deafbajagal

wow!!!!!!!!!!!!

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deafbajagal

I can text without looking at the road.

deafgal001

Wirelessly posted

Lol. I mean he can type without taking his eyes off the road.

Doubt he can read his text without taking he eyes off the road.

ellie111391

I am a hearing person and I just thought that I would say that the original poster was obviously not trying to offend anyone. I was slightly surprised by the number of people who replied with a defensive answer. As a hearing person, I was asking the same question and found this thread as the answer. I think that you can use a disability that you have in order to educate those around you, not to put them down for asking.

Bottesini

So??

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ellie111391

What do you mean "so??" I am simply saying that you shouldn't be offended when someone is trying to learn more about something that they do not understand. I would hope that you could be kind and help people to understand your disability. I am shocked by how rude everyone was to the original poster over this topic.

AlleyCat

When we live a life of people putting us down constantly for being deaf, it is only natural that we take a defensive stance. Try putting yourself in our shoes for a single minute, if you will (have you?) before you speak of how rude we are.

Bottesini

Yes!

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ellie111391

I am simply saying that I would not be offended if a deaf person asked me a question that pertained to me being a hearing person. I understand that you may get put down, but just about everyone has been put down. There is no excuse for rudeness.

Bottesini

You are part of the majority culture.

It is very different if you are a visible minority. Your character develops differently.

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deafskeptic

I agree with what Alleycat and Botts said.

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dogmom

ellie, as a hearing person you can learn some things on here. Try seeing things from a different perspective. One perspective that is basic to understanding is that "deaf" is not always seen as a "disability.

Bebonang

We have a right to be blunt and give you our deaf perspectives. For the life of me, I don't understand why you, hearing people, think that we can not do anything to function in a hearing world like having a house of our own even rent, raise children, drive a car and trying to find a job, even if some of us, deafies, have jobs. We have been put down many times that it just make us all rile up and say that we can not do these. Also I noticed that hearing people try to pressure us getting our deaf children to have CI so that they can hear or try to run our life when we are fully adults. It was not fair at all and we are the one to make the decisions on, not their decisions. We are not dumb. Just read what we have experiences in our deaf perspectives.

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bluemoon2606

I'm deaf on one ear and I'm always afraid that i will be completely deaf at some point. I would love to learn sign language. but as stupid as it sounds i'm scared that i might jinx it. Stupid isn't it?
I also thought if i'm deaf i will also not be able to drive my car anymore because then i wouldn't be able to hear an ambulance or a police car anymore and therefore i might not be actually allowed to drive, and already being deaf on one ear, because it has something to do with the inner ear, my equilibrium is not so good. which means i twist my ankles a lot, loosing my balance. so maybe they really tell me if i want to go on using my car to get real and to sell the car and burn my driving license.
I think if I eventually would loose my hearing on my left ear I will be hopelessly lost. I see deaf people sometimes cooping so brilliantly and I am afraid that i will not be able to cope like they do.
i'm sorry guys. you probably think i'm a stupid twit.
and i hope i didn't offend anybody

DeafCaroline

do you use your ears or your eyes to drive a car?

You may be pleasantly surprised that on average, deaf people are better drivers than hearing ones.

JanatheShort

Out of curiosity, do you think it would be rude to answer this question by saying "Well, first I put the key in the ignition..."

dereksbicycles

Trying to tell people that as a deaf person that you like driving a car with turbocharged engine, then see what they say!!! I bet they will say no one deaf or not should be driving a a car with turbocharged engine. Then they will cease to argue about whether a deaf person should be driving or not. Instead they'll be arguing on whether it's ok for anyone to drive a car with turbocharged engine or whether turbos should be outlawed.

Let them have a field day!!!!

bluemoon2606

Actually I do use my ears ... well my ear ... to hear the sound of the car. to hear if i have to shift into the next gear.
But i know what you mean.
And how come deaf people are better drivers? [i mean i knew women are ]

Lavender

I get nervous w/o ha's if I drive becuz I always depend on my ears n' eyes.

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Angel1989

I am newly deaf and just renewed my drivers license. They marked "must wear glasses" on my drivers license. No where does it state that I am deaf. If the DMV doesn't have a problem then either do I. I drive a little more carefully, look at my mirrors constantly, can't listen to my stereo and I do not talk on the phone. So actually I am a better driver because there are no distractions.

JDHammer

Been a while since my last post...

However... it depends on which vehicle i'm driving in... I have 2: a F-150 crew cab thats a massive beast - i like it for winter, hauling, and room...

My second car is a Modified Mustang V6, so when im in that... it's a bit hard to not burn rubber! Of course when no one's around that is!

dereksbicycles

Next time, get a F series truck with 7.3 Powerstroke Turbo Diesel. They rock, but I prefer Cummins Diesel.

DeafCaroline

We pay more attention.

JDHammer

I actually have the Ecoboost V6.... it rocks!

KristinaB

I have come to realize something recently and I'm not sure how to rectify this and I would love some advice of the seasoned ADers who will definitely know what I am talking about.

Now, I have been driving for the last 32 years. When we were in Central Missouri or Central Florida I really had no problem, but being back here in this big huge city is beginning to be a problem.

Because I have no way for any amplification (HA's or CI's) I totally rely on my eyes and windows and mirrors. I do not hear or feel the sirens from a firetruck, ambulance or police vehicle. I usually see them first and can move when needed. Now, on the interstate, I have no problem. I am finding that being in this city, we have lots and lots of building on most every single corner. And if there's not a building, there are tall palm trees for the city beautification. Well, in the last 6 months or so, I have had near misses with a fire truck and 2 Sheriff's cars. I can't see very far on either side of me, I have to keep an eye on the crazy drivers that spend their winters here and cant' drive worth a hoot. Not to mention, the drivers from other countries that have emigrated to this area but still retain their driving habits from where they came from.

How can I rectify this? I don't want to give up driving and I am the driver for my MIL as well as my family. My kids are not licensed thanks to the State of Florida's rules regarding home school students and such. My mother is not allowed to drive. My MIL is legally blind and can't drive. Hubby drives, but is working when I need to go places. I wish there was something that I could put in the car or SUV I am driving, that will detect a siren, and alert me when driving.

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green427

Take note: Hearing people have trouble noticing things while they drive. Notice how the average drivers don't do anything when an ambulance/fire truck/police car comes near them with sirens blaring? They don't notice it until it is right on top of them. The fact that you are asking is a good sign that you are paying attention.

My hearing co-worker had a fire truck T-bone him at an intersection, and he never heard it coming. They gave him a ticket for "inattentive driving", even though he had a green light and the fire truck ran a red light.

There are devices available to alert you from what I've heard, but I haven't researched any of them.

Banjo

The only problem is that these devices you're speaking of are illegal in a lot of places.

diehardbiker

Stay there and WAIT, I can see what this hearing person is trying to say. Just forget the "Right" because it is meaningless and mind you I am Deaf too. I understand what this hearing person is trying to ask.

Why? I happen to have similar experience as this hearing person is dealing right now. I met a person who can see but can't see the colors I asked him several questions trying to understand his own disability. I know some of my questions sounded offended to him. Do this person have the right to blast back at me? Of course not, just because I simply wants to understand what this person is dealing with. Mind you, he is the only one out of 7 people in this planet have this specific disability. I respect him more now than before because I understood his disability.

Just think this way, the attitude toward to other group of people ESPECIALLY the majority, it makes us smaller group look bad to them and the more they despise us just because we have the "right". Here is the secret trick, just forget the "Rights" and educate them, the more they understand the better response we will get from them at later time.

Tell you this, "Rights" is just word of crap! Because there are times where we need to give up rights to help others. Perfect example... look at post #236 where an idiot thinks he has absolute rights going though green light where others NEED to run red light to save somebody else. See where "rights" actually do more harm than good.

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diehardbiker

Don't worry about it, there will always be a group of people that don't even understand at all.

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J-MAC's quote: "People who try and fail are more superior than people who don't try at all"

"If people let the government decide what foods they eat and what medicines they take, their bodies will soon be in as sorry a state as the souls who live under tyranny."
Thomas Jefferson (1778)

Avatar picture is Cape Hatteras light house in OBX.

diehardbiker

There are two different types of devices that you are confused together. One is called transmitter which sends signal to traffic light control modules to turn it into green. That is illegal for anyone to get it. Second one is receivers, which is perfect legal for anyone getting one. What that does is getting signal from the transmitter and alert you of upcoming emergency vehicle or trigger the traffic light to turn green for them. Either way.

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J-MAC's quote: "People who try and fail are more superior than people who don't try at all"

"If people let the government decide what foods they eat and what medicines they take, their bodies will soon be in as sorry a state as the souls who live under tyranny."
Thomas Jefferson (1778)

Avatar picture is Cape Hatteras light house in OBX.