Sign in if you're proud to be Deaf - Page 6

darkangel8603 · 08-29-2004, 10:23 PM

I dont get why people haveto say "I am proud to be deaf" Its not a big deal, you were born or became deaf later in life, big deal.. Its not much to be proud of. Sure I am deaf, so waht, that who i am. Its not like we won an award or anything. If you won an gold medal for being deaf, which is like totally ridiculous, that would be like a different story. Do you hear people saying "I am proud that I got cancer" " I am proud that I got Cerbal Palsey" "I am proud that i have learning disabilities" i dont think so. So whats the difference?

pinkbushwilly87 · 08-29-2004, 10:31 PM

I so agree with Jess (Darkangel8603).

And SilenceGold who said many, many posts away: "I'm amazed that many of you all say that you're all proud to be deaf...yet you complain about the limitations of being deaf. :p"

Being deaf definitely is not something to be cracked up about. Sure, deafness can have it's advantage at times, but it really sucks being limited to many things like going to the movies, going to the concerts, listening to music, having a romantic moment with your boyfriend/girlfriend that you have to look at them in the face all the time due to barriers.

It also sucks to be stared at when you're with your friends and signing. It sucks to go to fast food resturaunts or regular ones, and getting your order mixed up because of the barrier.

It's so not kosher being deaf, because it sucks. Sure, I like the way I am. The only thing I'm not happy with is my deafness. I don't go around like "I'M DEAF, AND I'M COOL. SO F#CK OFF".

... yeah.

jessijames · 09-05-2004, 11:43 PM

I am proud to be me. I lost my hearing at 26 so I can say that it sucks knowing what sounds everything makes, being able to talk on the phone watch tv without captions, then to not have hearing, But I deal with it and maybe if I was born deaf and didn't know I would think differently

Be proud to be you and don't ever wish you were someone else, cause you might just get what you wish for. Only to find out that the grass definitly was NOT greener on the other side, and it sucks.

Miss-Delectable · 09-06-2004, 05:10 AM

Well, I'm

so naturally, I'm IN!

09-06-2004, 11:41 AM

Wow, this thread is over one year old and still active

But what the heck....it's not too late to declare proudly that I am definitely IN!!!!

dawn · 09-06-2004, 12:48 PM

there is only one correct answer to this question and that is YES I AM IN !!!

dawn · 09-06-2004, 12:51 PM

I could hear when I was younger, too. I know what it's like to be able to hear everything and know what I'm missing. But I'm happy to be who I am and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

***LinuxGold*** · 09-06-2004, 02:59 PM

In!!

Weirdo · 09-08-2004, 12:46 PM

en!

tekkmortal · 09-08-2004, 11:47 PM

Im in!

BigSpike · 09-09-2004, 12:44 PM

I am DEFINATELY IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

None can stop my pride as deaf man!!!

BigSpike · 09-09-2004, 12:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HelloKittyGal

I don't know what is it that's "pride in deafness." Deafness can be difficult to live with at times, so I don't think it's all what it's cracked up to be. I can get a goodnight sleep, such as on July 5th a thunderstorm at 3 am, told by mom, but I didn't hear it.

I am not sure that I can say it's something to be proud of or excited about. It's just deafness, but I accept it and live with it as I have it, but to rave about it? What's to rave about it....exactly?

I understand how you feeling..but u got to accept what kind of disability u are carrying...let me share example with you, I knew a person who are using scooter due to physical disability, very young person with awesome trainer skills. I was amazed by her talents and she took in pride for who she is. The negatives and all things didnt stop her from fight to prove her pride and advocate other who have similar experiences as her. So now come back to point...we as deaf, what block us from experiencing completely freedom is we cant hear, so there is no point to be shamed...be happy and there are special purpose for who you are so u can use your talents and experiences to assist other who are approaching same situations as you!

I never felt sorry for myself as being deaf! I am always happy person, God created who I am. Of course, I do get frustrating in hearing world..but I learned to conquer the struggle to become smooth communicate with hearing people via interpreter or paper & pen...there is NOTHING wrong....

I dont force you to share the pride we are carrying in alldeaf.com but we wanted to show you how indentify as deaf person really mean to us and what will it impact others?

I hope you can anylze your own to discover who you are.

PrincessTabu · 09-09-2004, 01:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by darkangel8603

I dont get why people haveto say "I am proud to be deaf" Its not a big deal, you were born or became deaf later in life, big deal.. Its not much to be proud of. Sure I am deaf, so waht, that who i am. Its not like we won an award or anything. If you won an gold medal for being deaf, which is like totally ridiculous, that would be like a different story. Do you hear people saying "I am proud that I got cancer" " I am proud that I got Cerbal Palsey" "I am proud that i have learning disabilities" i dont think so. So whats the difference?

Well, I'm hearing so maybe I shouldn't even chime in here, but I think it means I love myself, I accept myself, I empower myself, I know that I'm perfect just the way I am.

I must be honest, I have felt bummed at times by people using DeafPride to mean hate hearies. I don't think it has to be that at all, it's an affirmation of your identity as a Deaf person and your culture, and you take pride in it. It doesn't mean you don't realize the challenges. Big Spike, if you're out there, you're the perfect example, you have Deaf Pride, but look how compassionate you were to me. You're my man, Big Spike!

Matilda · 03-09-2008, 11:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by darkangel8603

I dont get why people haveto say "I am proud to be deaf" Its not a big deal, you were born or became deaf later in life, big deal.. Its not much to be proud of. Sure I am deaf, so waht, that who i am. Its not like we won an award or anything. If you won an gold medal for being deaf, which is like totally ridiculous, that would be like a different story. Do you hear people saying "I am proud that I got cancer" " I am proud that I got Cerbal Palsey" "I am proud that i have learning disabilities" i dont think so. So whats the difference?

I agree with dark angel .... why say that you're proud to be deaf? .... that's like saying you like being handicapped whatever it may be. IMO, I would prefer to say, I'm proud of myself being able to adapt in the predominately hearing world.

Babyblue · 03-10-2008, 12:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozzie

I agree with dark angel .... why say that you're proud to be deaf? .... that's like saying you like being handicapped whatever it may be. IMO, I would prefer to say, I'm proud of myself being able to adapt in the predominately hearing world.

I have to disagree. by us saying we are proud to be Deaf means:

We are proud of our culture
We are proud of what we can do, and accomplish
We are proud of who we are.
We have accepted the fact we are Deaf.

and Yeah I am also IN!

Matilda · 03-10-2008, 12:12 AM

That's ok .... everyone has different opinions

RedheadGrrl · 03-10-2008, 01:30 AM

I am totally IN!!

Chase · 03-10-2008, 01:43 AM

I'm proud to be a member of AllDeaf.
I'm proud of my sister who has handled deafness with aplomb for 71 years.
I'm proud of all my deafie friends.

However, I'm not proud to be deaf, but neither am I ashamed. I just am.

Matilda · 03-10-2008, 01:51 AM

Exactly how it should be said .... did you read my blurp a few pages up. Do you agree with me?

neecy · 03-10-2008, 01:52 AM

While my deafness is definitely a part of me, and always will be, I can't say I'm 'proud' of it - it simply is a fact of life for me. With my CI I also now have the option of being able to hear, AND being deaf when I chose. I prefer to have my life defined by who I am, and my actions, not my deafness.

Chase · 03-10-2008, 02:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozzie

Exactly how it should be said .... did you read my blurp a few pages up. Do you agree with me?

Yup, and I agree with what you said about it being okay if different people having different opinions. For me, I can understand pride in deafness, as I'm proud of some things others may think strange.

WhiteWolves64 · 03-10-2008, 08:40 AM

My wife and i are ALLLLLL the way IN to be proud of DEAF POWER!!!!!!!!!!!

SkullChick · 03-10-2008, 01:45 PM

Um... being proud of deafness, count me OUT.
But accepting my deafness count me in.

Big difference.

Reason?
* Missing out so much stuff.
* Limitations.
* Unnecessary challenges.
* Communication breakdown.
* Getting judged in a negative way about my disability.
* Can't hear important sounds like fire alarm, emergency siren, baby crying or if someone got hurt, if natural disaster happened in my sleep or when my CI battery died I wouldn't know, and that's scariest thing ever.
* I want to be able to just walk up to hearing person and start conversating no problem or being able to have small talk and respond to people talking to me.
* 1000000 reasons I'm not proud to be deaf.

BUT I do love ASL. If its totally my choice I'd rather to be Hearing that know ASL. But I'm deaf so I accept it and try to lessen the effect of being deaf much as I can. Hence the CI to hear important sound in my waking hours, hear if people say excuse me or talk to me behind my back I'd acknowledge it and turn around to smile or point at my ear. Being able to understand people talking to me much better but I wish I can speak back but I'll work on my confidence to use my speech and practice to get it back in shape as for now CI's been wonderful help.

Also on the note, I'm not trying to be hearing! Why is it that if you get CI you were "trying to be hearing"??? I'm so tired of seeing this "I don't want CI cuz I'm proud to be deaf" but hearing aid is fine and automatically is acceptable but CI automatically mean to try to be hearing? Just stop doing this immature bs please.

Phillips · 03-10-2008, 01:59 PM

IN

SkullChick · 03-10-2008, 02:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GalaxyAngel

why do you care ? Why you're here? Doesn't make sense!
you're not proud yourself Deaf..

you throw huge mixed the signal for everyone..
*scratching my head*.. r u member of alldeaf and other website too.. you're not proud Deaf. what heck r u using Deaf's website.. you supposed be over there hearing site.. all you want be part of hearing..

What other website? Can you back up on that accusation please.

You just horribly offended me with that comment you stated above "you're supposed to be over there in hearing site all I want is be part of hearing" when I clearly stated on bottom of my post above your post is I'm NOT trying to be hearing. So you just totally disrespected me.

Also I have every right to be member of alldeaf since it clearly stated "ALL deaf" not "proud deaf only" so its website for all deaf proud or not, accepted or not, hoh or deaf or hearies, oralist, cued speech, asl, bsl, etc.

Where does it say "if you're not proud of being deaf, get out"? Reason I'm member of this website is because I enjoy this site a lot, current events, see other people experiences, stories, jokes, pictures, all stuff here I love it, so I'm not leaving alldeaf like it or not.

Pepsi · 03-10-2008, 02:56 PM

Yes, I am proud. So count me in.

Chase · 03-10-2008, 03:04 PM

I think we're all saying we're proud to be making the best of being deaf. We all know it's sometimes a huge effort, because every day we face the same barriers again and again with a few new ones thrown in.

That's plenty to be proud of.

Matilda · 03-10-2008, 03:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chase

I think we're all saying we're proud to be making the best of being deaf. We all know it's sometimes a huge effort, because every day we face the same barriers again and again with a few new ones thrown in.

That's plenty to be proud of.

Way to go!! The last line is the better way of saying it.

shel90 · 03-10-2008, 04:39 PM

I am IN after so many years of being ashamed of it. Now, I am happy that I am no longer ashamed of it.

09-05-2004, 11:43 PM	#153 (permalink)
jessijames jessijames Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Langley Posts: 3	I'm in I am proud to be me. I lost my hearing at 26 so I can say that it sucks knowing what sounds everything makes, being able to talk on the phone watch tv without captions, then to not have hearing, But I deal with it and maybe if I was born deaf and didn't know I would think differently Be proud to be you and don't ever wish you were someone else, cause you might just get what you wish for. Only to find out that the grass definitly was NOT greener on the other side, and it sucks.

09-06-2004, 05:10 AM	#154 (permalink)
Miss-Delectable Capt Tony Nelson, Jeannie Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: No.1 Shopping Capital in Australia Posts: 8,693 Blog Entries: 3	Well, I'm so naturally, I'm IN! __________________

03-10-2008, 01:52 AM	#170 (permalink)
neecy Use the Google, Luke! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Beautiful British Columbia Posts: 1,397	While my deafness is definitely a part of me, and always will be, I can't say I'm 'proud' of it - it simply is a fact of life for me. With my CI I also now have the option of being able to hear, AND being deaf when I chose. I prefer to have my life defined by who I am, and my actions, not my deafness. __________________ Randy Pausch - The Last Lecture ~ RIP July 25, 2008 http://www.taudiobook.com/closed_cap...y_pausch_full/ My CI blog: http://bionicgal.blogspot.com

03-10-2008, 08:40 AM	#172 (permalink)
WhiteWolves64 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,054	*My wife and i are ALLLLLL* the way IN to be proud of *DEAF POWER!!!!!!!!!!!* __________________ Check it out if you are Transgender and your significant others, families, friends, and allies (SOFFA) are welcome to that group. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/TransDeaf/

03-10-2008, 01:45 PM	#173 (permalink)
SkullChick Lil Ci-Borg Chick Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Middle Of Nowhere, Delaware Posts: 603	Um... being proud of deafness, count me OUT. But accepting my deafness count me in. Big difference. Reason? * Missing out so much stuff. * Limitations. * Unnecessary challenges. * Communication breakdown. * Getting judged in a negative way about my disability. * Can't hear important sounds like fire alarm, emergency siren, baby crying or if someone got hurt, if natural disaster happened in my sleep or when my CI battery died I wouldn't know, and that's scariest thing ever. * I want to be able to just walk up to hearing person and start conversating no problem or being able to have small talk and respond to people talking to me. * 1000000 reasons I'm not proud to be deaf. BUT I do love ASL. If its totally my choice I'd rather to be Hearing that know ASL. But I'm deaf so I accept it and try to lessen the effect of being deaf much as I can. Hence the CI to hear important sound in my waking hours, hear if people say excuse me or talk to me behind my back I'd acknowledge it and turn around to smile or point at my ear. Being able to understand people talking to me much better but I wish I can speak back but I'll work on my confidence to use my speech and practice to get it back in shape as for now CI's been wonderful help. Also on the note, I'm not trying to be hearing! Why is it that if you get CI you were "trying to be hearing"??? I'm so tired of seeing this "I don't want CI cuz I'm proud to be deaf" but hearing aid is fine and automatically is acceptable but CI automatically mean to try to be hearing? Just stop doing this immature bs please. __________________ [Left Ear] Implanted 1/15/08 with Nucleus Freedom! Activated 2/12/08 with Freedom BTE Link for my Cochlear Implant http://skullchick.blogspot.com Link for my Blog unrelated to cochlear Implant http://skullchickworld.blogspot.com

08-29-2004, 10:23 PM	#151 (permalink)
darkangel8603 Loki : God of Mischief Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 1,430	I dont get why people haveto say "I am proud to be deaf" Its not a big deal, you were born or became deaf later in life, big deal.. Its not much to be proud of. Sure I am deaf, so waht, that who i am. Its not like we won an award or anything. If you won an gold medal for being deaf, which is like totally ridiculous, that would be like a different story. Do you hear people saying "I am proud that I got cancer" " I am proud that I got Cerbal Palsey" "I am proud that i have learning disabilities" i dont think so. So whats the difference?

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08-29-2004, 10:31 PM	#152 (permalink)
pinkbushwilly87 She's A Maniac On The Run Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 14	I so agree with Jess (Darkangel8603). And SilenceGold who said many, many posts away: "I'm amazed that many of you all say that you're all proud to be deaf...yet you complain about the limitations of being deaf. :p" Being deaf definitely is not something to be cracked up about. Sure, deafness can have it's advantage at times, but it really sucks being limited to many things like going to the movies, going to the concerts, listening to music, having a romantic moment with your boyfriend/girlfriend that you have to look at them in the face all the time due to barriers. It also sucks to be stared at when you're with your friends and signing. It sucks to go to fast food resturaunts or regular ones, and getting your order mixed up because of the barrier. It's so not kosher being deaf, because it sucks. Sure, I like the way I am. The only thing I'm not happy with is my deafness. I don't go around like "I'M DEAF, AND I'M COOL. SO F#CK OFF". ... yeah.

09-06-2004, 11:41 AM	#155 (permalink)
Toonces Guest Posts: n/a	Wow, this thread is over one year old and still active But what the heck....it's not too late to declare proudly that I am definitely IN!!!!

09-06-2004, 12:48 PM	#156 (permalink)
dawn Registered User Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 25	there is only one correct answer to this question and that is *YES I AM IN* !!!

09-06-2004, 12:51 PM	#157 (permalink)
dawn Registered User Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 25	I could hear when I was younger, too. I know what it's like to be able to hear everything and know what I'm missing. But I'm happy to be who I am and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

09-06-2004, 02:59 PM	#158 (permalink)
*LinuxGold* Super Moderator Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Felton, DE Posts: 1,628	In!!

09-08-2004, 12:46 PM	#159 (permalink)
Weirdo LaLa Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 485	en!

09-08-2004, 11:47 PM	#160 (permalink)
tekkmortal Smashin' Pumpkins! Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,537	Im in!

09-09-2004, 12:44 PM	#161 (permalink)
BigSpike Registered User Join Date: May 2004 Location: New England Posts: 416	I am DEFINATELY IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! None can stop my pride as deaf man!!!

03-10-2008, 12:12 AM	#166 (permalink)
Matilda Boxing Kangaroo "Jack" Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 2,176	That's ok .... everyone has different opinions

03-10-2008, 01:30 AM	#167 (permalink)
RedheadGrrl Premium Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 4,805	I am totally IN!!

03-10-2008, 01:43 AM	#168 (permalink)
Chase Premium Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 2,316	I'm proud to be a member of AllDeaf. I'm proud of my sister who has handled deafness with aplomb for 71 years. I'm proud of all my deafie friends. However, I'm not proud to be deaf, but neither am I ashamed. I just am.

03-10-2008, 01:51 AM	#169 (permalink)
Matilda Boxing Kangaroo "Jack" Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 2,176	Exactly how it should be said .... did you read my blurp a few pages up. Do you agree with me?

03-10-2008, 01:59 PM	#174 (permalink)
Phillips Lets ride horses! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Somewhere in Northeast Posts: 6,806 Blog Entries: 3	IN __________________ *Enjoy life today, Yesterday has past and Tomorrow may never come.*

03-10-2008, 02:56 PM	#176 (permalink)
Pepsi The One and Only Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,819	Yes, I am proud. So count me in. __________________

03-10-2008, 03:04 PM	#177 (permalink)
Chase Premium Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 2,316	I think we're all saying we're proud to be making the best of being deaf. We all know it's sometimes a huge effort, because every day we face the same barriers again and again with a few new ones thrown in. That's plenty to be proud of.

03-10-2008, 04:39 PM	#179 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 14,994 Blog Entries: 1	I am IN after so many years of being ashamed of it. Now, I am happy that I am no longer ashamed of it. __________________ ~Shel~