Nykwil

Hello, I've been contemplating this notion in my head about dating a deaf girl, but I don't know how to proceed about doing this.

I live in Boston, are there singles events for deaf people that i can look into?

Should I study some sign to at least show that i'm trying to learn how to communicate?

Deafness

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serena1986

yes i think you should learn some first and you commuicate with a deaf girl/women/

Nykwil

hmmm suggestions on best way to learn?

whatdidyousay!

You should look for a classes that teach beginner sign language , once you learn a few signs , ask a deaf girl that you really like if she could help with your lessons . But ask her to help you using your sign language. She will see that you really need help!

Nykwil

This sounds like a real good idea. Hopefully there will be some deaf teachers aids or tutors that I can work with. I really want to meet a deaf girl but I dunno where to look.

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whatdidyousay!

I was taking sign language classes when I lived in CA. One of the woman student ask me if I wanted to study with her , and I said yes thinking it would be nice to have someone to study with! The woman said she lived
with roommates and they may be home. When I went to the woman
house she was the only one home , I ask about her roommates and she said they were out for the day! That when a BELL went off in my head! CRAP this woman want to more than study sign language , she want
to have SEX with me! I said I had to get home my baby is crying!
I did the same , but I ask a guy to study with me , it worked

~*Kaelei*~

You should take ASL lessons first before looking for deaf girl to date with. Communication is the main part of the relationship, the most important part.

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MoonDrifter

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Taylor

Just out of curiosity, why are you specifically seeking out a Deaf female? It almost seems like some sort of fetish.

I'm hearing...girlfriend is Deaf. I love all the qualities in her as a woman...and it just so happened that she is Deaf. Do you see the difference?

Bramus

I'd been studying to become an interpreter way before my girlfriend (a hearie like me) and started dating and all of my classes encouraged socializing with the local Deaf population so at one point I just couldn't help but think, "Hm, wonder what'd happen if I met a nice Deaf woman around my age with similar interests?"

It might be a fetish, but I don't think it is. I'm Hispanic and it might just be I'm interested in dating someone different: a white woman, black, European, etc. because with each culture it's a different experience.

Try checking out if your local community college offers ASL classes because learning how to communicate is paramount! At first you might need to carry a notebook pad and a pen but it shows you're trying.

Lighthouse77

I've always been fascinated with red haired, or should I say attracted to them. And guess what, I dated a few and married one. I always knew I would marry one.

another friend have always wanted to married a Korean girl. who knows, he might.. and another, a christian guy.

It's great for a guy to see a deaf person as someone interesting instead of someone with a disadvantage.

btw, I meet my hearing husband from the internet. All he did was ask about my hearing (what it is like and everything), and I didn't know he was red-hair at the time

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Dixie

For one communicate. Secondly, don't approach in a way that would make you feel like your being taken advantage of. Offer to do some simple things together like go to the mall or go to the library. Simple stuff. Actually do work in some tutoring sessions to begin with.

My best advice is to go to a deaf social, and sign to them that you are an ASL student and you would like some extra help outside class and offer to pay or if you have no money offer to do some things for them as payment such as mowing their lawn for every lesson they tutor, or offer them dinner for teaching. Just make sure your giving back as much as your getting, if not more. Don't be pushy.

If they agree to tutor you, meet up with them at a library or quiet cafe. After the lesson ask them in ASL "What do I owe you?".

The more they realize that you really are trying the more likely you are to get a long-term relationship out of it.

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TheWriteAlex

Same question I had.

I see a LOT more hearing guys dating Deaf women than Deaf men dating hearing women. Sometimes (by no means always), I get the feeling that hearing guys like to date Deaf girls cause they think it's "easy"---their mentality is that communication is basic and minimal, and they can easily control the woman when they go out into the hearing world because they control the means of communication.

There's a simple scientific explanation for this: Guys like to feel depended on and powerful--it's just who we are--and they think that by having a Deaf girlfriend they can easily fulfill that need. Using a person's deafness to satisfy this need will have very bad implications on the relationship. It's also just plain despicable.

I'm not saying this is how ALL deaf/hearing relationships are, but there are plenty, and I'm sure many here have experienced it. I'm also not saying this is the OP's motivation for wanting to date a Deaf woman, but you need to be fully aware of your own motivation for wanting to date a Deaf person before you go out and specifically seek to date a Deaf woman.

shel90

I have seen that in some of my friends' relationship with their hearing significant others. I hate their significant other for that and I tell my friends not to expect me to be cordial to them. My hubby is hearing and if he dares to try to control me, I will raise hell.

Hearing guys who seek deaf women for the sole purpose of control are losers.

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Chie Seoung

You know, I was hesitating to post it, because it sounds totally stuck up, but lots of my friends have been totally surprised at how much interest men have in dating me. I think what it is is that we might have a different way of communication. I mean, when someone talks to me, they are the only person in the world to me at that moment... my attention is riveted to them.

If you think for one minute I will tell them if it was otherwise, I wouldn't hear them, you're wrong. I'm taking full advantage. o.0

deafannieboo

Good point!!! May seem rude to ask, but why a deaf girl/woman over any other? A Woman is a woman... if she happens to be deaf and thats a plus than more power to u!

Bottesini

Hang around, and you will see a variety of deaf groupies.

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Deaf2guy

Hello to all, l'm a deaf guy man. But l am looking for a good dating girl.

Bottesini

And from Nigeria?

DO you have money for me?

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darkage

Not require to take sign language lesson. One day, your flight crashed at near unknown Island. Only two people are alive. You and Deaf Woman on the Island. Both of couple will find way how to communication.

Sometime, I met hearing girls. She had no experience with deaf guy. We had wonderful good time. Just use paper and pen for communication.

PowerON

Masturbate before you meet deaf girl.

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shel90

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deafannieboo

haha man i guess so hu? i do find being a deaf woman that hearing men seem to be sooo intreged by that they they forget there is more to me than being Deaf. They either are facinated by it or pitty me. hmmm well i guess id rather have groupies then pitty party following me around! lol

Passionate4ASL

I agree with Shel andTheWriteAlex, when I first read the beginning post it did spark a warning flag. I am curious why he is so specificly wanting a deaf girl even though it seems he has had no exposure to the Deaf community? I am a hearie and as I grow more involved with the Deaf Culture and Interpreting, I have thought sure I would date a Deaf man. But I think this is different. I wonder what his intentions are..why he is so interested? Maybe it is innocent fascination but he should come explain more...

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ricky_rick77

I am hearing impaired but what is it about a deaf woman that hearing guys want? i am just curious is all
it is a lil wierd to me, because deaf or not we are all people but i am sure a hearing man could find many ways to take advantage of a deaf persons diability to benifit them, i am really concerned about this

paws05

first learn the sign language and meet the girl. try to respect her handicapped and don't treat her any different than your hearing world. don't leave her out of anything. try to blend in hearing and deaf world but not into one world. you both need to shared two world. it's was hard for us but we made it thru and stay together. i am hearing impaired and my husband and i have been married for 24 yrs. he's is hearing too.

inspirabull

I see beauty in 1958 Chevy Apache trucks. I used to seek them out and buy them but now I resist. But I still love to look at them and run my hands over the perfect curves. No one questions this. They may smile at it. If you see beauty in a particular style of woman is it any different? I puzzle over this idea too but understand how the mind is, it wants what it wants. If it were a fuller picture I would understand better like a deaf red haired women with large firm curves beautifully shaped feet and hands with an upturned nose, light freckles and bright blues with long lashes a beautiful to see smile and laugh with a mind quicker than most, or a petite slender deaf woman with black hair and small delicate upturned breasts, brown eyes and a tranquil way of looking at the world. A fuller picture is probably in there in his mind just a briefer version for us: deaf girl.

deafannieboo

[QUOTE=, brown eyes and a tranquil way of looking at the world. A fuller picture is probably in there in his mind just a briefer version for us: deaf girl.[/QUOTE]

hhhhmmmmm idunno..... i think i get ur point but still.