Deaf and happy ??

Audiofuzzy · 07-31-2005, 03:11 PM

Are you happy being deaf? How do you feel about being deaf?

Do you think you would be happier if you could be "normal" ? meaning- all senses, body and health in general intact?
or it doesn't matter?

Fuzzy

CODAchild · 07-31-2005, 03:46 PM

I am not deaf, but, my parent's were and they were happy that they didn't have to hear my sister and I fight all the time, and also my husband is deaf, and he is happy so he doesn't have to hear me talk so much.

On a serious note, coming from a deaf family, what has made me happy is all the deaf people that my parent's were friends with that I have grown up with. Every Sunday all deaf families would go to Sand Hill Cove Beach and have lots of fun together. Go to Goddard Park for deaf outings. I have so many deaf people in my life, they didn't treat me as an outsider, but as one of them. The deaf that I have grown up with are my second family, and always will be. The memories of my childhood with the deaf, make me very happy because they were all good ones.

Learning deaf culture through my parent's has made me more deafsmart and deafobservant. I was very lucky to be born into a deaf family, and then to marry a very wonderful deaf man. This is where fate has lead me, and I don't regret one single minute of it.

Now, fate has lead me to Alldeaf, and all of you wonderful people here on Alldeaf, who is the happier and luckier one? Me!!!

Audiofuzzy · 07-31-2005, 04:05 PM

Thank you

that's beautiful..

Please keep posting I am being asked can a deaf person be really happy since I am HoH functioning as Hearie I have no arguments. I do know deaf people CAN be happy but I need arguments, please..

Fuzzy

Levonian · 07-31-2005, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by CODAchild

I was very lucky to be born into a deaf family, and then to marry a very wonderful deaf man. This is where fate has lead me, and I don't regret one single minute of it.

Sometimes I wish I had normal hearing, but I really don’t sweat it that much. I’m very lucky to have all the residual hearing that I do have—by all rights I should be deaf as a rock. And I’m married to a beautiful deaf woman. I do have one complaint though—I thought that if I married a deaf woman it would be safe to fart in bed. Not so—she can feel the vibrations through the mattress, dammit!

Nancy · 07-31-2005, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Levonian

I do have one complaint though—I thought that if I married a deaf woman it would be safe to fart in bed. Not so—she can feel the vibrations through the mattress, dammit!

CODAchild · 07-31-2005, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Levonian

Sometimes I wish I had normal hearing, but I really don’t sweat it that much. I’m very lucky to have all the residual hearing that I do have—by all rights I should be deaf as a rock. And I’m married to a beautiful deaf woman. I do have one complaint though—I thought that if I married a deaf woman it would be safe to fart in bed. Not so—she can feel the vibrations through the mattress, dammit!

How true that is, that is why I don't eat peanut butter late at night anymore. Strange vibrations in the night!!

HiBluE01 · 08-01-2005, 03:15 AM

Yah, I am happy that I am deaf that does matter to me.

**Liebling:-)))** · 08-01-2005, 05:07 AM

You made beautiful post, CODAchild.

Levonian, you impossible funny

Well, I accept my deafness at long time ago. Thanks my parents!!!!

I complaint my parents over my deafness when I was a little girl but my parents took my negatively away and give me positive.

diehardbiker · 08-01-2005, 09:56 AM

Number one, I never understood the sounds
number two, it has been like this since I got out of my mama's tummy.
number three, I am now over the hill

do you think I would tolerate be able to hear the sounds?
I really don't think so, and if it sure happens I will surely get two M-80s firecrackers between my head and light em both til they kaboom. Then Im back to normal as in deaf world.

I think this answer your question already. Obviously, eh?

Quote:

Originally Posted by Audiofuzzy

Are you happy being deaf? How do you feel about being deaf?

Do you think you would be happier if you could be "normal" ? meaning- all senses, body and health in general intact?
or it doesn't matter?

Fuzzy

Raging Quiet · 08-01-2005, 10:59 AM

When I was younger and went to mainstream school, there were times when I was fed up of being deaf and wanted to hear. I felt down about the fact that my friends could hear on the phone, they all had conversations that I didnt understand etc.

But now...I LOVE being deaf! I wouldnt change it for the world, and the reason why is that I got involved in the Deaf culture and made some wonderful friends from there. If I was offered a chance to become hearing, I would turn it down right away, Im not interested in the hearing community as the Deaf community rocks!

julysrain · 08-01-2005, 01:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Levonian

Sometimes I wish I had normal hearing, but I really don’t sweat it that much. I’m very lucky to have all the residual hearing that I do have—by all rights I should be deaf as a rock. And I’m married to a beautiful deaf woman. I do have one complaint though—I thought that if I married a deaf woman it would be safe to fart in bed. Not so—she can feel the vibrations through the mattress, dammit!

OH MY GOSH LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

***VamPyroX*** · 08-01-2005, 01:41 PM

I'm deaf and happy. I have no problems with it. The only problem is understanding hearing people when they talk. However, I don't let that stop me. I simply pull out a pen and scrap paper, and let that do the talking.

Daisy loves Jay · 08-02-2005, 04:34 PM

I'm happy being hard of hearing.
Living without it, life would be boring. No offense to people that can hear.

It's such a part of me that I'd imagine I wouldn't be the same person.
Even though I can't hear people when they talk, I don't really care.
Come to think of it, I never really treated my hearing problem as an actual problem, since I can't get hearing aids, nor had a helper in school.

jazzy · 08-02-2005, 04:58 PM

Why not?

Why should I not be happy for being who I am. Deaf came with a package just alike color of hair, eyes, size of body, she/he, and many list to on.

I am so damn glad I am alive and well and being deaf than being dead and not know what is alike to be alive and free to walk around here on this planet.

Lantana · 08-02-2005, 06:54 PM

I like Jazzy's post! EVERYONE has a handicap of some kind. Everyone! And I would much prefer to be deaf over being unable to read and write.

Everyone has their rock to carry, deafness happens to be our rock. Big deal, we can cope with it!

08-02-2005, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Lantana

I like Jazzy's post! EVERYONE has a handicap of some kind. Everyone! And I would much prefer to be deaf over being unable to read and write.

Everyone has their rock to carry, deafness happens to be our rock. Big deal, we can cope with it!

Lantana echoes my sentiments because I am happy who I am. I am blessed with the ability to write and talk because I was mainstreamed. I can express myself using words and the wonderful ability of literary writing is beautiful when one can do such creative writing. Sitting on your hiney, feeling sorry for yourself and the fact you are Deaf, doesn't help one bit.

deafdyke · 08-02-2005, 07:06 PM

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deafness happens to be our rock. Big deal, we can cope with it!

and it's not THAT big of a deal....God, some people are such IDOITS when it comes to deafness...I remmy a guy IMing me and saying "oh it must be so hard and weird to be deaf"......Umm...no it's not! I have never been able to hear like a hearing person, so I don't miss it!

08-02-2005, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by deafdyke

and it's not THAT big of a deal....God, some people are such IDOITS when it comes to deafness...I remmy a guy IMing me and saying "oh it must be so hard and weird to be deaf"......Umm...no it's not! I have never been able to hear like a hearing person, so I don't miss it!

deafdyke, I wouldn't go as far to call people "idiots" because they wonder if it is so hard or weird to be deaf. Remember they have never experienced deafness and vice versa for us, we have never experienced hearing. It's best to educate a person so they can learn from each other, who knows.. they can learn much more from us.

deafdyke · 08-02-2005, 07:29 PM

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I wouldn't go as far to call people "idiots" because they wonder if it is so hard or weird to be deaf. Remember they have never experienced deafness and vice versa for us, we have never experienced hearing.

Cookie Monster, he didn't say he wondered....he assumed that it was hard...like he was assuming that it was horrible and I live my life as an object of pity.....can't stand those types. I am deaf just the way my friends are Greek, Irish, Italian, Portugese etc.....

08-02-2005, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by deafdyke

Cookie Monster, he didn't say he wondered....he assumed that it was hard...like he was assuming that it was horrible and I live my life as an object of pity.....can't stand those types. I am deaf just the way my friends are Greek, Irish, Italian, Portugese etc.....

If I may share a quote with you that a good friend shared with me, "The truth bites you in the ass." When you were IMed and he assumed that being Deaf was horrible and you led a life as "pity object", what he didn't realise is that he had a lot to be educated about the Deaf culture.

Levonian · 08-02-2005, 10:15 PM

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Originally Posted by deafdyke

he assumed that it was hard...like he was assuming that it was horrible and I live my life as an object of pity.....

Being deaf can be horrible. Imagine that you are a small child undergoing oral exercises in the 1960’s. Imagine sitting there for hour after hour, every day, while a disgusting woman who eats garlic for lunch forces you to repeat the same word over and over and over again while she has her hand clamped around your neck in an LAPD choke hold. If you make a mistake she locks you in a dark coat closet for four hours. That’s how Mayflower grew up.

jazzy · 08-03-2005, 12:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Levonian

Being deaf can be horrible. Imagine that you are a small child undergoing oral exercises in the 1960’s. Imagine sitting there for hour after hour, every day, while a disgusting woman who eats garlic for lunch forces you to repeat the same word over and over and over again while she has her hand clamped around your neck in an LAPD choke hold. If you make a mistake she locks you in a dark coat closet for four hours. That’s how Mayflower grew up.

It is child abuse. I had a scar of this too by this teacher. She hated me and choked me couple time if I do not pay attention to her little lip which it was too far for me to read her lips. I still have hard time to forgive her to this day. But little every child back in 60's got a share of abuse as well.

Levonian · 08-03-2005, 12:27 AM

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Originally Posted by jazzy

It is child abuse. I had a scar of this too by this teacher. She hated me and choked me couple time if I do not pay attention to her little lip which it was too far for me to read her lips. I still have hard time to forgive her to this day. But little every child back in 60's got a share of abuse as well.

How old are you now?

jazzy · 08-03-2005, 12:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by deafdyke

and it's not THAT big of a deal....God, some people are such IDOITS when it comes to deafness...I remmy a guy IMing me and saying "oh it must be so hard and weird to be deaf"......Umm...no it's not! I have never been able to hear like a hearing person, so I don't miss it!

I had someone told me yesterday on other forum, "Oh I am sorry you are deaf". I was thinking wow, this one has no idea who I am. I told him I am happy to be deaf and it is who I am.

deafdyke · 08-03-2005, 01:31 AM

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It is child abuse.

I STILL think that going oral only is child abuse...Actually I think that ANY "healthy normal" mentality in raising kids with disablities is child abuse...I see too many kids with disabilties end up with horrible self esteem b/c they were teased, or b/c they don't have 100% access to the hearing/walking/seeing/fill in the blank world.....

Deaf_Jen · 08-03-2005, 05:09 AM

i like being deaf... it ets me apart from the others..... life is sent to try us... and ive found away to work with my hearing....

**Liebling:-)))** · 08-03-2005, 05:25 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Levonian

Being deaf can be horrible. Imagine that you are a small child undergoing oral exercises in the 1960’s. Imagine sitting there for hour after hour, every day, while a disgusting woman who eats garlic for lunch forces you to repeat the same word over and over and over again while she has her hand clamped around your neck in an LAPD choke hold. If you make a mistake she locks you in a dark coat closet for four hours. That’s how Mayflower grew up.

It's very sad story... it touch my heart to see cute Mayflower had been through.

Yes, I'm agree with others that it's child abuse...

Frisky Feline · 02-27-2013, 01:57 PM

Cdodd · 02-27-2013, 03:43 PM

Well, I'm not deaf *yet* but I'm not really concerned about it. It's getting harder to hear in certain places, and sometimes it's frustrating having to ask "what" multiple times, but I'd be a liar if I said I hated the process. I live on experience... It's an experience, albeit an occasionally frustrating one that's going to impact my life in a big way someday.

When it happens it happens.

I can't entirely speak for the future, but I'm not scared, and I don't see myself being unhappy. Only time will tell, though.

dereksbicycles · 02-27-2013, 04:19 PM

It's really cool!!! People can look and say, " Hey that deaf guy over there is soooo sexy!! He cannot hear, but he has the ability to drive a car with turbocharged engine. It must be soooo cool!!"

Secondly, I'm sure that deaf cats, deaf dogs, deaf ferrets, and deaf rabbits will feel instant connection because their owner(s) is deaf.

07-31-2005, 03:11 PM	#1 (permalink)
Audiofuzzy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 3,384	Deaf and happy ?? Are you happy being deaf? How do you feel about being deaf? Do you think you would be happier if you could be "normal" ? meaning- all senses, body and health in general intact? or it doesn't matter? Fuzzy

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CODAchild Registered User Join Date: May 2005 Location: Cranston, Rhode Island Posts: 2,767	I am not deaf, but, my parent's were and they were happy that they didn't have to hear my sister and I fight all the time, and also my husband is deaf, and he is happy so he doesn't have to hear me talk so much. On a serious note, coming from a deaf family, what has made me happy is all the deaf people that my parent's were friends with that I have grown up with. Every Sunday all deaf families would go to Sand Hill Cove Beach and have lots of fun together. Go to Goddard Park for deaf outings. I have so many deaf people in my life, they didn't treat me as an outsider, but as one of them. The deaf that I have grown up with are my second family, and always will be. The memories of my childhood with the deaf, make me very happy because they were all good ones. Learning deaf culture through my parent's has made me more deafsmart and deafobservant. I was very lucky to be born into a deaf family, and then to marry a very wonderful deaf man. This is where fate has lead me, and I don't regret one single minute of it. Now, fate has lead me to Alldeaf, and all of you wonderful people here on Alldeaf, who is the happier and luckier one? Me!!! Bebonang and NitroHonda like this.

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HiBluE01 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Ask me! Posts: 2,493	Yah, I am happy that I am deaf that does matter to me. laj77 likes this. __________________ HiBlUE01

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Liebling:-))) Sussi 7.7.86 - 18.6.09 Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Germany Posts: 31,038	You made beautiful post, CODAchild. Levonian, you impossible funny Well, I accept my deafness at long time ago. Thanks my parents!!!! I complaint my parents over my deafness when I was a little girl but my parents took my negatively away and give me positive. laj77 likes this. __________________

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Raging Quiet Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: England Posts: 584	When I was younger and went to mainstream school, there were times when I was fed up of being deaf and wanted to hear. I felt down about the fact that my friends could hear on the phone, they all had conversations that I didnt understand etc. But now...I LOVE being deaf! I wouldnt change it for the world, and the reason why is that I got involved in the Deaf culture and made some wonderful friends from there. If I was offered a chance to become hearing, I would turn it down right away, Im not interested in the hearing community as the Deaf community rocks! Bebonang likes this. __________________

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07-31-2005, 04:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
Audiofuzzy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 3,384	Thank you that's beautiful.. Please keep posting I am being asked can a deaf person be really happy since I am HoH functioning as Hearie I have no arguments. I do know deaf people CAN be happy but I need arguments, please.. Fuzzy

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*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: 40.18, 58.41 Posts: 34,162	I'm deaf and happy. I have no problems with it. The only problem is understanding hearing people when they talk. However, I don't let that stop me. I simply pull out a pen and scrap paper, and let that do the talking. laj77 likes this. __________________ Check out my city... C L I C K H E R E! (If you've already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

08-02-2005, 04:34 PM	#13 (permalink)
Daisy loves Jay Registered User Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 13	I'm happy being hard of hearing. Living without it, life would be boring. No offense to people that can hear. It's such a part of me that I'd imagine I wouldn't be the same person. Even though I can't hear people when they talk, I don't really care. Come to think of it, I never really treated my hearing problem as an actual problem, since I can't get hearing aids, nor had a helper in school.

08-02-2005, 04:58 PM	#14 (permalink)
jazzy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: High desert in Calif Posts: 4,208	Why not? Why should I not be happy for being who I am. Deaf came with a package just alike color of hair, eyes, size of body, she/he, and many list to on. I am so damn glad I am alive and well and being deaf than being dead and not know what is alike to be alive and free to walk around here on this planet. Bebonang and laj77 like this.

08-02-2005, 06:54 PM	#15 (permalink)
Lantana Registered User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Oregon Coast/Washington Coast/Hawaii Posts: 400	I like Jazzy's post! EVERYONE has a handicap of some kind. Everyone! And I would much prefer to be deaf over being unable to read and write. Everyone has their rock to carry, deafness happens to be our rock. Big deal, we can cope with it! Bebonang likes this. __________________ "The best things in life are not things."

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Deaf_Jen Registered User Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 171	i like being deaf... it ets me apart from the others..... life is sent to try us... and ive found away to work with my hearing....

02-27-2013, 01:57 PM	#28 (permalink)
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02-27-2013, 03:43 PM	#29 (permalink)
Cdodd Registered User Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Utah Posts: 170 Blog Entries: 1	Well, I'm not deaf yet but I'm not really concerned about it. It's getting harder to hear in certain places, and sometimes it's frustrating having to ask "what" multiple times, but I'd be a liar if I said I hated the process. I live on experience... It's an experience, albeit an occasionally frustrating one that's going to impact my life in a big way someday. When it happens it happens. I can't entirely speak for the future, but I'm not scared, and I don't see myself being unhappy. Only time will tell, though.

02-27-2013, 04:19 PM	#30 (permalink)
dereksbicycles Registered User Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: 60202 Posts: 3,817	It's really cool!!! People can look and say, " Hey that deaf guy over there is soooo sexy!! He cannot hear, but he has the ability to drive a car with turbocharged engine. It must be soooo cool!!" Secondly, I'm sure that deaf cats, deaf dogs, deaf ferrets, and deaf rabbits will feel instant connection because their owner(s) is deaf.

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