From a person that hates deaf people. - Page 4

Banjo · 08-11-2008, 09:31 PM

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Originally Posted by SnAzZyStyLe2002

Whatever. I have my reasons for separating the groups.

Surely if you're in my shoes and with an experience like mine (as described in the link I provided to my earlier post), you would have done the same thing.

Doesn't mean that I'm "insecure" with the deafies. Once I managed to get both a chosen deaf friend and a chosen hearing friend together for dining out. Both of those friends are good ones - that won't blab about past experiences. See how picky I can get?

It's all about trust.

The past will come back to haunt you. You obviously don't realize that no matter what you do, you will reap what you sow for the bad choices you made in the past. It's not my fault that you did some things you may not be proud of. You made these choices yourself. So you end up punishing yourself and your deaf friends.

It has nothing to do with trust. It's more to do with your insecurities.

SnAzZyStyLe2002 · 08-13-2008, 03:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Banjo

The past will come back to haunt you. You obviously don't realize that no matter what you do, you will reap what you sow for the bad choices you made in the past. It's not my fault that you did some things you may not be proud of. You made these choices yourself. So you end up punishing yourself and your deaf friends.

It has nothing to do with trust. It's more to do with your insecurities.

*rolls eyes*

Haunt me? Like how? I could move to a whole new state and move on with someone. If that someone asks me what my HS years are like, I'd go like "huh? you meant the black years?" and she or he would gulp and say no more. We'd talk about my past years as a kid, then move on to 7th grade, and literally "fast forward" my HS years and talk about my college years.

If those dumbass deaf kids didn't constantly pick on me in the first place, then maybe the whole separation of the groups on Facebook would not have happened. Ever thought of that, Banjo? Of course you didn't; you just go on with your wild "theory" about me being insecure. Didn't you even read what I said in my post I linked earlier explaining everything? I'm sure there are thousands, if not millions, of kids who are just like me, with bad HS pasts. Does that mean those kids with bad HS pasts are "automatically insecure," as stated in your "theory?" Pfft.

I have already told a few college friends all about it and they completely understood. And, yes I already knew that if I kept it all to myself, I'd go nuts.

But ahh whatever. I'm not gonna argue with you any longer because as they say, "Arguing on the Internet is like running in the Special Olympics." Let's keep it at the fact that I *know* for sure I'm right, and if you think I'm wrong, fine keep it that way but don't put me down and say that I'm "insecure" because as far as I'm concerned, my plans are going with the flow. And, no I'm not gonna end up in the mental hospital.

End of discussion.

Banjo · 08-13-2008, 11:14 PM

Everybody here can see that you have unresolved issues. You're the one in denial.

(shrugs)

Bebonang · 08-13-2008, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Banjo

Everybody here can see that you have unresolved issues. You're the one in denial.

(shrugs)

Well, Every person have a different point of view of what to put in the Facebook. If they want to separate between Deaf and Hearing on the Facebook, then that is their business. You can not argue when someone don't want to put Deaf people or about deafness in the Facebook.

As for myself, I don't mind putting both Deaf and Hearing people in my Facebook and nobody complain about it at all. I like to share my deafness with my hearing friends and I have several deaf friends in my Facebook as well. No problem for me. It is up to the person to make the decision and who is stopping them. None!!! So leave SnazzyStyle alone. I love Deaf people and sometime I get crazy Deaf people too, who are just trying to figure themselves out why they have crazy life.

SnAzZyStyLe2002 · 08-14-2008, 03:42 AM

My sentiments precisely, Bebonang. Thank you.

I'm sick of meddlers.

mum2bubba · 08-23-2008, 06:16 AM

I am speechless.

Bottesini · 08-23-2008, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by mum2bubba

I am speechless.

Stay around and you'll get used to it.

Liza · 08-23-2008, 10:54 AM

I only have one FB account -- I think it adds to my character that my hearing and deaf friends learn a bit from each other about me. Whatever my friends post, they are responsible for their comments and their experiences... and I for mine and my experiences. I own my experiences and who I am. Real friends would like you for who you are, and that has more value to me than maintaining the quantity of friends. Besides, it is a hassle for me to switch between two worlds being either of the half the person I am.

Another thought: Which is worse, a hearing person who hates deaf people.. or a deaf person who hates hearing people?

Tousi · 08-23-2008, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Liza

I only have one FB account -- I think it adds to my character that my hearing and deaf friends learn a bit from each other about me. Whatever my friends post, they are responsible for their comments and their experiences... and I for mine and my experiences. I own my experiences and who I am. Real friends would like you for who you are, and that has more value to me than maintaining the quantity of friends. Besides, it is a hassle for me to switch between two worlds being either of the half the person I am.

Another thought: Which is worse, a hearing person who hates deaf people.. or a deaf person who hates hearing people?

Yeah, or a deaf person who hates all deaf folks?

jillio · 08-23-2008, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Banjo

Actually, it just show that you are insecure about your friends. You are "ashamed" of your deaf friends that you won't even let the hearing people know you are friends with them.

Clearly, you do see something wrong with your deaf friends if you feel the need to keep them apart.

Very astute observation, Banjo!

shel90 · 08-23-2008, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Liza

I only have one FB account -- I think it adds to my character that my hearing and deaf friends learn a bit from each other about me. Whatever my friends post, they are responsible for their comments and their experiences... and I for mine and my experiences. I own my experiences and who I am. Real friends would like you for who you are, and that has more value to me than maintaining the quantity of friends. Besides, it is a hassle for me to switch between two worlds being either of the half the person I am.

Another thought: Which is worse, a hearing person who hates deaf people.. or a deaf person who hates hearing people?

I agree...it is like segregation by separating deaf from the hearing folks or vice versa. It is silly. If my hubby had two fb accounts, one centered for his black friends (his "people") and one centered for his white friends..he would get hell for it big time.

jillio · 08-23-2008, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by SnAzZyStyLe2002

Whatever. I have my reasons for separating the groups.

Surely if you're in my shoes and with an experience like mine (as described in the link I provided to my earlier post), you would have done the same thing.

Doesn't mean that I'm "insecure" with the deafies. Once I managed to get both a chosen deaf friend and a chosen hearing friend together for dining out. Both of those friends are good ones - that won't blab about past experiences. See how picky I can get?

It's all about trust.

Nope, just the reverse. It indicates that you don't trust your deaf friends, and are insecure regarding your status with your hearing friends.

sequoias · 08-23-2008, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Nope, just the reverse. It indicates that you don't trust your deaf friends, and are insecure regarding your status with your hearing friends.

Yea, I agree. I mix hearing and deaf folks on myspace so I don't have a problem with that. I even include bbw models, too. I don't have anything ashamed about it. We're humans with different sense losses, there's not much different about it except the culture thing.

jillio · 08-23-2008, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by sequoias

Yea, I agree. I mix hearing and deaf folks on myspace so I don't have a problem with that. I even include bbw models, too. I don't have anything ashamed about it. We're humans with different sense losses, there's not much different about it except the culture thing.

Exactly. And how do we learn about differences in culture and become more accepting if we isolate from those that are different?

sequoias · 08-23-2008, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Exactly. And how do we learn about differences in culture and become more accepting if we isolate from those that are different?

Yep, we don't learn anything if we isolate from each other....it's like segrating black and white people and they never learn a thing or two about each other.

That's why many hearing people are movitated to learn sign language so they can social with deaf people efficently.

08-14-2008, 03:42 AM	#95 (permalink)
SnAzZyStyLe2002 MtDewVoltageFreak Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Somewhere in a galaxy far far away Posts: 299	My sentiments precisely, Bebonang. Thank you. I'm sick of meddlers. __________________ ~Snazzy Style 2002 Currently dual-booting Windows XP Pro SP3 and Windows Vista Ultimate SP1 32-bit on 2 hard drive partitions on the same computer. NEW Laptop! Vista Ultimate SP1 64-bit on it. Have a server computer, so currently dual-booting Windows Server 2003 R2 Enterprise and Windows Server 2008 Enterprise.

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Banjo Mr. Movie Guy Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 5,128 Blog Entries: 1	Everybody here can see that you have unresolved issues. You're the one in denial. (shrugs)

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Liza Cranial protocologist Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: St Augustine, FL Posts: 4,160 Blog Entries: 2	I only have one FB account -- I think it adds to my character that my hearing and deaf friends learn a bit from each other about me. Whatever my friends post, they are responsible for their comments and their experiences... and I for mine and my experiences. I own my experiences and who I am. Real friends would like you for who you are, and that has more value to me than maintaining the quantity of friends. Besides, it is a hassle for me to switch between two worlds being either of the half the person I am. Another thought: Which is worse, a hearing person who hates deaf people.. or a deaf person who hates hearing people?