why do men abuse their women?

serena1986 · 06-20-2009, 03:04 PM

it because themself have been abuse all their live.

Babyblue · 06-20-2009, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by serena1986

it because themself have been abuse all their live.

No! Not always...

It is because of lack of self esteem and insecurities.

They have to be in control, It is nothing but a power trip.

Not because of some pissed poor, lame excuse,,,, Oh I was abused!!

shel90 · 06-20-2009, 03:21 PM

Men r assholes, that's why.

Just kidding.

Abuse is a terrible thing and I wish it doesn't happen. Why does it happen...different reasons.

Frisky Feline · 06-20-2009, 03:36 PM

friendly reminder, not all men, some men do. well some women do abuse men too.

serena1986 · 06-20-2009, 03:56 PM

that true agree w/ you.

horselover61 · 06-20-2009, 03:57 PM

When they were abused or being control by their father and their father taught them it is ok to control the women or men. But that is wrong to raise the kid like that. Then turn to abuse women and/or men.

I was also abused but glad he is not around anymore.

MoonDrifter · 06-20-2009, 04:49 PM

men abuse women cause they are cowards.

rjcon88 · 06-20-2009, 06:18 PM

Men who abuse women are worthless in my opinion. Hell, men who abuse anyone are just pathetic. And what the hell is up with men who think the one they are with is their property?! People are not property, I am not property. Having been there, I know what its like. Stay strong, don't let anyone make you feel inferior. He does not own you. Loves!

But as a man, I just would like to say (in a very small squeaky voice) not all of us are assholes.

whatdidyousay! · 06-20-2009, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Babyblue

No! Not always...

It is because of lack of self esteem and insecurities.

They have to be in control, It is nothing but a power trip.

Not because of some pissed poor, lame excuse,,,, Oh I was abused!!

I think some men just hate women and feel they have the rights to treat their woman anyway they feel like it! It is really sad when the woman become a prisoner in her own home!

~*Kaelei*~ · 06-21-2009, 02:43 AM

It's not just men that abuse women... Women abuse as well....

PowerON · 06-22-2009, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Frisky Feline

friendly reminder, not all men, some men do. well some women do abuse men too.

I'm one of them. *crying* Hottie Women abuse me for my piece of cute ass!

rockin'robin · 06-22-2009, 10:26 AM

Insecurity! And probably having "little dicks"!!!

Steel X · 06-24-2009, 04:00 PM

Abusing people is just about power and fear and that's what they use against you so to make you weaker against them but...think about that. don't let that happen to you.

KarissaMann05 · 06-24-2009, 04:21 PM

No offense...

I kept seeing you made a such question about "bad man vs. good woman". I don't know why you think of that way... unless, you might have some bad experince as your personal.

You should keep in that mind is men are no better than women, or women are no better than men. Do you know why parents have 50-50 chance to have either a boy or girl? Both genders who have a various situation in a similar way, and only small different is their lifestyle as a gender. Again, they are all being humans. No difference.

PowerON · 06-24-2009, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by ~*Kaelei*~

It's not just men that abuse women... Women abuse as well....

*gasp* can you abuse men? U must be strong lady!

MoonDrifter · 06-24-2009, 05:21 PM

Every man and woman has the ability to abuse others. It's a matter of personal choice whether or not they use their power to inflict pain. So, it's not a matter of man vs woman since we are all human beings.

Bebonang · 06-24-2009, 11:10 PM

I have to agree that men have been abused by their father or another family member like Uncle, or Cousin, or brother. Also men become bullies thinking that they have the power to control anyone and more common is that women are weaker than the men. So you will find many women being abuse more than men. Yes, women abuse men but in a different way. Men use physcially abuse and even kill them because they hate women. what about verbally abuse them and make their life miserable. No matter, it is still wrong in both counts for both men and women to abuse. It is against the law to do that. I guess there is no way to stop their abusive behavior from destroying people`s lives. My sister was abused and she will never forget. It is a shame to put many women down like that more than men who were put down too but there are few men.

Bebonang · 06-24-2009, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by MoonDrifter

Every man and woman has the ability to abuse others. It's a matter of personal choice whether or not they use their power to inflict pain. So, it's not a matter of man vs woman since we are all human beings.

It is not personal choice for them to abuse others. No, no one want to be inflict pain by them. No one like to be in power like this. That is why I do not understand why men have to be in physical fighting sport like football, boxing and wrestling. Is that how men learn to do this to men and also toward women Q. Men who are in abusive behavior toward anyone whether man or woman are not human being at all. They are animals!!!!

MoonDrifter · 06-25-2009, 12:14 AM

You're right about that, aggressive behavior is seen as primal, therefore classified as animalistic. What I was saying is that people are consciously aware of their actions (except for drugs or mental loss of self-control) which shows that they have choices in life. I said it was personal choice because each person has the option of hurting someone or not.

I hope that makes sense.

darkage · 06-27-2009, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Frisky Feline

well some women do abuse men too.

Many years, my wife is angry management for no reason. She attacked me. I am not happy to have scratch marks on my left arms. Won't fad for long time.

Long time ago, I lived in Seattle. The woman picked other guy to marry instead date with me. Few years later, I surprised to hear that woman sent her husband to the hospital. Wow, she is stronger to beat her husband.

Bebonang · 06-28-2009, 01:06 AM

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Originally Posted by MoonDrifter

You're right about that, aggressive behavior is seen as primal, therefore classified as animalistic. What I was saying is that people are consciously aware of their actions (except for drugs or mental loss of self-control) which shows that they have choices in life. I said it was personal choice because each person has the option of hurting someone or not.

I hope that makes sense.

Personal choice or not, it does not make it right at all just because they were having drug or alcohol abuse or mental illness. They should either go to mental hospital or go to jail for what happen to women and men for being beaten up.

deafannieboo · 06-28-2009, 01:24 AM

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Originally Posted by rjcon88

Men who abuse women are worthless in my opinion.

But as a man, I just would like to say (in a very small squeaky voice) not all of us are assholes.

good to know there are still good men out there. I was affected greatly by abuse from my ex fiance. took me running for my life to realize to not go back for more. women abuse men sometimes too. we dont hear about it as often because there isnt a good support system for men yet. there are no battered mens shelters out there that im aware of ya know! it happens to both. the trick is to learn from ur abuse if uve been unfortunate to have to deal with it and to never allow it to happen again! just because u were abused doesnt give u the right to be the abuser!!!

deafannieboo · 06-28-2009, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Bebonang

That is why I do not understand why men have to be in physical fighting sport like football, boxing and wrestling. Is that how men learn to do this to men and also toward women Q. Men who are in abusive behavior toward anyone whether man or woman areB]

well i dont agree that physical sports make people more apt to be violent partners or parents.... I used to box and i am physical w that punching bag or in the ring but i do not carry that fighting skill outside of the ring. though i do stand up for myself if someone come after me like self defense though! but as an ex fighter i can say for myself that should not be a reason why someone would be abusive..... just my point of view.

Defmusicman · 06-28-2009, 03:39 PM

There are a lot of reasons why people are abusive. Insecurity, drug and/or alcohol abuse, background- the kind of environment one grows up in has a lot to do with it. Some people often internalize their frustrations and do not know how to express themselves in non-violent ways. Of course, that's just my opinion. I'm not a trained counselor or psychologist.

***VamPyroX*** · 06-29-2009, 05:22 PM

I could ask this...

Why do women abuse their men?

I've seen women who go around accusing their men of being assholes. Yet, those women go around like whores sleeping with other men.

I've seen women accuse men of not being considerate. Yet, those women go around punching holes in walls and scratching men up like rabid cats.

I've seen women accuse men of changing too much. Yet, those women change more than we change our underwear.

While men can be assholes, women can be bitches too.

naisho · 06-29-2009, 05:27 PM

Stick it to the man, Vamp! Err, I mean wo-man.
But on a serious note, I wholeheartedly see it goes both ways as just described.
"Look both ways before you cross the street."

Babyblue · 06-29-2009, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I could ask this...

Why do women abuse their men?

I've seen women who go around accusing their men of being assholes. Yet, those women go around like whores sleeping with other men.

I've seen women accuse men of not being considerate. Yet, those women go around punching holes in walls and scratching men up like rabid cats.

I've seen women accuse men of changing too much. Yet, those women change more than we change our underwear.

While men can be assholes, women can be bitches too.

It does go both ways. I have seen women treat their S.O. like shit. I also seen men treat their S.O. like shit.

Men are more opt to stay quiet about it. Men fear they will be mocked or lose what ever man hood they may have left, in their minds.

Cheri · 06-29-2009, 07:15 PM

There are many different reasons on why some men who had abused women.

For one...

Jealous and insecure.

Two...

feels the need to be in control to get what they want.

Three...

had learned to be violent from their families, their fathers, or any other male role models.

Four....

Love the power when women are powerless.

Frisky Feline · 06-29-2009, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by darkage

Many years, my wife is angry management for no reason. She attacked me. I am not happy to have scratch marks on my left arms. Won't fad for long time.

Long time ago, I lived in Seattle. The woman picked other guy to marry instead date with me. Few years later, I surprised to hear that woman sent her husband to the hospital. Wow, she is stronger to beat her husband.

such a good thing, you were not him who went to the hospital.

sorry about your past.

Cowpuppy · 06-29-2009, 08:36 PM

why do women abuse men?
why is it you view only one side?
the question is why do humans abuse humans.
you left out half of humanity. a twist....a form of abuse in itself.

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serena1986 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: brooklyn,new york where i was born and rasied here so that make me 100% a native newyorker for life and always. Posts: 159 Blog Entries: 4	why do men abuse their women? it because themself have been abuse all their live.

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shel90 In a pink and black world Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: In the land of the free Posts: 23,974 Blog Entries: 3	Men r assholes, that's why. Just kidding. Abuse is a terrible thing and I wish it doesn't happen. Why does it happen...different reasons. __________________ Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

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horselover61 Neigh!!! Neigh!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 5,534 Blog Entries: 2	When they were abused or being control by their father and their father taught them it is ok to control the women or men. But that is wrong to raise the kid like that. Then turn to abuse women and/or men. I was also abused but glad he is not around anymore. __________________ Check out my city!! http://furbyland.myminicity.com/

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~Kaelei~ Wishing Upon A Star Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Vancouver, Washington Posts: 1,354	It's not just men that abuse women... Women abuse as well.... __________________

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Frisky Feline Provoke, Pounce, Purr Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 5,686	friendly reminder, not all men, some men do. well some women do abuse men too.

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serena1986 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: brooklyn,new york where i was born and rasied here so that make me 100% a native newyorker for life and always. Posts: 159 Blog Entries: 4	that true agree w/ you.

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MoonDrifter Registered User Join Date: May 2009 Location: Hillsboro Posts: 1,140 Blog Entries: 1	men abuse women cause they are cowards.

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rjcon88 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Washington ST Posts: 101	Men who abuse women are worthless in my opinion. Hell, men who abuse anyone are just pathetic. And what the hell is up with men who think the one they are with is their property?! People are not property, I am not property. Having been there, I know what its like. Stay strong, don't let anyone make you feel inferior. He does not own you. Loves! But as a man, I just would like to say (in a very small squeaky voice) not all of us are assholes.

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rockin'robin Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 2,771	Insecurity! And probably having "little dicks"!!!

06-24-2009, 04:21 PM	#14 (permalink)
KarissaMann05 The Deaf Cougar Join Date: May 2007 Location: Salem, Oregon Posts: 4,452 Blog Entries: 13	No offense... I kept seeing you made a such question about "bad man vs. good woman". I don't know why you think of that way... unless, you might have some bad experince as your personal. You should keep in that mind is men are no better than women, or women are no better than men. Do you know why parents have 50-50 chance to have either a boy or girl? Both genders who have a various situation in a similar way, and only small different is their lifestyle as a gender. Again, they are all being humans. No difference. __________________ "Just think of it as I'm rebelling against your rebellion."

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MoonDrifter Registered User Join Date: May 2009 Location: Hillsboro Posts: 1,140 Blog Entries: 1	Every man and woman has the ability to abuse others. It's a matter of personal choice whether or not they use their power to inflict pain. So, it's not a matter of man vs woman since we are all human beings. __________________ ~You only have one shot at life. Either live it or waste it~

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Bebonang "Deaf Cree Militant" Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Manitoulin Island on Lake Huron in Canada Posts: 2,874	I have to agree that men have been abused by their father or another family member like Uncle, or Cousin, or brother. Also men become bullies thinking that they have the power to control anyone and more common is that women are weaker than the men. So you will find many women being abuse more than men. Yes, women abuse men but in a different way. Men use physcially abuse and even kill them because they hate women. what about verbally abuse them and make their life miserable. No matter, it is still wrong in both counts for both men and women to abuse. It is against the law to do that. I guess there is no way to stop their abusive behavior from destroying people`s lives. My sister was abused and she will never forget. It is a shame to put many women down like that more than men who were put down too but there are few men. __________________ I HAVE BEEN DEAF SINCE BIRTH, AND IT IS STILL AWESOME TO BE . <Deaf> <very happy>

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MoonDrifter Registered User Join Date: May 2009 Location: Hillsboro Posts: 1,140 Blog Entries: 1	You're right about that, aggressive behavior is seen as primal, therefore classified as animalistic. What I was saying is that people are consciously aware of their actions (except for drugs or mental loss of self-control) which shows that they have choices in life. I said it was personal choice because each person has the option of hurting someone or not. I hope that makes sense. __________________ ~You only have one shot at life. Either live it or waste it~

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Defmusicman defmusicman Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Deep South Posts: 338	There are a lot of reasons why people are abusive. Insecurity, drug and/or alcohol abuse, background- the kind of environment one grows up in has a lot to do with it. Some people often internalize their frustrations and do not know how to express themselves in non-violent ways. Of course, that's just my opinion. I'm not a trained counselor or psychologist.

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*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 31,457	I could ask this... Why do women abuse their men? I've seen women who go around accusing their men of being assholes. Yet, those women go around like whores sleeping with other men. I've seen women accuse men of not being considerate. Yet, those women go around punching holes in walls and scratching men up like rabid cats. I've seen women accuse men of changing too much. Yet, those women change more than we change our underwear. While men can be assholes, women can be bitches too. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

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naisho Registered User Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,007	Stick it to the man, Vamp! Err, I mean wo-man. But on a serious note, I wholeheartedly see it goes both ways as just described. "Look both ways before you cross the street."

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Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,613	There are many different reasons on why some men who had abused women. For one... Jealous and insecure. Two... feels the need to be in control to get what they want. Three... had learned to be violent from their families, their fathers, or any other male role models. Four.... Love the power when women are powerless. __________________ God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow and sun without rain, But God did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.

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Cowpuppy Registered User Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: On The Road Again Posts: 616	word play why do women abuse men? why is it you view only one side? the question is why do humans abuse humans. you left out half of humanity. a twist....a form of abuse in itself.

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