Prekious73

I have been single for almost 4 years now. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy my single life. Before that, I was in relationship for 15 years so now, every time I date someone, it made me feel like I was losing my independence and privacy. Why is that? I think maybe I'm terrified to fall in love again...

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PowerON

Now, that's hottie girl. Oh... too far for me... Anyone can have her. But be nice to her! And extra respect! tee-hee

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shel90

Hi...u are just like my friend. She got out of a bad marriage and bought her own house. She has dated but whenever the relationship started becoming serious, she would break it off saying she wasnt ready. She admitted to us, girls that she loves having the house to herself and cant imagine having someone else living there with her. She is afraid to lose her independence and privacy so as a result, she is still single after 2 years.

U probably are very comfortable with where you are at now and afraid to change?

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PowerON

Now, I remember her, she was on different username on this forums. I guess she must forget password or forget username. typical happen. oh well.

Anyway, being single too long - well, I like independence as well. I feel weird when someone nag me. It make me want to fight back and then end up being in bed. That's part of fun to being together. Tough and challenge.

I have been single for umm.... a year after short relationship. Blah.

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Moon-child

I left a 20 year marriage a few years ago. Have a wonderful b/f for almost 5 years now.....but I don't want to live together, get married or even have sleepovers very often. Luckily, this suits him fine too. Many people think we are not committed, but this is not true. We just are not doing it like the book says you should ya know, we are figuring out what works for us. I truly enjoy my independence, but many men would frown upon it.

Buffalo

I have been single since 1993 so that is 16 years. I am just fed up with men and wish I could find a mature guy.

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MoonDrifter

Relationships are unique among each couple. Many people have not learned to respect that. Our culture has put on a lot of pressure for us to expect others to follow the book, even the rules of mating practices. I think if we didn't have to worry so much about what other's think, there'd be more happy relationships and less divorce.

Buffalo

Maybe so. All I want is someone to respect me and my feelings. Yes, I do the same back to the guy.

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AlleyCat

I don't think there's such a thing as "too long" in being single. You do what works best for you -- I know that sounds cliche, but it's true if you haven't met someone that's ideally suited for you. I would much rather be single for a long time than be with jerks, egotistical guys, etc. I lucked out in finding a wonderful guy a few years back, but if I hadn't, I'd rather have stayed single.

Aghori

what's about mail order groom?

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VamPyroX

15 years!? Wow, that's long... what happened?

Most women tell me that the longer you were in a relationship, the longer it is hard to get into another relationship. One woman told me that it was a 2 for 1 rule. The time it takes to recover from a relationship is twice as long as you were in a relationship. And if you recovered in less time, then it the relationship didn't mean anything to you and that it was all fake. Of course, that's her opinion... just something I thought was interesting.

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whatdidyousay!

I think the longer you live alone it get harder to have someone in your life. We do get set in our ways . It depend on the person , some people wait for years and other start dating right away. I hope you find someone , it is nice to have someone to share your life with!

rockin'robin

That's true, whatdidyousay....I know from experience!...I've been single and alone a very long time. My choice....
Now it seems, I'm settled in with my life.....I know myself....and could not fathom being around someone 24/7.

My kids and pets are #1 in my life. But I never say never!

sequoias

Depends on the inviduals. Some like to be single and some want to be with a man/woman. Someone who hasn't been with someone for a long time doesn't mean they will never get someone or have lower chances of getting someone. It just depends on whom, that's all.

Jolie77

I don't think there is an definite answer to as how long it is to be "too long" to be single. It stems down to a personal choice for each individual. For one, taking a couple of years would set his/her pace to get settled but for another, it could take couple of months to get back on the track.

Just because one moves on a little bit faster than another does not mean that the previous relationship is a joke. It just means that some are able to heal faster than another in an appropriate time frame.

But yeah, the longer you are out of a relationship, it will be a bit rusty to get back in on the track but chances are, you'll be able to get the hang of it.

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Grummer

or more skilled at picking up taking people, go dropping off the ride, in other words more attractive and with that have less consciousness. People are basically selfish.

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Grummer

Relationship is just another form of 'money', spend time on trying it, working on it and selling it can be with high returns (think divorces or reputation or more skills in life learnef from that person(s) )

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Grummer

so like money, some people are more impulsive with relationships, others prefer to 'shop around' - so they take their time. Others dont buy at all, thus never get into relationships.

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cdaigle430

Theres no such thing as "too long", if your happy

Missus_Philos0phyK

everybody always go through the variety situations from their opinions... let use me as an example. i am single for 25 yrs, its exact as my age - yes. and i never had a boyfriend, in other words, i dont do the serious relationships, ever but i wish i did knew what or how. i do make mistakes here and there with choices with men.. maybe i dont know how or want to do the chasings even if a guy is not interested or something like that but i am sometimes happy with single life being independent and well-collected with my own privacy. but i do sometimes wish i had a experiences to learn to enjoy and stuff with a partner and to love a man. it would be nice to have a companionship in my life/experience.

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Passionate4ASL

I was married for 7 years ( 3yrs dating so 10yrs total). Before I got married I was 18, I lived with my parents then moved in with my ex-husband, I wasn't used to being alone. Because of that I REALLYY struggled with the idea of being single in the beginning. But now I have adjusted and very much enjoy being single, plus less dishes or socks to wash. Not to mention between working, school and a kiddo, I have no time for a man. lol I did hear a 2:1 rule that said 2yrs of marriage to 1yr of recovery, that would make me have 5yrs of recovery. I think I would like to get married again in the future but I have priorities about it now. I know my limits of expectations and also know I want to finish school and be settled in my dream job first.

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Douglas

Uh, getting into the relationship/marriage means that you won't be having an independence anymore?
That is pure BULLSHIT.

I have been living with my gf since 4 years and we are at independence of ourselves.

Douglas

And also have to mention that 1/4 of my straight male friends that are over 30 years old, they have never had a relationship with woman. Nothing is wrong with that. There is no such a law that every person has requirement to have a wife or husband.

sallylou

No such thing as "too long." When a person is ready and finds a suitable partner, that's the right time. If a person is content being single, that's great!

Dixie

I used to think that until I met Casey. Never count yourself out, you could find that relationship your'e looking for at any moment.

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moonflower

i have been single for long enough but i don't care as i am enjoying singlehood

mariano

I've been in a relationship for 7 years and sometimes I wish I could be single again. ahhh variety...

Grummer

you dirty bitch

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pek1

If you're looking for "a mature guy," you first have to be the mature woman. Since you say you've been single since 1993, that would place you at 16 years of age. Men love women, dear, not girls. Stay in high school.

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Grummer

you attract the very kind you 'wish' for, so it is imperative to be careful what you wish for. Often this can go unnoticed like, sub-un-consciously.

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Hunter S Thompson