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I'm not sure. I was raised in a conservative Christian household. Ideally, I'd like to wait until marriage to have sex. But it makes me nervous that I could potentially turn away great men that just have different ideals.

Deafness

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~*Kaelei*~

Honestly..... Yes

I wasn't raised that way to believe that sex should be saved for Marriage. About every member in my family had sex before marriage, heck before they even were an adult!

But that all changed when I started going to Youth Group when I was only 15 to 17..... they were telling us how sex before marriage is bad and that you would be condemned to Hell if you had sex before married. They even said how just thinking of Sex is a sin, that it's not a right way to go. I was terrified, because I was a teenager and yet I was so curious about sex, that I wanted to try to have sex. I didn't know who to believe, the people at Youth Group or my family.

Finally I decided not to believe the Youth Group...they were making my life difficult...so instead I ignored their beliefs and decided to believe in what I believe in. I honestly think that sex should be shared between two people that are much in love. I do not accept one night stand and so on. However I do accept of a couple who's very much in love, that they want to express and share their love for each other in many many ways...and having sex is one of the ways of sharing their loves for each other, physically and emotionally.

So Do I believe in sex before marriage? Yes, I do.

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serena1986

i agree with you,on this one,i really do

MoonDrifter

It really does come to personal choice and how strong our beliefs are in regards to premarital sex. Religion was created to control the way people live and more often than not, it harms their growth since there are too many restrictions held by religious beliefs. And most of us are already frustrated by the limitations of the bible. Naturally, human beings yearn for freedom. Its a part of who we are. Why deny that essential piece of our identity?

My parents were the ones who went to church, took me to church, taught me to save myself for marriage.

But the true story is that everyone else in my family, including my older siblings have had sex before marriage.

Essentially, this puts me at a very tough spot as to what to believe in. Because of this, I feel that it doesn't matter what I believe in. As a result, I see sex before marriage as a deep union between two mates. That is, if both parties care a lot about each other. It's a two-way street for those involved. Unfortunately, it is a one-way street for many people and that is why we suffer so much needless pain each day. Seeing sex as a means to an end really does damage relationships whether people know it or not. Surprisingly, they don't realize it until their partner leaves the door. I think sex should be taken seriously no matter what, and committed to with love, not lust.

and btw, the severe sexualization from american culture has indeed warped our views on sex. because of that, we continue to suffer for nothing. that is not the life I want to live.

deafdyke

YES. I'm not anti-sex per se.......I think sex is amazing, but it needs to be treated with respect. I wouldn't be into causal sex. I really think most people who are into causal sex tend to have emotional issues. Like yeah, sex feels GOOD, but it feels BEYOND amazing when it's lovemaking.....and when you do it with someone who you totally madly love, it's even better!
I have a friend who was into causal sex, and looked at me like I had three heads when I told her that cuddling etc can feel just as good as doing it.
I mean, GAWD......I've really gotten off on people telling me " I Love you"

TravisPyle

Yes i think sex should be allowed before marriage

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Kalista

I MUST to see their size first before I get married him.

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Jiro

Kalista - did he pass the exam?

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PowerON

Could saying, take a sample before you want to be with for rest of life.

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KarissaMann05

I know there are a lot of people don't feel that way. So...

To me, I see a plenty of cheaters after they had a sex while they are not married. They tend to seek a sexual pleasure to satisfy them before they can break the relationsup. I don't like it how people paints the vow marriage as a cheap one and worthless. The vow marriage is not always apply to sex, it does apply to panthership mostly. I also see a plenty of people tend to assume their lovers if he/she is not ready to have a sex that meant his/her parther don't love her/him. To me, no, it's not. Sighs, I see a plenty of people are "anti-vriginity" cos they always will say like, "Vriginity is depressing; vrigins are stupid; etc etc; Vriginity is bad!!!!11!! Having sex is good and smart choice!!111one!!"

I hate it when people treated me like crap. Whatever... are they expect me to feel so torn and ashamed after being dumped and taking my vriginity, so they can just smug while I suffer the pain? I don't think so. Obviously, they never will care for vrigins. They don't give a crap about them, anyways!

Sorry, I'm not going to let anyone else to use me for nothing but sex pleasure! If you can't wait until marriage, well, YOUR LOSS! You are not worthy to be spouse.

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That's why I prefer to save it for my good relationship and marriage.

I'm sorry if my post is offensive to anyone else...

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Kalista

Yeah ,I did exam your anus, it seems normal. I have not check on your other parts yet.

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Grummer

not just the sex, sample of their personality too

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MoonDrifter

So, is it all about sampling the other person before getting married? Its like asking to taste the daiquiri before you order it. And if you don't like it then you order vanilla cause it's your favorite flavor. Not everyone's gonna be like vanilla no matter how hard you try. What if your spouse hates vanilla? What will you do then?

What about accepting the other person for who they are and helping them fulfill their dreams? I think marriage is about being the best partner you can be for the other person that you're with. Not the other way around where you expect your partner to be perfect, flawless and rich.