screens --what is the reality with actual persons forming the "Deaf/.deaf/DEAF" community/local discussions?

I have stated I am NOT part of Facebook-seems irrelevant-notwithstanding.

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

08-02-2011, 07:07 PM	#101 (permalink)
AlleyCat Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In my time zone Posts: 10,770	Leave when you need to leave. You shouldn't have to feel like you need to make any excuses, whether they're excuses or not. Simply say something like "I have to go to "such and such place" and if you should get questioned (which they shouldn't, because then that'd be rude on THEIR part), you can simply say that you have something to take care of. Even if it's something as simple as dinner, lunch, your MIL, the cats, whatever. You don't need to explain it. I won't let people corner me into giving explanations when it's none of their business. If I want/need to go, I'll go. You are so sweet, Kristina, to worry about others thinking you are rude. But really, you do what you need to do. jillio and KristinaB like this.

08-02-2011, 07:10 PM	#102 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,767	Thank you Botti and Alley Cat. I really wanted to make sure I wasn't being rude at all. They are a great bunch of people and I would hate to ruin any of the friendships I am making. KarissaMann05 likes this.

08-02-2011, 08:13 PM	#104 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,107	As usual wise advice from Bottesini-consider. Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

08-02-2011, 10:31 PM	#107 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,107	Agreed Bottesini offers wise advice. Cheers. Relax in the Rocking Chair with a huge pitcher of Iced tea. Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

08-03-2011, 02:45 AM	#108 (permalink)
BecLak Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 2,116	I also am learning a lot from the advice given to your question Kristina, thanks for asking. :-) KristinaB likes this. __________________ Severely deaf from birth. Deaf with a Purpose. God designed me this way so I do everything by God's Grace. Exodus 4:11 Ignorance is no longer bliss. Be Educated. KEEP IN STEP WITH ME: Sign Text Email Pen and Paper

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08-02-2011, 07:02 PM	#98 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,767	I am working very hard to stay off my rant regarding this whole debacle. All I can do is move on. Still haven't gotten a response to the question I posted way back, but maybe it wasn't important enough.

08-03-2011, 06:29 PM	#110 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,107	Is the above #109- the ultimate of "Deaf culture"friendliness? Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07 Last edited by drphil; 08-03-2011 at 06:33 PM. Reason: additional

08-04-2011, 12:21 AM	#114 (permalink)
TXgolfer Dream Weaver Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Everywhere Posts: 17,560	This has to be the most ridiculous thread I have ever seen. It's like watching recess. The guy makes one comment, not even a bad comment, about something that has already posted and now he is the villian.....what a joke. Nobody gets Oreos after naptime. __________________ Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. - Romans 12:21 Sometimes at night, I see their faces. I feel the traces they've left on my soul

08-04-2011, 12:39 AM	#115 (permalink)
jillio Banned Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 60,296	Guess you missed Mrs. B's reaction to the whole ordeal. She was very upset, as was her husband. And it is her call to make.

08-04-2011, 01:39 AM	#119 (permalink)
jillio Banned Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 60,296	The mother and father of the new arrivals see it differently. And it is their call to make. Consensus here is that it was completely innapropriate.

08-04-2011, 08:00 AM	#120 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,107	TXgolfer- welcome to another episode of the "deaf twilight zone". Even Rod Serling would be amazed! If the above is "real" on computer screens --what is the reality with actual persons forming the "Deaf/.deaf/DEAF" community/local discussions? I have stated I am NOT part of Facebook-seems irrelevant-notwithstanding. Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

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