MyNameIsNO

this question for all men users on alldeaf.com i am curious ask you, how important woman physically look?? pick number 1 between 10 and tell me as honest please, thank you. if yes very important to you, then what woman need look like? blonde? nice body like model curve?

my boyfriend did calls me cutie but sometime he mock me say i am little chubby and need go eating weight watcher food

Deafness

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SimonJ

For me looks are about 3 out of 10. I could not date someone I find unattractive but there is something attractive about most women. For me a similar outlook on life and enjoy doing same activities. Unless you are obese and need to diet for health reasons your boyfriend should accept you the way you are, it's part of what makes you, you! :-)

MyNameIsNO

thank you for your answer simonj. i am not obese but i am 140 pounds and 5 feet 5. boyfriend say i need look like adriana lima RME!!!!!!!!!!

Banjo

Next time he calls you "chubby", giggle and point at his groin and make a measurement with your index finger and thumb to show how small it is. That'll shut him up.

Men should never call their lovers anything remotely to the word, fat.

Sunshine

Then why not he go date Adriana Lima?

MyNameIsNO

yes i know i did say "why you are still with me if you not satisficatory with how i am looking?"

@ banjo well his size kind of small but i say nothing. bec size not matter to me and sexs intercouse is not important.

i noticed deafs men less judgement on women look than does hearing men. wow.

Banjo

Well, I was just half-joking. That's not really the point though, it's to give him a taste of his own medicine. Men who view their life partners as sexual objects need to be re-educated.

TWA

It's important. Without physical attraction, there can be nothing further in a romantic relationship.

Grummer

^^pretty much so, without lust how can you maintain communication to the fullest extension if the sexis not part of the reciprocal communication, or mutual appreciation?

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dereksbicycles

I'm not going to rate someone on whether they are a 3 or a 8. I'm 34 years old and it does not matter to me. When you get older, you'll see it doesn't matter.

Grummer

disagree, it does matter because at 50 or 60 thats when the interest can decline, affecting the 'fun' relationships, if you get lucky with good slim and doesnt bag out then you'd have a long life of love and fun, not 'obliged love' to save hassles under a 'household' of the 'norm'...that would to misery

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howag

I'd say looks are about a 4-5/10, no preference to hair colour, i did go through a phase where i preferred brunettes but now I'm totally impartial. I would like her to be healthy, but it wouldn't be absolutely essential.

cmdrwhitewolf

I think I'm a lot less demanding of physical beauty than most guys, b/c some of the women that I think are beautiful (which is many btw), other guys have told me were average or were just plain out dismissive of my opinion of their beauty. So maybe my rating is a 3 or 4 (with a 5 being tops).

Particularly, because I think other things are important as well. Humor, for one & Intelligence for another (especially if she know how to play D&D!). Plus I'm not as overwrought as other guys are about women needing to have that 'perfect figure', if their chubby it's fine (as long as their healthy of course - I don't support being unhealthy).

I think our culture is to blame for quite many of the demands on the ladies being this or that - and some foolish guys buy into that 'ideal'...

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VacationGuy234

It's the same as women and flowers, beautiful women make men feel good just by being around them.

I'd say it is pretty important in any relationship to be attracted to your partner no matter how you place it on the scale.

Also, it's not healthy to be overweight so (depending on the case) your husband should be watching out for your health.

It's not like women don't feel the same way.

MyNameIsNO

I think cmdrwhitewolf is giving best answer....he accepting many woman different beauty and not judgement so much. that is good man bec he search for inside soul perfect personality and not obsession looking good outside. many men not wise bec they not thinking with theirs head when they looking to women. i did noticing they dirty mind EYES OUT like balls and excitement like hard on erection quick when they sees perfect tan sexy blonde woman with body like model curve.....whoa they is need relax!!!!! why is all women needs to look like this standard? many women feel not confidence in herself bec men judgement too much and follow perfect model and porn star. i did caught my boyfriend this morning before he leaving for go working. he sit in front of computer look at perfect skinny filipina women and drools at them

howag

Well obviously things like humour, common sense, a kind heart, how well we connect and how comfortable we feel around each other among other things matters as well.

Cheetah

Guys that are overly concerned about their girlfriend or SO size/weight are usually insecure. I would love for my girlfriend to to look like a magazine cover page model. but who am I to judge? I am a bit overweight. I am very happy with myself and perfectly content if my gf is overweight or not. I've been married before and you learn after a few years of marriage what's important. If he wants you to be different... it's time for him to move on. Be proud of you you are. Learn to love yourself. Always look for the beauty in others. Those that matter will see the beauty in you. Everyone else, let them go. Surround yourself with people that are healthy for you and believe in you.

At the end of they day, you are the only person that is responsible for your happiness. (this was a hard lesson for me to learn)

SneakerNet

I been dating various size of women. I did married a woman who is chubby, I did married a woman who is thin. Now I married woman who is deaf and was overweight. What all they have in common? Mind mate. I only look her mind that match my soul, not her body. Mind mate really intergrate our communications, that really immersed everything, a real fitting, you know. So, beauty is not what she appear, beauty is what in her mind and her heart.

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MyNameIsNO

this my other favorite answer.....i give you huge applauding. you are very smart man bec you looking beyond woman physically look and you are looking check see what is inside of her heart and mind. you need teach stupid close mind men how be same thinking as you.

MyNameIsNO

i am honest. you is look very hot sexy man in your avatar and you have great personality too, you smart know not priority woman look and beauty. personality more important!!!!!!

Steel X

Usually I go for personality than looks. Looks can be somewhat important to me, as long as she just dress and look proper, being fairly healthy, strong and absolutely independent. The kind of girls who lies, cheats, taking advantage of people, lazy, etc...obviously turn me off. I've dated a girl who is abit bigger than me but of course she wasn't THAT overweight but she does try hard to lose some weight even thou I never told her to. Just be yourself, is the key. Certainly I love women with a body that looks very attracting, but sometimes I like some chubby or older girls for some reason but I guess thats just me. A girl with a sweet personality is twice more beautiful than her looks.

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AJWSmith

Looks play a part, especially in the early stages, but there's too much emphasis on this nowadays. And some very beautiful women become very arrogant as things get handed on a plate to them and they fail to learn manners & respect for others, qualities needed to make a relationship last.

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rockin'robin

My oldest son (20), is very good looking and all the girls "swoon" over him....but for the last 2 years, his girlfriend is very "chubby"...

What makes her "so special"?....P-E-R-S-O-N-A-L-I-T-Y !!!!!!

Her smile and her laughter...she's a joy to be around!

VacationGuy234

Lets be honest, nobody looks at someone across the room and says, "that person has a great personality", right? To say physical attraction does not matter is just not true because that is all you get in the beginning, nobody can spot a good personality.

rockin'robin

'Course not!....A group of friends get together...and meet other friends...introductions go around.....

That's how my son met "Chelsea"....

If you're scanning the room to see if someone looks physically attractive to you, then you're missing the whole point.That person may be a "hottie" to you, but after getting to know her and her personality, you might not think so....Even some guys, after getting to know a girl, who at first, there was no physical attraction...(such as a "good friend")...found out later that the girl was a "gem"!....

Many guys marry their "best friends"....someone they get along with well...same interests and things in common....physical attraction is "over played"!...Who knows?...The "hottie" you might pick for a mate...after a few years and maybe a pregnancy behind her, becomes chubby or even fat....and remembering that the reason you picked her in the beginning was because she was a "hottie"...(physical attraction)....it doesn't last....

Babyblue

Physical attraction does work at the begining. It is more lust than thinking, "that is going to be my soul mate". You can not keep a relationship just based on looks. Personality and common interest will keep a relationship.

People who observe and can spot a good personality. Being around others and meeting them is learning about the person and becoming attracted to them.

SneakerNet

When I first met her, she was 174 lbs. So, today, she now 121 lbs and hottie. Since in the past she have been very depressed after her painful divorce and that what she gained all the weight. When she met me, I gave her positive outlook and her happeness grew. With all my gym equipments I have here, I became her "Mr Jillian Michaels" workout partner. She know that it's unhealthy to be overweight and of course being over 50s. Then 2 years ago, she finally hit 121 lbs, and it was her joyest moment that she haven't had that weight for over 30 years. So, regardless if she's chubby or not, but awareness of health is very important, so sometime I can view some people who is overweight, or very obese are lazy, Uncare about her self image and health. But there are reason that causes by obese weight is medical issues because of medicine that can cause gaining weight, but the majority of people just simply lazy.

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VacationGuy234

The topic is, "how much important is women beauty for all men", I understand that you wouldn't want someone without a personality, but that is not the question being asked and you couldn't tell a personality when you that when you first meet someone. If they know someone you know, it really is a different situation, but you still need to be attracted to that person.

I agree, that person needs to have more than just beauty, but you can't replace looks with a good personality, you have to have attraction too.

I have dated women just because they were nice and found it's not the right thing to do. You're not doing that person any justice and it will only get people hurt, you need the whole package for it to last.

rockin'robin

Well, good luck in ur quest for the woman who has "everything"!...

SneakerNet

Yes, I understand that it got to have attraction, but you know attraction always changed, going from beautiful thin woman to overly obese woman. Your attraction will fade, or sometime your feeling disgusting of how she look now? You know... mentally, mindmate hardly changed.

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