Opal

A Canadian hearing man who works on a program for the Deaf, signs fluenty that he is often mistaken for a Deaf person. At a party he met up with a Deaf woman and they were chatting amicably, getting along very well. Suddenly a stranger came up and asked for the time of the day to which the hearing man replied vocally. The Deaf woman upset, threw her drink in his face, accusing him of play-acting deaf and said he should have told her right away that he was hearing. The hearing man said "I was not playing Deaf, you never asked if I was hearing and I never asked if you were hearing." Fortunately the hearing man eventually married a different Deaf woman and the marriage is working very well.

copyright BDN 3/2003.

I wonder if it has happen to any of you before?

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Cheri

I have met alot of people at a Party before some hearing some Deaf.. and I Will always asked if he or she is hearing or deaf... Then I'll know.. I don't think he was playing deaf either cuz like he said She didn't asked him if he was deaf or hearing...

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DeafSCUBA98

i agree with you.. i always ask if they're deaf or hearing.. if i notice they're signing fluenty.. then i assume they're deaf.. but i always make sure by asking them..

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Oddball

Yes, I met the gal in Tucson, AZ. She fluents in ASL, working at ASDB while attending UA at that time. I thought she was Deaf, but learning she is really Hearing!! Geez. Sometimes, I often get mistakes, noticing hearing people are fluent in ASL. SMH. I have to ask them if they are Deaf or Hearing.

Opal

Yes, it shows this deaf woman's fault for not asking him a question in first place, and its sad to see she threw a drink at him!! (Glad he didn't choose to marry her!

Yes, I always asked new people at Deaf Club if they are deaf, where he/she comes from, and which deaf schools they attend to as Great Britain is very small island, (Because in circle of friends we might know our friends in deaf world). Some hearing people are very good in sign language like deaf person.

My hearing husband always tells me if one of strangers is hearing because of the voice!!!

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VamPyroX

I've had something similar happen to me before. I met this guy who was deaf. We began signing for a while. He began talking about "deaf power" and "deaf pride". After a while, some hearing guy approached me asking me if I wanted to fill out a survey. I asked the deaf guy if he wanted to do the survey. He said, "no". I then replied to the hearing guy with my voice. The deaf guy gave me this expression as if he felt offended because I was a mock-hearing.

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Maria

Hahaha Are you a hearin' ? lol

Opal

Really, I didn't know you Vampyrox is HEARING !!!

I wonder how many people here are hearing?!!

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VamPyroX

No, I'm not hearing. I'm deaf, but can speak orally like a hearing person.

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*Faint*

kuifje75

A lot of deaf people think that I am hearing. :shrugs:
I am 100% Deaf and proud of it.

BabyPhat21

A lot of deaf people give me attitude cuz I can talk and they said I look hearing even though I am just standing there with my mouth closed....... I am like huh lol.............. people are like no i am lying I am not deaf but hearing people definitely believe me but they think I am a little bit deaf it is so weird...... I feel like i should have my audiogram as a necklace for proof lol

VamPyroX

*pours water on you* Wake up! What did I do wrong?

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Maria

*Gasp...openin' my eyes slowly* I always thought you were hearin'. Psst... check in other thread that I granted your wish...

Saline Eyes

I don't get that either! The only physical difference between hearing/Deaf people is within your ears, so how can one LOOK Deaf or hearing?

Deaf258

I'd post something here, but I might get a bad reaction. :X

Saline Eyes

I dare you to post it.

Sweet_KJ

A lot of people in the Deaf world thought I was hearing... and they were usually shocked when I said "no, I am Deaf" and sometimes I get the comment that there was no way that I could be Deaf, I'm too beautiful... I go "What?!? There are beautiful Deaf people... geez" (annoyed)

In the hearng world, people think I'm foreign. Yeah I tell them that I'm French or British and they'll believe me. Haha.

But if I'm with someone I really like.. I'll tell them the truth.

Levonian

Uh, Deaf people can’t be physically attractive? Anybody who says that must be deaf and blind. One look at the member picture thread proves that. Obviously, I’m not much of a judge of men but I’ve never seen an unattractive woman on this message board. You are drop dead beautiful, KJ—and so are dozens of women on this board. And so are dozens of other Deaf women that I know. Actually, I think Deaf people as a whole are more attractive than hearing people. There’s something about their personality structures that causes them to carry themselves differently and accentuates their facial features.

Deaf258

Fine.. I'll say it..

Sometimes, when I meet new Deaf people or ASL students, they would assume others would be Deaf or hearing. So, I would sometimes pretend to be hearing to confuse the Hell out of them, then tell them it is not a good idea to assume someone is Deaf/hearing right away!

WhoCare

It happen to me before but little different.

- When I went to Deaf community for job interview long time ago. I met a lady who are very good ASL. When we were in a her office, started interviewed. In few mintues later, I saw her to pick up the phone and talked. I was surpising that I didn't aware about she is hearing lady. I assumed she is deaf but I was wrong. When she hung up the phone. I explained her about my surpise. She asked if I am Deaf. We were laughing. Nice lady.

- In other day, I went to other Deaf community. When I got in a room, I felt that not know where is begining. A lady offered to help. I told her something I need some informations or some details. I noticed her sign are not really good. I asked her if she is hearing. She asked me if I am Deaf. We laffed. She apolozied for her bad signing lanauge. I explained her to not worry about that and keep practice.
Funny, I asked her if she is hearing, she asked me if I am Deaf!!!


- Long time ago, I was crushed a lady who are good ASL and funny lady in a social party. We talked something for hours about her life and my life. BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH. I started like her and I was thinking about asking her for date. Somehow someone screamed and she turned around. I thought she is wearing hearing aid but no hearing aid on her ears!!! I asked if she is hearing. She nodded. I felt butterfly in my stomach bevz we talked about anything Deaf's stories, Deaf humors, Deaf's myths. BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH. When I asked her for date but she said she seeing someone.

Oh Well, that's life! Next time If I meet someone, I can ask, "Are you blind?" LOL

Opal

WhoCare

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CatoCooper13

Hi there, RR! I must agree with what your husband told you -- I've been told that it can be detected and know who is deaf and who's not...by their voice tones and 'accent'. I was told by a few hearing people that they sensed that I was deaf due to my 'deaf accent'. It's not a bad case, though -- despite the fact that I speak pretty well and some hearing people occassionally 'forget' that I'm actually deaf. I guess it's just how most deaf people pronunce or vocalise a word. Do you reckon?

I do ask new people I meet whether they're hearing or deaf (at deaf clubs, of course).

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BabyPhat21

I have no idea, but I asked some Deaf experts, they said it could be the way i dress. Most deaf people dress plain not to distract from the sign but I wear flashy/uniquely designed clothes that is very distracting....... also I wear bracelets and some people said it is the way my eyes look....... I look around I dont just focus on the person and some said it is because i cross my arms alot oh well.....but as KJ said..........some people said i was too pretty to be deaf........I wasnt sure if that was a compliment lol.......

Levonian

"Too pretty to be deaf"—that makes a lot of sense. I suppose Marlee Matlin and Shoshanna Stern are also "too pretty to be deaf"?

Sweet_KJ

YUP, exactly my point... I was going "WTF?? How rude of you to say that" (to whoever gave me that comment) Perhaps I hear that from some individuals who have lower self-esteem or are shy to say that.... I notice that a lot of people are very comfortable telling me things because, naturally, I'm very easy going, and a lot of people have commented that I'm really easy to talk to/have a conversation with.

Anyway, I totally agree with you, Levonian! (and thanks for your compliments too lol)

Deaf258

I know what you mean!! I remember one Deafie's comment was: "Oh!! *gasp!* You think I am too pretty to be Deaf?!?! Well, obviously I am to ugly to be hearing!" Heh!

GalaxyAngel

One time, When I was chatt'n with my friend at the cafe. Somehow the lady was staring us for alikely more than 10 minutes. I felt uncomfortable.. so I kept contuines chatt'n with my friend.. Later on, The lady came to us and r u Deaf? We saying, Yeah, we are.. The lady said.. Oh, as same me too I'm Deaf. In my mind, wtf, why you kept staring us.. for no reason.. Mind their business..

Other place, I was hanging around with my husband during in the shopping.. The guy saw us and apporched asking nice prompty, R u Deaf? We say yes, we are. The guy said oh great then sign languages and little chatt'n.. We never knew about that guy totally "Deaf". Few minutes later, He say bye to us.. In my mind, say wait minutes.. Is he Deaf? I run and poked his shoulder.. R u Deaf also ? He laughed at me, *shake his head* says no.. I'm hearing. My husband shocked.. how r you sign langauges so smooth alikely DEAF's type? He replied, ah, that good quesiton.. I born raised with my Deaf Parents. That how we becomed new friends. ((chuckles)) Pretty funny but just wanted to making sure they are..

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