Returning Adopted Deaf Children... - Page 2

jillio · 01-29-2008, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Banjo

I tried to find it, but there is nothing. It was mentioned that it is at ListenUp, a Yahoo! group. But I can't gain access to it as it is restricted to parents of deaf and HOH children.

Hmmmmm......why am I not surprised?

Interpretrator · 01-29-2008, 07:27 PM

I loathe the human race sometimes.

kimpossible · 01-29-2008, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Roadrunner

As sad as this is, isn't there a 'link' providing to the story itself rather than excerpts from others via Blogs/Vlogs? If so, it would be good to see if all possible, if not, then it may be understandable due to the fact that this girl is a minor and confidentiality prevents any details pertaining to the former adoptive parents and child.

yeah, I was hoping for a link to the actual story. i don't mean to offend, but i'll probably stay under the impression that the story was made up entirely (well, i'm THAT shocked!) until i read the story off a legitimate source.

Banjo · 01-29-2008, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by kimpossible

yeah, I was hoping for a link to the actual story. i don't mean to offend, but i'll probably stay under the impression that the story was made up entirely (well, i'm THAT shocked!) until i read the story off a legitimate source.

I have been told on several occasions that it is not uncommon for parents to return children after adopting them within a couple years. I even have heard of some where they gave the child up after 5 to 10 years of being in the family.

It happens more than people would even possibly imagine.

kimpossible · 01-29-2008, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Banjo

I have been told on several occasions that it is not uncommon for parents to return children after adopting them within a couple years. I even have heard of some where they gave the child up after 5 to 10 years of being in the family.

It happens more than people would even possibly imagine.

that's sickening... actually i believed that already, i'm a little unsure as to why i made that post in the first place. still, it'd be nice to have like, a link to a news article or something. but i can understand how that would be virtually unattainable.

RDC_girl · 01-29-2008, 10:01 PM

How awful, but sadly I am not surprised.

Banjo · 01-29-2008, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by kimpossible

that's sickening... actually i believed that already, i'm a little unsure as to why i made that post in the first place. still, it'd be nice to have like, a link to a news article or something. but i can understand how that would be virtually unattainable.

Yes, I also would like a direct link to a story. Maybe something will show up shortly. I wonder if it's the confidentiality that people may be guaranteed, which prevent the horror stories from making the news.

jillio · 01-29-2008, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Banjo

Yes, I also would like a direct link to a story. Maybe something will show up shortly. I wonder if it's the confidentiality that people may be guaranteed, which prevent the horror stories from making the news.

Yes, confidentaility ethical guidelines come into play with the release of information like this.

Miss-Delectable · 01-29-2008, 11:03 PM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

They did something similar years ago, but I don't know if they still do it today.

There's a group that tracks down people who don't pay child support. What they do is pick a person who owes a lot of money in child support and post that person's name on the billboard. "(insert full name here) owes (insert amount of money owed) in child support."

I think that's a great idea! We should implement that in Australia, but I fear we won't. We're, in my opinion, are not always tough on deadbeat parents who owes back child support.

They did say something about deducting child support from a deadbeat dad's pension because he quit his job so he won't have to pay support. But I dunno if they did that.

***VamPyroX*** · 01-29-2008, 11:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss-Delectable

I think that's a great idea! We should implement that in Australia, but I fear we won't. We're, in my opinion, are not always tough on deadbeat parents who owes back child support.

They did say something about deducting child support from a deadbeat dad's pension because he quit his job so he won't have to pay support. But I dunno if they did that.

I think that the deadbeat dad still has to pay a percentage of whatever he gets. If he gets pension, then he still has to pay a percentage.

However, I think that the percentage is stupid... because there are a lot of mothers out there who take advantage of the money and the kid only gets a tiny percentage of it.

I had a roommate who was paying child support for 3 kids. Yet, his ex-girlfriend never got each kid their own bed... had decent furnitures... good food... etc. All the kids slept on the same mattress which was on the floor. She basically hosted a huge party every month whenever she got the child support money and locked the kids in their room as she partied. He worked hard to make more money and when it came time to get his tax return, the whole return was given to his ex-girlfriend. As soon as she got the check, she called and said... "The kids are yours! Goodbye!" He got the kids and never saw his money again.

Miss-Delectable · 01-29-2008, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I think that the deadbeat dad still has to pay a percentage of whatever he gets. If he gets pension, then he still has to pay a percentage.

However, I think that the percentage is stupid... because there are a lot of mothers out there who take advantage of the money and the kid only gets a tiny percentage of it.

I had a roommate who was paying child support for 3 kids. Yet, his ex-girlfriend never got each kid their own bed... had decent furnitures... good food... etc. All the kids slept on the same mattress which was on the floor. She basically hosted a huge party every month whenever she got the child support money and locked the kids in their room as she partied. He worked hard to make more money and when it came time to get his tax return, the whole return was given to his ex-girlfriend. As soon as she got the check, she called and said... "The kids are yours! Goodbye!" He got the kids and never saw his money again.

*sigh* That's terrible. That woman's a bitch, that's for sure. I hope she had her tubes tied.

Ah, the kids should be better off with him, no?

R2D2 · 01-29-2008, 11:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Roadrunner

Another perspective to consider--in the long run, this may be a 'good' thing for the girl, in which it could possibly have prevented her from years of unhappiness. Now all we can hope for is a life of having better opportunities for her, her well-being, her happiness...afterall, life's precious and needs to be handled with care and love!

~RR

I agree. Also, I think perhaps agencies need to improve their screening of potential adoptive parents to ensure that only those who have a realistic expectation of parenting be approved. I've heard stories of parents surrendering adopted children who have no disabilities as well, simply because the parents are losers and it's up to the agency to screen them out for the child's sake. Unfortunately, some agencies are driven by money.

Kalista · 01-30-2008, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I think that the deadbeat dad still has to pay a percentage of whatever he gets. If he gets pension, then he still has to pay a percentage.

However, I think that the percentage is stupid... because there are a lot of mothers out there who take advantage of the money and the kid only gets a tiny percentage of it.

I had a roommate who was paying child support for 3 kids. Yet, his ex-girlfriend never got each kid their own bed... had decent furnitures... good food... etc. All the kids slept on the same mattress which was on the floor. She basically hosted a huge party every month whenever she got the child support money and locked the kids in their room as she partied. He worked hard to make more money and when it came time to get his tax return, the whole return was given to his ex-girlfriend. As soon as she got the check, she called and said... "The kids are yours! Goodbye!" He got the kids and never saw his money again.

Oh wow, that is extremely disgusted what kind of mother she is ! I would never to do to my two sons, I always provide them nice clothes, beds, school, food and involve sport activities. I wore poor clothes and shoes for years, the boys are more priority than anything else.

Roadrunner · 01-30-2008, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Banjo

I tried to find it, but there is nothing. It was mentioned that it is at ListenUp, a Yahoo! group. But I can't gain access to it as it is restricted to parents of deaf and HOH children.

Well, thanks for trying...perhaps it just might come up--years later?

Also, for what kimpossible implied to the possibility of the fact that this 'story' doesn't exist--that's a possibility, however, 'confidentiality' is more likely the reason for not being able to access to the 'story' itself.

Once again, thanks anyway--

~RR

PowerON · 01-30-2008, 10:51 AM

to know that I'm proud of my own mother who adopted and accept who I am.

Suppose, I go and said hey to my mom. Heyyyy mom....

Roadrunner · 01-30-2008, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by PowerON

to know that I'm proud of my own mother who adopted and accept who I am.

Suppose, I go and said hey to my mom. Heyyyy mom....

*off-topic*

You also can finish your line by saying: "Heyyyy mom....

!!"

~RR

Angel · 01-30-2008, 11:04 AM

@ Roadrunner.

Byrdie714 · 01-30-2008, 07:34 PM

I read the blogs and yet who and where is their source of information on this deaf girl?

The bloggers haven't revealed who the adoption agency is....

Babyblue · 01-30-2008, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Roadrunner

As sad as this is, isn't there a 'link' providing to the story itself rather than excerpts from others via Blogs/Vlogs? If so, it would be good to see if all possible, if not, then it may be understandable due to the fact that this girl is a minor and confidentiality prevents any details pertaining to the former adoptive parents and child.

Another perspective to consider--in the long run, this may be a 'good' thing for the girl, in which it could possibly have prevented her from years of unhappiness. Now all we can hope for is a life of having better opportunities for her, her well-being, her happiness...afterall, life's precious and needs to be handled with care and love!

~RR

It is a shame that these parents did this...I find it very disappointing and disgusting that these parents could not continue to raise her as their own.

But she did this because she did not truly love this child. Now she is expecting her own child... she will center her attention to that child and neglect the other. so in a sense this child will be better off with a loving family. NOW I hope the adoption agency will allow a good deaf family do adopt and embrace her as their own. I hope and pray for this child to learn to love and trust another family. Hopefully her emotional scars will heal over time when she finds a good loving family that will help her understand that there is nothing wrong with her and she is a beautiful person.

Kaitin · 01-30-2008, 09:30 PM

I hope the story isn't true. It is too horrible.

Dixie · 02-01-2008, 07:08 PM

Thats what Im thinking Kaitlin. As a single mom - I cannot even fathom such a thing, there is no way I can put what I feel into words, I am absolutely speechless.

When a direct source to the story is listed - I will post it on my blog.

morbid-mongoose · 02-01-2008, 09:56 PM

Why oh why do we let jackasses like that adopt in the first place?

Byrdie714 · 02-03-2008, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Roadrunner

Well, thanks for trying...perhaps it just might come up--years later?

Also, for what kimpossible implied to the possibility of the fact that this 'story' doesn't exist--that's a possibility, however, 'confidentiality' is more likely the reason for not being able to access to the 'story' itself.

Once again, thanks anyway--

~RR

Begs to ask: how can it be 'confidential' if it was posted on-line?

I agree that chances are high that this 'story' doesnt' exist.

sequoias · 02-03-2008, 10:30 PM

That's pretty cruel! It proves that the foster parents of the child wouldn't accept anyone and expect a perfect child. Foster parents HAVE to accept no matter who they adopt, I think the parents will lose the foster parent's license, so they can kiss their ass goodbye!

jillio · 02-03-2008, 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Begs to ask: how can it be 'confidential' if it was posted on-line?

I agree that chances are high that this 'story' doesnt' exist.

Stories about the story don't fall under confidentiality. However, details from the actual story do.

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