What Ticks You Off (Most) About Hearies? - Page 6

lilylover72 · 03-25-2008, 05:01 PM

What ticks me off most about one lady asked me about can deaf people have sex? Can we hear moan sound? I answered yes, we can but we cannot hear. We don't need the sound. We can feel. A lady was speechless. I think she was so idiot!

Buffalo · 03-25-2008, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Etoile

I have only had a deaf peddler come up to me once. He really was deaf! Anij, the book you are thinking of is "Deaf Peddler: Confessions of an Inside Man" by Dennis Buck. I have that one.

Dennis Buck? I think I know him from my high school. He is about 3 or 4 years younger than I. I remember he had made honor roll often. It is hard for a deaf person to find a decent job and that really irks me. AB, now you can add this reason to the list of what ticks me(us) off about hearies.

sequoias · 03-25-2008, 05:23 PM

What I hate about hearing people is that they refuse to communicate with me on paper and pen or try to interact with deaf people with patience.

Raykat · 03-26-2008, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by lilylover72

What ticks me off most about one lady asked me about can deaf people have sex? Can we hear moan sound? I answered yes, we can but we cannot hear. We don't need the sound. We can feel. A lady was speechless. I think she was so idiot!

Yes I've had that one a few times, plus the amazement at my being married and having kids, its always the brain dead ones that come out with this.

deafskeptic · 03-26-2008, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Anoher thing I have noticed about some hearing people that annoys me, sometimes is frightening, is when they get absorbed into the Deaf culture and chastise the deaf for not following the norms of the Deaf culture.....

Example:

* I knew a hearing person that was studying ASL and constantly put their 'hearing culture' down for their treatment of the Deaf.

* Another hearing individual made an announcement at a deaf gathering by stating that they wanted " all of the deaf not to wear hearing aids and just sign to their heart's content and kick hearing people's ass."

* One hearing person went to the extreme of eliminating all sound from their home.

The above is hearing people going to the extreme for the sake of the Deaf culture.

Now I don't mind hearing people learning the language, the history, being advocate for equality, but going to the extreme of Deaf culture when they are not deaf themselves is a little.....scary.

I had a hearing roommate who was like that and other deafies complained that she suffered from the Zinger syndrome. I don't fit some hearing and deaf idea of what an ideal deaf person should be like. I don't try to fit in that view anymore as it's pointless.

Interpretrator · 03-26-2008, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Anoher thing I have noticed about some hearing people that annoys me, sometimes is frightening, is when they get absorbed into the Deaf culture and chastise the deaf for not following the norms of the Deaf culture.....

Yeah, we had a few of those in our ITP. Our teacher spoke to us about people who are not comfortable in their own culture and seek Deaf culture as a refuge. (Some of those people are what I meant by "deaf groupies.") For example, one woman got all up in arms because we were having a unit on learning SEE and she refused because "it's not the language of deaf people." I imagine her lecturing her clients who do use SEE about how they should be using ASL. *shudder*

Some people forget there's a line between activism and patriarchal behavior.

~*Kaelei*~ · 03-30-2008, 04:33 PM

what ticks me off is when they don't look at you when they're speaking (Hello I'm trying to read lips) or when they mumble...Ugh I hate that!! Also I hate it when they say oh forget it, when I ask them to repeat what the said that I didn't get.

one time while my friend Heather and I were at the restrant and we were signing, then a waitress came up with paper and pen, handing them to me. I raised an eye bow at him and said, "What's this for?" You should've see his face, he was so shocked!! "You can speak?" I look at Heather and we both laughed, "Yeah, just because I signed doesn't mean I can't speak." He asked, "Are you Deaf?" I was like, "Yeah." He was like, "How, your Deaf....Deaf people can't speak at all...they're deaf and mute!" I glared at him, "Well, aren't I sitting here in front of you, speaking? Not all deaf people are mute, we can speak you know if we learned!!!" "Oh....oh I'm sorry." "Don't be sorry when you're not!! I would like another waitress please, as you have offended me and behalf of all deaf people."

Etoile · 03-30-2008, 04:54 PM

Something related to "oh never mind" when I didn't understand something...this probably happens to other HOH people too. When I say "please repeat that" they say something different! Sometimes it is helpful but sometimes I would rather confirm what I *thought* I heard.

JennyB · 03-31-2008, 01:15 AM

Wow that could be a long list...

*When they tell me I speak so well
*When I tell someone I am Deaf and I need to see their lips when they speak...and then they don't look at me
*When they throw things at me
*When they over enunciate
*When they scream at me
*When they think I am lying when I say that I am Deaf
*When they talk to me like I am a toddler who failed pre-school
*When they assume I don't work
*When they ask me where my interpretor is, and then are shocked when I don't have one
*When they tell me how small my BTE hearing aids are, and noticable at all like in an attempt to make me feel better about something I don't feel bad about
*When they assume because I have hearing aids I can hear

I could make this list last for days....

AquaBlue · 03-31-2008, 02:34 AM

When they throw things at you? For real??

Why in the world would stupid hearing people throw things at you?

Calvin · 03-31-2008, 03:06 AM

Well I've had this happen to me:

Can you drive a car?
Do you have drivers license?
being left out in hearing group conversation like I ask whats you guys talking about? They're like oh it's nothing or I'll tell you later.
Laughed because I can't hear
making fun of deafness
It's dangerous to drive or operate a machine because you can't hear.
hearing speaks too fast that I can't understand

You guys pretty much name it all.

PePe LePew · 03-31-2008, 03:39 AM

Well first of all I used to hunged around my dad's side of family like cousins and their girlie friends...

My cousin's girlfriend was tellin' me somethin' and I didn't understand what she was a sayin' and I asked her to repeat what she was a sayin' to me and she was so rude and said "Never Mind", I tell you later, then she said just "Forget It" and that ticked me off...

My dad's brother's son was rude whisperin' to his girlfriend and I say hey I know yore a talkin' about me, I heard ya a sayin' my name and he said how you know, I said oh I ain't stupid yore know I can reads yore lips duh...

I'm very good at watchin' hearin' people's expression on their face, if they make a nasty faces or a rudin' face if ya tells them ya ain't gettin' what they're a sayin' that's how you know how they looks and acts by disrespectin' the deaf or hearin' impaired not likin' to repeats...

People gotta have patient ya know, and many ain't patient with the deaf or hearin' impaired, they hated to repeated and then they ain't no friend at all...

Our Eyes Can Hears and Our Ears Can Sees!

Etoile · 03-31-2008, 07:54 AM

Here's two that came up in my Deaf Studies class:

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"Can you read my lips?" (shake head no) "But you just did!" (well of course, everybody can lipread that question, doesn't mean you can lipread everything!)

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"Oh you can talk? Talk for me, say something!" (what am I, a trained monkey?)

And one of my own...HOH people who are ashamed of it. I have been reading a thread on a message board where some HOH people are chatting. And they are saying things like "I don't want to get hearing aids, people will know I'm deaf" - is it better for people to think you're rude or stupid because you answer questions wrong or ignore them? Or "I don't like asking at a hotel for the ADA kit, then they will know I'm deaf" - first of all, the hotel clerk doesn't know you, will never see you again, and doesn't really care if you are deaf or not. Second, by asking for the ADA kit, you're reminding them that people need it and they should keep it in good working order. And finally, isn't it safer to have that equipment in case of an emergency?

And this one comes from deaf and hearing alike: "How can you be a terp if you are HOH?" Surprise, there are lots of HOH terps out there. As long as we can hear well enough to interpret, we can interpret! Sometimes this means working only in certain situations, sometimes it means wearing hearing aids. But HOH people can be terps too!

Reba · 03-31-2008, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Etoile

...And this one comes from deaf and hearing alike: "How can you be a terp if you are HOH?" Surprise, there are lots of HOH terps out there. As long as we can hear well enough to interpret, we can interpret! Sometimes this means working only in certain situations, sometimes it means wearing hearing aids. But HOH people can be terps too!

Yes, I know an outstanding HOH terp who wears HAs.

Tousi · 03-31-2008, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Reba

Yes, I know an outstanding HOH terp who wears HAs.

So do I; she has been doing it for years now and is much in demand. And her folks are deaf.....

Raykat · 03-31-2008, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by AquaBlue

When they throw things at you? For real??

Why in the world would stupid hearing people throw things at you?

To get your attention probably.

I've had people come up behind me and turn the vaccum cleaner off, as if that makes a difference when I can t even hear the dam thing.

Another one is when I tell someone I need to lipread and they come so close to my face they are just about kissing me, god knows what they think lipreading means.

AquaBlue · 03-31-2008, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Raykat

To get your attention probably.

I've had people come up behind me and turn the vaccum cleaner off, as if that makes a difference when I can t even hear the dam thing.

Another one is when I tell someone I need to lipread and they come so close to my face they are just about kissing me, god knows what they think lipreading means.

Good God! That's is sick. As a hearie I am shocked. Such idiots.

Etoile · 03-31-2008, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by AquaBlue

Good God! That's is sick. As a hearie I am shocked. Such idiots.

Deaf people throw stuff at each other too, you know. We're not talking about the dictionary or anything...just crumpled up paper usually. But throwing things is not that shocking!

shel90 · 03-31-2008, 08:38 PM

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Originally Posted by AquaBlue

When they throw things at you? For real??

Why in the world would stupid hearing people throw things at you?

Oh...I have had stuff ranging from papers to rocks thrown at me to get my attention. It hasnt happened lately cuz the last few times, I threw whatever was thrown at me right back at the person.

Etoile · 03-31-2008, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Raykat

Another one is when I tell someone I need to lipread and they come so close to my face they are just about kissing me, god knows what they think lipreading means.

Maybe they think it is Tadoma, like Helen Keller used to do?

Raykat · 04-01-2008, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Etoile

Maybe they think it is Tadoma, like Helen Keller used to do?

Uuuuuuummmmmm...........Tadoma....explanation please as this seems to be a gap in my education

Tho I dont think too many people , I mean hearies, would even have a clue how Helen Keller communicated.

AquaBlue · 04-01-2008, 03:47 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Oh...I have had stuff ranging from papers to rocks thrown at me to get my attention. It hasnt happened lately cuz the last few times, I threw whatever was thrown at me right back at the person.

That just shocks me! The stupidity of some hearies is just pathetic. I am glad I'm not that way. No way, no how. Incredible. So very sad.

shel90 · 04-01-2008, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by AquaBlue

That just shocks me! The stupidity of some hearies is just pathetic. I am glad I'm not that way. No way, no how. Incredible. So very sad.

Important that we, deaf people, stand up to them about this issue. It becomes sad when someone doesnt speak up to stop it but just let it happen.

AquaBlue · 04-01-2008, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Important that we, deaf people, stand up to them about this issue. It becomes sad when someone doesnt speak up to stop it but just let it happen.

I never knew that some hearies could be so cruel. Yes, stand up and throw something back at them. Make them know you hate that behavour. But I am boiling mad at such stupidity.

03-25-2008, 05:23 PM	#153 (permalink)
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03-30-2008, 04:33 PM	#157 (permalink)
~Kaelei~ Slytherin Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Seattle, Washington Posts: 125	what ticks me off is when they don't look at you when they're speaking (Hello I'm trying to read lips) or when they mumble...Ugh I hate that!! Also I hate it when they say oh forget it, when I ask them to repeat what the said that I didn't get. one time while my friend Heather and I were at the restrant and we were signing, then a waitress came up with paper and pen, handing them to me. I raised an eye bow at him and said, "What's this for?" You should've see his face, he was so shocked!! "You can speak?" I look at Heather and we both laughed, "Yeah, just because I signed doesn't mean I can't speak." He asked, "Are you Deaf?" I was like, "Yeah." He was like, "How, your Deaf....Deaf people can't speak at all...they're deaf and mute!" I glared at him, "Well, aren't I sitting here in front of you, speaking? Not all deaf people are mute, we can speak you know if we learned!!!" "Oh....oh I'm sorry." "Don't be sorry when you're not!! I would like another waitress please, as you have offended me and behalf of all deaf people." __________________ Kaelei: Mother to Tristan Riley 1/6/06 and Wife to Preston 3/28/05

03-31-2008, 01:15 AM	#159 (permalink)
JennyB Registered User Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Ontario Posts: 259	Wow that could be a long list... When they tell me I speak so well When I tell someone I am Deaf and I need to see their lips when they speak...and then they don't look at me When they throw things at me When they over enunciate When they scream at me When they think I am lying when I say that I am Deaf When they talk to me like I am a toddler who failed pre-school When they assume I don't work When they ask me where my interpretor is, and then are shocked when I don't have one When they tell me how small my BTE hearing aids are, and noticable at all like in an attempt to make me feel better about something I don't feel bad about *When they assume because I have hearing aids I can hear I could make this list last for days.... __________________ Jenny~B http://journysofadeafgirl.blogspot.com/

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03-31-2008, 03:06 AM	#161 (permalink)
Calvin Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 1,315	Well I've had this happen to me: Can you drive a car? Do you have drivers license? being left out in hearing group conversation like I ask whats you guys talking about? They're like oh it's nothing or I'll tell you later. Laughed because I can't hear making fun of deafness It's dangerous to drive or operate a machine because you can't hear. hearing speaks too fast that I can't understand You guys pretty much name it all. __________________

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03-30-2008, 04:54 PM	#158 (permalink)
Etoile HOH terp Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Washington DC Posts: 743	Something related to "oh never mind" when I didn't understand something...this probably happens to other HOH people too. When I say "please repeat that" they say something different! Sometimes it is helpful but sometimes I would rather confirm what I thought I heard.

03-31-2008, 03:39 AM	#162 (permalink)
PePe LePew PePe LePew Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Paradise Posts: 574	What Tickin' Me Off About The Hearin' People is... Well first of all I used to hunged around my dad's side of family like cousins and their girlie friends... My cousin's girlfriend was tellin' me somethin' and I didn't understand what she was a sayin' and I asked her to repeat what she was a sayin' to me and she was so rude and said "Never Mind", I tell you later, then she said just "Forget It" and that ticked me off... My dad's brother's son was rude whisperin' to his girlfriend and I say hey I know yore a talkin' about me, I heard ya a sayin' my name and he said how you know, I said oh I ain't stupid yore know I can reads yore lips duh... I'm very good at watchin' hearin' people's expression on their face, if they make a nasty faces or a rudin' face if ya tells them ya ain't gettin' what they're a sayin' that's how you know how they looks and acts by disrespectin' the deaf or hearin' impaired not likin' to repeats... People gotta have patient ya know, and many ain't patient with the deaf or hearin' impaired, they hated to repeated and then they ain't no friend at all... Our Eyes Can Hears and Our Ears Can Sees!