deafdude1

For this reason, I will only date women close to my age. Ill be friends with any nice adult however.

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Kai Onca

My rule of thumb is anybody in the same age group as my parents/grandparents are a big no-no.

Same for younger age bracket the same distance I am from my parents/grandparents are out of limits as well too.

Its kinda revolting in my opinion to be dating your mother/father's friend or whatever.

whatdidyousay!

I have friends the had big age gaps when they dated .The wife was 23 and and the husband was 37 . They were married 31 years , the husband dies a few years ago. He was my friend and he told me when when he got married he told his wife that he will try his best to keep up with her and that she will have to slow down when he get to tried! I think there is nothing wrong with going with some older than you, and the worst part one will dies sooner.
My friend was 73 when he dies and his wife was in her 50's .

Who'syourdaddy

I'm 68 and my GF is 37. We've been together for six years (we think...one day it occurred to us that we were a couple, but didn't know when it happened). We've never had the comments, but can tell from the side-ways looks on some faces what they're thinking! We find it amusing. We're going to get t-shirts that say "She's not my daughter" and "He's not my dad". Perhaps mature women see the young lady as "stealing" a man from their age group, and both sexes cannot understand what we could get from the other. My money/her sexuality are plausible answers, but wrong.

apatz

I say who cares about age, as long as its legal, do what makes you happy and screw what other people think

drphil

What is the physical effect of ongoing "aging" past say 50?

Wonder if some of the above are able to answer today on their thoughts since 2009?

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overthepond

I have a man 14 years older than me, we LOVE each other very much.

Age is just a number, if there is chemistry/spark/immediate love then let it be. I am VERY happy with him and vice versa.

deafdrummer

I am in my 40s, and I have dated someone as young as 23. I PREFER younger women just because they still have that spirit. I'm basically a teenager inside. I prefer someone who is at least 25 because those who are younger sometimes have a tendency to say, "Okay, I'm having problems. I'm breaking up with you, I'm giving away my pets, and I'm breaking up with all my friends and leaving town." So abrupt without thinking of the consequences of their actions from OTHER people's perspectives. I want them to walkabout a bit before dating them.

My Dad was my stepmother's senior by 17 years. She is basically the same age as my half-siblings (they are in their 70s). One time, Dad was married to a woman who was less than half his age! She was about 25, and Dad was in his late 50s at the time.

So, no big deal - oh, and my stepsister, who is in her 50s, lost her husband within the last year. He was past 80, that I know, and they were married for over 20 years.

DeafBadger

One set of my grandparents had a 15 year age difference between them. No big deal. He was in his thirties and she was in her twenties.

A male friend of mine married a woman 7 years older than him. Seems unusual, but no big deal either. They click very well and hurried to have two children before she turned 40.

Age is a number.

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deafdrummer

Sometimes, tough love is needed. I've had to do that for very different reasons, and I wasn't even wanted at my Dad's memorial unless I agreed to certain things, which prompted the cutoff. (it had nothing to do with dating someone much younger) Dear, sometimes you'll find out that water IS thicker than blood... It was several years later that the family finally came around, but not before my brother-in-law died. THEN, they invited me to his memorial, which I did go to.

My Mom did the same thing to her Mom when she was complaining about my Dad being Indian and Texan during the Thanksgiving visit in Philadelphia. Mom packed up the bags and told Dad, "Let's go." Mom never saw her again alive, as she died a month later.

Mom's side of the family, as well as a half-relative line next to them, are very open and welcoming to me, even though I have seen them only twice in my life (I've been going up there the last two summers and will go up there again to visit). I am considering moving there to leave behind the family situation here in Texas, which is basically they almost NEVER visit me. I have to visit them. Once in a while, my stepmother visits (make that once a year, I believe), but nobody else in her family visits me, even my stepsister who was living right here in the city for a couple of years. One time, I got an email from her about some real estate business deal (she's in real estate), and I replied back, "That was what the email was about? I thought you were saying hi and wanted to see about getting together." She never replied back. It's more like the tolerate me rather accept me.

deafdrummer

That begs the question - what was it like for the First Generation of humans, and the next thousand generations before they figured out a calendar year and started placing age restrictions on themselves? What was it like if you didn't have language, tools, nor science yet? Did it really matter?

deafdrummer

How about THIS??? What if I was 19, and she was 15, but only two grades apart?

The problem is THIS. Society has built in some crazy hang-ups about sex and age. If you know about the Ori in Stargate, that is the problem we have, except that the "Ori" are our own people who grew up physically just like the rest of us did.

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"Hallowed are the Ori..." Indeed!

That was from wikipedia, by the way. It's like the message I'm getting in Houston is, "Stephanie, we are out to GET YOU!! We're going to take away your friends by getting them into church, and they're either have you go to church with them, or you'll lose them! Ha ha ha... Yee eeee ehehehe ah ah ah ah HAHAHAHA!!! Eventually, you'll have no friends left in Texas. We're gonna get you one day... You'll be like the rest of us! Resistance is futile, prepare to be CONVERTED!!" The Modern Inquisition, as it were... I have these people, seemingly nice people stop by twice or thrice a year and knock on my door, wanting to talk about Jesus and God. I say that I'm not interested and that I am cavewoman, please leave me be and have a good day (because it goes NOWHERE!!!). What is strange is that all the people in my family mentioned here live/lived here in Texas at the time of marriage and lived here the whole time. In fact, it was accepted! I guess different parts of the country have their hangups. We have hangups here about eating dogs and cats, and people in India have hangups about eating cows, etc. People in Texas usually have hangups about anyone not being Christian or being cavewoman.

deafdrummer

Is there another word that describes the other side other than gold digger?

deafdrummer

I've been in that situation before, except that it was with a woman still going to college. She was more mature than I! For as long as it lasted, it didn't really matter. I'm very young-minded because of how I grew up in the first years of childhood.

But now, I'll speak as someone looking into a couple's relationship in which the woman is much older than the man, and I can see a few feet away that there is SOMETHING GOING ON between them, if you KNOW WHAT I MEAN!...

I'm like, "Damn, she must be HOT!! She sure likes 'em YOUNG! Teaches them FORBIDDEN THINGS." And then I laugh at myself when I remember I was in a similar age situation. I've been in such a relationship twice.

Pinto2020

I'm 29, my husband is 40. I married him when I was 20. I had people, friends (even my best friends...) and my family on my butt, warned me. They teased that our marriage will not last any longer. Well, we are still going on for 10 years with three children.

People don't like it? Ehhh, who cares.

drphil

If age is just a "number" what happens as we get "older"? No difference physical wise from 20 to 80?

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DeafBadger

Sure, the aging process is real.

But when it is said that "age is just a number," when it comes to romance, it means that when people are in love, age doesn't matter. It doesn't mean that aging doesn't happen. It just means it doesn't matter in love.

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MacFreak

Who cares about ages. Most important is love!

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MacFreak

I agreed. My wife and I are 13 years apart. We love each other so much.

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drphil

n "interesting" question- what happens to "love" when the physical effects occur-say extreme weakened muscles or relevance here-DEAFness over a weekend?
Only "love counts"?

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overthepond

If the relationship is "COMMITED" which means Love is love, until death do us part.

rockin'robin

Well, I look at the maturity level....and I've been around the block. Once I dated someone who was 11 years younger, and after awhile, it began to bother me....I would say 5 years younger would be fine with me, but not more than that....

Also, I had a friend that was 42 and married someone who just turned 18....say what?!....And that marriage didn't last 6 months.....

MushyCookies

My reason for preferring older guys is that they tends to be more mature than the younger ones, they are more stable with life (Has a car, a place and a job.) Now, that is not always the case with everybody though.

My last relationship, the age gap was 21 years. That was the oldest i have ever went with guys. I must say that it was too much of a difference for me. I can see myself with a guy that is closer to the 15-17 years difference mark.
(25-38 years old.)
Older gents tends to have a very DIFFERENT interest and Opinions on things, so it is most likely not going to work. But some people just click right in. It really depends on the person themselves. Age is just numbers (in the reasonable gap lol.)

caz12

the veterens got there points but myself i would be unhappy if my son or daughter married someone that much older,i want them to experience life maybe the older one if he loves the younger one would wait a year or so and let that person spread their wings or it least give them the option

Frisky Feline

Recently my friend who is 42 and shes in relationship with a guy who is 65 . They look very happy together. Cool.

Rio

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Age just does that people date and marry with gaps in age. My guy is younger than me. We are fine

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Age is just a number. It doesn't matter if one is older or younger, but what matters most is the maturity level! Many young people can act their age or even older while a lot of older people can be very immature!

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MushyCookies

I know, which is why I said "older guys TENDS to be more mature" but yes, I know a few younger people that are very mature, and some immature ones that happen to be older.

SneakerNet

Before I met my wife, I was on DSC and one woman contacted me though DSC e-mail and I was 44 and she was 21 at that time. She find interest in me with the words I posted on the site. In her writing, I found her that she seem extremely intelligent for her age and even she's comical person. I was attracted to her because of our communication clicked and I haven't laughed as much as other women I met. She mentioned that she rather dated an older man and she did married much older man, like my age. She said that during the marriage, he changed, developing more jealousy, controlling and such. Which of course I can understand that she's a beautiful woman and he get enraged when he saw younger men approached her and and flirt with her and such. She did kept pushing him away. She said that she get tired of keep repeating to say..."Hey..I'm happily married" and at the same time she get tired of her husband ranting on her.
So during our long communications over the time and she mentioned that she have a one and half year old child. Then I think more about myself if I want to start all over again raising children. It doesn't mean I hate children, I already raised my two beautiful kids from previous marriage and they all living on their own. And with my age, it just like I'm ready to go back to go on adventure again with my special SO. You know to explore the world with extreme sports. Having child in my life will limited to do what I want to do with "us". So, with age differences, younger women with children and such, she was in love with me, but I'm almost in love with her but I told her the truth of what I want in my life. I know myself that she's a beautiful intelligent woman, she was in college going for PhD degree and such... but this, with having very young children...it's a tough decision... so, I told her it's not going to work out. She was pretty upset about it because she been trying to pegged me and such, she know that I love children but she just trying to win it over. She know that we are a perfect match... but I have to look at myself, if I"m with her as a life time partner with children, I may be depress and missing out what I want to do compared to sacrifice a beautiful woman and go for my goal as an adventurers.
This was my first time to met a woman with huge age differences.. but I don't have a problem with it but I just have to use my reality of what going to happen. So, I'm glad what I did and I'm much happier what I'm doing now.
You know it's like my life is richer because she was in my life. She's in my age range....and we enjoyed relaxing in a private island watching sunset about to disappeared instead of hearing the baby screaming.... sigh... very distractiing....

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ratpoisonbro

am new here to say that the age means NOTHING! Feel the Love in your Heart is the answer.
57 yo white male HD biker, any single girl in Central Valley (CA)?