Question between European and World culture

I need your answer on my questions... Of course debate with agree to disagree is welcome...

What you react when your friends come to visit to see you or meet them somewhere?

Just shake their hand?

Kiss on their both cheek?

Hug them?

Just wave your hand to hint "Hi"

What will you react when your friends go home?

see my all of questions above except "Hi" but "bye".




Just add your post which country, you come from and then answer the questions and also discuss why you disagree or agree to this...

to me!!! i do like give my deaf friends a hugs or kiss on both of Cheek, if we say Hi.. that is why, we like of both us. we know long time for ago. anyway I do have one best friend. she´s name is deaf Britta. We kisses on our mouth. we are big trust and she is my best friend. I sometimes kiss deaf men´s mouth too, if we like of both us too much.
if we know frist time, recently then i would be nice say hi to him and shaking hands.

I'm an American (hearing world, mostly), and I usually hug or wave to say hi, and wave to say goodbye. Whether I hug or wave depends on how old the other person is, and whether they are a relative. (Duzen und das Umarmen gehen zusammen für mich.) Shaking hands is more formal, although sometimes I do it with friends.

I did cheek-kiss when I lived in Germany, but it tends to be uncommon in the US.

Sunshinelady said:

to me!!! i do like give my deaf friends a hugs or kiss on both of Cheek, if we say Hi.. that is why, we like of both us. we know long time for ago. anyway I do have one best friend. she´s name is deaf Britta. We kisses on our mouth. we are big trust and she is my best friend. I sometimes kiss deaf men´s mouth too, if we like of both us too much.
if we know frist time, recently then i would be nice say hi to him and shaking hands.

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Yes I know what you mean.

I also give my very few close friends a mouth-kiss, I know for years (not that French kiss )

I never kiss men (friends) a mouth-kiss but friendship kiss on both cheek 3 times.

ismi said:

I did cheek-kiss when I lived in Germany, but it tends to be uncommon in the US.

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Interesting, I noticed it, too because I work for US Government and never see that Americans kiss each other on their cheek... Some Americans in my work place know European style and kiss me to say good bye before they have to go back to Iraq or US.

My American co-worker told me that it's uncommon to have cheek-kiss in America and will think we are lover if we kiss each other on our cheek... Really?

Do you live in Germany? Which part of Germany, you live?

Liebling:-))) said:

Interesting, I noticed it, too because I work for US Government and never see that Americans kiss each other on their cheek... Some Americans in my work place know European style and kiss me to say good bye before they have to go back to Iraq or US.

My American co-worker told me that it's uncommon to have cheek-kiss in America and will think we are lover if we kiss each other on our cheek... Really?

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Not necessarily - it's seen as a very European thing, though. Kissing on one cheek, or on the mouth, could go either way, but kissing on both cheeks usually means one of you is from Europe. I've seen kissing on one cheek between young (teens and 20s) female friends in the US, though.

Do you live in Germany? Which part of Germany, you live?

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Not now, but I lived in Dusseldorf for a while (I was born in the US, moved to Germany, then moved back to the US a year later). My German is not very good anymore, unfortunately ...

Here is answer on those questions.

Just shake their hand?

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I only shake the people's hand in formal way when I didn't know them well enough.

Shake the hand in Germany is very common in the public like school meeting, parental meeting, lawyer, services, etc...

Kiss on their both cheek?

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Deafies German use to kiss on both cheek 3 times is show their true friendship. 2 times on both cheek is show their friendship.
1 time on cheek is normal friendship.

Hug them?

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Yes, to my true friends including 3 times cheek-kiss.

Just wave your hand to hint "Hi"

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If I see many people around at festival, or whatever... Wave my hand "Hi"... sometimes they want to have my cheek-kiss...

What will you react when your friends go home?

see my all of questions above except "Hi" but "bye".

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All the same above.

I usually have cheek-kiss to my friends (women/men) to show friendship kiss.... (not French Kiss).

The reason I create a thread here because I will visit America as Bridemaid at Angel and Roadrunner's wedding. I don't want Americans confused or shock over my European mentality.

Liebling:-))) said:

Yes I know what you mean.

I also give my very few close friends a mouth-kiss, I know for years (not that French kiss )

I never kiss men (friends) a mouth-kiss but friendship kiss on both cheek 3 times.

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you means "French kiss".. oh my Face would be red.. lol
i dont make french kiss with him..

Kiss on mouth, most of culture deafbiker. that is why!!! i went to **********.

Liebling:-))) said:

The reason I create a thread here because I will visit America as Bridemaid at Angel and Roadrunner's wedding. I don't want Americans confused or shock over my European mentality.

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Americans won't be confused or shocked if you kiss them - it's just not a hugely common thing here. That doesn't mean we don't recognize it for what it is - another culture's expression of friendship.

I love cultural questions. Okay if you are male kiss on both checks people in the US would think one of 2 things either you are European or gay. I hug and kiss my good friends that are female always saying hello and saying good bye. Male friends just a hand shake. Good male friends grab hands pull each other close in, keeping arms in between each other and put free arm around the other’s shoulder and pat on the back once. This is a quick fluid movement and is over quickly but it tells everyone that these to men are good friends.
Cultural difference here in the US. I am gay, in gay culture when you first meet another gay man you shake their when saying hello or good bye. Once this man has become your friend you ALWAYS hug rather than shake hands. Then once they have become a better friend you hug and kiss on the cheek but just once, on both cheeks is considered pretentious or sissified. Once you have known some one for several years and you are good friends the hug remains but the kiss moves to the lips. That said we only do this in our settings. In straight settings such as straight bars or in the mall or something we will shake hands, occasionally you will see a hug but it is rare, for personal safety reasons.

It really depends on how close the friend is. A close friend, I will hug both hello and goodbye. If it is someone I am just being introduced to, I will offer my hand for a hand shake. Others, I simply say hello.

I am American and I live in England. Here they kiss cheeks. I hate that.

I don't like physical contact so much so I would prefer saying hello and leaving it at that.

In England, people give a quick peak kiss on one cheek and quick hug on friends you know well.

Warm hug with family - of course.

Still very reserved British attitudes and stay aloof for a long time.

I won't kiss a stranger first time - no thanks.

In Australia, people met NEW and stranger people, shake hand mostly done by men, women are very rare handshaker (I see more at business but not at Deaf club, teachers etc), I would say, mostly no, just saying "Hi, nice to meet you" as it is. Introducting people is a must otherwise it is rude to ignore new guests.

I just wave people Hello, and hug and of course a kiss at Deaf Club as it is Australian ways.

My daughters like to kiss both cheeks on their school friends and warm hugs, all the time!! I think Australian are more friendlier than the British's.

I don't know.

I do wish that other cultures would be more understanding of my culture and that one culture isn't superior over another culture.

Some people from other cultures consider themselves superior and expect us to follow their culture.

For instance, in America... we shake hands. In Japan, we bow. If Japanese people come to America, they bow and don't bother shaking hands. If Americans go to Japan, they consider their culture and bow instead of shaking hands.

If it is a pretty woman...

1. Grab ass

2. Pull woman towards me

3. Give a big wet KISS on the lips

4. Go to the hospital to get ice for the balls

Sunshinelady said:

to me!!! i do like give my deaf friends a hugs or kiss on both of Cheek, if we say Hi.. that is why, we like of both us. we know long time for ago. anyway I do have one best friend. she´s name is deaf Britta. We kisses on our mouth. we are big trust and she is my best friend. I sometimes kiss deaf men´s mouth too, if we like of both us too much.
if we know frist time, recently then i would be nice say hi to him and shaking hands.

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Sunshinelady,

Ummm... When you go to the USA in March, are you going to kiss an ugly guy with short hair a kiss on the lips?

I am an American, a native of NJ living in Utah...

It depends on many different things. Mostly when it is hearing friends, I just wave and shake hands.

Deaf friends, I wave and hug good bye. I rarely kiss any of my American friends.

French Deaf friends, I kiss them on the cheek three times even if I just have met them. I have kissed some of them on the mouth, both female and male, even if it was only friendship.

German Deaf friends, it depends! In the recent Deaflympics, I shook a lot of hands with some of the German people, but the German friends I were closer to, I would hug and also kiss on cheeks.

Recently I met a Dutch Deaf girl and she kissed on my cheeks when we met. I was surprised with how friendly she was.

It depends on people! I am open to what they are comfortable with.

VamPyroX said:

I don't know.

I do wish that other cultures would be more understanding of my culture and that one culture isn't superior over another culture.

Some people from other cultures consider themselves superior and expect us to follow their culture....

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At first I thought you were referring to vampire culture!

VamPyroX said:

I don't know.

I do wish that other cultures would be more understanding of my culture and that one culture isn't superior over another culture.

Some people from other cultures consider themselves superior and expect us to follow their culture.

For instance, in America... we shake hands. In Japan, we bow. If Japanese people come to America, they bow and don't bother shaking hands. If Americans go to Japan, they consider their culture and bow instead of shaking hands.

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Not really...

The people themselves who raise to learn their own culture/mentality different as other countries. It doesn't mean that we disrespect other culture but it's just mentality habits.

We have many Japanese as tourists in Rothenburg o.Tauber, Germany for years. Japanese aware each culture have different mentality and have no problem to deal with them.

When we were at Hotel in Singapore and thought we would bow them..., it's not really all. Waitresses and managers are very friendly toward children... They hugged and kisses to my boys and like to talk them... They also hugged us when we went back to Germany.

We were at China Town, some chinese bow at us or hug to us... I can see that they know the difference over culture mentalities when they see tourists in their area.

Reba said:

At first I thought you were referring to vampire culture!

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