Rules in Deaf culture? - Page 3

drphil · 07-31-2011, 11:02 PM

smithtr: what do you want me to say in English re Mrs Bucket? Send a private message.

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jillio · 07-31-2011, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Beach girl

Yes, in this thread. He was just following the conversation with Botts re: Mrs. Buckets being in his town and could show him around, drphil mentioned that Mrs. B. has more to do these days with the birth of her twins, plus he is busy with his own grandchildren.

Is it so terrible to go mildly off-topic once in a while, for a nice little chat?

Thank you for the Cliff's notes. But it still does not relate to the topic.

jillio · 07-31-2011, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Beowulf

A nice little chat with whom? Mrs Bucket? She is a friend of mine and I feel sorry for those who would talk behind her back.

Exactly. It is not for someone else to announce the birth of her children. When she is ready, she will announce it here herself. Many of us have already received the announcement through other means.

jillio · 07-31-2011, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by drphil

Mrs Bucket has already informed Alldeaf.com the arrival of the twin girls. From my past experience-believe she and her husband are really busy these days.
Beach girl comment relate to Bottesini's comment.

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Where did she make that announcement? The only announcement I have seen came from other posters discussing it. Please point me to the specific post or thread where Mrs. B made a birth announcement.

Here is a rule in both Deaf and hearing culture. Do not tell others what is not yours to tell.

jillio · 07-31-2011, 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by drphil

I have received a number of private messages from Mrs Bucket. "Surprised" at her graciousness.

For the near future I believe she has more pressing immediate matters on hand- her twin daughters- than an ongoing discussion re deaf/DEAF or Blind/deaf interactions in our society.

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Convenient excuse for you not getting out there and associating with the Deaf. So, obviously made the choice not to be a part of. You really need to stop commenting in culture related threads.

**Smithtr** · 08-01-2011, 03:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by drphil

smithtr: what do you want me to say in English re Mrs Bucket? Send a private message.

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no idea what are you talk to about personal ask no sense understand reading!

CrzyMeg · 08-01-2011, 04:11 AM

i dont think that is rule. i think it is custom. Depend on individual. But never deaf culture.

drphil · 08-01-2011, 08:08 AM

Jillio: I got the info re Mrs Bucket's twins birth-here. Where else?
Apparently announced in a secret site called Facebook. I am not a member of Facebook.

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jillio · 08-01-2011, 10:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by drphil

Jillio: I got the info re Mrs Bucket's twins birth-here. Where else?
Apparently announced in a secret site called Facebook. I am not a member of Facebook.

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Not from Mrs. Bucket, you didn't. You said that Mrs. B had already made the announcement, and you are in error about that, just as you are about any number of things.

AlleyCat · 08-01-2011, 01:20 PM

That's right. I don't think she's been here since the birth.

drphil · 08-01-2011, 01:40 PM

Amazing: the non announcement of the "joyous event Mrs Bucket's twin girls" generate such an uproar.I read here. No big deal-mentioned about a half dozen times.
"Ulterior motives at play"?

Sorry not a"licensed psychologist" yet to analyze "hidden motivation"-computer style at the moment.
Massive study project-underway!

Waiting for the certificate-in due course from V F University of advance studies- specialization-computer personas! Overwhelmed with "raw data" from various computer groups.

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jillio · 08-01-2011, 01:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by drphil

Amazing: the non announcement of the "joyous event Mrs Bucket's twin girls" generate such an uproar.I read here. No big deal-mentioned about a half dozen times.
"Ulterior motives at play"?

Sorry not a"licensed psychologist" yet to analyze "hidden motivation"-computer style at the moment.
Massive study project-underway!

Waiting for the certificate-in due course from V F University of advance studies- specialization-computer personas! Overwhelmed with "raw data" from various computer groups.

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

Just do as any ethical person would do and aplogize for your breach in announcing the birth of Mrs. B's twins when it was not yours to discuss.

**KristinaB** · 08-01-2011, 01:53 PM

Okay - drphil, I am the one who announced Mrs. B having given birth.

Jillio, I hope I did not cross a line when I did it, but I saw it on FB and just made a quick post in the "What did you Learn Today" thread. I am just thankful that I did not give any personal info out, only mentioned that she had the girls and for people to check her FB page for details.

AlleyCat · 08-01-2011, 02:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KristinaB

Okay - drphil, I am the one who announced Mrs. B having given birth.

Jillio, I hope I did not cross a line when I did it, but I saw it on FB and just made a quick post in the "What did you Learn Today" thread. I am just thankful that I did not give any personal info out, only mentioned that she had the girls and for people to check her FB page for details.

And actually, I was the one that said "I saw the announcement on FB !!!" So, Kristina, you shouldn't feel badly at all.

Frisky Feline · 08-01-2011, 02:21 PM

Cookie Monster · 08-01-2011, 02:31 PM

A message from Mrs Bucket's husband, found this thread very highly disrespectful that some of you spread Mrs Bucket's private life to this if she choose not to share the announcement in this forum. She made a announcement on her facebook account, only show to her close family members and truly friends who we trust mostly. Since her facebook account set to very private and she carefully chose who is on her friends' lists. This left us no choice but to remove some of Alldeaf members from her Facebook account to protect her private life and her babies' life as well.

**KristinaB** · 08-01-2011, 04:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AlleyCat

And actually, I was the one that said "I saw the announcement on FB !!!" So, Kristina, you shouldn't feel badly at all.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cookie Monster

A message from Mrs Bucket's husband, found this thread very highly disrespectful that some of you spread Mrs Bucket's private life to this if she choose not to share the announcement in this forum. She made a announcement on her facebook account, only show to her close family members and truly friends who we trust mostly. Since her facebook account set to very private and she carefully chose who is on her friends' lists. This left us no choice but to remove some of Alldeaf members from her Facebook account to protect her private life and her babies' life as well.

Well - I am one of those friends that was removed. For that I am very sorry. Not sure what more I can do. I give up!!

jillio · 08-01-2011, 04:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KristinaB

Okay - drphil, I am the one who announced Mrs. B having given birth.

Jillio, I hope I did not cross a line when I did it, but I saw it on FB and just made a quick post in the "What did you Learn Today" thread. I am just thankful that I did not give any personal info out, only mentioned that she had the girls and for people to check her FB page for details.

No, you announced and dropped it. Drphil was not sharing the information with her friends. He was using it to justify his own lack of action. Very different situations.

**KristinaB** · 08-01-2011, 04:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jillio

No, you announced and dropped it. Drphil was not sharing the information with her friends. He was using it to justify his own lack of action. Very different situations.

Right, but they still deleted the friendship on FB. Ah well - drphil just doesn't understand how to stop fueling fights, disagreements and confusion. Time for me to add him to my ignore list I think.

jillio · 08-01-2011, 04:37 PM

Here is a violation of a rule in Deaf culture. A hearing person coming into a Deaf cultural environment, and then attempting to define and change the existing characteristics of that environment.

AlleyCat · 08-01-2011, 04:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KristinaB

Right, but they still deleted the friendship on FB. Ah well - drphil just doesn't understand how to stop fueling fights, disagreements and confusion. Time for me to add him to my ignore list I think.

I got deleted too. Oh well.

**Beowulf** · 08-01-2011, 05:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AlleyCat

I got deleted too. Oh well.

Me, too, and really, I do not blame her. She is being a fiercely protective Mom and I will respect that.

Mrs Bucket · 08-01-2011, 07:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beowulf

Me, too, and really, I do not blame her. She is being a fiercely protective Mom and I will respect that.

Ah ah ah!

I'd never remove you Beowulf, we've been friends for far too long. Days dating back to the DC/DL days, I value our friendship very much.

I find it very sad that some people feel the need to justify their actions by PMing me and explaining to me after the fact what happened. Not once but twice. I am still in the hospital; recovering. We have two very beautiful daughters that I am fiercely protective of. I spent almost 9 months carrying them and I will be damned if I allow anything to happen to them.

It is at MY own discretion to share information and it is not YOUR own business to share information that isn't your OWN business to begin with. Just because I was happy to share information with you all in the first place doesn't grant YOU the courtesy to abuse it.

Those removed from MY own FB knows why; I shouldn't have to explain why. Once again, what I share here and at FB is MY own business and is at my OWN discretion- not for YOU to decide to advertise at another place.

This is something called common courtesy, respect and allowing another person their own privacy. I'm just very disappointed that my family had to be the subject of discussion.

I've been much more than gracious and this is the straw that broke the camel's back. Being a Mom now, you're dealing with another person now. Screw with me, you're screwing with my whole family and I don't like it one bit. Back off, period.

jillio · 08-01-2011, 07:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mrs Bucket

Ah ah ah!

I'd never remove you Beowulf, we've been friends for far too long. Days dating back to the DC/DL days, I value our friendship very much.

I find it very sad that some people feel the need to justify their actions by PMing me and explaining to me after the fact what happened. Not once but twice. I am still in the hospital; recovering. We have two very beautiful daughters that I am fiercely protective of. I spent almost 9 months carrying them and I will be damned if I allow anything to happen to them.

It is at MY own discretion to share information and it is not YOUR own business to share information that isn't your OWN business to begin with. Just because I was happy to share information with you all in the first place doesn't grant YOU the courtesy to abuse it.

Those removed from MY own FB knows why; I shouldn't have to explain why. Once again, what I share here and at FB is MY own business and is at my OWN discretion- not for YOU to decide to advertise at another place.

This is something called common courtesy, respect and allowing another person their own privacy. I'm just very disappointed that my family had to be the subject of discussion.

I've been much more than gracious and this is the straw that broke the camel's back. Being a Mom now, you're dealing with another person now. Screw with me, you're screwing with my whole family and I don't like it one bit. Back off, period.

From one mother tiger to another

**deafskeptic** · 08-01-2011, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Frisky Feline

lol

drphil · 08-01-2011, 09:57 PM

Cheers to Mrs Bucket. Enjoy your twin daughters.

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**KristinaB** · 08-01-2011, 10:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by drphil

Cheers to Mrs Bucket. Enjoy your twin daughters.

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Thank for nothing!! You have successfully ruined my day.

AlleyCat · 08-01-2011, 10:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KristinaB

Thank for nothing!! You have successfully ruined my day.

Don't let drQuack ruin your day. I've put him on ignore.

**Beowulf** · 08-01-2011, 10:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KristinaB

Thank for nothing!! You have successfully ruined my day.

Quote:

Originally Posted by AlleyCat

Don't let drQuack ruin your day. I've put him on ignore.

There would be no way he could ignore a gift wrapped box of soiled diapers on his front steps. Mwuh hah hah hah.

jillio · 08-02-2011, 11:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KristinaB

Thank for nothing!! You have successfully ruined my day.

He gets a perverse joy out of that, too. Don't give him that kind of power. He is a miserable person that wants company in his misery.

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drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,117	smithtr: what do you want me to say in English re Mrs Bucket? Send a private message. Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

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drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,117	Jillio: I got the info re Mrs Bucket's twins birth-here. Where else? Apparently announced in a secret site called Facebook. I am not a member of Facebook. Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

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AlleyCat Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In my time zone Posts: 10,809	That's right. I don't think she's been here since the birth. jillio likes this.

08-01-2011, 01:40 PM	#71 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,117	Amazing: the non announcement of the "joyous event Mrs Bucket's twin girls" generate such an uproar.I read here. No big deal-mentioned about a half dozen times. "Ulterior motives at play"? Sorry not a"licensed psychologist" yet to analyze "hidden motivation"-computer style at the moment. Massive study project-underway! Waiting for the certificate-in due course from V F University of advance studies- specialization-computer personas! Overwhelmed with "raw data" from various computer groups. Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

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08-01-2011, 01:53 PM	#73 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,775	Okay - drphil, I am the one who announced Mrs. B having given birth. Jillio, I hope I did not cross a line when I did it, but I saw it on FB and just made a quick post in the "What did you Learn Today" thread. I am just thankful that I did not give any personal info out, only mentioned that she had the girls and for people to check her FB page for details.

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08-01-2011, 02:31 PM	#76 (permalink)
Cookie Monster Registered User Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 814	A message from Mrs Bucket's husband, found this thread very highly disrespectful that some of you spread Mrs Bucket's private life to this if she choose not to share the announcement in this forum. She made a announcement on her facebook account, only show to her close family members and truly friends who we trust mostly. Since her facebook account set to very private and she carefully chose who is on her friends' lists. This left us no choice but to remove some of Alldeaf members from her Facebook account to protect her private life and her babies' life as well.

08-01-2011, 04:37 PM	#80 (permalink)
jillio Banned Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 60,296	Here is a violation of a rule in Deaf culture. A hearing person coming into a Deaf cultural environment, and then attempting to define and change the existing characteristics of that environment. Smithtr and KristinaB like this.

08-01-2011, 09:57 PM	#86 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,117	Cheers to Mrs Bucket. Enjoy your twin daughters. Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

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