Originally Posted by Reba

Must be something wrong with me. There is no one that I call every day. I guess my life isn't that interesting.

Originally Posted by lanapoo

His wife did tell you to back off, correct?

Respect that and be considerate. She sees you as the "other woman" and is trying to put a stop to it and work on her own marriage.

Originally Posted by ember

See there you go adding on to the story I said she didn't like me or our friendship I never said they were in turmoils and needed "work on their relationship or save their marriage"

Originally Posted by ember

See there you go adding on to the story I said she didn't like me or our friendship I never said they were in turmoils and needed "work on their relationship or save their marriage"

Originally Posted by Reba

Must be something wrong with me. There is no one that I call every day. I guess my life isn't that interesting.

Originally Posted by Banjo

The only person I call every single day is my wife. I do call my parents quite often but that's because I have a very healthy relationship with them.

Originally Posted by Steinhauer

I agree with Banjo. However, let's give ember the benefit of a doubt. Let's be fair.

Ember, in one of your posts, you mentioned about how you and your ex were not giving any reason for his wife to be jealous. You are attempting to implicate that her fears are unfounded. You mentioned your ex husband and yourself as "WE are not giving HER any reason to be jealous ..."

You and your ex are not a couple. His wife is not a jealous control freak manipulative type - it is quite possibly that HE is. If he refuses to listen to his wife and continues in the same manner, it will not be too long before she takes the kids and files for a divorce.

Then ... you can come in and pick up all the peices. I certainly wouldn't be saying this if I hadn't a) experienced the same thing first hand b) seen this happen to many of my friends and c) know this is how those situations transpire.

You are playing with fire.

I mean that in the most respectful way.

Originally Posted by lanapoo

There are very few people that I'd talk to daily. I do need breaks from my bestfriends occasionally!

Originally Posted by Jiro

let me have a break too please.

Originally Posted by ember

When did we start meaning "couple" we as in him and me or him and I. We as a couple is assumed because the assumption is being made that I see us as a couple and I do not at all.

Originally Posted by Jiro

I've seen in some tv shows where some daughters say that they call their moms/sisters everyday for decades.

what do you think about that? IMO - it's emotionally unhealthy

Originally Posted by Jiro

I've seen in some tv shows where some daughters say that they call their moms/sisters everyday for decades.

Originally Posted by ember

I wasn't asking you, steinhauer said that I referred to us a couple. And I am not making him neglect his wife.

Originally Posted by Banjo

The only person I call every single day is my wife. I do call my parents quite often but that's because I have a very healthy relationship with them.

Originally Posted by Reba

When we're apart overnight or out of town, then Hubby and I call each other every day, if possible. When he was out to sea or overseas it was not possible. (No cell phones in those days.) Also, in the olden days, long distance calls were very expensive, so we had to limit them, even to our parents and each other.

If my mom was still alive I would probably call her frequently. I miss chatting with her.

Originally Posted by ember

When did we start meaning "couple" we as in him and me or him and I. We as a couple is assumed because the assumption is being made that I see us as a couple and I do not at all.

Originally Posted by Banjo

Thank God for technology, eh? When I was in California, I was able to talk to her through iChat on my MacBook Pro for a bit every night before she went to bed. I really appreciate the fact that we have the technology to do so today.

Originally Posted by Reba

Yep, technology is wonderful.

When Hubby was in the Navy there were weeks that I didn't hear from him. Even then, it would be a very quick call.

When our parents and grandparents were all alive, they lived in CT, MI, CA, and VA, while we lived in SC. Every call was an expensive long-distance one. We had to spread them out and take turns.

When I was a pre-teen, I couldn't even chat on the phone with my local friends. We had a party line, so we had to share time with another family. Also, you never really knew for sure whether or not someone was listening in. Sometimes they would cut in and ask me to hang up. It was awful!

Originally Posted by Steinhauer

A friend's mother told me about those days. She said it was awful, and sometimes funny.

Originally Posted by Reba

Yep, technology is wonderful.

When Hubby was in the Navy there were weeks that I didn't hear from him. Even then, it would be a very quick call.

When our parents and grandparents were all alive, they lived in CT, MI, CA, and VA, while we lived in SC. Every call was an expensive long-distance one. We had to spread them out and take turns.

When I was a pre-teen, I couldn't even chat on the phone with my local friends. We had a party line, so we had to share time with another family. Also, you never really knew for sure whether or not someone was listening in. Sometimes they would cut in and ask me to hang up. It was awful!

Originally Posted by ember

Now I'm emotionally unhealthy because I talk to my friends everyday and so are they because inturn they talk to me.

I throw my hands up

Originally Posted by Banjo

I vaguely remember the late 80s since I was born in 1983. I do recall how different the telephone system was and how it worked in these days. For instance, we only had one telecom and we had to go to The Phone Store to buy phones. Heck, we had rotary phones, not touch-tone phones. It was also illegal to install another phone jack without their authorization... as stupid as that sounds. Now it's completely different. We have several telecoms, we can install any phone jacks we please to and more. Sorry for going off the topic!

Originally Posted by Banjo

I vaguely remember the late 80s since I was born in 1983. I do recall how different the telephone system was and how it worked in these days. For instance, we only had one telecom and we had to go to The Phone Store to buy phones. Heck, we had rotary phones, not touch-tone phones. It was also illegal to install another phone jack without their authorization... as stupid as that sounds. Now it's completely different. We have several telecoms, we can install any phone jacks we please to and more.

Originally Posted by lanapoo

This is about their marriage, not your friendship. I don't care who you talk to every day, but this is their marriage and you're contributing to their problems.

So don't be selfish and think that she's the problem. I don't see you as a bad person, you just need to see the other POV on this.

Originally Posted by Reba

Yes, we had rotary dial phones and limited jacks. One way around the jack limitation was to get reeeeaaaalllllyyy lllloooonnnnggg phone cords. We would carry the phone from room to room with a long cord. (BTW, our jacks were hard wired in those days, not plug ins.) My brother was geeky and knew his way around Radio Shack, so we improvised.

Until AT&T was broken up into the Baby Bells, it wasn't even legal to own AT&T phones; they were leased, and had to be returned if you moved.

Originally Posted by Banjo

Same here, they were leased too as well. I remember that. Bell Canada had to be split up too as well from what I know. Bell Canada at one point was largely owned by AT&T, so that would explain their business tactics!

My father did the same thing, he always bought stuff from Radio Shack to work around the house with. We used to have Radio Shack until they were bought out and rebranded to The Source by Circuit City.