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Unread 03-03-2012, 12:24 PM   #1 (permalink)
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It's over

So the man I have been with for almost a year now, gradually pulled away. He went from asking me to move in, to telling me he just wanted to be friends. The final straw? He told me he would prefer I didn't tell people I am hearing. Yet, I am hearing, and perfectly comfortable with being a hearing woman. He literally got mad at me for telling people I am hearing, or using the phone, or turning my voice on to talk to the waitress. What started out so great, really ended up a big flop. Come to find out he has been sleeping around. Makes the whole mess even more humiliating.
My question for you in this community.... How do I establish my own identity and not just always be "his" girl. Every event I go to people ask where he is, or if a man hits on me someone else comes up to inform the man that I am taken. It is like I do not have my own name, I'm just "his". Great Tempted to pull away from the friends I love because I am so sick of the constant questions about him.......
How do you deal in such a small community with every one knowing everything?
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Unread 03-03-2012, 12:58 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Over time people will forget that you're his guy. People may just not know you're done with him.
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Unread 03-03-2012, 01:02 PM   #3 (permalink)
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How do you deal in such a small community with every one knowing everything?
"it's over". they should know what it means and understand.
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Unread 03-03-2012, 03:26 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Is there other "deaf/Deaf groups" in Buffalo that you can part of?
Hopefully there are other groups that you can be part of in the event you feel "not welcome" in the actual group your former "boyfriend" still participates?

Good luck in your new journey.
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Unread 03-03-2012, 03:35 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I would just go out and whenever someone asks where he is, tell them you have no idea, that you're broken up and won't be getting back together.....and I really don't understand why he treated you the way he did....very odd....and you bet I would not even think about taking him back after he treated you this way.....Putting the shoe on the other do you think he would feel if you don't him not to tell anyone he was Deaf?..... Since he's been cheating also....there's no excuse to take him back.
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