hey, look! another ignorant question...

10-17-2005, 10:37 PM

Please pardon my ignorance on the subject. But if I were wanting to get a deaf person's attention from across the room, what is considered polite and courteous to get their attention? I found myself in a dilemma tonight when I was attempting to get my instructor's attention. I ended up snapping out of habit.

Angel · 10-17-2005, 10:47 PM

LOL!!!

To me, it really doesn't matter as long they don't bang on the table or tag my shoulder hard enough to get my attention....

Waving to a deaf person to get their attention seems to be more polite even though it might get the others attention too, so then they will all have their eyes on ya!!....If it was all the hottie girls then you would be the luckiest man on earth!

btw, Cheri loves to snapped her fingers to get my attention, Gosh I hate that!

gnarlydorkette · 10-17-2005, 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by cental34

Please pardon my ignorance on the subject. But if I were wanting to get a deaf person's attention from across the room, what is considered polite and courteous to get their attention? I found myself in a dilemma tonight when I was attempting to get my instructor's attention. I ended up snapping out of habit.

Stomping on the grounds. I do that at my husband's home because his house is raised on a platform so you can stomp ANYWHERE in the house and he will know that I want his attention in another room.

The worst thing you can do is to throw a pen or a ball of paper... SO stupid and embarassed. [After getting hit by a pen] "WHAT THE FUCK...[hearing people gasped at the fact that a Deaf person can swear so CLEARLY] oh, what do you want, you little... *mumbling*?"

[edited: You also can wave your hands. One student in eighth grade was SO impressed by my ability to see her waving her hands out of corners of my eyes even though she was like in back of the classroom while I was all way up front... and she kept doing it over and over yet she got nothing to say to me whenever I signed to her: "What do you want?" Her: "You can SEE me waving to you?! Wow..." Oy. Eventually I ignored her waving her hands and the teacher caught her and told her to quit fooling around.

Embarassed herself...!]

10-17-2005, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ^Angel^

LOL!!!

To me, it really doesn't matter as long they don't bang on the table or tag my shoulder hard enough to get my attention....

Waving to a deaf person to get their attention seems to be more polite even though it might get the others attention too, so then they will all have their eyes on ya!!....If it was all the hottie girls then you would be the luckiest man on earth!

btw, Cheri loves to snapped her fingers to get my attention, Gosh I hate that!

Snappings fingers has become a bad habit because of work. We have to snap to get floor support's attention. Before I worked there, I couldn't even snap at all. Now I'm better then most black women.

Hmm. When I wave, I tend to flail.

Cheri · 10-17-2005, 10:51 PM

Don't try to wave your hands at Angel, I've done that she never pays attention! Just throw a rock at her, that's the only way she would look.

With me, I have very good eyes, If you trying to wave at me from the sideways, I could noticed. Whatever you do, don't bang your feet on the ground nor bang your fist on a table, It annoyed me. Hope you taking notes.

Angel · 10-17-2005, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Don't try to wave your hands at Angel, I've done that she never pays attention! Just throw a rock at her, that's the only way she would look.

Heyyy!!

10-17-2005, 10:56 PM

Ok. So stomping is considered rude to some and not to some?

Dorkette, I'll be honest with you. Throwing a pen or paper was my first inclination. I figured it was even more polite if you hit in the cephalic region or excessive velocity. I was wrong again. Sowwy.

Reba · 10-17-2005, 10:57 PM

I have a Deaf friend who works in construction. His coworkers throw nails at his hardhat to get his attention.

I am not recommending that method for you.

Angel · 10-17-2005, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by gnarlydorkette

The worst thing you can do is to throw a pen or a ball of paper... SO stupid and embarassed. [After getting hit by a pen] "WHAT THE FUCK...[hearing people gasped at the fact that a Deaf person can swear so CLEARLY] oh, what do you want, you little... *mumbling*?"

Gnarlydorkette is correct, I work for my dad at the rib cook-offs and when someone working up front and trying to get my sister and my attention when placing an order, they will sometimes throw food at us to get our attention....

I was at the cutting table, trying to cut the freaking beef which was frozen, and this guy who was working in the middle by serving the food for the customer, he was trying to get my attention while I was chopping the beef up, which he had a nerved to throw a bbq rib bone at me to get my attention, damn I swear my a@@ off at him, I told him if he ever did it again, Ill stick the bone up his a@@!! After that happened, he never did it again!....

10-17-2005, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Don't try to wave your hands at Angel, I've done that she never pays attention! Just throw a rock at her, that's the only way she would look.

With me, I have very good eyes, If you trying to wave at me from the sideways, I could noticed. Whatever you do, don't bang your feet on the ground nor bang your fist on a table, It annoyed me. Hope you taking notes.

*writes down notes and mumbles "^Angel^ likes rocks*

Hey ^Angel^!

*snaps fingers*

*throws rock at ^Angel^*

Perfect!

10-17-2005, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Reba

I have a Deaf friend who works in construction. His coworkers throw nails at his hardhat to get his attention.

I am not recommending that method for you.

Not recommeding because of the principle of throwing something at someone or because of the blunt objects?

Angel · 10-17-2005, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by cental34

*writes down notes and mumbles "^Angel^ likes rocks*

Hey ^Angel^!

*snaps fingers*

*throws rock at ^Angel^*

Perfect!

Hey Cheri? pass me the BBQ rib bone!!!...

gnarlydorkette · 10-17-2005, 11:06 PM

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Originally Posted by cental34

Not recommeding because of the principle of throwing something at someone or because of the blunt objects?

I don't think stomping on the grounds is that bad. I do understand if somebody do it too MUCH... just stomp on the ground twice and wait for the Deaf person to look.

One hearing guy had a crush on me but annoyed the hell out of me because he kept kicking the back of my chair or pulled my hair to get my attention (he sat right behind me)... So no pulling hair or kicking the chair!

Or get a laser and beam onto the board so the deaf person can see it in front of him/her... DO NOT BEAM onto a deaf person to risk the possibilty of blinding him/her! I remembered a hearing student did use a laser beam to beam onto a math teacher while he was droning... the red dot was scattered all over his white hair and the whole classroom laughed but the teacher didn't even caught the fact that he was being "targeted"... lol. Man, the eighth grade was the best year...

Cheri · 10-17-2005, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by ^Angel^

when someone working up front and trying to get my sister and my attention when placing an order, they will sometimes throw food at us to get our attention....

Matter of fact he threw a pieces of rib meats at me, and it was stuck on my hair all day, I didn't even notice until I went back to the hotel after closing and recovered a pieces of rib meats on my hair!

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I was at the cutting table, trying to cut the freaking beef which was frozen, and this guy who was working in the middle by serving the food for the customer, he was trying to get my attention while I was chopping the beef up, which he had a nerved to throw a bbq rib bone at me to get my attention, damn I swear my a@@ off at him, I told him if he ever did it again, Ill stick the bone up his a@@!! After that happened, he never did it again!....

ROFL! That is so true! You are speaking of Gary, He has no respect for deaf people, He thinks he can throw anything he wants to get our attention. One time he threw a dirty towel right in my face, Oh wasn't I pissed?!

Nancy · 10-17-2005, 11:09 PM

Most people would just tap me on the shoulder or sometimes my back.

But I have been thrown at by a small object (a wad of paper or a paperclip) once in a while to get my attention too.
One lady at my department likes to snap her fingers to get my attention, but I feel it's annoying. I don't mind people tapping me on the shoulder or my back...it's the best way to get my attention.

OhioRelayGuy · 10-17-2005, 11:09 PM

My boss is deaf at the relay center, and we just flicker the light switch and he knows we need his attention

he says thats the best way. He also tells us to stomp out feet, cuz he can tell then too. Some people may not like it but it works great for him.

Bryan

Reba · 10-17-2005, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by cental34

Not recommeding because of the principle of throwing something at someone or because of the blunt objects?

Does your instructor wear a hardhat?

(BTW, construction nails are not blunt objects; they are pointy.)

Foot stomping doesn't work good around here because many of the buildings are on concrete slabs and carpeted; there is no vibration.

10-17-2005, 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by gnarlydorkette

I don't think stomping on the grounds is that bad. I do understand if somebody do it too MUCH... just stomp on the ground twice and wait for the Deaf person to look.

One hearing guy had a crush on me but annoyed the hell out of me because he kept kicking the back of my chair or pulled my hair to get my attention (he sat right behind me)... So no pulling hair or kicking the chair!

Or get a laser and beam onto the board so the deaf person can see it in front of him/her... DO NOT BEAM onto a deaf person to risk the possibilty of blinding him/her! I remembered a hearing student did use a laser beam to beam onto a math teacher while he was droning... the red dot was scattered all over his white hair and the whole classroom laughed but the teacher didn't even caught the fact that he was being "targeted"... lol. Man, the eighth grade was the best year...

All my middle school laser pointer memories came rushing back into my head. Thanks, dorkette! That might be a good investment down the line.

Another ignorant question.

Is stomping your foot effective at all? As in, are the vibrations that apparent?

OhioRelayGuy · 10-17-2005, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Reba

Does your instructor wear a hardhat?

(BTW, construction nails are not blunt objects; they are pointy.)

Foot stomping doesn't work good around here because many of the buildings are on concrete slabs and carpeted; there is no vibration.

No hard hat

lol

Nancy · 10-17-2005, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Matter of fact he threw a pieces of rib meats at me, and it was stuck on my hair all day, I didn't even notice until I went back to the hotel after closing and recovered a pieces of rib meats on my hair!

ROFL! That is so true! You are speaking of Gary, He has no respect for deaf people, He thinks he can throw anything he wants to get our attention. One time he threw a dirty towel right in my face, Oh wasn't I pissed?!

He sounds like a very rude guy!! I would've been mad if he did stuff like that to me. I hope you two can find a way to get him to stop and be more respectful.

10-17-2005, 11:16 PM

Chris and I stomp our feet, wave our arms and flash the lights to get each other's attention, not necessarily in that order.

10-17-2005, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Cookie Monster

Chris and I stomp our feet, wave our arms and flash the lights to get each other's attention, not necessarily in that order.

No hair pulling or biting?

10-17-2005, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by cental34

No hair pulling or biting?

ROFL! I didn't know bedroom extracurricular activities was included too!!

This we do too!!

10-17-2005, 11:27 PM

Since when was it part of bedroom extracurricular? I always thought it was part of the curriculum. Silly me.

10-17-2005, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by cental34

Since when was it part of bedroom extracurricular? I always thought it was part of the curriculum. Silly me.

Mannn, we've been doing everything wrong...

signer16 · 10-18-2005, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by cental34

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Another ignorant question.

Is stomping your foot effective at all? As in, are the vibrations that apparent?

Depends on the floor, some floors carry vibrations better than others, (i.e., wood better than concrete). When I want a deaf person's attention, I usually wave my hand in the "deafie" way, or tap them.
WARNING: This doesn't always work if you get used to it and do it in hearing culture. Hearing people think you are perverted, agressive, or just plain weird.
Those are great tactics when you are near each other in a room. In the case of a larger distance or laziness

throwing something is okay, but something kinda big and soft! Nothing that could take a person's eye out. Eyes are important to everyone, but deaf people have an even stronger um...shall we say... attraction to them than most. You will be chewed out for throwing some potentially harmful, whether you hurt someone or not. This is also in very informal settings. (i.e. dorm room) Don't do this in business meeting.
Flashing lights are great for getting a group of people's attention, or if u want to let a deaf person know you are entering a room and they aren't facing you.
If you want the attention of someone across the room, if can catch the attention of someone across the room, and ask them to tap that person for you, that works.
umm.... what else do I do? Turning off the TV the person is watching seems to work, lol, no guarantee on the TYPE of person you will be getting a response from though.
okay, hope I helped, gn

tegumi · 10-18-2005, 12:15 PM

Okay, now my turn for an ingnorant question.... How does snapping get the attention of a deaf person? Does it have something to do with the pitch or decibels or whatever you wanna call it?

Big E · 10-18-2005, 01:03 PM

My little brother used to punch me to get my attention. I can hear enough to hear him yell my name, but I sometimes end up in "deep thoughts." He used to punch me when I would snore. We had bunk-beds. I still love him.

The other day, I tried to get my teacher's attention (she is deaf) by snapping. I'm such a moron. Anyway, as soon as I waved, she turned around.

GalaxyAngel · 10-18-2005, 01:18 PM

Mostly use stomp on the floor..
Waving, and flickering light.

Espically I really hurts my leg while stomping harder and repeatly harder.. need get attention my hubby. He has a log body doesn't feel anything vibrates distance across the bedroom from living room. (gawd) give me a break.. So I asked my kid can you get Daddy for me please....

Sometimes, My kid said, Daddy isn't coming. I was kind *little fumes* so and apporched to my hubby, What my kid said to you ? My hubby turns into red and said uh.. um... I don't know.. Geez.. My kid was trying to tell Dad, that Mommy want you.. sumth'n like that...

My long years ago when I was high school.. Deaf Teacher.. Mo

10-17-2005, 10:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
apathrev Guest Posts: n/a	hey, look! another ignorant question... Please pardon my ignorance on the subject. But if I were wanting to get a deaf person's attention from across the room, what is considered polite and courteous to get their attention? I found myself in a dilemma tonight when I was attempting to get my instructor's attention. I ended up snapping out of habit.

10-17-2005, 10:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 19,088	LOL!!! To me, it really doesn't matter as long they don't bang on the table or tag my shoulder hard enough to get my attention.... Waving to a deaf person to get their attention seems to be more polite even though it might get the others attention too, so then they will all have their eyes on ya!!....If it was all the hottie girls then you would be the luckiest man on earth! btw, Cheri loves to snapped her fingers to get my attention, Gosh I hate that! __________________ "When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is brought in our life, OR in the life of another." ~ Helen Keller

10-17-2005, 10:51 PM	#5 (permalink)
Cheri Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 21,022	Don't try to wave your hands at Angel, I've done that she never pays attention! Just throw a rock at her, that's the only way she would look. With me, I have very good eyes, If you trying to wave at me from the sideways, I could noticed. Whatever you do, don't bang your feet on the ground nor bang your fist on a table, It annoyed me. Hope you taking notes. __________________

10-17-2005, 11:09 PM	#16 (permalink)
OhioRelayGuy USA Relay = 711 Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Dayton Ohio Posts: 74	my boss My boss is deaf at the relay center, and we just flicker the light switch and he knows we need his attention he says thats the best way. He also tells us to stomp out feet, cuz he can tell then too. Some people may not like it but it works great for him. Bryan

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10-17-2005, 10:56 PM	#7 (permalink)
apathrev Guest Posts: n/a	Ok. So stomping is considered rude to some and not to some? Dorkette, I'll be honest with you. Throwing a pen or paper was my first inclination. I figured it was even more polite if you hit in the cephalic region or excessive velocity. I was wrong again. Sowwy.

10-17-2005, 10:57 PM	#8 (permalink)
Reba Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 17,237	I have a Deaf friend who works in construction. His coworkers throw nails at his hardhat to get his attention. I am not recommending that method for you.

10-17-2005, 11:09 PM	#15 (permalink)
Nancy Registered User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Central FL Posts: 2,289	Most people would just tap me on the shoulder or sometimes my back. But I have been thrown at by a small object (a wad of paper or a paperclip) once in a while to get my attention too. One lady at my department likes to snap her fingers to get my attention, but I feel it's annoying. I don't mind people tapping me on the shoulder or my back...it's the best way to get my attention.

10-17-2005, 11:16 PM	#21 (permalink)
Cookie Monster Guest Posts: n/a	Chris and I stomp our feet, wave our arms and flash the lights to get each other's attention, not necessarily in that order.

10-17-2005, 11:27 PM	#24 (permalink)
apathrev Guest Posts: n/a	Since when was it part of bedroom extracurricular? I always thought it was part of the curriculum. Silly me.

10-18-2005, 12:15 PM	#27 (permalink)
tegumi Registered User Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Washington State Posts: 421	Okay, now my turn for an ingnorant question.... How does snapping get the attention of a deaf person? Does it have something to do with the pitch or decibels or whatever you wanna call it?

10-18-2005, 01:03 PM	#28 (permalink)
Big E Meum pactum dictum Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: MA Posts: 40	My little brother used to punch me to get my attention. I can hear enough to hear him yell my name, but I sometimes end up in "deep thoughts." He used to punch me when I would snore. We had bunk-beds. I still love him. The other day, I tried to get my teacher's attention (she is deaf) by snapping. I'm such a moron. Anyway, as soon as I waved, she turned around.