It's over

LawStudent · 03-03-2012, 12:24 PM

So the man I have been with for almost a year now, gradually pulled away. He went from asking me to move in, to telling me he just wanted to be friends. The final straw? He told me he would prefer I didn't tell people I am hearing. Yet, I am hearing, and perfectly comfortable with being a hearing woman. He literally got mad at me for telling people I am hearing, or using the phone, or turning my voice on to talk to the waitress. What started out so great, really ended up a big flop. Come to find out he has been sleeping around. Makes the whole mess even more humiliating.
My question for you in this community.... How do I establish my own identity and not just always be "his" girl. Every event I go to people ask where he is, or if a man hits on me someone else comes up to inform the man that I am taken. It is like I do not have my own name, I'm just "his". Great

Tempted to pull away from the friends I love because I am so sick of the constant questions about him.......
How do you deal in such a small community with every one knowing everything?

dereksbicycles · 03-03-2012, 12:58 PM

Over time people will forget that you're his guy. People may just not know you're done with him.

**Jiro** · 03-03-2012, 01:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LawStudent

How do you deal in such a small community with every one knowing everything?

"it's over". they should know what it means and understand.

drphil · 03-03-2012, 03:26 PM

Is there other "deaf/Deaf groups" in Buffalo that you can part of?
Hopefully there are other groups that you can be part of in the event you feel "not welcome" in the actual group your former "boyfriend" still participates?

Good luck in your new journey.

rockin'robin · 03-03-2012, 03:35 PM

I would just go out and whenever someone asks where he is, tell them you have no idea, that you're broken up and won't be getting back together.....and I really don't understand why he treated you the way he did....very odd....and you bet I would not even think about taking him back after he treated you this way.....Putting the shoe on the other foot....how do you think he would feel if you don't him not to tell anyone he was Deaf?..... Since he's been cheating also....there's no excuse to take him back.

03-03-2012, 12:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
LawStudent Registered User Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Buffalo NY Posts: 11	It's over So the man I have been with for almost a year now, gradually pulled away. He went from asking me to move in, to telling me he just wanted to be friends. The final straw? He told me he would prefer I didn't tell people I am hearing. Yet, I am hearing, and perfectly comfortable with being a hearing woman. He literally got mad at me for telling people I am hearing, or using the phone, or turning my voice on to talk to the waitress. What started out so great, really ended up a big flop. Come to find out he has been sleeping around. Makes the whole mess even more humiliating. My question for you in this community.... How do I establish my own identity and not just always be "his" girl. Every event I go to people ask where he is, or if a man hits on me someone else comes up to inform the man that I am taken. It is like I do not have my own name, I'm just "his". Great Tempted to pull away from the friends I love because I am so sick of the constant questions about him....... How do you deal in such a small community with every one knowing everything? Angel1989 likes this.

03-03-2012, 03:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,113	Is there other "deaf/Deaf groups" in Buffalo that you can part of? Hopefully there are other groups that you can be part of in the event you feel "not welcome" in the actual group your former "boyfriend" still participates? Good luck in your new journey. __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07 Last edited by drphil; 03-03-2012 at 03:32 PM. Reason: amended/other thread

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03-03-2012, 12:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
dereksbicycles Registered User Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: 60202 Posts: 3,793	Over time people will forget that you're his guy. People may just not know you're done with him.

03-03-2012, 03:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
rockin'robin Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 15,279	I would just go out and whenever someone asks where he is, tell them you have no idea, that you're broken up and won't be getting back together.....and I really don't understand why he treated you the way he did....very odd....and you bet I would not even think about taking him back after he treated you this way.....Putting the shoe on the other foot....how do you think he would feel if you don't him not to tell anyone he was Deaf?..... Since he's been cheating also....there's no excuse to take him back.