CrazyPaul

Some women don't want to leave their abusive boyfriends/husbands who have a big penis. Is that true?

I know one woman who refused to leave her boyfriend who constantly abused her. I was told by someone else that his penis was huge. No wonder why she stayed with him even after she got abused repeatedly.

Deafness

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Mintee

you're crazy pauly

don't believe everything people tell you

rockin'robin

True that....ahhh...seems this woman is mistaking a huge penis for "love"....many women put sex before anything else, even abuse. Some women will not even have anything to do with a "small" penis...other women are just the opposite and dislike a huge penis....

CrazyPaul

That's why I brought it up. Many women? Oh, boy! Wait a min, I don't believe everything you say (katerivera's suggestion).

deafbajagal

Nah. They don't want to leave because they are co-dependents who fear being alone, being abused worse if they are caught trying to leave, or worse.

Frisky Feline

Nah. Like what DBJ ^^^ CoDependents are the difficult habit of getting rid of the nasty habit.

PowerON

It's not always about their penis. It just that females make their choice to stay with their boyfriend or hubby after they abuse her. She is just being willing to make thing right to be better next time as she hope for. Neverless, thing may getting worst.

All she need is a help to learn how to break the border to get their own way.

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Daredevel7

Okay... it's one thing to stay with a guy even though the relationship is blah because the sex is great, but... another thing to stay with him even though he is abusive just because he has a big one.

I HIGHLY doubt it's just because he has a big dick..... there is more to the story.

Frisky Feline

yeah he is a big dick.

DeafCaroline

You really think women put up with being abused because of the size of their boyfriend's penis? I couldn't believe it when you said "according to someone else, he has a big penis, no wonder she won't leave him."

I mean, what??

No, women put up with abuse out of fear, or because their self esteem is so low they think they can't function without their man, or because they don't have money to support themselves, or because they don't want to take the children away from their father, or even go so far as forgive the abuse because she sympathizes with the abuser's psychological weaknesses and doesn't hold it against him. "He hits and hurts me but it's not his fault. He needs me."

posts from hell

huh WHAT.................

posts from hell

I've sat in a few DV workshops for work and can safely tell you that there is much more to the story.

Even women with a lot of education will have hard time leaving their abusive relationship. It's sad.

Sunshine

I not think anyone ever can say or know why someone else stay, put up with somethings you maybe not put up with. Not judge others. Never can know what make someone happy, what they okay with. People always so fast judge men, make monsters when not know whole situation.

Mintee

the other posters are right...

women stay with the abusive man because he makes her feel emotionally trapped.

rockin'robin

There are many, many reasons why women stay with an abusive partner..."awesome sex" is one of them, they like it rough and have never had a man who treated them rough, or even a "big penis".....I've heard of women crying because they could not find a man who was better in bed than their abusive partner, and wanted to go back....Even one woman said....."he rocks my world!"..."he's my Daddy"!....It's sick, I agree...but it's factual.

Men can use sex as control, too.

DeafCaroline

It takes more than good sex or a big penis to put up with abuse. There's usually more to the story than that.

Sunshine

Right. I think seldom this will factor in. You can get sex anyone, you stay because what he give you nobody else can.

Royale

are you thinking, Crazy Paul?!

Frisky Feline

is it possible some guys feel insecure thinking gals who are being abused with big dicks who have big dicks to stay with big dicks?

i know it isn't funny but you know.

Daredevel7

Maybe the translation was lost?

Person A: "He controls her by being a big dick. She just can't leave him because of this."
Person B: "I heard that she can't leave him because he has a big dick."

CrazyPaul

Today women are stronger and tougher than before and most of them are happy to end the bad relationship that involves verbal/physical abuse and be independent again.

I don't think a woman is stuck with a guy because he threatens her. She can call a cop to arrest him immediately for domestic violence and he will be doing time.

If she doesn't call 911, then why the **** not? Because she's stupid or weak? Or because she is afraid that she will not be able to find another man who gives a great sex or has a big dick like him? I think that's possible. See what rocking robin said in #15. I also think that it's a reality but it doesn't always happen anyway. Some women stay with their abusive men who are rich, smart or something like that.

Frisky Feline

Not always that way. some of ladies can get killed by spouses. =/ polices can't do anything without being proof or evidences. that s why there is an agenecy for D.V.

Daredevel7

I think you have a lot to learn about domestic violence.

rockin'robin

'Course there is...Sex is just one of them. Some women will stay with/even keep dating a guy who is abusive, is an alcoholic/drug addict...whatever..just because the "sex is awesome"..... Not all women are alike...

Remmy a lady here at AD, whose husband was abusive. Still she stayed with him, and got pregnant over and over again....He was always saying he was sorry, bringing flowers, etc. ....but the sex was "great" AFTER an argument or him being abusive. Even some women will accept sex from a man who has been abusive, without it being forced upon them.....all it takes is "I'm so sorry"..."it will never happen again"....and off to bed they go!....Instead of getting out of the home or away from the man.

Sex can be a very controlling factor.

CrazyPaul

This is not 1950s. Many guys go to jail for DV even without hard evidence. At different times, two friends of mine went to jail for DV after their wives told the cops that the husbands tried to hurt them. The wives didn't need to prove it. The cops' job is to protect and serve. They mean business now, not like before. Same with our courts, they will not let abusive people get away with it.

Mintee

i don't think it's nice to call a woman "stupid" or "weak" for staying with the abusive man. i have been through this before so i know what it feels like. abusive men use methods to psychologically manipulate women, so that she feels like there is no way out.

AlleyCat

I think the sex is only the tiniest part of it. The "big dick" thing is silly. Unfortunately, I think she doesn't see that and it's the feeling of being trapped in the relationship that is the problem.

Jiro

oh child....

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Daredevel7

Friends of yours...?

Hmm.... part of your personality shows by the choice of your friends...

Are you saying that they didn't deserve to go to jail? Did the wives lie?

CrazyPaul

No, I am not saying that. The guys admitted it to me so it was true. One of them said he just put his hands around his wife's neck so he deserved a punishment. Both of them stayed in jail for about 3-5 days and paid the court a big fine and were required to take anger management for one year. They also were put on a restraining order for some times. I know them from work.