Ugh.. Being Deaf Sucks

freckles · 06-13-2008, 05:00 PM

really sucks.

I was at the court and the interpreter never showed up. so the court was adjourned until next month! I just want this to be over today. TODAY. but unfortunately, no.

then I was told to go to clerk's office to ensure there'll be one for next time. a secretary there was being extremely rude. I apologized for not hearing her at first and she repeated after I said she'll need to write down what she had just said. she mouthed "NO, WHAT IS YOUR N-A-M-E?"

I then demanded for papers and pen again realizing I had left them in another building. rolling her eyes, found a paper and pen, mumbled "gee she's so stupid..." thinking I couldn't read her lips (filled with manures). I kept my cool, wrote down explaining, she totally snatched the paper.

while I know people could be just nasty as can be, I stood there dumbfounded. then she did it again. so third time I had the paper, I landed the pen down on paper, pushed it over to middle of the counter and left it there so she'd not do it again. she started yelling at me, GIVE ME THE PEN! I shook my head, no, YOU pick it up, you grabbed twice and that wasn't very nice. she chuckled (or scoffed) and looked around at her co-workers then gave me a stare - give...me...the...pen now (with it right under her fingers!)

gee, so dramatic... ugh. it sucks being deaf. really sucks that I'm about to shoot my head off.

(at least the icon does it for me because I don't).

thanks for listening to my vent.

shel90 · 06-13-2008, 05:05 PM

I would think it would suck to be that lady because it is apparent she is an unhappy woman who hates her job. She is probably jealous of you cuz you are not stuck at her boring job.

Sorry that you had a bad day.

PowerON · 06-13-2008, 05:08 PM

I said myself.

"Being deaf succks. Let's kill them!"

freckles · 06-13-2008, 05:15 PM

but shela, these (extra hassles) wouldn't have happened if I'm NOT happen to be deaf. I mean there's always something and after another.

shel90 · 06-13-2008, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by freckles

but shela, these (extra hassles) wouldn't have happened if I'm NOT happen to be deaf. I mean there's always something and after another.

Sorry that you are not happy with your deafness. I guess I dont let those hassles bother me cuz I know I am not the one with the problem. These people who treat us like that are the problem.

I used to think being deaf really sucked but that kind of mentality just brought me down and life is too short. Sure I have bad days like these but life is not perfect. I am sure people who are blind, in wheelchairs, or with mental illnesses have to deal with different kinds of hassles.

Dixie · 06-13-2008, 05:29 PM

Freckles, may I dispense this wonderful advice that my mum once told me when I felt sorry for myself becuase I was deaf....

PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER WOMAN!!!

Seriously though its not your fault your deaf, and its no one else's fault either. It was the hand that was dealt to you, and not meaning to go off on a religious tangent, but God knew you would be strong enough to handle it.

You can't change it (well you could, but it usually costs an arm and a leg and it's not 100% successful.)

Instead of dwelling on the downsides, find the upside.

1.) You know ASL - you can have a 'private' conversation between you and a friend in public.

2.) Some places would offer you a discount -IE Museums if you were not able to hear the audio tracks to the tour.

3.) If someone is making a snideful, or stupid comments in general you can look away and tune them out completely.

4.) You can use it as an exscuse to get out of doing a job you hate at work. "I can't do something I never heard you tell me to." (pick and choose carefully though this could backfire on certain bosses.)

freckles · 06-13-2008, 05:36 PM

yes... there's old saying where god wouldn't create a mountain that I can't climb on. actually I wasn't feeling sorry for myself, I guess life has been treating me shitty. I just don't know how much longer I can take anything anymore really.

thanks shela and dixie.

GarnetTigerMom · 06-13-2008, 05:41 PM

I am sorry you had such a bad day and not been great. But being deaf is not a bad thing. I know hearing people treated deaf like crap but we always fight back. Being deaf is not a cancer. But I agree with Dixies post. Think postive and good thing can come your way.

moonflower · 06-13-2008, 05:42 PM

GEE how rude she is sighs she need to know better not to be so rude to deafies seems she not very nice person RME!!!

i hate rude people sighs

i know what is like being rude to

NorCal20 · 06-13-2008, 05:49 PM

lets go to rainforest together

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freckles · 06-13-2008, 05:51 PM

yeah... not cancer. thanks garnetigermom. after what happened there, I spoke with the manager, filed a complaint on her. and after I left, there was an older guy tapping on my shoudlers, gave me a note he wrote - said, I saw the whole thing. some people just can be very nasty, don't worry about it and winked then walked away.

I smiled and thanked him. I wish I could feel completely better because whatever has been full on my plate.. actually punch-drinking bowl, never goes down to at least a plate. so sick of it, enough is enough.

freckles · 06-13-2008, 06:05 PM

gotta have a say to this,

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dixie

1.) You know ASL - you can have a 'private' conversation between you and a friend in public.

true but soon in 2010? it won't be 'private' anymore lol. everyone around here (cashiers, UPS handler, bank tellers, doctors/nurses, teachers and more) knows our language now...but yes, we still have one under water.

Quote:

Originally Posted by NorCal20

lets go to rainforest together [o:

..okie, let's go there! what will we be seeing today?

moonflower · 06-13-2008, 06:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by freckles

yeah... not cancer. thanks garnetigermom. after what happened there, I spoke with the manager, filed a complaint on her. and after I left, there was an older guy tapping on my shoudlers, gave me a note he wrote - said, I saw the whole thing. some people just can be very nasty, don't worry about it and winked then walked away.

I smiled and thanked him. I wish I could feel completely better because whatever has been full on my plate.. actually punch-drinking bowl, never goes down to at least a plate. so sick of it, enough is enough.

wow now you have witness to the nasties from nasty lady good thing you complain to manager about the nasty lady
i hope everything will work out smile

authentic · 06-13-2008, 06:09 PM

Hire your personal interpreter, that would solve the communication problem.

freckles · 06-13-2008, 06:13 PM

erm ... I'm not that rich.. care to help and donate?

really they didn't have to be rude. at anytime anywhere to anyone. I probably would have hired a rude interpreter as well.

thank you moonflower, smile.

Oceanblue7 · 06-13-2008, 06:34 PM

Sorry , you had to experience this rude lady. It's not your fault for being deaf. She just need to be patient, maybe she was having a bad day who knows. Tomorrow is a different day

authentic · 06-13-2008, 06:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by freckles

erm ... I'm not that rich.. care to help and donate?

really they didn't have to be rude. at anytime anywhere to anyone. I probably would have hired a rude interpreter as well.

thank you moonflower, smile.

I have a better idea.
Let's make hearing babies.

IslandBreeze07 · 06-13-2008, 07:16 PM

Try to remember that the person on the other side could have a disability that he/she is miserable with. Sometimes that makes for a bad day alone!

I had a situation like yours at the SSA office once with rude attitude right off the bat aimed at me......so I dished it right back. We kept dishing it back and forth until I asked for the supervisor in a very loud voice. I guess the supervisor didn't "feel like dealing with it" because the guy came back for more with me but a notch down. I got it down a notch also. The guy had a mobile disability! Anyway, A guy who heard the whole thing got up from the sitting room behind me and hid behind a wall next to us so the rude guy couldn't see what he was telling me. He was so funny that I cracked up laughing. The rude guy obviously knew we were talking about him but gave me what I needed. Being deaf sucks now and then but if you enjoy life so much, being deaf is not so bad.....

The Highlander · 06-13-2008, 07:19 PM

If other person have bad day does not mean that she should treat her that way

August · 06-13-2008, 07:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by freckles

yes... there's old saying where god wouldn't create a mountain that I can't climb on. actually I wasn't feeling sorry for myself, I guess life has been treating me shitty. I just don't know how much longer I can take anything anymore really.

thanks shela and dixie.

actually, there are plenty of sheer cliff faces and mountains on the planet that are practically unclimbable.

but let's move on from hypothetically unclimbable mountains for a moment.

you should have the last laugh; anyone working for a government office that snaps at people at the slightest irritation is FUBAR and essentially a wasted life, especially this late in the game.

enjoy your youth and take a page out of IslandBreeze07's book.

whenever you're down, just picture yourself sipping a Banana Daquiri here:

and going for a dip:

August · 06-13-2008, 07:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by authentic

I have a better idea.
Let's make hearing babies.

*butts your head*

I WILL FIGHT U FOR HEEEERRRRRRR!!!!

freckles · 06-13-2008, 07:50 PM

highlander is correct, disability or not she had no excuse to be like that way. notsoverycivil. let alone I have a disability, apologized and gave her second chance. maybe that hurt me more in the end. thanks island thou, I could shrug it off but like you said I may have not been enjoying my life. especially lately.

august, may be true - wait until you read my book of my life. there are only (read: only) four 'sheer cliff faces' I've never experienced and as you see already I'm not even ahead 1/4 of my life yet.

that's too much for one I think. still, granted.

coolgirlspyer90 · 06-13-2008, 07:51 PM

I feel the same way too sometimes. Like yesterday when i had my xylophone lessons, i didn't understand what he was asking for me to do for my lesson. So i asked him again but i felt embarresed but I did it anyways. Sometimes we have our emotions. Like when my dad talks to fast, i go "huh?" all the time and it annoys him. and I would say: "Well sorry for me being deaf! cuz ur talking too fast!" I have to admit. I talk fast sometimes too but for him talking fast, it sounds like gibberish to me. But the good part is, with ASL-- i agree with dixie. You can just do your own secret convo with your friends, i do that with my friends most of the time anyways. And with my CI and HA- i just turn them off if i didn't want to hear my sister and my mom fighting or something else i dont want to hear. We all get fustrated sometimes. But at least the hard part is over and you just have to worry about something else. Don't worry about the stupid people who are rude and thinks that they know everything. Just worry about important things like, paying the bills, chores. stuff like that. I don't complain about being deaf everyday. I just live with it. I mean, Really being deaf isn't the problem, it’s a part of us having to deal with it. Sometimes i wish i was hearing sometimes I don’t. but its a part of me i have to deal with.

August · 06-13-2008, 08:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by freckles

highlander is correct, disability or not she had no excuse to be like that way. notsoverycivil. let alone I have a disability, apologized and gave her second chance. maybe that hurt me more in the end. thanks island thou, I could shrug it off but like you said I may have not been enjoying my life. especially lately.

august, may be true - wait until you read my book of my life. there are only (read: only) four 'sheer cliff faces' I've never experienced and as you see already I'm not even ahead 1/4 of my life yet.

that's too much for one I think. still, granted.

wait a second

are we still talking about metaphorical obstacles, or actual geologic structures you have climbed?

Cowpuppy · 06-13-2008, 08:27 PM

you should make a complaint.......personnel office or write a letter to the judge would be better. Government place you don't have to put up with that kind of shyt. We own the courthouse. You are her boss. You need to understand this. And remember it when being forceful that you want something done about it. Her position requires she knows she has to deal with deafies.

freckles · 06-13-2008, 08:27 PM

um, both... does it matters? remember you're in my chapter and ..you're a guy.

'ppreciate it cowpuppy, I'll be sure of and thanks for some insights, spyer. (:

August · 06-13-2008, 08:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by freckles

um, both... does it matters? remember you're in my chapter and ..you're a guy.

'ppreciate it cowpuppy, I'll be sure of and thanks for some insights, spyer. (:

why yes...

yes i am.

GarnetTigerMom · 06-13-2008, 11:02 PM

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06-13-2008, 05:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
freckles I post, therefore I am Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: wherever my heart pieces are at .. Posts: 954	Ugh.. Being Deaf Sucks really sucks. I was at the court and the interpreter never showed up. so the court was adjourned until next month! I just want this to be over today. TODAY. but unfortunately, no. then I was told to go to clerk's office to ensure there'll be one for next time. a secretary there was being extremely rude. I apologized for not hearing her at first and she repeated after I said she'll need to write down what she had just said. she mouthed "NO, WHAT IS YOUR N-A-M-E?" I then demanded for papers and pen again realizing I had left them in another building. rolling her eyes, found a paper and pen, mumbled "gee she's so stupid..." thinking I couldn't read her lips (filled with manures). I kept my cool, wrote down explaining, she totally snatched the paper. while I know people could be just nasty as can be, I stood there dumbfounded. then she did it again. so third time I had the paper, I landed the pen down on paper, pushed it over to middle of the counter and left it there so she'd not do it again. she started yelling at me, GIVE ME THE PEN! I shook my head, no, YOU pick it up, you grabbed twice and that wasn't very nice. she chuckled (or scoffed) and looked around at her co-workers then gave me a stare - give...me...the...pen now (with it right under her fingers!) gee, so dramatic... ugh. it sucks being deaf. really sucks that I'm about to shoot my head off. (at least the icon does it for me because I don't). thanks for listening to my vent. __________________ latest thread: [[ class time boys! ]]

06-13-2008, 05:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,119 Blog Entries: 1	I would think it would suck to be that lady because it is apparent she is an unhappy woman who hates her job. She is probably jealous of you cuz you are not stuck at her boring job. Sorry that you had a bad day. __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

06-13-2008, 05:08 PM	#3 (permalink)
PowerON Please don't click me! D: Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Would like to live at Fort Davis, TX Posts: 4,780 Blog Entries: 1	I said myself. "Being deaf succks. Let's kill them!" __________________ • [Illustrator.Blog-alloon.com] • Don't shoot me! I'm only blogger!

06-13-2008, 05:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
Dixie Hooray its November! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 4,199	Freckles, may I dispense this wonderful advice that my mum once told me when I felt sorry for myself becuase I was deaf.... PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER WOMAN!!! Seriously though its not your fault your deaf, and its no one else's fault either. It was the hand that was dealt to you, and not meaning to go off on a religious tangent, but God knew you would be strong enough to handle it. You can't change it (well you could, but it usually costs an arm and a leg and it's not 100% successful.) Instead of dwelling on the downsides, find the upside. 1.) You know ASL - you can have a 'private' conversation between you and a friend in public. 2.) Some places would offer you a discount -IE Museums if you were not able to hear the audio tracks to the tour. 3.) If someone is making a snideful, or stupid comments in general you can look away and tune them out completely. 4.) You can use it as an exscuse to get out of doing a job you hate at work. "I can't do something I never heard you tell me to." (pick and choose carefully though this could backfire on certain bosses.) __________________ Visit my Deaf Blog Signature banner created by me, please do not steal!

06-13-2008, 05:41 PM	#8 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,862	I am sorry you had such a bad day and not been great. But being deaf is not a bad thing. I know hearing people treated deaf like crap but we always fight back. Being deaf is not a cancer. But I agree with Dixies post. Think postive and good thing can come your way. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

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06-13-2008, 05:15 PM	#4 (permalink)
freckles I post, therefore I am Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: wherever my heart pieces are at .. Posts: 954	but shela, these (extra hassles) wouldn't have happened if I'm NOT happen to be deaf. I mean there's always something and after another.

06-13-2008, 05:36 PM	#7 (permalink)
freckles I post, therefore I am Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: wherever my heart pieces are at .. Posts: 954	yes... there's old saying where god wouldn't create a mountain that I can't climb on. actually I wasn't feeling sorry for myself, I guess life has been treating me shitty. I just don't know how much longer I can take anything anymore really. thanks shela and dixie.

06-13-2008, 05:42 PM	#9 (permalink)
moonflower will be very busy soon Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Washtenaw County, Michigan Posts: 4,874	GEE how rude she is sighs she need to know better not to be so rude to deafies seems she not very nice person RME!!! i hate rude people sighs i know what is like being rude to __________________ my little niece born 11/1/08

06-13-2008, 05:49 PM	#10 (permalink)
NorCal20 -superdorky :o) Join Date: May 2008 Location: Golden State Posts: 3,162	lets go to rainforest together ] __________________ Phil.4:13- "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" I play USSSA, not ASA! Rest in Peace, Mrs.C.Yoshitake. You'll be always wonderful teacher. i will sorely miss you and my heart goes to your family. We will meet again.

06-13-2008, 05:51 PM	#11 (permalink)
freckles I post, therefore I am Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: wherever my heart pieces are at .. Posts: 954	yeah... not cancer. thanks garnetigermom. after what happened there, I spoke with the manager, filed a complaint on her. and after I left, there was an older guy tapping on my shoudlers, gave me a note he wrote - said, I saw the whole thing. some people just can be very nasty, don't worry about it and winked then walked away. I smiled and thanked him. I wish I could feel completely better because whatever has been full on my plate.. actually punch-drinking bowl, never goes down to at least a plate. so sick of it, enough is enough.

06-13-2008, 06:09 PM	#14 (permalink)
authentic Прежний глухой Агент КГБ Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: CCCP Posts: 2,552	Hire your personal interpreter, that would solve the communication problem. __________________

06-13-2008, 06:13 PM	#15 (permalink)
freckles I post, therefore I am Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: wherever my heart pieces are at .. Posts: 954	erm ... I'm not that rich.. care to help and donate? really they didn't have to be rude. at anytime anywhere to anyone. I probably would have hired a rude interpreter as well. thank you moonflower, smile.

06-13-2008, 06:34 PM	#16 (permalink)
Oceanblue7 Patriots Rock! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Gillette Stadium Posts: 4,412 Blog Entries: 8	Sorry , you had to experience this rude lady. It's not your fault for being deaf. She just need to be patient, maybe she was having a bad day who knows. Tomorrow is a different day __________________ Ps.103:12 He washes our sins away into the ocean

06-13-2008, 07:16 PM	#18 (permalink)
IslandBreeze07 I do Ameriplan!!!! Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Sunshine State Posts: 399	Try to remember that the person on the other side could have a disability that he/she is miserable with. Sometimes that makes for a bad day alone! I had a situation like yours at the SSA office once with rude attitude right off the bat aimed at me......so I dished it right back. We kept dishing it back and forth until I asked for the supervisor in a very loud voice. I guess the supervisor didn't "feel like dealing with it" because the guy came back for more with me but a notch down. I got it down a notch also. The guy had a mobile disability! Anyway, A guy who heard the whole thing got up from the sitting room behind me and hid behind a wall next to us so the rude guy couldn't see what he was telling me. He was so funny that I cracked up laughing. The rude guy obviously knew we were talking about him but gave me what I needed. Being deaf sucks now and then but if you enjoy life so much, being deaf is not so bad..... __________________ http://www.iboplus.com/KGraber http://www.mybenefitsplus.com/KGraber Life is like a farm. You have to get up early and do the chores

06-13-2008, 07:19 PM	#19 (permalink)
The Highlander Bạnned Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,244	If other person have bad day does not mean that she should treat her that way __________________ Z'ha'dum is the homeworld of the Shadows. No one leaves the same as they arrived. --Delenn If you go to Z'ha'dum, you will die. — Kosh to John Sheridan

06-13-2008, 07:50 PM	#22 (permalink)
freckles I post, therefore I am Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: wherever my heart pieces are at .. Posts: 954	highlander is correct, disability or not she had no excuse to be like that way. notsoverycivil. let alone I have a disability, apologized and gave her second chance. maybe that hurt me more in the end. thanks island thou, I could shrug it off but like you said I may have not been enjoying my life. especially lately. august, may be true - wait until you read my book of my life. there are only (read: only) four 'sheer cliff faces' I've never experienced and as you see already I'm not even ahead 1/4 of my life yet. that's too much for one I think. still, granted.

06-13-2008, 07:51 PM	#23 (permalink)
coolgirlspyer90 Music is my life. Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 516	I feel the same way too sometimes. Like yesterday when i had my xylophone lessons, i didn't understand what he was asking for me to do for my lesson. So i asked him again but i felt embarresed but I did it anyways. Sometimes we have our emotions. Like when my dad talks to fast, i go "huh?" all the time and it annoys him. and I would say: "Well sorry for me being deaf! cuz ur talking too fast!" I have to admit. I talk fast sometimes too but for him talking fast, it sounds like gibberish to me. But the good part is, with ASL-- i agree with dixie. You can just do your own secret convo with your friends, i do that with my friends most of the time anyways. And with my CI and HA- i just turn them off if i didn't want to hear my sister and my mom fighting or something else i dont want to hear. We all get fustrated sometimes. But at least the hard part is over and you just have to worry about something else. Don't worry about the stupid people who are rude and thinks that they know everything. Just worry about important things like, paying the bills, chores. stuff like that. I don't complain about being deaf everyday. I just live with it. I mean, Really being deaf isn't the problem, it’s a part of us having to deal with it. Sometimes i wish i was hearing sometimes I don’t. but its a part of me i have to deal with.

06-13-2008, 08:27 PM	#25 (permalink)
Cowpuppy Banned Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: On The Road Again Posts: 375	you should make a complaint.......personnel office or write a letter to the judge would be better. Government place you don't have to put up with that kind of shyt. We own the courthouse. You are her boss. You need to understand this. And remember it when being forceful that you want something done about it. Her position requires she knows she has to deal with deafies.

06-13-2008, 08:27 PM	#26 (permalink)
freckles I post, therefore I am Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: wherever my heart pieces are at .. Posts: 954	um, both... does it matters? remember you're in my chapter and ..you're a guy. 'ppreciate it cowpuppy, I'll be sure of and thanks for some insights, spyer. (: