Everyone said: After breaking up can be friends?

kali · 12-11-2010, 08:32 PM

Can not be friends after breaking up, as have hurt;
broke up the enemy can not do, because the loved each other once;
we have become the most familiar stranger

The Highlander · 12-11-2010, 08:38 PM

Yes and no.

Yes, it's good idea to become friend due no enemy.

No, don't want to become friend if ex did stupid like cheat, hurt, mean, and abuse.

kali · 12-11-2010, 08:42 PM

I feel as long as the two really love each other, have to pay the feelings of the couple! ! After breaking up is less likely to become friends. . .But not in regular contact,it will affect their feelings

Juli-terp-to-be · 12-11-2010, 10:25 PM

My ex BF before I got married is now my best male friend. My ex husband 'tries' to be my friend. Then he will bad mouth me to our son. Telling him all about things and mistakes that were done (all seemingly on my side) in our marriage. in his weird way he's trying to get my son to side with him.

I seriously doubt that will happen cause my son is very smart and can see through the bullshit LOL

matajan · 12-11-2010, 10:27 PM

Move on

deafgal001 · 12-11-2010, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by matajan

Move on

Finally....

deafgal001 · 12-11-2010, 10:29 PM

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All my ex but one are still friends with me. I still talk to them and say hi and all. It really depends how bad relationship was.

The exs I friends with...we can't be close like we were. Too uncomfortable. Plus jealousy will occur if they are dating(my husband would be hurt too if I talk to my ex more than him)

MidnightSun · 12-11-2010, 10:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kali

Can not be friends after breaking up, as have hurt;
broke up the enemy can not do, because the loved each other once;
we have become the most familiar stranger

yeah..you are so right..in a perfect world ..we could all forget the pain of whatever caused the breakup and be friends...but..laughing..for me I try to forgive myself and others...but pain is too much...can not be friends with old lovers....i just wish them peace and move on

red2x2varoom · 12-12-2010, 08:09 AM

Hello, i understood about husband and ex bf. It s non appropriates. The best way, you should be respect your husband and family than ex boyfriend. Forget it about ex boyfriend backgrounds. It s an urgent the family and marriages come first. It s nothing to do with ex bf. Why do you need them ex bf? But some of husbands were an open minded to let wife to keep be friends who ex bf but depends on children feel comfortable or uncomfortable,u have to asked them the discuss then determined,avoid of divorce your own children or husband. I just gave you the best advice,smile. By red2x2varooooom/motorcycle,lol

deafgal001 · 12-12-2010, 08:28 AM

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I don't talk to my ex much so why that a problem? My husband knows them too.

rockin'robin · 12-12-2010, 08:43 AM

If there are children involved....(by the ex b/f or ex-husband)....then of course, being "friendly" is imperative for the children's sake.....to a point!

Breaking up is hard to do...lots of hurt feelings, maybe even anger. So, I think it's up to the individual whether to still be friends, or move on and ignore that person.

Then, in given time, if you feel you can handle just "being friends", go for it.

**Smithtr** · 12-12-2010, 09:15 AM

I know my gf cuz story lie and not honest! prove where is found it exactly wise prove! inside your sin your inside your trouble! I Don't like interesting play games and or lie! I am hurt to feeling upset! she is mad,who care she is pissed off me! well not joke, I am very tired I Notice it play games and or around!, I notice play games 5 yrs or 10 stranger i don't believe it

matajan · 12-12-2010, 05:18 PM

My ex girlfriends always lie to me.

AlleyCat · 12-12-2010, 05:42 PM

As you said, "move on".

(Why would you make ANOTHER thread about an ex-girlfriend from 6 years ago? You need to move on.)

**Rio** · 12-12-2010, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by AlleyCat

As you said, "move on".

(Why would you make ANOTHER thread about an ex-girlfriend from 6 years ago? You need to move on.)

You are too funny alleycat LOL Matajan never quits at the same time its entertaining lol

DDU · 12-12-2010, 09:15 PM

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You are too funny alleycat LOL Matajan never quits at the same time its entertaining lol

Matajan. post more often

Mr.JayDeeM · 12-13-2010, 03:49 AM

No friends for me. After a month or two, they just vanish. Boom, done for. So, not worth it unless a true one really is.

PowerON · 12-13-2010, 11:08 AM

Depend on situation that I willing be friend after break up.

red2x2varoom · 12-21-2010, 04:27 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kali

Can not be friends after breaking up, as have hurt;
broke up the enemy can not do, because the loved each other once;
we have become the most familiar stranger

hello, it depends on sutiations,if it hurts,abuse etc,then it shouldnt be friends when break up. what do you think?

**Smithtr** · 12-21-2010, 04:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by matajan

My ex girlfriends always lie to me.

because i am quit my girlfriend no more because i delete her I don`t like play games and lie because my gf si very trouble!! I know I rid her no more forget it i am single I find new girlfriend otherwise match person good friendly! communication to and happy! not ready! I am single right now

drphil · 02-22-2011, 03:47 PM

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drphil · 02-22-2011, 03:47 PM

Hi Travis still single-again. Another book from my user name: Love Smart: Find the one you want, Fix the one the one you got. Free Press New York 2005.

Check your public library.

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Irish · 02-24-2011, 11:14 PM

It depends on the situation. If someone did something terrible, then I doubt that a friendship would work out very well between the couple after they break up. But if it's a mutual breakup then I see absolutely no harm in staying friends. There's no need to throw something good away just because it didn't work out romantically between them. Personally I'm still friends with all of my ex's.

**LDNanna** · 02-24-2011, 11:43 PM

Its different for everyone. I have been friends with an ex boyfriend for over 30 years. I am friends with my ex husband. He has dinners here with the whole family.
Still, if someone is not comfortable with that relationship for themselves, then no. Sometimes the emotions are just too strong.

Irish Devil Dog · 02-27-2011, 04:03 PM

My ex gf and I arent friends since broke up bec of the abusive.

peacekeeper · 02-28-2011, 01:48 AM

I believe that if 2 people have kids out of the relationship that they should think about the kids and if they love the kids very much then they should be friends for the kid's sake. So kids can grow up watching the behavior of both parents and learn that we shouldn't be enemies there is too many of that out in the world. If both people have no kids then they don't have to be friends if they don't want to but they also don't have to be enemies too.

marcyp06 · 03-02-2011, 03:39 PM

I am friends with my ex wife and many ex girlfriends. My most recent ex and I broke up 8 months ago and she is my absolute best friend in the world.

S0rceress0 · 03-03-2011, 08:09 PM

I don't think I consider my ex husband my BEST friend, but certainly we are friendly to each other. Sometimes the way he treated me still gets my blood boiling, but he is not a bad person in himself. Because he is such a good father, I look on him with kindness.

**KristinaB** · 03-03-2011, 08:52 PM

I know a freind of mine was still very good friends with her ex-husband. She never really wanted the divorce, but consented to it. They had a very good relationship afterwards for their 2 kids. She remarried and he also remarried and has more children. She still got along with him and his new wife. He recently died and she was so heartbroken, her current hubby didn't understand.

warpedpink · 03-03-2011, 09:38 PM

I'm good friends with all my exs, except for one but he's dead (and good riddance) so he doesn't count.

12-11-2010, 08:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
kali Registered User Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: china Posts: 29	Everyone said: After breaking up can be friends? Can not be friends after breaking up, as have hurt; broke up the enemy can not do, because the loved each other once; we have become the most familiar stranger

12-11-2010, 08:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
The Highlander Registered User Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 6,234	Yes and no. Yes, it's good idea to become friend due no enemy. No, don't want to become friend if ex did stupid like cheat, hurt, mean, and abuse. __________________ "There are a lot of people that don’t like this software. It is because they don’t understand how to use the software and don’t realize it’s potential."

12-11-2010, 10:25 PM	#4 (permalink)
Juli-terp-to-be Registered User Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 1,413	My ex BF before I got married is now my best male friend. My ex husband 'tries' to be my friend. Then he will bad mouth me to our son. Telling him all about things and mistakes that were done (all seemingly on my side) in our marriage. in his weird way he's trying to get my son to side with him. I seriously doubt that will happen cause my son is very smart and can see through the bullshit LOL __________________ Gamer Girls ROCK! Presidentess of the Bitch Ex Wives of AD

12-11-2010, 10:29 PM	#7 (permalink)
deafgal001 Banned Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 2,542	Wirelessly posted All my ex but one are still friends with me. I still talk to them and say hi and all. It really depends how bad relationship was. The exs I friends with...we can't be close like we were. Too uncomfortable. Plus jealousy will occur if they are dating(my husband would be hurt too if I talk to my ex more than him) Last edited by deafgal001; 12-11-2010 at 10:34 PM.

12-12-2010, 09:15 AM	#12 (permalink)
Smithtr Siberian Husky Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 14,680	I know my gf cuz story lie and not honest! prove where is found it exactly wise prove! inside your sin your inside your trouble! I Don't like interesting play games and or lie! I am hurt to feeling upset! she is mad,who care she is pissed off me! well not joke, I am very tired I Notice it play games and or around!, I notice play games 5 yrs or 10 stranger i don't believe it __________________

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12-11-2010, 08:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
kali Registered User Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: china Posts: 29	I feel as long as the two really love each other, have to pay the feelings of the couple! ! After breaking up is less likely to become friends. . .But not in regular contact,it will affect their feelings

12-11-2010, 10:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
matajan Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,514	Move on

12-12-2010, 08:09 AM	#9 (permalink)
red2x2varoom Registered User Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: frederick,maryland Posts: 27	Hello, i understood about husband and ex bf. It s non appropriates. The best way, you should be respect your husband and family than ex boyfriend. Forget it about ex boyfriend backgrounds. It s an urgent the family and marriages come first. It s nothing to do with ex bf. Why do you need them ex bf? But some of husbands were an open minded to let wife to keep be friends who ex bf but depends on children feel comfortable or uncomfortable,u have to asked them the discuss then determined,avoid of divorce your own children or husband. I just gave you the best advice,smile. By red2x2varooooom/motorcycle,lol

12-12-2010, 08:28 AM	#10 (permalink)
deafgal001 Banned Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 2,542	Wirelessly posted I don't talk to my ex much so why that a problem? My husband knows them too.

12-12-2010, 08:43 AM	#11 (permalink)
rockin'robin Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 15,314	If there are children involved....(by the ex b/f or ex-husband)....then of course, being "friendly" is imperative for the children's sake.....to a point! Breaking up is hard to do...lots of hurt feelings, maybe even anger. So, I think it's up to the individual whether to still be friends, or move on and ignore that person. Then, in given time, if you feel you can handle just "being friends", go for it.

12-12-2010, 05:18 PM	#13 (permalink)
matajan Banned Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,514	My ex girlfriends always lie to me.

12-12-2010, 05:42 PM	#14 (permalink)
AlleyCat Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: In my time zone Posts: 10,823	As you said, "move on". (Why would you make ANOTHER thread about an ex-girlfriend from 6 years ago? You need to move on.)

12-13-2010, 03:49 AM	#17 (permalink)
Mr.JayDeeM Registered User Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Roanoke, Va Posts: 359	No friends for me. After a month or two, they just vanish. Boom, done for. So, not worth it unless a true one really is. __________________ "Gotta beat the shit out of everything to keep it lubricated"

12-13-2010, 11:08 AM	#18 (permalink)
PowerON Registered User Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: 37.5, 126.9 Posts: 10,334 Blog Entries: 5	Depend on situation that I willing be friend after break up. __________________ • [Illustrator.Blog-alloon.com] • Don't shoot me! I'm only blogger!

02-22-2011, 03:47 PM	#21 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,117	Hi Travis still single-again. Another book from my user name: Love Smart: Find the one you want, Fix the one the one you got. Free Press New York 2005. Check your public library. Implanted Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

02-22-2011, 03:47 PM	#22 (permalink)
drphil Registered User Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Toronto Ontario Posts: 4,117	Hi Travis still single-again. Another book from my user name: Love Smart: Find the one you want, Fix the one the one you got. Free Press New York 2005. Check your public library. Implanted Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07 __________________ Get Real:Implanted Sunnybrook/Toronto -Advanced Bionics-Harmony activated Aug/07

02-24-2011, 11:14 PM	#23 (permalink)
Irish Registered User Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Pennsylvania, USA Posts: 132	It depends on the situation. If someone did something terrible, then I doubt that a friendship would work out very well between the couple after they break up. But if it's a mutual breakup then I see absolutely no harm in staying friends. There's no need to throw something good away just because it didn't work out romantically between them. Personally I'm still friends with all of my ex's.

02-24-2011, 11:43 PM	#24 (permalink)
LDNanna Premium Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 2,688	Its different for everyone. I have been friends with an ex boyfriend for over 30 years. I am friends with my ex husband. He has dinners here with the whole family. Still, if someone is not comfortable with that relationship for themselves, then no. Sometimes the emotions are just too strong. Beach girl likes this.

02-27-2011, 04:03 PM	#25 (permalink)
Irish Devil Dog Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,501	My ex gf and I arent friends since broke up bec of the abusive.

02-28-2011, 01:48 AM	#26 (permalink)
peacekeeper Registered User Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Roswell, NM Posts: 2	Friends or not I believe that if 2 people have kids out of the relationship that they should think about the kids and if they love the kids very much then they should be friends for the kid's sake. So kids can grow up watching the behavior of both parents and learn that we shouldn't be enemies there is too many of that out in the world. If both people have no kids then they don't have to be friends if they don't want to but they also don't have to be enemies too.

03-02-2011, 03:39 PM	#27 (permalink)
marcyp06 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Ellensburg, WA Posts: 303	I am friends with my ex wife and many ex girlfriends. My most recent ex and I broke up 8 months ago and she is my absolute best friend in the world. __________________ Aspiring interpreter (with an auditory processing disorder) becoming more Deaf-minded everyday. Love this culture.

03-03-2011, 08:09 PM	#28 (permalink)
S0rceress0 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Corvallis, Oregon Posts: 210 Blog Entries: 3	I don't think I consider my ex husband my BEST friend, but certainly we are friendly to each other. Sometimes the way he treated me still gets my blood boiling, but he is not a bad person in himself. Because he is such a good father, I look on him with kindness.

03-03-2011, 08:52 PM	#29 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,778	I know a freind of mine was still very good friends with her ex-husband. She never really wanted the divorce, but consented to it. They had a very good relationship afterwards for their 2 kids. She remarried and he also remarried and has more children. She still got along with him and his new wife. He recently died and she was so heartbroken, her current hubby didn't understand.

03-03-2011, 09:38 PM	#30 (permalink)
warpedpink Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: California Bay Area Posts: 832	I'm good friends with all my exs, except for one but he's dead (and good riddance) so he doesn't count. __________________

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