What Ticks You Off (Most) About Hearies? - Page 12

Chase · 05-24-2008, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

Pitying me and also false admiration "how well you cope!". They do go away if you don't act like a pious, bravely suffering saint!

I pretty much do the pious and brave St. Chase act, because the patronizer is usually out of hearing range by the time I process what is said and think of a withering response. Maybe that's a good thing.

Elsewhere, someone just commented how I write well for a deaf person. Ha ha ha, that's like some guy trying to be complimentary to a female friend by saying, "You don't sweat much for a fat girl."

It seems what we do is always measured against an absent sense.

Bottesini · 05-24-2008, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Chase

I pretty much do the pious and brave St. Chase act, because the patronizer is usually out of hearing range by the time I process what is said and think of a withering response. Maybe that's a good thing.

Elsewhere, someone just commented how I write well for a deaf person. Ha ha ha, that's like some guy trying to be complimentary to a female friend by saying, "You don't sweat much for a fat girl."

It seems what we do is always measured against an absent sense.

I claim less saintly. I might tell my withering response later. Also forgot people who would take my handicap for themselves if they could.

slickpapa2002 · 05-29-2008, 07:19 PM

What i dislike about hearing people(although i am hearing) so much is when they know someone is Deaf or hard of hearing they try to speak slower or act like Deaf people are retarded, pisses me off!

HorseRace · 05-29-2008, 07:23 PM

slickpapa2002, yea i can tell what were they doing when i was in hearing crowd or wherever those places i am at.. i was like rme! i hope they learn lesson later when something happen to them as HIT! ( not hiting someone) , you know i mean

slickpapa2002 · 05-29-2008, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by HorseRace

slickpapa2002, yea i can tell what were they doing when i was in hearing crowd or wherever those places i am at.. i was like rme! i hope they learn lesson later when something happen to them as HIT! ( not hiting someone) , you know i mean

lol yah i know what you mean, sometime ignorance needs a slap inn the face though!

August · 05-29-2008, 07:41 PM

when they have shitty taste in music and advertise it with shitty band shirts and hoodies and shoes and necklaces and body wash and other ridiculous paraphernalia.

HorseRace · 05-29-2008, 07:42 PM

slickpapa2002, yea true enought!

Dixie · 05-29-2008, 09:23 PM

Or they start asking stupid questions - for a 4 year they would be fine, but for an adult I just have to drop my jaw.

For example: I know your'e deaf, but can you really hear anything?

Are you allowed to drive?

Can you live alone?

You cant be deaf because you listen to music!

There's always a new one. But oddly enough - I just let my deafness be a part of me and no one was bothered by it, or at least I think. I didnt receive any direct comments on my deafness. But I did do some signs in response to a youtube video that would have not gone over well verbally and the lady turns around and says 'Do you know sign?'

Yes.

Well I know some like 'Thankyou' (signs sorry instead). I kindly corrected her and then she turned red and changed the conversation.

Etoile · 05-29-2008, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Maya87

Few things bother me as much. But some that did was just some word usages.. For example. Hey what sounds good for dinner? Or did you hear about? Things like that. As if they are throwing it in your face. lol I know now that most aren't but sometimes it feels that way..

I will be honest, you are the first time I knew someone who didn't like that. Most d/hh people I know (myself included) don't care at all if someone says "that sounds like a good idea" or anything similar. In fact pretty much everyone I know says that kind of thing too!

Blind people are the same way..."What looks good for dinner" and "Did you see that news article about..." are not usually considered offensive.

I guess I am just surprised, because nobody I have met before has expressed what you did. I understand your feelings, so I am careful in this post not to use words that will hurt you, but again I am just surprised.

Grummer · 05-30-2008, 06:05 AM

i hate it when hering people PRETENDS to not hear, its like they thinks I can't figure out how well they can hear and decide not to respond in so doing to cover their intend to be rude!

Byrdie714 · 05-30-2008, 08:10 PM

Sometimes I wonder if the hearing culture have any brains......

A guy cam eup to me to start chatting and I just signed, " I'm Deaf" and smiled.

He looked at me and continued to talk.

I signed again, "I'm Deaf".

He just stood there and looked at me. And started to talk again

I went ahead and walked away. I figure if they can't get a response from me, why stick around?

Dixie · 05-30-2008, 08:29 PM

Sounds like m crazy co-worker. She called today (someone told her I was back in town, UGH!) I knew it was her from the voice, so I just laid the phone down and walked off. Came back 5 minutes later and she was still chatting, LOL.

Crystal_of_ASL · 05-30-2008, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Angel

"Why are you teaching your hearing son sign language, he's not deaf" (my ex mother in law said that to me.)

My mother was listening to a radio talk show one time and a mother had called in and asked about using sign with her hearing baby. The doctor on the show said why bother teaching sign the baby is not Deaf.

I was totally shocked that a doctor would say such a thing. I wished I had been in the car, I would have called in.

Hear Again · 05-30-2008, 09:15 PM

I can't stand hearing people who ask if I have someone who "takes care of me" or wonders if I'm married to someone who's blind "like me." Arrrgh!

Casperman · 05-30-2008, 10:23 PM

what Ticks me the most from "seeing" from the hearings... is Oh poor ya ya not able hear music.. i was like this :rme at them.. i even told them not all music that good is that right?.. and i can read the lyrics..
also i used to work as mechanic and they always asked how can i hear the engine knock, and felt sorry for me and i said I CAN FEEL if it knock or ask a hearie to help me out .. i feel sorry for uneducated hearing people...

HorseRace · 05-31-2008, 10:43 AM

i second that! casper! hehe!

kipourgos · 06-16-2008, 03:57 PM

It's been an education reading some of these but I guess mostly I'm not surprised because there is so much unawareness of so many things. But aside from a few true assholes (people who would actually make fun of anyone for how they speak - or don't, for example), I think most of the things hearies do just comes from inexperience, or simply unawareness. Most people have good intentions but are simply clueless, and there is always an endless supply of new clueless folks!

Some of what I read really has direct counterparts in the hearing world. I'm a foreigner living in Turkey; back when I was just getting my head around Turkish, people would assume I understood everything. So often, when I missed something, they'd say it again, just as fast, but as loud as possible. (Yeah, I could hear them but I may as well not have been able to.) The impatience when you don't get something, and the "oh never mind" answer sound SO familiar! And another similar one - they hear an accent and immediately start speaking what they call "Tarzanese" here. "You like live Turkey? You learn talk Turkey language good!" And it's so hard to convince them that this doesn't help!

The one that I never thought about was talking and signing (or not signing) at the same time. Since I work as a translator and spent lots of my time in translator mode, I think I'd err in the opposite direction. I've been learning TSL for just a few weeks now but already I catch my hands wanting to sign what I'm talking about when I talk to my hearing housemate.

I've just started meeting deaf people in Turkey, and as I do, I'm amazed at some of the comments I get from hearing people. Some just show they have never thought about it before ("But how will you communicate?" -Well, there is this thing called signing, people can learn it...) But the one that had me picking up my jaw up off the floor: "Well, just be careful, you know lots of disabled people's sexual orientations change."

I don't even know where to file that one!

Etoile · 06-16-2008, 04:15 PM

All I can say to you, kipourgos, is "tuvalyet nerede?" Which I learned during 3 weeks in Turkey back in 2001.

kipourgos · 06-17-2008, 04:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Etoile

All I can say to you, kipourgos, is "tuvalet nerede?" Which I learned during 3 weeks in Turkey back in 2001.

It's right down the hall!

Etoile · 06-18-2008, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by kipourgos

It's right down the hall!

*laughs*

05-29-2008, 09:23 PM	#338 (permalink)
Dixie Darren Hayes, Aussie Boi Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 3,867	Or they start asking stupid questions - for a 4 year they would be fine, but for an adult I just have to drop my jaw. For example: I know your'e deaf, but can you really hear anything? Are you allowed to drive? Can you live alone? You cant be deaf because you listen to music! There's always a new one. But oddly enough - I just let my deafness be a part of me and no one was bothered by it, or at least I think. I didnt receive any direct comments on my deafness. But I did do some signs in response to a youtube video that would have not gone over well verbally and the lady turns around and says 'Do you know sign?' Yes. Well I know some like 'Thankyou' (signs sorry instead). I kindly corrected her and then she turned red and changed the conversation. __________________ Visit my Deaf Blog Signature banner created by me, please do not steal!

05-30-2008, 08:10 PM	#341 (permalink)
Byrdie714 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Pacific County, Washington Posts: 3,625	Sometimes I wonder if the hearing culture have any brains...... A guy cam eup to me to start chatting and I just signed, " I'm Deaf" and smiled. He looked at me and continued to talk. I signed again, "I'm Deaf". He just stood there and looked at me. And started to talk again I went ahead and walked away. I figure if they can't get a response from me, why stick around? __________________ I'll be away from AD on 10/13/08-10-20/08. Bon Voyage--Au Revoir--Sayonara! Y'all behave!

05-30-2008, 08:29 PM	#342 (permalink)
Dixie Darren Hayes, Aussie Boi Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 3,867	Sounds like m crazy co-worker. She called today (someone told her I was back in town, UGH!) I knew it was her from the voice, so I just laid the phone down and walked off. Came back 5 minutes later and she was still chatting, LOL. __________________ Visit my Deaf Blog Signature banner created by me, please do not steal!

05-30-2008, 09:15 PM	#344 (permalink)
Hear Again Registered User Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,147	I can't stand hearing people who ask if I have someone who "takes care of me" or wonders if I'm married to someone who's blind "like me." Arrrgh! __________________ Hear Again Left ear - Nucleus 24 Contour Advance with Freedom BTE Implanted: 12/22/04 Activated: 1/18/05 Right ear - Nucleus Freedom Implanted: 2/1/06 Activated: 3/1/06 Deafblind/Postlingual

06-16-2008, 04:15 PM	#348 (permalink)
Etoile HOH terp Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Washington DC Posts: 899	All I can say to you, kipourgos, is "tuvalyet nerede?" Which I learned during 3 weeks in Turkey back in 2001. __________________ "You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty." -Gandhi

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05-29-2008, 07:19 PM	#333 (permalink)
slickpapa2002 Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Location: florida Posts: 3	What i dislike about hearing people(although i am hearing) so much is when they know someone is Deaf or hard of hearing they try to speak slower or act like Deaf people are retarded, pisses me off!

05-29-2008, 07:23 PM	#334 (permalink)
HorseRace Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Austin TX Posts: 1,107	slickpapa2002, yea i can tell what were they doing when i was in hearing crowd or wherever those places i am at.. i was like rme! i hope they learn lesson later when something happen to them as HIT! ( not hiting someone) , you know i mean

05-29-2008, 07:41 PM	#336 (permalink)
August Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 930	when they have shitty taste in music and advertise it with shitty band shirts and hoodies and shoes and necklaces and body wash and other ridiculous paraphernalia.

05-29-2008, 07:42 PM	#337 (permalink)
HorseRace Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Austin TX Posts: 1,107	slickpapa2002, yea true enought!

05-30-2008, 06:05 AM	#340 (permalink)
Grummer Burn fat off your soul Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: North Island in the South Posts: 929	i hate it when hering people PRETENDS to not hear, its like they thinks I can't figure out how well they can hear and decide not to respond in so doing to cover their intend to be rude!

05-30-2008, 10:23 PM	#345 (permalink)
Casperman Proud Dada of an Autistic Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: state of fast horses, fast ladies and hillbilly drunkards Posts: 403	what Ticks me the most from "seeing" from the hearings... is Oh poor ya ya not able hear music.. i was like this :rme at them.. i even told them not all music that good is that right?.. and i can read the lyrics.. also i used to work as mechanic and they always asked how can i hear the engine knock, and felt sorry for me and i said I CAN FEEL if it knock or ask a hearie to help me out .. i feel sorry for uneducated hearing people...

05-31-2008, 10:43 AM	#346 (permalink)
HorseRace Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Austin TX Posts: 1,107	i second that! casper! hehe!

06-16-2008, 03:57 PM	#347 (permalink)
kipourgos Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Istanbul, Turkey Posts: 42	It's been an education reading some of these but I guess mostly I'm not surprised because there is so much unawareness of so many things. But aside from a few true assholes (people who would actually make fun of anyone for how they speak - or don't, for example), I think most of the things hearies do just comes from inexperience, or simply unawareness. Most people have good intentions but are simply clueless, and there is always an endless supply of new clueless folks! Some of what I read really has direct counterparts in the hearing world. I'm a foreigner living in Turkey; back when I was just getting my head around Turkish, people would assume I understood everything. So often, when I missed something, they'd say it again, just as fast, but as loud as possible. (Yeah, I could hear them but I may as well not have been able to.) The impatience when you don't get something, and the "oh never mind" answer sound SO familiar! And another similar one - they hear an accent and immediately start speaking what they call "Tarzanese" here. "You like live Turkey? You learn talk Turkey language good!" And it's so hard to convince them that this doesn't help! The one that I never thought about was talking and signing (or not signing) at the same time. Since I work as a translator and spent lots of my time in translator mode, I think I'd err in the opposite direction. I've been learning TSL for just a few weeks now but already I catch my hands wanting to sign what I'm talking about when I talk to my hearing housemate. I've just started meeting deaf people in Turkey, and as I do, I'm amazed at some of the comments I get from hearing people. Some just show they have never thought about it before ("But how will you communicate?" -Well, there is this thing called signing, people can learn it...) But the one that had me picking up my jaw up off the floor: "Well, just be careful, you know lots of disabled people's sexual orientations change." I don't even know where to file that one!

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