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I am sick of asking for repeats and trying to lipread when people eat, turn away, look down etc. because a stranger started talking. Then they say "Nevermind - just said "hi"". My roommates and friends now how to talk for lipreading, but others make this so hard - and even with roommates this is hard. But if my mom sees in on campus without HAs she will be upset.
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Maybe blank canvases are rare to them.
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In the hearing world we SAY "you" pointing at a person is rude simply because in english we don't have indexing or pronominalization. When a hearing person points and says you it looks like they are threatening the person. In ASL it is an indicator of who you are speaking to and is necessary. |
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Surprise you don't know it is rude to point finger at hearing people, I once said to my Dad "Look at this stranger lady" with my point finger aim at her in the street when I was about 8, my father slammed me very hard!!! It was a big lesson for me as I was confused at that time because it is ok at Deaf school!!I have been told that it is rude to point at things. Is this true ? - Yahoo! Answers
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Pointing at a stranger or pointing with anger ("Why did you ___ (point and glare)?") or "I am so mad at you (point and frown)!") or arguement is trouble I think.
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The people who work at Disneyland are taught to "point," when giving directions, by extending the full hand, I think it is, because apparently in some cultures that is seriously rude, even when trying to guide someone to someplace.
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My experience is that in SOME hearing cultures, it's rude to point. Hispanic and some Asian cultures seem to have the biggest problems with it. One of my best friends is from the Philippines, and she told me that instead of pointing with their fingers, they point with their lips!
It's a bit difficult to describe, but now that she's said it, I see it happen a lot. They'll purse their lips towards the person they'd otherwise be pointing to, inclining their neck in that person's direction, as well.I never used to give it much thought, until she told me that. Now that I'm learing ASL, it complicates things, due to ASL indexing, etc. |
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Very Interesting
This is so interesting! And I am glad someone asked this because
I was taught by a deaf instuctor that I could tap the table to get someones attention and that tossing small objects like a peice of chalk or something soft was ok too! Can anyone give me hints for getting a deaf groups attention besides the light switch? I am starting a deaf chat coffee on Dec 2nd in Willamina Oregon. When I address the group how should I get their attention? Also guess what?! The childrens librarian in Sheridan Oregon has asked me to teach a Baby Sign Class! Moms will be there and I will be signing short childrens story books as well! Any suggestions????!!!! The class will be one time a week for five weeks. How many signs should I give to learn? Which are the most important? All input welcome. |
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Know what you mean, but you know what -- because I have an unbelieveably sharp sense of smell, I'd smell them standing there, even if my back is to them and yes, it has happened before. No one can sneak up behind me or anything. I can sense they are standing there.
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Dodge, thank you for sharing Diane Kinnee's passage. It was very touching. It resonates so much with what my experience has been- wow, really, 100% of that resonates with me.
That defnitely covers a lot of do's and don't's - like don't treat a Deaf person like a garden statue in a social gathering! LOL Quote:
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I do my best to sign whatever I say when I am with deaf people but sometimes I just don't know the word and my fingerspelling is still slow! I always try to explain, upfront, that I am an ASL student and I don't know very much yet. I also figured out how to sign "please slow down" very early on! lol. My eyes are still slow to recognize signs and sometimes I get lost! |
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Another big issue is do not take over a situation that the deaf person is handling. This happened to me yesterday at my son's birthday party. My friend had to go so she left her kids with me at the party and her son was running in my in law's basement when he rammed his head in a nail (a small one) and cut it. He was bleeding out a lot so when he came up to the kitchen where I was I immediately took him in the bathroom. Once I got in there, my mother in law and husband came in and they were talking over each other and they took over. I was like "I got it...I will take care of him." They didnt hear or didnt listen to me cuz they were too busy talking to the others in the living room giving orders. So I screamed "I was fine taking care of him so get out of here!!" My husband said "There is no need to scream." but his mom wouldnt let me take care of MY friend's son whom I AM responsible for. I was soo pissed so I took all the kids, my daughter, son, and my friend's two kids home immediately without saying bye.
If a deaf person is taking care of a situation especially an emergency situation, ask if help is needed BUT DO NOT TAKE OVER as if the deaf person is inadequate. Today I am not on speaking terms with my hubby and when he gets home, I will have a long talk with him about it. I left cuz I didnt want to make a scene. My friend's son is fine..it was a small cut but boy did it bleed!! I was ready to take him to the ER last night.
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