Questions for Jew ADers

Maria · 09-09-2008, 02:09 PM

I need to ask you some questions, maybe you could help me to understand about Jews' culture/tradition about marriage.

My significiant other is Jew and want to marry in Jewish ceremony. I am not 100% familiar about Jews' culture/tradition. I am not very good at explainin' all this. It's all new to me. I've never had this experience before.

Does that means, no need priest or pastor to marry us ? Once, we got married...does that means I become Jews as him ? What kind of ceremony that Jews use ? Do they use " marriage license " or just by " convenant " through they eyes of God ?

Please, help me to understand by fillin' me in.

imdeafsowhat · 09-09-2008, 06:12 PM

Everything is bascially the same but not the speaking of the book, the ceremony is a different, and I heard it's a lot more fun than a regular wedding.

Think of "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", minus the greek language.

Reba · 09-09-2008, 09:29 PM

If your fiance is a Jew, why not ask him? Probably both of you should go together to his rabbi for counseling and information about marriage.

As far as traditional Jewish wedding ceremonies, it depends on to which branch of Judaism your fiance belongs and which ethnic group from which his family comes. You can probably find information like that on the wedding websites, including lots of pictures.

A marriage license is issued by the state government. It's not a religious document but can be signed by the person legally performing the ceremony, whether religious or secular (like a notary public).

Even in the more liberal congregations, I've never heard of a wife becoming a Jew simply thru a marriage ceremony. But that's something you can discuss with the rabbi.

Every couple should have deep discussions about their religious beliefs before they are engaged. Those beliefs will effect how you live and raise your children.

***VamPyroX*** · 09-09-2008, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Reba

If your fiance is a Jew, why not ask him? Probably both of you should go together to his rabbi for counseling and information about marriage.

As far as traditional Jewish wedding ceremonies, it depends on to which branch of Judaism your fiance belongs and which ethnic group from which his family comes. You can probably find information like that on the wedding websites, including lots of pictures.

A marriage license is issued by the state government. It's not a religious document but can be signed by the person legally performing the ceremony, whether religious or secular (like a notary public).

Even in the more liberal congregations, I've never heard of a wife becoming a Jew simply thru a marriage ceremony. But that's something you can discuss with the rabbi.

Every couple should have deep discussions about their religious beliefs before they are engaged. Those beliefs will effect how you live and raise your children.

That's right... he's the best person to ask.

It's a matter of agreement. Some people marry another and expect the lifestyle to follow his lifestyle. Some don't expect the other to follow his lifestyle.

Ask him what he expects of you. Will he be expecting you to recite your vows in Hebrew? Will he be expecting you to change the way you buy, prepare, and cook food? Will he be expecting you to change the way you practice religion?

Remember, it's your life too. While you may love him, you also should think about what you want.

Miss-Delectable · 09-09-2008, 11:26 PM

My friend is a Orthodox Jew. I doubt you'll be called Jewish when you marry him as you didn't convert to Judaism.

If you're being married in a Jewish ceremony then a rabbi will marry you. Better book a terp who understands Hebrew enough to translate into ASL.

From my understanding it's a hour long ceremony, but not sure. PM me if you want info from my friend.

Buffalo · 09-09-2008, 11:50 PM

Mazel tov on the upcoming wedding! I am not Jewish but I have read of the Jewish custom. I have never heard of one being jewish thru marriage, just thru conversion. Don't forget to discuss with him about which faith the children will be raised in. Which holidays to celebrate, etc. Find out if he expect you to keep kosher kitchen. Of course there are some jewish people who don't care about kosher kitchen/food.

Maria · 09-11-2008, 05:02 PM

Many thanks everyone! I will do some research and discuss it with him.

Miss-Delectable, I am goin' to PM you soon.

09-09-2008, 02:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
Maria My love and I Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 8,725	Questions for Jew ADers I need to ask you some questions, maybe you could help me to understand about Jews' culture/tradition about marriage. My significiant other is Jew and want to marry in Jewish ceremony. I am not 100% familiar about Jews' culture/tradition. I am not very good at explainin' all this. It's all new to me. I've never had this experience before. Does that means, no need priest or pastor to marry us ? Once, we got married...does that means I become Jews as him ? What kind of ceremony that Jews use ? Do they use " marriage license " or just by " convenant " through they eyes of God ? Please, help me to understand by fillin' me in. Last edited by Maria; 09-09-2008 at 02:12 PM. Reason: correct a word

09-09-2008, 11:26 PM	#5 (permalink)
Miss-Delectable Capt Tony Nelson, Jeannie Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: No.1 Shopping Capital in Australia Posts: 8,855 Blog Entries: 3	My friend is a Orthodox Jew. I doubt you'll be called Jewish when you marry him as you didn't convert to Judaism. If you're being married in a Jewish ceremony then a rabbi will marry you. Better book a terp who understands Hebrew enough to translate into ASL. From my understanding it's a hour long ceremony, but not sure. PM me if you want info from my friend. __________________

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Buffalo Anobium Pertinax Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,468	Mazel tov on the upcoming wedding! I am not Jewish but I have read of the Jewish custom. I have never heard of one being jewish thru marriage, just thru conversion. Don't forget to discuss with him about which faith the children will be raised in. Which holidays to celebrate, etc. Find out if he expect you to keep kosher kitchen. Of course there are some jewish people who don't care about kosher kitchen/food. __________________ It isn't that they can't see the solution. It is that they can't see the problem. - Gilbert Chesterton

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09-09-2008, 06:12 PM	#2 (permalink)
imdeafsowhat Banned Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: The Golden Coast Posts: 1,654	Everything is bascially the same but not the speaking of the book, the ceremony is a different, and I heard it's a lot more fun than a regular wedding. Think of "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", minus the greek language.

09-09-2008, 09:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
Reba Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 17,241	If your fiance is a Jew, why not ask him? Probably both of you should go together to his rabbi for counseling and information about marriage. As far as traditional Jewish wedding ceremonies, it depends on to which branch of Judaism your fiance belongs and which ethnic group from which his family comes. You can probably find information like that on the wedding websites, including lots of pictures. A marriage license is issued by the state government. It's not a religious document but can be signed by the person legally performing the ceremony, whether religious or secular (like a notary public). Even in the more liberal congregations, I've never heard of a wife becoming a Jew simply thru a marriage ceremony. But that's something you can discuss with the rabbi. Every couple should have deep discussions about their religious beliefs before they are engaged. Those beliefs will effect how you live and raise your children.

09-11-2008, 05:02 PM	#7 (permalink)
Maria My love and I Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 8,725	Many thanks everyone! I will do some research and discuss it with him. Miss-Delectable, I am goin' to PM you soon.