hotdefman

Please, be aware capitals are like shouting, ok.

There's plenty of deaf men out there, you only needs to see with your eyes, okay. Or organisations, or deaf clubs, who knows what, in your local areas.

No worries.

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hotdefman

I'm sorry you was attacked and suffered a brain injury. The only recommendations I would recommends is StemEnhance, which helps my body heals my injured shoulder couple of years ago, but it helps everything in the body, long as I keeps taking it, so it's great, that's all I know about it. Other than going on raw foods and I doubt you'd be interested in raw foods, (mainly fruits and vegies, nothing cooked, just RAW, blended in vitamix blenders, like green smoothies, etc...), good stuff, nutrients whole, not destroyed by cooking, etc... but then, it's up to you. Mostly I'd recommends StemEnhance as it helps quickly, as raw foods takes longer to adapt the body to and detox old cooked stuff out of the system, etc... heaps of info about it out there, just google or scroogle keywords, and you'll find them, no worries.

As for communicating with people, deaf or hearing, we all adapt, somewhat, it's all ebbing and flowing, accomodating each other and making room to understand each other, and making it light, not heavy, light to enjoy each other... sometimes it tries our patience, but it's good to tests patience and develop strong patience and thick skin, such as it is.

Life ain't no bed of roses, but it can me enjoyed when it's understood and with mindfulness by going with the flow... that kind of thing, I guess.

No worries okay. It's all good!

hotdefman

That's it, exactly. I met those heaps of time. I see the look and I knowed they've just judged me without even getting to know me first. So I passes them over. I find them so repuslive, these judgemental types... they repells me.

My ex, she tried so hard to mould me into the shape and type fo her dead deaf boyfriend, who died of a heart attack, second one actually, in his sleep, and he was a pothead, a beer drinker, and worries so much, I knew he made himself sick... (sighs)... the way it was told to me, she felt like he betrayed her, but that hurts, so she block it out of her mind with drugs and booze, and of course, waking up next to his cold body, so it made her act like that, running away... I didnt' know all this, it took me years to piece it all together... (sighs)... if I had known beforehand, I'd never agreed to be a "partner" for her, to carry her baggage and all that horror... in any case I learned a harsh lesson, a valuable lesson, which costs exactly seven years of my life to learn... Never lie down with a woman who have more troubles than you! I actually know this truism, but... I was naive, and I walked into the relationship with my eyes wide open and my mind's full of illusiions... no doubt she helped, seeing that I was not really seeing what she's really is. (sighs)... So when I refused to play along with her wish to mould me into her dead boyfriend, she felt I rejects her. I simply wants to be ME, no one else. I have no wish to act out out her fantasies or whatever sick ones she had... So I get years of hell from her... So I know that women are not perfect and that what they looks like is not a reflection of what they're really like inside their minds, hearts, souls... some are very sick... some are very deranged... some are psychopathic... some are sociopathic... some are autistic... some are.. this or that...

So I have no wish to meet any of these... I hopes to meet a well-adjusted normal woman who have no sick hangups of any kind in her heart, mind, souls, etc...

(sighs)... It's all good, though, good to learn this and be careful of women, for they are very clever with their camouflages, pretty and yet rotten underneath. I wish you'd know easily how rotten they really are by the smell, but there's no way for sickness to smell... it's all in their heads... only method is to watch them and check off as many checklists as possible, good or bad, if too much good, great! If too much bad, RUN!

That's about it, I guess.

hotdefman

Wow... that's eye-opening stuff! That makes a lot of sense. Such "perfect" women thinks they're above "retarded" deafs, fine, they LOSE!!!

Hell... I get asked if I was from overseas, I got such thick accent, and yet it's not. When I was a kid, I spoke with a lilt... maybe it's still there, I don't know... I hardly speak, except when I have to, and I speaks clearly, very well, but most times I don't speak, why bother? I mostly sings and shouts songs with my mp3 player, when I know no one's home, eh eh eh...I loves it... rocking loudly... it's fun.

Oh well. I wish I could find a rare gem like you herebouts... never mind.

It's all good, thanks for your anecdotes, I aprpeciates it.

Banjo

Wow, loads of generalizations in here today.

hotdefman

Right on! I'm same as you, single for seven years now, had only one deaf girlfriend, almost married her, but I was lucky... but it makes my heart aches, thinking I'll never have a family, never be true to my woman, never be real father to living children of my own flesh... so I give up looking, just focus on what makes me happy, enjoy life more, no more miserable just because of one thing: woman. I dont' need women to be happy, man! I AM happy just by myself and it takes a while to understand that. I'm also working on my home-based business, trying to make it work, and really, that depends on talking with people, so when I get ready to do that I'm going in a blaze of glory... well, tests first, here and there, see how it goes, baby steps by steps, eh... Keep trying, no matter what. Yeah, I'm on pension, so what. I'm grateful for it, even though I hated it, also. I invests the pension into this home-based business, as well as books and stuff that I'm interested in, self-improvements, that kind of thing.

Women, all they cares about money, and they forgets what the money is for. Money SHOULD be an enabler, not an ends in itself. That's their BIGGEST sin. They'd argue about this and that, about money, and I'd asked, save it up, can be done, yet they don't wanna do the discipline thing, they wants it NOW... like little girl having a fooking tantrum... amazing ain't it! No patience, no discipline, no wonder women are SPOILED, their sense of entitlement are so out of this world, they're like PSYCHOS, obsessed with money and willing to rip men off to get it. They never figures out why they acts like that, why they acts like predatory females, it's horrible to see. Even deaf women are not immune, my ex was like that... She got three payments and yet she still drains my bank account... so I had to be tough on her, and hide money, I was lucky, very lucky... I managed to save a bit.

I learned that discipline is what men had to learn, women are too lazy about it, so men had to take care of everything, while women just lays their and orders men around like slavemasters...

Maybe I shouldn't bother with women anymore, because I have to think of the risk... I dont' want to end up with a wife who'll order me around and acts like she's the queen of the universe and that's a horrible thing, seeing her become fat and ugly and mean and tight-fisted... I dont' want that.

So I'm cautious... very very cautious.

I figrures it this way, I want anything, I saves up, and get it. No big deal. But for women, they acts like spiders, they prettied themselves up, they traps men, they get the men to pay for whatever they wants, and then when they're ready, they get another men, throw out the old one, and then keeps on draining the new men dry, and repeat the same process, over and over and over... true predatory females, that's what they are. And that's what my ex was.... I'm so glad I never went back... she was ugly, now that all that drugs, booze, and smokes dried her up like a barren bitch from hell... sure, she regretted it all, the mistakes, etc... sure, but it was HER OWN FAULT, she DID IT TO HER SELF... just like all these money-grubbing bitches from hell are, it's their own fault, they'll not wake up until years later... I had a couple of older ladies friend, from UK and US, and they told me, they regretted their young days, being too stupid, too self-involved in their own predatory ways... it's so sad... Sure, when they wised up, they was nice, we had great chats and everything, even wants to be with me, but I said no. I want younger woman so I can be sure of having kids of my own, but other than that, I won't risk their health... babies for 50 to 60 year old women are not good for their health, even if they can afford doctors and all that.

I want a normal family but I won't do it until I am very sure I can trust the woman. I'll be on guard for as long as it takes. One mistake, and I'm gone, just like that. I do not care a damn if we're tied or not. Trust is the key. Predatory women thinks they can be queen of the universe, but they forgets, not everything revolves around them, they're not the centre of the universe. If they want true love, trust is the key, they better play their part, never give in to lust and have unfatifhulness with someone other than their husbands... or it'll be the street for them. This is how it is. Men wants trust, yet women betrays that trust over and over and over... so out they goes. No more second chances.

Money is supposed to make life easier, to help with chores, etc... to enable things to be done. Not as an end in itself... not to be worshipped, for it is stupid.

Women are so nutty, they takes years to grow up and when they do, they're too ****ing old. Sheesh.

What's the point? It's the illusions the women fills their heads up with... status and all that crap... ****ing cinderella and snow white rubbish... it's all that crap stupid people feeds their children with, most especially girls, fills their heads with nonesense that they too can be princesses... that there are princes out there comign to take them away to a blissful life... of what? I asks. No such thing as bliss, it's so idiotic... It's a wonder how women function at all. Poor saps, lost in their own hellish illusions, taking years to realise that all that fantasies got them NOWHERE.

They'll have to learn the hard way. Just like the men did. But we men learned early on. Strange, ain't it.

Oh well. No worries. This is all good.

Banjo

You'll be single forever if you think this way of the women. You shouldn't lump all of the women into the same category.

hotdefman

Oh yeah, that makes sense.

I never had a hearing girlfriend, it's too hard. Sure, there's one just the other week, who surprised me with a "thankyou" sign when I paid for my purchases, but I wasn't sure if she was wanting to date me or not. She was shy, I think. But the way I feels, I don't trust women, even after all these years... I just want to fix my life the way I likes it, and be on an even keel when I meet a woman and be in control, not her... that way i'd know if she's right for me, not the other way around.

I have my eye on the future of possibilities... single, bachelor... or biblical marriage, with possible children, if I'm lucky. If not, bugger it all, then. I'll just enjoy my single life, be a kid forever, enjoying whatever I like.

Event though at times I do miss being with a woman (in a general way), feeling her hands, feeling her next to me, feeling her hug, cuddles, kisses... feeling all that. Sure, I feels a bit empty, a place in my heart that's missing, waiting for the right woman to fill it.... one day... as it is, I am more careful as I have no wish to end up with the wrong types... so I am wary, with an eye on the one thing I know for sure is the right one, a biblical woman, a rare gem, that's all I know for sure.

With my ex, I had no control, she took all control and I had to go along for the ride, adapted as best as I could, and it wore me out, stressed me out... the only useful things I have learned is that I know I can look after kids, I looked after her kids, and I know I am a good man, I have learned to disliked her lifestyle of lies, drugs, booze, etc... (sighs)....

Pity you're over there... too far to see if we can "clcik" or not. Oh well, doesn't matter, nice to meet ya, and no worries!

hotdefman

I agree. My ex's was obsessed with that kind of stupid partying and "talking" endlessly over silly stuff. It bored me to tears. It's the wrong group for me, but it's okay for her, she's of the pub crowd, boozy and all that crap. I call it, redneck lowbrow type of crowd, no brains... (sighs)...

hotdefman

Thanks!!!!! Much appreciated!!! One thing we deafies are better at, being able to be FOCUSED on tasks, and getting it done, instead of gossiping and wasting the company's time... I seen that happens in some workplaces... I was surprised the hearings would do that, gossips every half-hour or so... how weird is that? We deafies finish works, go home, meet up and chats for hours... with FOCUS, (chuckles)... and long goodbyes, too... (chuckles)....

(sighs)... I don't know why the hearings don't find us so valuable, thinking we're liabilities yet we have so much STRENGTHS, they have NO IDEA... only the few of you hearings are just understanding these... it surprises you, some of you, when you got to know us... Ability, I like that.

I'm working on my Starscapes, fixing up flyers, etc... and getting ready to go out there in the big bad world, to SHOW people what Starscapes is all about, in homes, hotels, trucks, caravans, etc... stargazing from your bed, how's that would be for you? It'd be great. I stargazes every night before I close my eyes and falls asleep.

I noticed that hearing people are not calling me up, based on tests I did, I put up posters locally, and not one call... though I saw there was three or four stips of my phone number taken, but not one call, so I had to think a different way... meet them on their turfs, talk to them directly, SHOW them the demo boards, show them what it looks like in the dark of their homes, so they can see I mean BUSINESS, no games... and when they buys my products, they'll tell everyone they knows, show it off to their friends and families, etc.. then the ball will gets rolling... I just hve to find the right customers who says it's not that expensive... most I know are low-paid and thus would say it's too expensive, sheapskates!!! (chuckles)... so I have to find the right market, the right people, then I can get through, same way I have to find the right woman out of the drab crap of women out there... its' all TRIAL and ERRORs, that's basically is all there is it.

Oh well. No worries. It's all good.

hotdefman

I loves singing. My ex's daughter says I sings good, even if I don't sings words, just some words... it matters not, just the feeling from my heart... and singing makes me feel good.

Talk to me!
Talk to me!
Talk to me!

hotdefman

That's cool! It's like breaking up when your love suddenly got sick and had to have a toe amputated or a finger, or an arm.... or a tooth extracted, that, to me, is the worse thing... for it tells me she's so SHALLOW and CONCEIT, she rather be a whole man than be with a real man who lost a bit of his flesh or whatever. Here's what Jesus says about it, better to lose one thing from our body than be whole AND in hell... so that's tells me the truth. Apparences is not important, deafness or hearing, that's not important, being "perfect" in some Nazi way is not important... what's important is what's inside all of us, a couple who loves each other in spite of defects, are absolutely perfect! As for the so-called "perfect" couple who are blazingingly "beautiful", yet are SHALLOW, HOLLOW, or DEVOID of any real substance inside them... they're POORER for their "perfection". So i know I stay away from so-called "perfect" morons who doesn't know any better. Poor saps.

hotdefman

Wow, that flirty guy is sure a loser! No brains. Good thing you do that every time you sees him.

Country singer, yeah, I'm glad he's a better bloke than the last one.

It's true, everyone IS different, no two the same, ever.

hotdefman

that's some bad break you got there. He's an idiot, too. Kids benefits from signs, it's proven! Get to a class fast, you can learn from books, use anything... it's great to signs sometimes, speak, it's mixtures that works for me... when I was a kid I speaks a lot, but it was had to connect spoken words with written words, so signs helps me, and it all blends together... I'm a bookworm myself, I loves books, I loves most genres... ah well.

hotdefman

Agreed. This is perfect sense. Better not be involved in "dating", etc. Just be friends with women, check them out, see if they fits, if not, then move on... better steer clear of predatory women, okay, just look for safe women who are normal with normal interests, hobbies, etc... no worries.

hotdefman

Really? These hearing women who are interested in deaf men, they exists? I highly doubts it. I have advertised myself on so many crappy "dating" sites, I ever get a bite... all I met are OLDER women, wise women sure, but they're TOO OLD for my needs, damn it. I want to make a family, and yet, no offers. So why bother? It's so pointless.

I figures it out, though. The're like my ex, likes drugs and booze and I do not, so they're not interested in me, and of course, I don't stand for bullshit, so of course they're not interested in me, for they likes bullshit a lot. (sighs). So it's pointless.

hotdefman

Oh, that's sad.

It makes sense, they'll do anything to not be alone, they hates being alone... so they misses out on what aloneness means, it means self-reflection, it means exploring yourself on a deep level, it means KNOW THY SELF!!! And they rather pass over this, prefering to stay in crappy relationships with drugged up morons who knows no better... poor women... it's their own faults, if they want, they can walk out and find a better life, but no, they CHOOSE to day there with their deadbeat morons! They made their choice!!!!

So what if they calls it "love is blind", it'll be just the same when they ended up dead and it's nobody's fault except theirs. Real friends would help them get out of it... but no, they have no real friends who's GENUINELY CONCERNED For their welfare... so they stays in there hells, until they wised up, usually when it's too late, when they're too old and worn out, they'll never be able to make a real family with a real man who's not drugged up and stupid to boot.

Sheesh. Women really are dumb sometimes. They'll never learns that it doesn't matter when this or that person is loveable, when they're high and happy and drugged up and boozed up, they got to remember, what they do when the drugs and booze ran out and what will they do? The drug addict, the boozer, would take their money and feeds their habits... that's what. I've seen it, and I never want to go that route ever ever ever ever ever again!

I hates drugs and I hates booze, and peopole who are so WEAK that they lets these stuff rules their lives... they're lost in hell of their own making.

They forgot they have the choice to say no to drugs, and booze, and have the right to a life without drugs and booze. It's as simple as that!

Oh well.

hotdefman

What science class? I never been one for believing in what scientists say, I'd tested them, I checked them, nad I verified them, or debunks them.

I've read evolution and nothing in it tests out, it only shows THEORY, GUESSES that they thought would fits, but nothing of SOLID that would STAND on two feet and walks and talks.

Man NEVER came from apes. Just as cats never came from dogs, etc... I have yet to see SOLID proof of EVOLUTIONARY transition forms, ever! Yet scientists are fallible, they CHOOSE To follow the fantasy of their THEORIES... and the funny thing is, it all blows up when solild facts cames up, the mathematic, the physics, every branches of science backs up the bible 100%.

BeforeUs.com shows this, the best book is The Forbiddon Secret, by Jonathan Gray, and beleive me, you'll be shaken to your core, just as I was many moons ago! I rejects scientists, they're riddled with scotoma, for they choosed to beleive in the status quo of evolutionary theories, that are full of holes...

That mattters not, you can beleive what ever you want, and I beleive what I want. I know what I know to be true, this world is not what it appears to be. Whatever they taught us in schools are LIES. I dump the schools out of my system and I choose to be free-thinker myself.

Here's the thing. The nazis beleives they're superior because of this evolutionary theory, they thinks they're top of the heap, all because of that... the evolutionary theory fed the communism, nazism, and so many other harmful systems that reduced man into so many parts, to be moulded by tyrants, and the like... it's because of this that I rejects this world and everything with these so-called sciences and politics.

I believes in Jesus and His FREEDOM.

That's the way it is. I found all this out in the last few years. I am not so sheep like most people are. I go my own way, with only Jesus to guides my life and my heart.

You can check it out, here's one, Jesus-is-savior.com, great info about bad science, and cults and all kinds of stuff. It'll blow your mind!

Banjo

You are right, they didn't.

Both human beings and apes descended from a common ancestor. By the way, we are in the same order as the apes and monkeys. We are considered primates, did you know that?

Primate - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

We're in the same family as well. Hominidae is known as "Great Apes". It's made up of four genera. Pan, Gorilla, Homo (that's us) and Pongo.

Hominidae - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

TWA

Banjo, you're trying to talk reason and sense to him? Dude, lost cause.

hotdefman: if you continue responding to every post on this thread, I will have it locked. It's my thread, and I really don't appreciate how you've hijacked it and used it as a forum for all your sexist and ridiculous ideas regarding women and relationships. Kindly exit this thread and do not post in it again. Thanks.

Cheetah

Oh god I'm laughing so hard!!!

Banjo

Thank you for talking some sense into me today. You are right, he is a lost cause.

rebeccalj

So shocked he single.

TWA

You're welcome. It's not necessary to do so often, but every once in a while, you need a good slapping around.

Banjo

We don't need another Heath around here. That's for certain.

TWA

The horror . . .

MyNameIsNO

hotdefman, WTF??????? you very weirdo. stop judgement and generalizing on women!! changeing your attitude now. not all women is awful persons. you are sounding like sexist and male chauvinistic. you need open mind and realizing women is not monster b**tches. you single 7 year, hmmmmm? you know why? bec woman not want with man is small mind and sh**tty attitude about women. whats the hell matter wit you????

MyNameIsNO

also hotdefman,

not all women is using man for money!!!!!!!! YOU ARE WRONG. i never wanting money from man. if we go out on date, i never letting him is pay for bill on food at restaurant!!! i always paying for myself. also, i doesnt want man is spoils too much on me like too much jewelry, rose, fake romantic things. i not like very mushy thing. it is looking fake. i am not hard for make happy woman bec i doesnt expectation highly from men.

Cheetah

Damn, where were you when I was dating?!?! I had to pay for each and every date!!!

On second thought... I just realized that my current girlfriend has been paying for most of our outings since I've been broke from my divorce... But still! I went all through college paying for all of my dates! Ah well. Life is good now so I cannot complaine.

Bottesini

Reserve deaf men for deaf women, now!