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10-12-2008, 02:57 PM
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Lot of people "choose" to be single by choice for so many different reasons for personal or general reasons. Being single by choice it not really a crime. I am a single mother by choice but not ashame by it. Some people now enjoy life to the full without a fulltime partner or need to live within a traditional family. I have known lot of people I met or seen and been in someone shoe to know what it like to be a single mom by choice. Most people don't agree or accpet being a single mom by choice. Some are gay, straight to be single by choice as well. But I can tell you that I don't like Palin's point of view on single or to have a disable child. Her view to me is cold. I can see why Palin's perfer the old fashion view of marriage better then being single. To me I think single people can do fine without being married to have a child. :-)
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10-12-2008, 03:09 PM
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I sure hope my children will be single by choice til they get through college and get a career. My kids are still little. I want them to learn to stand on their own two feet before they get into a relationship.
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10-12-2008, 03:24 PM
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That was what my mom wanted for me which was why she wasnt too happy when I got into a serious relationship with my high school sweetheart and marrying him at 21 years old. I prefer my children to be single by choice so they can explore before settling down.
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10-12-2008, 03:42 PM
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I think another way to look at is is anti-social with the opposite sex by choice. Some people completely turn off their radar by not socializing with those of the opposite sex in order to avoid being smitten. But, sometimes there's not enough self-restraint in the world to hold someone back when they meet someone who makes them feel better than they've ever felt before.
Though, thinking like this can also come with a cost. When does one decide its time to let their guard down and roll with the punches? What if success or financial security comes late or never comes at all? Is being too cautious with ones goals worth missing out on a golden opportunity when it lands in their lap (love)? I'm reminded of the age old question, what's more important? The destination or the journey? Is it wrong to allow love into ones life while maintaining a stalwart position with one's goals? |
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10-12-2008, 03:48 PM
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Same here. I had all kinds of scholarships. But.... I was in love!!! At the time and I did not want to leave my high school sweetheart. My mom was very upset when I left home to move with him More to the story. But it is off topic. but you can see why it is best to stay single til one knows what to expect and to know how to stand on their own two feet One has to know how to stand on their own two feet to support the other to get into a healthy relationship. |
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10-12-2008, 03:50 PM
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10-12-2008, 04:14 PM
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Sorry for being off topic before but the point to this is...
If you all are single by choice to get your priorities straight then I applaud you. Wait til you know what you want in life Shel, I understand the feeling. |
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10-13-2008, 09:34 AM
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I was single before by choice. I wasn't ready for a relationship at that time and stayed bein' a single for awhile. It was really nice feelin' to stay single until I feel it is time to let love to find me. lol
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10-13-2008, 05:42 PM
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10-14-2008, 01:02 AM
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I'm single by choice because I chose to live in Buffalo and all the guys here are either married, gay, or mullet-wearing deadbeats, lol.
Would I like to be coupled? Sure, but I'm not going to settle for someone who doesn't make me happy or compromise my standards just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I'm happy being single, I have a great group of friends and a very active life, and if someone comes in who wants to share that with me, then so be it. I also feel like I'm a work in progress, so that special someone would have to accept that, and know that what he sees might not necessarily be what he gets in time - it will get better! Unfortunately most guys don't see it that way, they only see the here and now and don't take the time to get to know me. So I live for myself and have fun! |
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