Would you rather date... - Page 3

DeafTim · 07-21-2011, 06:31 PM

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Originally Posted by KStiletto

No, I understand your feelings, and I'm not trying to negate that, but my thing was you said your dream girl would be deaf... So in my mind I wonder would you have kids with her? It's totally your right to not want children or not I was just curious. So, to clear it up, you'd seek a hearing or deaf woman to have children with (if you wanted to?)

You know what? Im done.

KStiletto · 07-21-2011, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by DeafTim

You know what? Im done.

... NEXT!

DeafCaroline · 07-21-2011, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Shoshana

WOW! SO WRONG!! I am a Deaf girl and have a very strong independant mind of my own!

Me too. My father wished he actually had any control over who I dated. Maybe I should have listened to him though...

Shoshana · 07-21-2011, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by DeafCaroline

Me too. My father wished he actually had any control over who I dated. Maybe I should have listened to him though...

HAHA same with my dad

I realized most of my exes were the "weaker link", so for someone to say all deaf girls are as Tim suggested is a load of :bsflag:

KStiletto · 07-21-2011, 06:38 PM

I think all blanket statements are pretty outrageous. But, hey what can you do?

katz4life · 07-21-2011, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by DeafTim

Hi there.

Not my fault people do not read my post correct the first time. All Im trying to say is, I wouldnt want my kids to inherit deafness. A lot of deaf people werent born deaf. I wasnt. I had a fever as small child. So lets say, I have a kid with a hearing woman, the child will not inherit deafness. It happened to my best friend and his 2 sisters b.c they inherited deafness. They all hated it b/c it was difficult for them to adapt from hearing to deaf. See what me is a sayin'?

Their daddy's deaf not their mother.

Sigh. 90% of deaf children are being born to BOTH of hearing parents.

DeafTim · 07-22-2011, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by katz4life

Sigh. 90% of deaf children are being born to BOTH of hearing parents.

Oh,ok,I didnt know. Thanks. I know few deafies became deaf later in life and born deaf because of inheritance.

Shoshana · 07-22-2011, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by DeafTim

Oh,ok,I didnt know. Thanks. I know few deafies became deaf later in life and born deaf because of inheritance.

One can even inherit it but be born hearing and lost it later over time, never know.

Hollykins1 · 07-25-2011, 09:10 AM

Hmmm, should I ever date again - I hope I would date solely because I had interest in the guy as a person - and not whether he was deaf or hearing.

Okay, so it's impossible not to notice...but what I am saying is that I would hope my decision to date or not date someone didn't rest on: hearing? Deaf?

tee · 07-26-2011, 01:06 PM

i would love to meet a lovey black deaf women we would have great relanship togather

Warped · 07-26-2011, 03:11 PM

For me, It's all about communication so I guess I would prefer to date someone who's fluent in ASL. I love talking and discussing stuff, and if I cannot do that, it would be nearly impossible for me to hold any interest in the girl.

So it doesn't matter deaf or hearie, as long as she can sign well.

JoeyDeafNinja · 07-27-2011, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by DeafTim

why?

Are you dat ugly?

I had to get'cha.

Sir you are an ASSHOLE. Get the **** off.

DeafTim · 07-28-2011, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by JoeyDeafNinja

Sir you are an ASSHOLE. Get the **** off.

Sweet_Candice86 · 07-29-2011, 08:15 PM

I'm looking for love period. I belong to multiple dating sites, b/c I don't have opportunities to get out much b/c I'm a single mom and caring for my Grandmother. I joined AllDeaf.com b/c I haven't had much luck on other sites and thought that since I know some ASL and have been around people in the deaf community when I was younger that it would be nice to connect with some now. I'm also considering going back to college to become an ASL Interpreter. Sooo... I'm not specifically looking for a "deaf guy" but if I find one on here or anywhere else then I do. If anyone is in the Eastern North Carolina area reply to me, b/c I live in Greenville, NC. TTYL

<3 @-}--}---

bbaseballboy123 · 08-02-2011, 04:31 PM

doesnt matter weather theyre hearing or deaf for me.

I got a hearing gf and she completely understands it, and sometimes even forget im deaf lol.

She stays on my right (right implant is very easy to hear with) and doesnt mind caption/subtitles.

Brandolyn · 08-04-2011, 09:30 PM

I'd like to date a deaf guy because I don't like things that are loud. I like quiet...wait, scratch that...I LOVE the quiet. Plus, I think deaf men are very in-tune to the people around them. Their other senses are more acute and that is very attractive!

Personally, I'd find a relationship with a deaf man an honor!

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Originally Posted by Shoshana

For the other Deafies: Would you rather date another Deaf person or a hearing person?

For the Hearing people: Why do you choose to date a Deaf Person?

I am Deaf, Ive dated two Deaf guys but all others were hearing. I see many advantage to dating a Deaf guy but also many to date a Hearing

I have realized many hearing people here are dating a Deaf person or are specifically seeking out a Deafie to date.

Pros and Cons of both

rebeccalj · 08-04-2011, 11:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Shoshana

LOL I think thats a man thing in general

When I was dating Deaf guys I loved that they "understood" culture and what it is like to be Deaf, and easier to communicate.

With Hearing guys communication can be difficult sometimes on my part (but my boyfriend now is learning sign!), another positive thing is having a set of ears around

My boyfriend is wonderful in repeating what other people say to me if I cant read their lips or whatever

Do it not bother you to rely on *him* to hear for you?

**Bottesini** · 08-05-2011, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Brandolyn

I'd like to date a deaf guy because I don't like things that are loud. I like quiet...wait, scratch that...I LOVE the quiet. Plus, I think deaf men are very in-tune to the people around them. Their other senses are more acute and that is very attractive!

Personally, I'd find a relationship with a deaf man an honor!

Who told you deaf people are quiet??

Brandolyn · 08-05-2011, 10:35 AM

A woman who dated a deaf guy.

**Bottesini** · 08-05-2011, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Brandolyn

A woman who dated a deaf guy.

You might want to attend a few deaf socials.

Brandolyn · 08-05-2011, 11:05 AM

I plan too...

Shoshana · 08-07-2011, 06:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Brandolyn

I'd like to date a deaf guy because I don't like things that are loud. I like quiet...wait, scratch that...I LOVE the quiet. Plus, I think deaf men are very in-tune to the people around them. Their other senses are more acute and that is very attractive!

Personally, I'd find a relationship with a deaf man an honor!

HAHA DEAF PEOPLE ARE NOT QUIET! well at least im not LOL My family tells me im screaming and to be quiet...sometimes something private "slips" and then the entire resturant knows lol

Shoshana · 08-07-2011, 06:49 AM

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Originally Posted by rebeccalj

Do it not bother you to rely on *him* to hear for you?

No it dosen't bother me at all. I can communicate without him--read lips but if people have accent, facial hair, etc etc. they need to write it down. He makes it a lot easier for both parties and he dosent mind.

Kitten · 08-07-2011, 03:34 PM

I'd date any guy who was nice to me; hearing or Deaf.

**Banjo** · 08-07-2011, 05:56 PM

If people tell you to stop screaming, just scream back, "I am not screaming! Get your hearing checked!"

SchrodingersCat · 08-07-2011, 09:30 PM

I'm hearing and I'd be interested in dating a deaf person just as much as a hearing person (possibly more :p)

I Glare · 08-09-2011, 03:00 PM

I am hearing, but I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to date a Deaf guy. I love ASL and would love to go times without talking. I also like the culture and would be great to go out with a Deaf guy.

**ash345** · 08-09-2011, 05:42 PM

Ya know... I'm finding it amazing how many more people (hearing people that is) are starting to say that they want to date a Deaf person... and it seems they would date them just because they are Deaf... doesn't seem right to me. but That might just be me I guess...

And Deaf people are NOT quiet... that is a big misunderstanding... we just can't hear ourselves

so we sometimes think we are being quiet. and Shoshana, I understand the comment in a restaurant... I was with my mom one day and we were talking in what I thought was whispered conversation when she told me something that I didn't quite understand... I said "Dad stuck his favorite what where?" when I thought I was being quiet... apparently she said "Dad sucked his favorite pencil in the vacuum" I thought she said something quite different... the entire restaurant was looking at us... and I... I was mortified...

Paige · 08-10-2011, 02:54 PM

My boyfriend is Deaf , I didn't get up one day saying I think I want to date someone deaf.
The first time I met my BF I was actually at camp and I was a scared to talk to him . I knew a bit of ASL before we met but I was scared to show what I knew because it could have been something I didn't want to say . Ah terrifying ... First thing said.. Hi my name is Qaihe.... my name is Paige....

Microwench · 08-12-2011, 11:59 AM

I am married, but if I were single, I wouldn't care if the person I dated was deaf. (I'm hearing, so is hubby) It just doesn't matter to me if a person is haring, deaf, tall, short, walking, or in a wheelchair.

More important to me is if a guy (or girl, I am bi) is funny, kind, and smart. I am a total geek, so I need someone who can challenge me. I want intellegent conversation, I don't care what language that conversation is in!

Honestly, dating (or since I'm married now, being friends with) someone who has had different life experiences than me is more interesting than someone who is just like me. That's just one reason I love my hubby, he was raised differently, in a different part of the country, and he is 11 yrs my senior. Our differences make our relationship more interesting-we have mroe to teach each other, and in turn, more to learn!

Like I said, I am a geek, so I love to learn. I am utterly curious about anything and everything. I love meeting new people who hav new things to teach me. You lived in Thailand for 5 years? Awesome, tell me all about yourself. You use a wheelchair? Awesome, tell me all about yourself. You are hearing/Deaf? Awesome, tell me all about yourself. If you want to talk about what makes you different, awesome! Want to talk about your favorite books? Awesome!

People are inherantly interesting. Once you see that differences make us interesting, and stop being scared of the unkown, life is much more fun!

07-25-2011, 09:10 AM	#69 (permalink)
Hollykins1 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Tavares, FL Posts: 277	Hmmm, should I ever date again - I hope I would date solely because I had interest in the guy as a person - and not whether he was deaf or hearing. Okay, so it's impossible not to notice...but what I am saying is that I would hope my decision to date or not date someone didn't rest on: hearing? Deaf? Sweet_Candice86 and Brandolyn like this. __________________ DX: Meniere's Disease 6/10 HOH and learning ASL VNS: 11/2/10

07-26-2011, 03:11 PM	#71 (permalink)
Warped Registered User Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Maryland Posts: 102	For me, It's all about communication so I guess I would prefer to date someone who's fluent in ASL. I love talking and discussing stuff, and if I cannot do that, it would be nearly impossible for me to hold any interest in the girl. So it doesn't matter deaf or hearie, as long as she can sign well. Shoshana and Sweet_Candice86 like this.

08-02-2011, 04:31 PM	#75 (permalink)
bbaseballboy123 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Connecticut, US Posts: 513	doesnt matter weather theyre hearing or deaf for me. I got a hearing gf and she completely understands it, and sometimes even forget im deaf lol. She stays on my right (right implant is very easy to hear with) and doesnt mind caption/subtitles. Sweet_Candice86 and Mintee like this. __________________ Deaf and Smart. Business Major at RIT. Have Bi-lateral cochlear implants. But know ASL as well. Working on a new project that will benefit deaf peeps

08-07-2011, 03:34 PM	#84 (permalink)
Kitten Registered User Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 92	I'd date any guy who was nice to me; hearing or Deaf. Sweet_Candice86 likes this.

08-07-2011, 05:56 PM	#85 (permalink)
Banjo Expelled Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 11,650	If people tell you to stop screaming, just scream back, "I am not screaming! Get your hearing checked!" sheila022, Sweet_Candice86 and Paige like this.

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07-21-2011, 06:38 PM	#65 (permalink)
KStiletto Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Brooklyn, NYC Posts: 557	I think all blanket statements are pretty outrageous. But, hey what can you do?

07-26-2011, 01:06 PM	#70 (permalink)
tee Registered User Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13	i would love to meet a lovey black deaf women we would have great relanship togather

07-29-2011, 08:15 PM	#74 (permalink)
Sweet_Candice86 Registered User Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Greenville, NC Posts: 61	I'm looking for love period. I belong to multiple dating sites, b/c I don't have opportunities to get out much b/c I'm a single mom and caring for my Grandmother. I joined AllDeaf.com b/c I haven't had much luck on other sites and thought that since I know some ASL and have been around people in the deaf community when I was younger that it would be nice to connect with some now. I'm also considering going back to college to become an ASL Interpreter. Sooo... I'm not specifically looking for a "deaf guy" but if I find one on here or anywhere else then I do. If anyone is in the Eastern North Carolina area reply to me, b/c I live in Greenville, NC. TTYL <3 @-}--}---

08-05-2011, 10:35 AM	#79 (permalink)
Brandolyn Registered User Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Davenport, Iowa Posts: 22	A woman who dated a deaf guy.

08-05-2011, 11:05 AM	#81 (permalink)
Brandolyn Registered User Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Davenport, Iowa Posts: 22	I plan too...

08-07-2011, 09:30 PM	#86 (permalink)
SchrodingersCat Registered User Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Toronto Posts: 4	I'm hearing and I'd be interested in dating a deaf person just as much as a hearing person (possibly more :p) Sweet_Candice86 likes this.

08-09-2011, 03:00 PM	#87 (permalink)
I Glare Registered User Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 3	I am hearing, but I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to date a Deaf guy. I love ASL and would love to go times without talking. I also like the culture and would be great to go out with a Deaf guy. Sweet_Candice86 likes this.

08-09-2011, 05:42 PM	#88 (permalink)
ash345 Audist Free Zone Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Denver, CO Posts: 806	Ya know... I'm finding it amazing how many more people (hearing people that is) are starting to say that they want to date a Deaf person... and it seems they would date them just because they are Deaf... doesn't seem right to me. but That might just be me I guess... And Deaf people are NOT quiet... that is a big misunderstanding... we just can't hear ourselves so we sometimes think we are being quiet. and Shoshana, I understand the comment in a restaurant... I was with my mom one day and we were talking in what I thought was whispered conversation when she told me something that I didn't quite understand... I said "Dad stuck his favorite what where?" when I thought I was being quiet... apparently she said "Dad sucked his favorite pencil in the vacuum" I thought she said something quite different... the entire restaurant was looking at us... and I... I was mortified... Bottesini, Beach girl, Shoshana and 2 others like this. __________________ with a capital D, more than just a state of being, its family, belonging, home "Love and dreams are miraculous, they don't need to be heard or said or translated, only felt" That Deaf Girl

08-10-2011, 02:54 PM	#89 (permalink)
Paige Registered User Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Winnipeg MB Posts: 120	My boyfriend is Deaf , I didn't get up one day saying I think I want to date someone deaf. The first time I met my BF I was actually at camp and I was a scared to talk to him . I knew a bit of ASL before we met but I was scared to show what I knew because it could have been something I didn't want to say . Ah terrifying ... First thing said.. Hi my name is Qaihe.... my name is Paige.... Sweet_Candice86 likes this.

08-12-2011, 11:59 AM	#90 (permalink)
Microwench Registered User Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Kansas Posts: 15	I am married, but if I were single, I wouldn't care if the person I dated was deaf. (I'm hearing, so is hubby) It just doesn't matter to me if a person is haring, deaf, tall, short, walking, or in a wheelchair. More important to me is if a guy (or girl, I am bi) is funny, kind, and smart. I am a total geek, so I need someone who can challenge me. I want intellegent conversation, I don't care what language that conversation is in! Honestly, dating (or since I'm married now, being friends with) someone who has had different life experiences than me is more interesting than someone who is just like me. That's just one reason I love my hubby, he was raised differently, in a different part of the country, and he is 11 yrs my senior. Our differences make our relationship more interesting-we have mroe to teach each other, and in turn, more to learn! Like I said, I am a geek, so I love to learn. I am utterly curious about anything and everything. I love meeting new people who hav new things to teach me. You lived in Thailand for 5 years? Awesome, tell me all about yourself. You use a wheelchair? Awesome, tell me all about yourself. You are hearing/Deaf? Awesome, tell me all about yourself. If you want to talk about what makes you different, awesome! Want to talk about your favorite books? Awesome! People are inherantly interesting. Once you see that differences make us interesting, and stop being scared of the unkown, life is much more fun! Sweet_Candice86 likes this.

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