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Unread 06-20-2010, 09:58 PM   #1 (permalink)
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is this rude or disrespectful?

Ok so this was brought up in another form about someone basically pretending to be deaf. I was in a class where our teacher asked us to go get ear plugs and wear them like around town after school for a week, so we could get a since of what deaf people go through when trying to communicate with the hearing world, and she also said that it would be a great way to practice signing. But I was wondering of this is in anyway rude towards Deaf or HoH people? Even though we in no way were being (or trying not to be) disrespectful. So when we do this are we being disrespectful, or is this ok for practicing purposes only? Because in no way are we trying to “become” deaf.
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Unread 06-20-2010, 10:08 PM   #2 (permalink)
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It makes me laugh, somewhat!...A friend of mine was "so upset" about my deafness...asked me..."how can you stand it"??.....And he actually stuck cotton into both of his ears "to get the idea of not being able to hear"....

I don't feel it's being disrespectful. Some hearies are in wonderment as to how we function not being able to hear....so they get ear plugs or cotton to "get the idea".
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Unread 06-20-2010, 10:12 PM   #3 (permalink)
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It's a question of intent. There's a difference between plugging up your ears to make fun of deaf/hh people and plugging up your ears to try to understand what it's like to have hearing loss.
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Unread 06-20-2010, 10:15 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Ok so this was brought up in another form about someone basically pretending to be deaf. I was in a class where our teacher asked us to go get ear plugs and wear them like around town after school for a week, so we could get a since of what deaf people go through when trying to communicate with the hearing world, and she also said that it would be a great way to practice signing. But I was wondering of this is in anyway rude towards Deaf or HoH people? Even though we in no way were being (or trying not to be) disrespectful. So when we do this are we being disrespectful, or is this ok for practicing purposes only? Because in no way are we trying to “become” deaf.
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Unread 06-20-2010, 10:19 PM   #5 (permalink)
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No if she is teaching you about awareness.

But using an earplug would make you more like HOH though. But I wouldn't know because I don't know what earplug sound like because I never been hearing.

I do know that my husband can still hear me with earplugs on.
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Is it rude for a deaf person to pretend they are hearing?
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Unread 06-20-2010, 10:22 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Is it rude for a deaf person to pretend they are hearing?
If they didn't know I was deaf, they thought I was rude. That's what I get when I let them think I'm hearing and didn't tell them that I'm deaf. I look kinda silly with the deaf nod because I was busy trying to pretend I'm hearing and I have no idea what they said.
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If they didn't know I was deaf, they thought I was rude. That's what I get when I let them think I'm hearing and didn't tell them that I'm deaf. I look kinda silly with the deaf nod because I was busy trying to pretend I'm hearing and I have no idea what they said.
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If you take a group of kids and put them out in the community pretending to be deaf, it is likely to cause me problems later on from people getting a bad impression of deaf people and expecting some foolishness from me.

I have enough problems already.
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No if she is teaching you about awareness.

But using an earplug would make you more like HOH though. But I wouldn't know because I don't know what earplug sound like because I never been hearing.

I do know that my husband can still hear me with earplugs on.
Cotton or ear plugs won't block out all sounds, it just mutes them, makes the sound lower or muffled....

Some hearies wear them while sleeping to block out noises, such as TV's, kids yelling, traffic sounds, etc.....They still can hear "some sounds" but it's at a lower volume.
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Is it rude for a deaf person to pretend they are hearing?
can we stick to relevant topic?
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can we stick to relevant topic?
Did you officially get made boss of every thread?
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Did you officially get made boss of every thread?
He did. Voted most likely to be "boss man" of every thread.
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He did. Voted most likely to be "boss man" of every thread.
where's the vote?
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If you take a group of kids and put them out in the community pretending to be deaf, it is likely to cause me problems later on from people getting a bad impression of deaf people and expecting some foolishness from me.

I have enough problems already.
I definitely see where you are coming from, but in all honesty it’s not really a formal class (it’s a once a week class that we have for 30 min during our off period) so it’s not like we have over a hundred kids going to the mall pretending to be deaf. We only had about 3 or 4 of us at the time that she “assigned” this to us.
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I definitely see where you are coming from, but in all honesty it’s not really a formal class (it’s a once a week class that we have for 30 min during our off period) so it’s not like we have over a hundred kids going to the mall pretending to be deaf. We only had about 3 or 4 of us at the time that she “assigned” this to us.
It actually only takes one person to make a really bad impression. I seriously dread interacting with people outside my usual circle.

And I don't like it when I notice kids in the mall mocking me. Which happens more than it should to me and others.
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It actually only takes one person to make a really bad impression. I seriously dread interacting with people outside my usual circle.

And I don't like it when I notice kids in the mall mocking me. Which happens more than it should to me and others.
Happens to all of us.

Sometimes its the adults. I was in a coffee shop chatting it up with some buds when this big enormous hercules dude on steroids came up smiled and started watching us sign.

yeah ... like WE were the freak show
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It actually only takes one person to make a really bad impression. I seriously dread interacting with people outside my usual circle.

And I don't like it when I notice kids in the mall mocking me. Which happens more than it should to me and others.
There will always be morons ready to make you look like a freak. Since you can't really control other people's behaviors, it's best to just ignore them and move on.

If they do the whole staring thing, shoot them a look, ask them if they have a question, or just stop what you're doing and freeze for several seconds.
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There will always be morons ready to make you look like a freak. Since you can't really control other people's behaviors, it's best to just ignore them and move on.

If they do the whole staring thing, shoot them a look, ask them if they have a question, or just stop what you're doing and freeze for several seconds.
ummm .... in my situation, the guy could have easily made me into a pretzel.

Or, his hood ornament.
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This is a school experiment its not rude or disrespectful. The hearing students went out on observation and public reactions for this experiment.

I did an experiment at workshop training at medical center where I worked years ago. We had to wear gloves and open prescription bottles and how it feels to grab med with it. It was relating how old people feel and be in there shoes. It was not an offense to elderly people. Its probably the same concept experience for the hearing students to be in a deaf persons shoes.
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I had to walk around school with an egg. I had to name it too.

Lots of educational social experiments and none are rude.
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ummm .... in my situation, the guy could have easily made me into a pretzel.

Or, his hood ornament.
OH, come on!...Ur acting like a chicken who's about to lay an egg!...It's "rude" for anybody to stare at someone...Just put on a "confused look" and ask/write..."something bothering you?"....give him a Mark Hamill stance!....Cuss at him in sign language...then write/ask "do you understand what I said?"
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OH, come on!...Ur acting like a chicken who's about to lay an egg!...It's "rude" for anybody to stare at someone...Just put on a "confused look" and ask/write..."something bothering you?"....give him a Mark Hamill stance!....Cuss at him in sign language...then write/ask "do you understand what I said?"
There are bullies who will physically touch you if you mess with them. Rather it is violent or sexual harrassment or whatever. In my school, the kids who always mocked me about my deafness decided to touch my body like my bottom, boobs, etc. It had nothing to do with me looking good like they do with some kids (playing around for fun). They did it because I guess they think they can (and I was 18 years old at the time). I told the guy who I dating at the time about it and he did not like what he was hearing and asked me to report it. I refused. But he reported it anyway. They call me in the office and I told them it is true but it is no big deal. Then the principal went on about unwanted touching and all that. The principal was just as upset as my exbf. These guys end up getting in serious trouble for it. they found witnesses so it wasn't my words against them.
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I think it's not rude or disrespectful I think that They want experiment what deaf is alike!

I did put the blindfold to my eye and I pretend myself blind!
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I did put the blindfold to my eye and I pretend myself blind!
I have a friend that did this and he's actually much more sympathetic in situations that confuse me because of it. He did it for a whole week, too, not just a day.
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This is tempting... My mom has no hearing loss and does not get me at all. I am tempted to give her my iphone for a day (if I didn't need it.) I have the is app on it...white noises for my daughter... on it has a "singing tibetan bowl" that before I lost more hearing sounded just like my tinitus and the earbuds that came with it are "noise cancelling." I think she should walk around for a day with the earbuds in and that white noise playing to get even close to my life. I wear bilat hearing aids and have wicked tinitus that sounds a lot like that white noise on full volume. Then maybe she might know what it it is kinda like to where hearing aids and still hear ringing all day but not much else. Maybe? Very tempting........
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Rude! Rude! Where is vote!?!?
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I have a friend that did this and he's actually much more sympathetic in situations that confuse me because of it. He did it for a whole week, too, not just a day.

Whole week! I cannot!!! I already gave up about 5 mins!
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