being deaf?

babyangel5302 · 08-22-2009, 11:21 PM

so how do you feel going to a hearing school?

Bebonang · 08-22-2009, 11:55 PM

Ugh and

at the hearing school that don't provide special accommodations for the Deaf. The hearing principals, hearing teachers and hearing students don't understand why we are struggling to try to understand in the hearing classrooms. So I am

and give a

.

Bottesini · 08-23-2009, 12:04 AM

Why do you ask?

deafannieboo · 08-23-2009, 01:27 AM

well it doesnt bother me to attend hearing college as i do now. as long as they provide me with the accommodations i need. its when they dont that i loose my cool.
to each his own though...

Bebonang · 08-23-2009, 02:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by deafannieboo

well it doesnt bother me to attend hearing college as i do now. as long as they provide me with the accommodations i need. its when they dont that i loose my cool.
to each his own though...

That is true. When I went to Seattle Central Community College in Seattle, Washington, they have the best Deaf program accommodations for me to have an ASL interpreters and notetakers. I was very happy with that. I got excellent grades way better than in mainstream high school. Of course it is a hearing college, but in high school.

babyangel5302 · 08-24-2009, 09:52 AM

ohh because im at a hearing school.
people look at you wierd.
its hard to get accommodations.
they asssume things all the time.
no one seems to understand.
and everyone thinks i have all deaf friends.
thats not true it makes me feel bad i have of hearing as well.

Bottesini · 08-24-2009, 10:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by babyangel5302

ohh because im at a hearing school.
people look at you wierd.
its hard to get accommodations.
they asssume things all the time.
no one seems to understand.
and everyone thinks i have all deaf friends.
thats not true it makes me feel bad i have of hearing as well.

Why not transfer if you feel weird in your setting? RIT or Gallaudet.

Lissa · 08-24-2009, 10:57 AM

My hearing school was great. They hada deaf support unit and provided us with all the accomodations. All the deaf people stuck together anyway

babyangel5302 · 08-25-2009, 08:43 PM

okay thanks i will take into consideration

deafdyke · 08-25-2009, 08:47 PM

I think that a hearing school with a deaf support unit/formal deaf program is an awesome option. One of the problems with a regular school regualr classes is that even most if not all of the sped teachers don't know how to teach kids like us. So as a result we're lumped in with the " Ummm who's President Obama?" kids who are legion in sped b/c its nothing more then a dumping ground.

shel90 · 08-25-2009, 08:56 PM

I hated it because I was the only deaf kid there until high school. I was put at the front row and expected to understand everything that was going on. I missed out probably 95% of everything. Socializing became hellish around 5th grade when dynamics changed from play to chatting. Also, there was the bullying issue that I had to deal with on top of it.

Yes, I have many friends but that was made possible by one-on-one socializing. If it wasnt for that, I wouldnt have any friends. However, one-on-one socializing didnt happen too often as socializing was in large groups so I had to pretend so often that I believed I could understand what everyone was saying.

Also, I had identity issues which lead to the near destruction of my self-esteem.

I give my hearing school experience a thumbs down.

souggy · 08-25-2009, 09:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

I hated it because I was the only deaf kid there until high school. I was put at the front row and expected to understand everything that was going on. I missed out probably 95% of everything. Socializing became hellish around 5th grade when dynamics changed from play to chatting. Also, there was the bullying issue that I had to deal with on top of it.

Yes, I have many friends but that was made possible by one-on-one socializing. If it wasnt for that, I wouldnt have any friends. However, one-on-one socializing didnt happen too often as socializing was in large groups so I had to pretend so often that I believed I could understand what everyone was saying.

Also, I had identity issues which lead to the near destruction of my self-esteem.

I give my hearing school experience a thumbs down.

Eeew... That sounds like me before I found AllDeaf.

And I would give it a thumb down for the same reasons.

DGirl101 · 08-25-2009, 11:02 PM

I'm joining right in with Shel90 and souggy too.

It was like that for me too.

Thumbs down all around.

Volcanbaru · 08-29-2009, 02:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

I hated it because I was the only deaf kid there until high school. I was put at the front row and expected to understand everything that was going on. I missed out probably 95% of everything. Socializing became hellish around 5th grade when dynamics changed from play to chatting. Also, there was the bullying issue that I had to deal with on top of it.

Yes, I have many friends but that was made possible by one-on-one socializing. If it wasnt for that, I wouldnt have any friends. However, one-on-one socializing didnt happen too often as socializing was in large groups so I had to pretend so often that I believed I could understand what everyone was saying.

Also, I had identity issues which lead to the near destruction of my self-esteem.

I give my hearing school experience a thumbs down.

This. I've experienced exactly same thing. This is coming from deaf person with cochlear implant.

I can't describe how brutal highschool was for me. Since I grew up in oralism/audism family who is embarrassed of my deafness. I never wanted to have ASL interpreter or deaf technologies. Simply because I was completely ignorant and embarrassed about my deafness. Proclaimed that I can hear as good as hearing people and that I understood everything what the teachers say. Yet I probably missed 80% of what the teacher says.

Socially? Pfffffff yeah right, I never fit in ANYWHERE in hearing school. I tried SO hard to fit in like you wouldn't believe how many groups that I drifted one to another. Whenever I make new "friends" 99% of the time, I get left out in conversation. I ended up sitting on lunch table pretending like I understood everything.

My opinion about school? I believe deaf people should do well in bi-bi program with ASL interpreter and note taker. There should be at least 40-50 deaf people enrolling. Deaf people should NOT go through this oralism bullshit. It's lonely and isolating. It really sucks to be the only deaf person in your school.

babyangel5302 · 08-29-2009, 02:28 PM

volcanbaru i totally feel you on all of that sorry u went through a hard time

cdmeggers · 08-31-2009, 10:44 PM

ehh... high school wasn't the best years of my life, especially 9th grade being the worst ever. I was very much a loner, the only deaf one in the entire school, etc. It sucked for me, period.

jazzy · 08-31-2009, 11:46 PM

I was lucky, I guess from what I read others. I had a great time at hearing high school. We had ASL classes for those hearing students and many of them become skilled interpters. I was well know by those students and they were good to me and others. Of course we had an interpters and homeroom in case we needed some help. I was involved in many active clubs even they picked me as treasurers, vice president and presdient of those clubs. Then my favorite was drama club and we had plays few time which it was successful. It was all thank to my mother and one teacher who made it happened for many of us. Those programs are no longer exist now cuz I graduated 30 years ago.

kashveera · 09-08-2009, 04:47 AM

My school experience at high school was pretty bad, because I was the only deaf scholar in the whole school, so I have had it pretty bad, I was totally isolated, had very little friends, didn't fit in at all...but I had to prove them all wrong, and trust me you need no one at all, to achieve some sort of success in your life.

My varsity experience was slightly better, I went to a normal university, with very little support, in fact almost no support, but I made some really good friends who tried to understand the nature of my disability and trust me they provided all the support that was necessary for me to really excel.

However, varisty was not all that good...I'll give you an example: When I was sitting in the front row, so I could lip-read my lecturer, a group of guys were making a huge noise in the back of the lecture room, so he basically moved to the back of the lecture room and started lecturing from there. So I put my hand up and said, Sir, I need to be able to lip-read you so could you move to the front, this is what he said: "There is no way that I am going to move to the front because of one person". I walked out, and so did half the class.

He apologized to me later, but it was too late...I will never respect someone who is not human enough, it is not that I feel sorry for myself, I never did, but surely when you are educated enough, surely you would impart your education to those that need it and those who are willing to listen to it, and not a bunch of idiots who make noise in the back.

For the record, those guys that were making all those noises where sitting in the back, and I am already a qualified accountant.

So...life hasn't been all plain sailing...

SerendipityG3A · 09-15-2009, 12:12 AM

My hearing school have good deaf accommodation, but there is a lack of social involvement for me, and I wish I could go to Gallaudet, but it's just tooooooooooo far away from my life and the people I've lived with all my life. And my budget. I feel torn between my family and the potential social life I could have at deaf school. That's how I feel about attending hearing school.

inmate23 · 09-21-2009, 09:14 PM

Hi

I went to a hearing school. they felt that having deaf support was going too far. school was a waste of time. everyone knew that. the state foster care system wanted a babysitter. now out of care am in the correspondence school. Looking into attending a cued speech class via webcam for most of lessons. As I want to go to gulladet. and nz's currium is 2 years behind the usa's.

kokonut · 09-21-2009, 09:44 PM

My high school experience was great. What a rush I had at the start of my freshman year meeting all kinds of new friends, and had a blast in the marching band, and participated in marching band competitions throughout the southeast. So, a lot of positive experiences than negative ones, so it really panned out quite nicely for me.

inmate23 · 09-21-2009, 09:53 PM

I ask you this KOKONUT did you go hearing high school and were you deaf when attended

djchur · 10-16-2009, 02:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

I hated it because I was the only deaf kid there until high school. I was put at the front row and expected to understand everything that was going on. I missed out probably 95% of everything. Socializing became hellish around 5th grade when dynamics changed from play to chatting. Also, there was the bullying issue that I had to deal with on top of it.

I can identify with this completely!

I got so frustrated at school, sometimes I just took my hearing aid out and gave up. I even got detention once for not wearing my hearing aid, how bad is that!!!

shel90 · 10-16-2009, 05:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by djchur

I can identify with this completely!

I got so frustrated at school, sometimes I just took my hearing aid out and gave up. I even got detention once for not wearing my hearing aid, how bad is that!!!

It is ridiculos. When r these parents gonna learn?

deafdyke · 10-16-2009, 07:56 PM

Quote:

I can't describe how brutal highschool was for me. Since I grew up in oralism/audism family who is embarrassed of my deafness. I never wanted to have ASL interpreter or deaf technologies. Simply because I was completely ignorant and embarrassed about my deafness. Proclaimed that I can hear as good as hearing people and that I understood everything what the teachers say. Yet I probably missed 80% of what the teacher says.

Socially? Pfffffff yeah right, I never fit in ANYWHERE in hearing school. I

Ugh tell me about it! I do not think that those experts understand how fucking brutal high school can be!!!!!!! I just got back from Clarke School for the Deaf's conference............they are SO fucking naive.......

shel90 · 10-16-2009, 08:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by deafdyke

Ugh tell me about it! I do not think that those experts understand how fucking brutal high school can be!!!!!!! I just got back from Clarke School for the Deaf's conference............they are SO fucking naive.......

Tell me about it. I read an article about how in Utah, 85% of deaf children's parents choose the oral route. Ridiculous!! It is all about their "hearing" ways.

Cheri · 10-18-2009, 08:50 AM

It was kinda werid because during my high school years at a public school was one of the best years I've ever experienced, I had sign language interpreters in every classrooms I attended.

Before high school, I was raised oral, and that was one of the most frustrated experience of being in a hearing school where you have to relay on lip reading skills in every classrooms all day long. I remember coming home with headaches, confusion, and frustration. My dad knew how unhappy I was, as soon as he learned that there were sign language out there for the deaf, he started looking into that and move us to a school that supports sign language.

quirkylibra · 10-20-2009, 02:21 PM

My college does a good job providing me with what I need. When I started, they asked what I needed and gave me options. The man who helped me even tried to give me more than I needed. I don't use ASL yet, so I opted for CART. He wanted to give me a note taker as well. I told him that with CART, I was perfectly capable of taking my own notes.

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babyangel5302 Carmen Join Date: May 2009 Location: Georgia Posts: 16	being deaf? so how do you feel going to a hearing school? __________________ ~Carmen~

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Bebonang "Deaf Cree Militant" Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Manitoulin Island on Lake Huron in Canada Posts: 2,874	Ugh and at the hearing school that don't provide special accommodations for the Deaf. The hearing principals, hearing teachers and hearing students don't understand why we are struggling to try to understand in the hearing classrooms. So I am and give a . __________________ I HAVE BEEN DEAF SINCE BIRTH, AND IT IS STILL AWESOME TO BE . <Deaf> <very happy>

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babyangel5302 Carmen Join Date: May 2009 Location: Georgia Posts: 16	ohh because im at a hearing school. people look at you wierd. its hard to get accommodations. they asssume things all the time. no one seems to understand. and everyone thinks i have all deaf friends. thats not true it makes me feel bad i have of hearing as well. __________________ ~Carmen~

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08-23-2009, 01:27 AM	#4 (permalink)
deafannieboo Registered User Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: S Posts: 176	well it doesnt bother me to attend hearing college as i do now. as long as they provide me with the accommodations i need. its when they dont that i loose my cool. to each his own though...

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babyangel5302 Carmen Join Date: May 2009 Location: Georgia Posts: 16	okay thanks i will take into consideration __________________ ~Carmen~

08-25-2009, 08:47 PM	#10 (permalink)
deafdyke So NOT a Princess! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Trebekistan Posts: 7,491	I think that a hearing school with a deaf support unit/formal deaf program is an awesome option. One of the problems with a regular school regualr classes is that even most if not all of the sped teachers don't know how to teach kids like us. So as a result we're lumped in with the " Ummm who's President Obama?" kids who are legion in sped b/c its nothing more then a dumping ground.

08-25-2009, 08:56 PM	#11 (permalink)
shel90 In a pink and black world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: In the land of the free Posts: 23,991 Blog Entries: 3	I hated it because I was the only deaf kid there until high school. I was put at the front row and expected to understand everything that was going on. I missed out probably 95% of everything. Socializing became hellish around 5th grade when dynamics changed from play to chatting. Also, there was the bullying issue that I had to deal with on top of it. Yes, I have many friends but that was made possible by one-on-one socializing. If it wasnt for that, I wouldnt have any friends. However, one-on-one socializing didnt happen too often as socializing was in large groups so I had to pretend so often that I believed I could understand what everyone was saying. Also, I had identity issues which lead to the near destruction of my self-esteem. I give my hearing school experience a thumbs down. __________________ Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

08-25-2009, 11:02 PM	#13 (permalink)
DGirl101 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Iowa Posts: 57	I'm joining right in with Shel90 and souggy too. It was like that for me too. Thumbs down all around.

08-29-2009, 02:28 PM	#15 (permalink)
babyangel5302 Carmen Join Date: May 2009 Location: Georgia Posts: 16	volcanbaru i totally feel you on all of that sorry u went through a hard time __________________ ~Carmen~

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cdmeggers CD Meggers Join Date: May 2005 Location: Wyoming Posts: 814	ehh... high school wasn't the best years of my life, especially 9th grade being the worst ever. I was very much a loner, the only deaf one in the entire school, etc. It sucked for me, period. __________________ My Ear Blog

08-31-2009, 11:46 PM	#17 (permalink)
jazzy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: High desert in Calif Posts: 3,599	I was lucky, I guess from what I read others. I had a great time at hearing high school. We had ASL classes for those hearing students and many of them become skilled interpters. I was well know by those students and they were good to me and others. Of course we had an interpters and homeroom in case we needed some help. I was involved in many active clubs even they picked me as treasurers, vice president and presdient of those clubs. Then my favorite was drama club and we had plays few time which it was successful. It was all thank to my mother and one teacher who made it happened for many of us. Those programs are no longer exist now cuz I graduated 30 years ago. __________________

09-08-2009, 04:47 AM	#18 (permalink)
kashveera Registered User Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Durban, South Africa Posts: 637	My school experience at high school was pretty bad, because I was the only deaf scholar in the whole school, so I have had it pretty bad, I was totally isolated, had very little friends, didn't fit in at all...but I had to prove them all wrong, and trust me you need no one at all, to achieve some sort of success in your life. My varsity experience was slightly better, I went to a normal university, with very little support, in fact almost no support, but I made some really good friends who tried to understand the nature of my disability and trust me they provided all the support that was necessary for me to really excel. However, varisty was not all that good...I'll give you an example: When I was sitting in the front row, so I could lip-read my lecturer, a group of guys were making a huge noise in the back of the lecture room, so he basically moved to the back of the lecture room and started lecturing from there. So I put my hand up and said, Sir, I need to be able to lip-read you so could you move to the front, this is what he said: "There is no way that I am going to move to the front because of one person". I walked out, and so did half the class. He apologized to me later, but it was too late...I will never respect someone who is not human enough, it is not that I feel sorry for myself, I never did, but surely when you are educated enough, surely you would impart your education to those that need it and those who are willing to listen to it, and not a bunch of idiots who make noise in the back. For the record, those guys that were making all those noises where sitting in the back, and I am already a qualified accountant. So...life hasn't been all plain sailing... __________________ Be a first-rate version of yourself, and not a second-rate version of anyone else!!

09-15-2009, 12:12 AM	#19 (permalink)
SerendipityG3A Registered User Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 77	My hearing school have good deaf accommodation, but there is a lack of social involvement for me, and I wish I could go to Gallaudet, but it's just tooooooooooo far away from my life and the people I've lived with all my life. And my budget. I feel torn between my family and the potential social life I could have at deaf school. That's how I feel about attending hearing school.

09-21-2009, 09:14 PM	#20 (permalink)
inmate23 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: christchuch Posts: 161	Hi I went to a hearing school. they felt that having deaf support was going too far. school was a waste of time. everyone knew that. the state foster care system wanted a babysitter. now out of care am in the correspondence school. Looking into attending a cued speech class via webcam for most of lessons. As I want to go to gulladet. and nz's currium is 2 years behind the usa's.

09-21-2009, 09:44 PM	#21 (permalink)
kokonut Registered User Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 3,645	My high school experience was great. What a rush I had at the start of my freshman year meeting all kinds of new friends, and had a blast in the marching band, and participated in marching band competitions throughout the southeast. So, a lot of positive experiences than negative ones, so it really panned out quite nicely for me. __________________ If you're one of those crazy Obama fans please do NOT click here. Warning: May cause seizures.

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inmate23 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: christchuch Posts: 161	I ask you this KOKONUT did you go hearing high school and were you deaf when attended

10-18-2009, 08:50 AM	#27 (permalink)
Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,615	It was kinda werid because during my high school years at a public school was one of the best years I've ever experienced, I had sign language interpreters in every classrooms I attended. Before high school, I was raised oral, and that was one of the most frustrated experience of being in a hearing school where you have to relay on lip reading skills in every classrooms all day long. I remember coming home with headaches, confusion, and frustration. My dad knew how unhappy I was, as soon as he learned that there were sign language out there for the deaf, he started looking into that and move us to a school that supports sign language. __________________ God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow and sun without rain, But God did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.

10-20-2009, 02:21 PM	#28 (permalink)
quirkylibra Registered User Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 26	My college does a good job providing me with what I need. When I started, they asked what I needed and gave me options. The man who helped me even tried to give me more than I needed. I don't use ASL yet, so I opted for CART. He wanted to give me a note taker as well. I told him that with CART, I was perfectly capable of taking my own notes.

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