souggy

Not an intimate thing, but I don't know where this would fall under... so..

Okay, long story short:

I got to know a guy two years ago at a university club, a month after I met him-- he started going suicidal on me. Not a problem, I have seen a lot of suicidal people in my life. The problem is that I wasn't used to cyclic behaviours since he was doing this like two or three times a week. This lasted from the fall until spring.

Things calmed down once he moved to a different city half a year later, then it started re-occurring two months later. Not a problem. I just held him in contempt, then eventually ignored him during the summer months. He re-established contact when he found a new girlfriend. Things seem stable over the fall and winter, until the spring.

He admitted to having hallucination problems a few months ago. It used to be auditory for a few years, then it has progressed to smell a few weeks ago. So I dropped him like a hot potato since I was undergoing therapy and didn't need the stress of that kind of friendship, he understood this.

He re-established contact after he found out I switched e-mail address and indicated suicidal intentions over MSN last night. Someone I knew said that I should just call 911 and inform the police about his whereabouts: name, ISP and city and they should take care of the rest:

While I was holding him on ignore, I started getting a bunch of text messages calling me rude names, and got my Facebook spammed. So I just sent a notice to the Facebook administration and my cellular provider that the person was indicating suicidal intentions and as a result is trying to get my attention.

Am I wrong for calling the police, plus informing Facebook and my cellphone provider about this? I never really had to deal with this before, and I didn't know that one can actually do this.

I am kinda ticked off because if I had known this five years ago, I would had saved myself a lot of troubles with * counts fingers * three or four people. I am really tired of having to deal with this stuff non-stop for so many years from different people who have repetitive behaviours. So, is it wrong? For some reason, I know that there is a cultural stigma against doing this kind of thing, since it is a big "no-no" in my family and among my friends, yet it feels like the right thing to do?

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Lissa

You did the right thing. This way, your friend will get the help he needs *hopefully*

he should not be treating you like this

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rockin'robin

I would have done the same thing....but have done it when it first started!....

He's craving attention from you! I feel people that do this are mentally ill most times.

There was this lady where I worked, who did the same thing....her life was so full of drama....she "fed" off of it...And had threatened suicide many times. My friends and I felt so sorry for her, and we did all we could to help her. But she kept on.....and on....anytime something happened that she didn't like or whatever.....she threatened suicide.

We got tired of it! And told her...."go ahead"! She needed to grow up!

Well, she did succeed in OD'ing herself!....We all felt terrible, we should have reported it in the beginning.

Bottesini

You need to look inside yourself and find what attracts you to these type of people in the first place.

Develop new habits on how and where you meet people. Set boundaries so you protect yourself.

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jillio

You did exactly the right thing.

deafskeptic

Oi, your guy reminds me of a 14 year old guy that I met on an online game when I was 35. When I said I didn't want to date him, he threatened to kill himself. He was not joking. I found out from another guy who went to school with him that he was mentally ill. He caused a lot of problems for other players as well; one of them posted a log concerning this guy and titled it Arkham Asylum. That log got a lot of attention.

You did the right thing. I don't envy you though.

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souggy

Thanks folks. Part of the problem is that a lot of time I don't know about these things, and kind of rely on other people to tell me how these procedures work so a lot of time these kinds of thing don't really pop up in my head until it's too late.

I know what it is. My mom fall for the same thing... we have a bit of a weird saviour complex. In February, I had to be admitted for a combination of chronic disorganization, caregiver stress syndrome and a few other things I am forgetting at the moment since I am a ditz. My mother had to be treated for the same thing, ironically two years earlier. Both therapists say it come from not be able to set limits.

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Reba

You did what you had to do.

Babyblue

You did the right thing.

deafbajagal

He clearly needs professional help. You did all you could do for this person. I agree with what you did.

sallylou

Souggy, you did the right thing. I'm proud of you.

dreama

It can be difficult for everyone concerned when people start with this behavior.
Please don't blame yourself. You did the right thing.

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