Sign in if you're proud to be Deaf - Page 7

***Jolie77*** · 03-10-2008, 05:52 PM

I'm definitely in. I'm not just "in" because the bandwagon says so. I am in because being deaf is who I am and it makes me to be the person I am today.

I am not saying that it is all about the deaf-power thing. It just means that I am who I am by being deaf. That's the identity I will have as long as I live.

Dixie · 03-10-2008, 07:32 PM

Im in.

JClarke · 03-10-2008, 07:35 PM

I'm in

Buffalo · 03-10-2008, 08:49 PM

Count me in !

deafbajagal · 03-10-2008, 09:30 PM

Wow, this thread rose from the grave, didn't it?

I'm just like my belly button - innie!

moonflower · 03-10-2008, 11:14 PM

i am in

***VamPyroX*** · 03-11-2008, 12:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SkullChick

Um... being proud of deafness, count me OUT.
But accepting my deafness count me in.

Big difference.

Reason?
* Missing out so much stuff.
* Limitations.
* Unnecessary challenges.
* Communication breakdown.
* Getting judged in a negative way about my disability.
* Can't hear important sounds like fire alarm, emergency siren, baby crying or if someone got hurt, if natural disaster happened in my sleep or when my CI battery died I wouldn't know, and that's scariest thing ever.
* I want to be able to just walk up to hearing person and start conversating no problem or being able to have small talk and respond to people talking to me.
* 1000000 reasons I'm not proud to be deaf.

BUT I do love ASL. If its totally my choice I'd rather to be Hearing that know ASL. But I'm deaf so I accept it and try to lessen the effect of being deaf much as I can. Hence the CI to hear important sound in my waking hours, hear if people say excuse me or talk to me behind my back I'd acknowledge it and turn around to smile or point at my ear. Being able to understand people talking to me much better but I wish I can speak back but I'll work on my confidence to use my speech and practice to get it back in shape as for now CI's been wonderful help.

Also on the note, I'm not trying to be hearing! Why is it that if you get CI you were "trying to be hearing"??? I'm so tired of seeing this "I don't want CI cuz I'm proud to be deaf" but hearing aid is fine and automatically is acceptable but CI automatically mean to try to be hearing? Just stop doing this immature bs please.

I understand what you mean.

I also accept my deafness.

***~SG~*** · 03-11-2008, 12:46 AM

I'm in.

Calvin · 03-11-2008, 01:43 AM

There's 2 doors - deaf door on the left, and hearing door on the right...

I'm walking to the left and opens the deaf door and closes behind me

I'm IN!

Sasha64 · 03-11-2008, 01:58 AM

Am in both way proud to be Deaf, also have accepted my Deafness and hat it will always be part of my whole life from birth to the very end of my last breath.

farewell65 · 03-11-2008, 08:00 AM

I am in

lilylover72 · 03-11-2008, 09:01 AM

I am in! I am so proud of being deaf! Smile

ScubaladyTx · 03-11-2008, 02:10 PM

Deaf can do anything...ya name it! ! Who said that "Limitations" ? ? Nah, I don't THINK SO.... Humans are Humans... Nothing with "Deaf" issue. I'm talking about here is HUMANS! Deaf can't hear. Thats all.

M-

Pacman · 03-11-2008, 03:11 PM

I'm totally in!!!

SkullChick, it's against AD rule to bring all PM up on public area without GA's permission, just report to mod or admin and don't bother her (GA), just let you know about AD rule.

SkullChick · 03-11-2008, 03:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pacman

I'm totally in!!!

SkullChick, it's against AD rule to bring all PM up on public area without GA's permission, just report to mod or admin and don't bother her (GA), just let you know about AD rule.

Ohh I didn't know, thank Pacman for letting me know.

Yeah I did, thanks I'm not gonna bother anymore

Tousi · 03-11-2008, 03:40 PM

I would be interested, now, what the extent of being "in" is. In other words, what is the extent of your enculturation? (is that a word, lol?).

AlleyCat · 03-11-2008, 04:09 PM

I'm proud to be deaf, because I've accepted who I am and all that I can do.

KarissaMann05 · 03-11-2008, 08:10 PM

I used to be so ashamed, so depressing, to feel so stupid, and to feel so worthless because of my deafness. I also used to be teased and was picked on by some students of public students because of my voice was so bizarre to them and some of them were so mean to me. So, I stopped to use my voice for speech when I was only young a little.
I fear my family when I thought they were just looked down at me because of "deaf and dumb" subject. I actually refused to share or to be open-minded with my family, that reason was I couldn't trust them because I thought they were not always understood me fully. I sometimes felt like they are my "friends" rather than they are actually my family.
I was so stupid as if I felt like it was, very ashamed for who I am, definitely hated myself for that (not just because of deafness but my appearance was inculded too..), and stong low-esteem. I could less care for almost everything I hated for.. I almost never took sports or to social some students, and I never trust anybody else but my best friends.
When I was eleven years old, I moved to different school from the public school and everthing was so worse for me. I was completely aparted out and "lost" my happiness, I got only two friends and was teased brutally by students. Everything went so worser, worser, and especially each pain I gained when it came a tough thing on me. I tried to kill myself at only ten years old a few times before moved to different school, and later, I again tried to kill myself sometimes at age of thirteen to a several months before fifteen years old. Even, my mom tried to support me and to encourage me to accpet my deafness and to be proud but I refused because I was too depressing and hated myself.

However...

When it was a little more than few months before my fifteenth birthday and... I finally realized no one (except my mom) would help me, not for a second at all. So I determinded to force myself fully to manage my life to recover my wounds I used to grew up with this. I researched on deafness for positive and supportive only, evenually I was oftenly visited LiveJournal (until I finally became a member of LJ recurrently), I read some books about deaf things and their lives, and my mom helped me sometimes for encouraging me to be proud for my deafness. (You can visit the Thread, "Why would you not choose to have CI?", and you will see why.) I also visited a few deaf websites and I went to watch ASL drama, amazing Pete Cook, wonderful deaf dramas, and etc etc AT MY EX DEAF SCHOOL. I listened to some students' experience stories, too. I also learned Deaf history when I was only freshman (I think?) and...

Finally, I realized I wasted my time of being down because of my deafness was "sucks", and "ashamed of being deaf" WAS NOT an optional for me. Besides, my wantness for having CI was on a base of wasting my time too.

After my fifteen of age, I slowly and successfully managed to recover my wounds as a normal life I get back BY ALL THE WAY FOR MYSELF (with some help from my mom and a several of my (best) friends). At the same, I was more invovled with my family no matter what or how they treat me.

I thanked my mom for encouraging me to be proud for my deafness. Now, I am so happy that I am Deaf and I don't feel so ashamed of it anymore. Well, I sometimes feel I don't like my life because of my bad memories, yeah, it's hard for me to let them go. Bah, aha. I am still supported my precious family with all of my heart.

Oh, of course, and my best friends too.

SO, I AM IN!!!

(Please be respect my personal experience story. Thank you.)

shel90 · 03-11-2008, 08:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mann_K05

I used to be so ashamed, so depressing, to feel so stupid, and to feel so worthless because of my deafness. I also used to be teased and was picked on by some students of public students because of my voice was so bizarre to them and some of them were so mean to me. So, I stopped to use my voice for speech when I was only young a little.
I fear my family when I thought they were just looked down at me because of "deaf and dumb" subject. I actually refused to share or to be open-minded with my family, that reason was I couldn't trust them because I thought they were not always understood me fully. I sometimes felt like they are my "friends" rather than they are actually my family.
I was so stupid as if I felt like it was, very ashamed for who I am, definitely hated myself for that (not just because of deafness but my appearance was inculded too..), and stong low-esteem. I could less care for almost everything I hated for.. I almost never took sports or to social some students, and I never trust anybody else but my best friends.
When I was eleven years old, I moved to different school from the public school and everthing was so worse for me. I was completely aparted out and "lost" my happiness, I got only two friends and was teased brutally by students. Everything went so worser, worser, and especially each pain I gained when it came a tough thing on me. I tried to kill myself at only ten years old a few times before moved to different school, and later, I again tried to kill myself sometimes at age of thirteen to a several months before fifteen years old. Even, my mom tried to support me and to encourage me to accpet my deafness and to be proud but I refused because I was too depressing and hated myself.

However...

When it was a little more than few months before my fifteenth birthday and... I finally realized no one (except my mom) would help me, not for a second at all. So I determinded to force myself fully to manage my life to recover my wounds I used to grew up with this. I researched on deafness for positive and supportive only, evenually I was oftenly visited LiveJournal (until I finally became a member of LJ recurrently), I read some books about deaf things and their lives, and my mom helped me sometimes for encouraging me to be proud for my deafness. (You can visit the Thread, "Why would you not choose to have CI?", and you will see why.) I also visited a few deaf websites and I went to watch ASL drama, amazing Pete Cook, wonderful deaf dramas, and etc etc AT MY EX DEAF SCHOOL. I listened to some students' experience stories, too. I also learned Deaf history when I was only freshman (I think?) and...

Finally, I realized I wasted my time of being down because of my deafness was "sucks", and "ashamed of being deaf" WAS NOT an optional for me. Besides, my wantness for having CI was on a base of wasting my time too.

After my fifteen of age, I slowly and successfully managed to recover my wounds as a normal life I get back BY ALL THE WAY FOR MYSELF (with some help from my mom and a several of my (best) friends). At the same, I was more invovled with my family no matter what or how they treat me.

I thanked my mom for encouraging me to be proud for my deafness. Now, I am so happy that I am Deaf and I don't feel so ashamed of it anymore. Well, I sometimes feel I don't like my life because of my bad memories, yeah, it's hard for me to let them go. Bah, aha. I am still supported my precious family with all of my heart.

Oh, of course, and my best friends too.

SO, I AM IN!!!

(Please be respect my personal experience story. Thank you.)

wow!! The pain u felt was the same pain I felt too growing up around only hearing kids.

Like I said in another thread, your mom is amazing for her encouragement!

KarissaMann05 · 03-11-2008, 08:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

wow!! The pain u felt was the same pain I felt too growing up around only hearing kids.

Like I said in another thread, your mom is amazing for her encouragement!

Really? Were you in my shoes, do you think so? Wow, I don't know that.

for postive comment.

shel90 · 03-11-2008, 08:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mann_K05

Really? Were you in my shoes, do you think so? Wow, I don't know that.

for postive comment.

I used to hate myself and blame myself for not being able to hear like my hearing peers could. I thought I didnt work hard enough in speech therapy and then I developed self-destructive behaviors to get the acceptance from the people in my life. I used to kiss hearing people's asses and was afraid to speak up for fear that I would be left even more isolated...the list goes on and on...

I didnt learn ASL until about 10 years ago at the age of 25. when I learned it, I was like "I could have been saved from all that misery if I was shown that being deaf wasnt something to be ashamed of!"

So many of my deaf friends went thru the same thing too being mainstreamed. They were all lost until they found the Deaf community.

KarissaMann05 · 03-11-2008, 08:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

I used to hate myself and blame myself for not being able to hear like my hearing peers could. I thought I didnt work hard enough in speech therapy and then I developed self-destructive behaviors to get the acceptance from the people in my life. I used to kiss hearing people's asses and was afraid to speak up for fear that I would be left even more isolated...the list goes on and on...

I didnt learn ASL until about 10 years ago at the age of 25. when I learned it, I was like "I could have been saved from all that misery if I was shown that being deaf wasnt something to be ashamed of!"

So many of my deaf friends went thru the same thing too being mainstreamed. They were all lost until they found the Deaf community.

Ah, yeah.. So true! I'm soo glad that I'm not alone.

Matilda · 03-11-2008, 08:26 PM

Manny ... you were not alone in this as I, too, suffered the loneliness of being the only deaf at mainstream schools and withdrawing into myself. I'm sure a lot of us were in the same boat as you .... so chin up!

KarissaMann05 · 03-11-2008, 08:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozzie

Manny ... you were not alone in this as I, too, suffered the loneliness of being the only deaf at mainstream schools and withdrawing into myself. I'm sure a lot of us were in the same boat as you .... so chin up!

03-10-2008, 05:52 PM	#181 (permalink)
*Jolie77* Love all, trust a few. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The Bluegrass State Posts: 4,271	I'm definitely in. I'm not just "in" because the bandwagon says so. I am in because being deaf is who I am and it makes me to be the person I am today. I am not saying that it is all about the deaf-power thing. It just means that I am who I am by being deaf. That's the identity I will have as long as I live. __________________

03-10-2008, 07:32 PM	#182 (permalink)
Dixie Darren Hayes, Aussie Boi Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 3,656	Im in. __________________ Visit my Deaf Blog Signature banner created by me, please do not steal!

03-10-2008, 07:35 PM	#183 (permalink)
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03-10-2008, 08:49 PM	#184 (permalink)
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03-10-2008, 09:30 PM	#185 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,812	Wow, this thread rose from the grave, didn't it? I'm just like my belly button - innie!

03-11-2008, 12:46 AM	#188 (permalink)
*~SG~* Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Australia Posts: 3,233	I'm in.

03-11-2008, 01:43 AM	#189 (permalink)
Calvin Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: California Posts: 1,512	There's 2 doors - deaf door on the left, and hearing door on the right... I'm walking to the left and opens the deaf door and closes behind me I'm IN! __________________

03-11-2008, 01:58 AM	#190 (permalink)
Sasha64 Savanna my niece Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Land yonder Posts: 467	Am in both way proud to be Deaf, also have accepted my Deafness and hat it will always be part of my whole life from birth to the very end of my last breath.

03-11-2008, 08:00 AM	#191 (permalink)
farewell65 LOL at Homer Simpson Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 3,746	I am in __________________ CM Punk=WHC! Thank You, Ric Flair!!

03-11-2008, 09:01 AM	#192 (permalink)
lilylover72 I love purple! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: USA Posts: 2,781	I am in! I am so proud of being deaf! Smile

03-11-2008, 02:10 PM	#193 (permalink)
ScubaladyTx Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: USA Posts: 1,200	Deaf can do anything...ya name it! ! Who said that "Limitations" ? ? Nah, I don't THINK SO.... Humans are Humans... Nothing with "Deaf" issue. I'm talking about here is HUMANS! Deaf can't hear. Thats all. M- __________________

03-11-2008, 03:11 PM	#194 (permalink)
Pacman o_O Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 12,833	I'm totally in!!! SkullChick, it's against AD rule to bring all PM up on public area without GA's permission, just report to mod or admin and don't bother her (GA), just let you know about AD rule. __________________ Oh damn, don't mess with me

03-11-2008, 03:40 PM	#196 (permalink)
Tousi Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 7,125	I would be interested, now, what the extent of being "in" is. In other words, what is the extent of your enculturation? (is that a word, lol?).

03-11-2008, 04:09 PM	#197 (permalink)
AlleyCat Chicken in a Cat Suit Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Minneapolis, MN Posts: 573	I'm proud to be deaf, because I've accepted who I am and all that I can do. __________________ Never put off until tomorrow what you can do today.

03-11-2008, 08:10 PM	#198 (permalink)
KarissaMann05 Jessie's Character Join Date: May 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 2,194 Blog Entries: 6	My Story... I used to be so ashamed, so depressing, to feel so stupid, and to feel so worthless because of my deafness. I also used to be teased and was picked on by some students of public students because of my voice was so bizarre to them and some of them were so mean to me. So, I stopped to use my voice for speech when I was only young a little. I fear my family when I thought they were just looked down at me because of "deaf and dumb" subject. I actually refused to share or to be open-minded with my family, that reason was I couldn't trust them because I thought they were not always understood me fully. I sometimes felt like they are my "friends" rather than they are actually my family. I was so stupid as if I felt like it was, very ashamed for who I am, definitely hated myself for that (not just because of deafness but my appearance was inculded too..), and stong low-esteem. I could less care for almost everything I hated for.. I almost never took sports or to social some students, and I never trust anybody else but my best friends. When I was eleven years old, I moved to different school from the public school and everthing was so worse for me. I was completely aparted out and "lost" my happiness, I got only two friends and was teased brutally by students. Everything went so worser, worser, and especially each pain I gained when it came a tough thing on me. I tried to kill myself at only ten years old a few times before moved to different school, and later, I again tried to kill myself sometimes at age of thirteen to a several months before fifteen years old. Even, my mom tried to support me and to encourage me to accpet my deafness and to be proud but I refused because I was too depressing and hated myself. However... When it was a little more than few months before my fifteenth birthday and... I finally realized no one (except my mom) would help me, not for a second at all. So I determinded to force myself fully to manage my life to recover my wounds I used to grew up with this. I researched on deafness for positive and supportive only, evenually I was oftenly visited LiveJournal (until I finally became a member of LJ recurrently), I read some books about deaf things and their lives, and my mom helped me sometimes for encouraging me to be proud for my deafness. (You can visit the Thread, "Why would you not choose to have CI?", and you will see why.) I also visited a few deaf websites and I went to watch ASL drama, amazing Pete Cook, wonderful deaf dramas, and etc etc AT MY EX DEAF SCHOOL. I listened to some students' experience stories, too. I also learned Deaf history when I was only freshman (I think?) and... Finally, I realized I wasted my time of being down because of my deafness was "sucks", and "ashamed of being deaf" WAS NOT an optional for me. Besides, my wantness for having CI was on a base of wasting my time too. After my fifteen of age, I slowly and successfully managed to recover my wounds as a normal life I get back BY ALL THE WAY FOR MYSELF (with some help from my mom and a several of my (best) friends). At the same, I was more invovled with my family no matter what or how they treat me. I thanked my mom for encouraging me to be proud for my deafness. Now, I am so happy that I am Deaf and I don't feel so ashamed of it anymore. Well, I sometimes feel I don't like my life because of my bad memories, yeah, it's hard for me to let them go. Bah, aha. I am still supported my precious family with all of my heart. Oh, of course, and my best friends too. SO, I AM IN!!! (Please be respect my personal experience story. Thank you.) __________________ Credit by KarissaMann05

03-11-2008, 08:26 PM	#203 (permalink)
Matilda Boxing Kangaroo "Jack" Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 2,132	Manny ... you were not alone in this as I, too, suffered the loneliness of being the only deaf at mainstream schools and withdrawing into myself. I'm sure a lot of us were in the same boat as you .... so chin up!