Is it possible to NOT like sex?

KStiletto · 10-10-2011, 01:24 AM

Okay, this question is geared toward people younger than forty, but anyone that is inclined to answer, can. I googled it, and I read that some people don't like sex, and that's cool. Just wanted to know if you or know of anyone who doesn't like sex? One reason I found interesting is that the actual act disgusts some.. What are your thoughts? Before you can say anything, please don't say "That person just has not had good sex.." Just needed to get that old phrase out of the way.

Sunshine · 10-10-2011, 01:25 AM

I not huge fan.

**TWA** · 10-10-2011, 01:30 AM

There are rare cases of asexualism, which is the technical term for someone who does not have interest in sex and is not attracted sexually to other human beings, but for the most part, not liking sex is a sign of sexual dysfunction caused by any number of factors (i.e. being raised in strict family that makes it "guilty/dirty," past experiences involving abuse/rape/being taken advantage of, etc).

rockin'robin · 10-10-2011, 01:40 AM

Some people find it "messy" and that includes men & women...I agree with TWA...a lot of factors can cause someone not to like or desire sex. Even the thought of sex makes some people feel sick.

Many people do seek out a partner for companionship only, no sex.

KStiletto · 10-10-2011, 02:02 AM

Interesting.

PowerON · 10-10-2011, 09:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunny_signs

I not huge fan.

Only when you have a true lover, you would want it.

Oceanbreeze · 10-10-2011, 09:15 AM

I'm in that category. I don't like sex. I don't find it disgusting, so much as painful. But, I should add I've had traumatic experiences surrounding this, so I'm sure this is why. I also have other factors that cause a low sex drive, so for me, not enjoying sex is NOT a problem. Lack of desire has it's advantages, sometimes. Lack of desire + dislike = non issue for me.

Now, I will add, I like to be intimate. I like cuddling. I like kissing. I like acts that lead up to, but does not include intercourse. But, since that could be considered leading someone on, I choose to refrain from it all. It's less complicated for me this way.

OK, now I feel weird...

Oceanbreeze · 10-10-2011, 09:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PowerON

Only when you have a true lover, you would want it.

Maybe, maybe not. I can honestly say that I could go my entire life without sex and not really care.

Oceanbreeze · 10-10-2011, 09:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rockin'robin

Some people find it "messy" and that includes men & women...I agree with TWA...a lot of factors can cause someone not to like or desire sex. Even the thought of sex makes some people feel sick.

Many people do seek out a partner for companionship only, no sex.

This would be me. If I could find a partner who would desire companionship only; I'd be in Heaven!

KStiletto · 10-10-2011, 10:46 AM

I realize that I think I don't like sex either, I'd prefer a lifetime of intimacy and love over a lifetime of amazing, head board banging sex. It's rare that they both come together. I feel if I don't really care about the person, it's only "okay."

Sunshine · 10-10-2011, 11:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Oceanbreeze

OK, now I feel weird...

Quote:

Originally Posted by Oceanbreeze

Maybe, maybe not. I can honestly say that I could go my entire life without sex and not really care.

Me too. You not weird.

**mbrek** · 10-10-2011, 11:30 AM

I'm afraid my sex drive agrees (although I'm 45). Somewhere it took a nose dive... and while it can be nice, it's not a huge driving force in my life.

Definitely not weird!

Mintee · 10-10-2011, 12:50 PM

i know someone who's asexual and never had sex. he never 'checks out' pretty women and he's not gay. says he was born this way

Mintee · 10-10-2011, 12:56 PM

it's not weird at all. some people like sex. some don't.. that's just the way it is

authentic · 10-10-2011, 01:05 PM

Who would like to have sex when she got herself a "red apple"?

Definitely not me.

KStiletto · 10-10-2011, 01:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by katerivera

i know someone who's asexual and never had sex. he never 'checks out' pretty women and he's not gay. says he was born this way

So he checks out "ugly" women? I would assume he wouldn't check out any type of woman if that's the case.

KStiletto · 10-10-2011, 01:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by authentic

Who would like to have sex when she got herself a "red apple"?

Definitely not me.

What the heck are you talking about?

Mintee · 10-10-2011, 01:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KStiletto

So he checks out "ugly" women? I would assume he wouldn't check out any type of woman if that's the case.

sorry about the way i worded things

.. i meant that he doesn't check out women at all

Mintee · 10-10-2011, 01:13 PM

red apple????????

Sunshine · 10-10-2011, 01:28 PM

Not understand red apple either...

Sunboy · 10-10-2011, 06:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunny_signs

I not huge fan.

Could have fooled me!

authentic · 10-10-2011, 06:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KStiletto

What the heck are you talking about?

"Red Apple" is also known as menstruation.

I do not like to have sex with woman who have a menstruation.

Now I have answered to your original question.

Now, what the heck is wrong with you?

**shel90** · 10-10-2011, 07:47 PM

Sometimes I dont want to have sex but I still like it. I call that being "not in the mood" rather than an aversion to it.

No, none of you are weird for how you feel. We are all different so it is nice that you are all honest to yourselves about it. I have known a few people who work so hard on convincing themselves that they love sex and ends up with problems.

Sunshine · 10-10-2011, 07:53 PM

Nothing "wrong" authentic. Just different. Why problem not like something physically painful?

JAMES09 · 10-10-2011, 07:58 PM

this is my 2 cents....

Guys, you make love with a Lady, you screw or have sex with the neighborhood prostitute...

I believe that when you make love with a Lady, it's not just about the physical act of making love, but it is just as much emotional & Psychological as well.

This is just my opinion so take it as such.

Because of my health,...making love? what's that???

**mbrek** · 10-10-2011, 09:16 PM

OMG, how can I have gotten this old and not heard of "red apple"? I've heard of "Aunt Flo"...

BTW, I do not have sex when I have my period. Yuck!!! Might as well do it in the bathtub to make clean up easier.

Emmer · 10-10-2011, 09:58 PM

At college, we called that time of the month our ELF (Evil Little Friend), but I too have never heard red apple.

I am 24 and a virgin. I don't "get" the whole idea of sex, but I always thought it was because I have Aspergers, and I'm not even fond of the idea of hugging or kissing (I've only kissed family members and only on the cheek). I never realized that maybe other people didn't always want it either. Movies and stuff, it seems like everyone does it and you are completely the odd one out if you don't.

Good to know I'm not alone!

KStiletto · 10-10-2011, 10:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by authentic

"Red Apple" is also known as menstruation.

I do not like to have sex with woman who have a menstruation.

Now I have answered to your original question.

Now, what the heck is wrong with you?

Not one thing. No one uses red apple.. Btw no one was talking about having sex on their period. You just decided to make two rights and a left with that one.

rebeccalj · 10-10-2011, 10:53 PM

Oy, I'm opposite. Want it *all* the time. Part of the reason is PSAS but mostly I just enjoy it so much. Does help to have partner who knows how to *make love* to woman like James mention. Guys who just want **** are boring.

Mintee · 10-10-2011, 11:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rebeccalj

Oy, I'm opposite. Want it *all* the time. Part of the reason is PSAS but mostly I just enjoy it so much. Does help to have partner who knows how to *make love* to woman like James mention. Guys who just want **** are boring.

i agree.. i can't have sex unless there's love and emotional connection. i don't **** just anyone.. not my style at all.

10-10-2011, 01:24 AM	#1 (permalink)
KStiletto Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Brooklyn, NYC Posts: 557	Is it possible to NOT like sex? Okay, this question is geared toward people younger than forty, but anyone that is inclined to answer, can. I googled it, and I read that some people don't like sex, and that's cool. Just wanted to know if you or know of anyone who doesn't like sex? One reason I found interesting is that the actual act disgusts some.. What are your thoughts? Before you can say anything, please don't say "That person just has not had good sex.." Just needed to get that old phrase out of the way.

10-10-2011, 01:30 AM	#3 (permalink)
TWA Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,374	There are rare cases of asexualism, which is the technical term for someone who does not have interest in sex and is not attracted sexually to other human beings, but for the most part, not liking sex is a sign of sexual dysfunction caused by any number of factors (i.e. being raised in strict family that makes it "guilty/dirty," past experiences involving abuse/rape/being taken advantage of, etc). rockin'robin, FadedRose, ladysolitary85 and 1 others like this.

10-10-2011, 01:40 AM	#4 (permalink)
rockin'robin Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 15,314	Some people find it "messy" and that includes men & women...I agree with TWA...a lot of factors can cause someone not to like or desire sex. Even the thought of sex makes some people feel sick. Many people do seek out a partner for companionship only, no sex. FadedRose likes this.

10-10-2011, 09:15 AM	#7 (permalink)
Oceanbreeze Registered User Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: S. FL Posts: 9,967	I'm in that category. I don't like sex. I don't find it disgusting, so much as painful. But, I should add I've had traumatic experiences surrounding this, so I'm sure this is why. I also have other factors that cause a low sex drive, so for me, not enjoying sex is NOT a problem. Lack of desire has it's advantages, sometimes. Lack of desire + dislike = non issue for me. Now, I will add, I like to be intimate. I like cuddling. I like kissing. I like acts that lead up to, but does not include intercourse. But, since that could be considered leading someone on, I choose to refrain from it all. It's less complicated for me this way. OK, now I feel weird... __________________ "There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living."

10-10-2011, 10:46 AM	#10 (permalink)
KStiletto Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Brooklyn, NYC Posts: 557	I realize that I think I don't like sex either, I'd prefer a lifetime of intimacy and love over a lifetime of amazing, head board banging sex. It's rare that they both come together. I feel if I don't really care about the person, it's only "okay." Last edited by KStiletto; 10-10-2011 at 10:47 AM. Reason: Forgot to add some stuff.

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10-10-2011, 01:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
Sunshine Banned Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Home of Canucks! Posts: 3,269 Blog Entries: 2	I not huge fan.

10-10-2011, 02:02 AM	#5 (permalink)
KStiletto Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Brooklyn, NYC Posts: 557	Interesting.

10-10-2011, 11:30 AM	#12 (permalink)
mbrek Premium Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 1,512 Blog Entries: 1	I'm afraid my sex drive agrees (although I'm 45). Somewhere it took a nose dive... and while it can be nice, it's not a huge driving force in my life. Definitely not weird! __________________ Sarcasm - just another little service I offer.

10-10-2011, 12:50 PM	#13 (permalink)
Mintee Banned Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: East Coast Posts: 771	i know someone who's asexual and never had sex. he never 'checks out' pretty women and he's not gay. says he was born this way

10-10-2011, 12:56 PM	#14 (permalink)
Mintee Banned Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: East Coast Posts: 771	it's not weird at all. some people like sex. some don't.. that's just the way it is KarissaMann05 likes this.

10-10-2011, 01:05 PM	#15 (permalink)
authentic Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: San Francisco Posts: 6,100	Who would like to have sex when she got herself a "red apple"? Definitely not me. __________________

10-10-2011, 01:13 PM	#19 (permalink)
Mintee Banned Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: East Coast Posts: 771	red apple????????

10-10-2011, 01:28 PM	#20 (permalink)
Sunshine Banned Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Home of Canucks! Posts: 3,269 Blog Entries: 2	Not understand red apple either...

10-10-2011, 07:47 PM	#23 (permalink)
shel90 Let It Snow!!!! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A place where crabs are popular Posts: 40,303 Blog Entries: 3	Sometimes I dont want to have sex but I still like it. I call that being "not in the mood" rather than an aversion to it. No, none of you are weird for how you feel. We are all different so it is nice that you are all honest to yourselves about it. I have known a few people who work so hard on convincing themselves that they love sex and ends up with problems. __________________ "Wine improves with age. The older I get, the better I like it." --- Anonymous

10-10-2011, 07:53 PM	#24 (permalink)
Sunshine Banned Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Home of Canucks! Posts: 3,269 Blog Entries: 2	Nothing "wrong" authentic. Just different. Why problem not like something physically painful?

10-10-2011, 07:58 PM	#25 (permalink)
JAMES09 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: USA>Maryland Posts: 120 Blog Entries: 2	this is my 2 cents.... Guys, you make love with a Lady, you screw or have sex with the neighborhood prostitute... I believe that when you make love with a Lady, it's not just about the physical act of making love, but it is just as much emotional & Psychological as well. This is just my opinion so take it as such. Because of my health,...making love? what's that??? ladysolitary85, MidnightSun and rebeccalj like this. __________________ O Allah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being over powered by men. [Al-Bukhari]

10-10-2011, 09:16 PM	#26 (permalink)
mbrek Premium Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 1,512 Blog Entries: 1	OMG, how can I have gotten this old and not heard of "red apple"? I've heard of "Aunt Flo"... BTW, I do not have sex when I have my period. Yuck!!! Might as well do it in the bathtub to make clean up easier. __________________ Sarcasm - just another little service I offer.

10-10-2011, 09:58 PM	#27 (permalink)
Emmer Registered User Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Ohio Posts: 104 Blog Entries: 1	At college, we called that time of the month our ELF (Evil Little Friend), but I too have never heard red apple. I am 24 and a virgin. I don't "get" the whole idea of sex, but I always thought it was because I have Aspergers, and I'm not even fond of the idea of hugging or kissing (I've only kissed family members and only on the cheek). I never realized that maybe other people didn't always want it either. Movies and stuff, it seems like everyone does it and you are completely the odd one out if you don't. Good to know I'm not alone! Last edited by Emmer; 10-10-2011 at 10:49 PM.

10-10-2011, 10:53 PM	#29 (permalink)
rebeccalj Registered User Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 1,585	Oy, I'm opposite. Want it all the time. Part of the reason is PSAS but mostly I just enjoy it so much. Does help to have partner who knows how to make love to woman like James mention. Guys who just want **** are boring. ladysolitary85, Mintee and Robohonch like this.

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