Originally Posted by Nea kophe

First of all, nice to meet you, jillio. And about your reply, I don't know what CI means (I find it very difficult to understand abbreviations), but I suppose you mean the case is different with my friend because she managed to get integrated with hearing people.
Interesting idea, but no, she didn't. Maybe I'm being too harsh with her family, but, as a result of learning too late sign language and her poor oral language, the poor girl is isolated in her own family. I've seen her at home and the vision saddens me.
Her relationship with her parents is somewhat warm, but not enough, because they only talk to her for a brief moment and only say things like "did you get fun ?" "come back home early", etc. With her sister, things are worse, my friend doesn't have a very good level of lip reading and her sister is one of these people who (because of misterious reasons) don't vocalize. Picture the situation. I can hardly understand her (and I have rests of auditions, I usually talk with people face to face without problems), so imagine the problem with my friend, since she's totally deaf (even with the cochlear implant).
My friend, although she assures hearing everything, never understand people, even if they vocalize and talk properly, her syntax is really poor and acts a bit childish most of the time. So, sorry for her parents, they meant well, but they could have educated her far better. They love her deeply, but, as it's said sometimes, love isn't enough. That's just my opinion, of course, but I'm not the one that things so. Her teachers told me the same.

Originally Posted by Nea kophe

Hi! It's me again. What Shel said, I know it's a very common situation (unfortunately), but as my parents are deaf, too, I still find very hard to understand why hearing parents refuse to learn Sign Language. My family aren't perfect, we argue quite a lot, but I sense there's closeness, no one is isolated, we always know what the other one is saying. So, excuse me for my naivety, I'm not used to that.
And, to come back to topic, returning adopted children because of deafness is maybe the best, as it's said on this thread, better than live with such parents who can't love someone only for a stupid disability, stupid because it doesn't prevent from loving and supporting you, it just hardens a bit the communication, but with some effort (the same as with any other foreign language or even easier than learning, for example, Chinese)that can also be achieved.
I don't exclude the possibility of adopting a child, and I would be glad to adopt a deaf child. At least, I can take care of him, not like these candidate to parents (if they can't love a child with disability, they'll never be good parentes, just my opinion).
Sorry if I'm being tedious. I'm not talkative at all in real life, due mainly to my deafness. I'll try to tell less nonsense next time. Bye, everyone!