Should I leave my husband?

steph9700 · 08-31-2008, 04:19 AM

He is refusing to help me with anything that involves my parents and he is drinking more every night than he ever has. My mother died in March and my Dad died in June. They left with no insurance to pay anything off or any way to pay any other bills including their funerals except from the military benefits. Every time I ask him to help me or find some one to help me he says all his friends and co workers want their days off for themselves that they want it to be with their families not helping move a bunch of stuff out of a dead couples home. I found a storage place and I have a lock on it. I have about a third of it moved but still need help finishing it up. most everything that has been done is what I have done myself with some help from a few of my friends. He has gotten to where he calls me stupid and lazy and a bitch and says I need to get off my arse and clean his house since he works all the time. He is right all he does is work, drink and sleep. when he is home he is working over the internet for his job and gets drunk while he's doing it and the closer to time for him to go to bed the uglier his mouth gets, like tonight his exact phrase was since you didn't do the "effing" dishes tonight your lazy "effing bitch of a fat ass can sleep on the G.D. couch out in the living rooms with the "effing" dogs. I actually prefer the dogs, they don't bite me or hurt me in any way, they let me curl up with them and are happy to see me. I think I should find a place to stay & take the dogs and myself and bare minimum things to make it and tell him it is either the alcohol or me because I can't take his verbal attack on me anymore. He said my mom was a control freak but it is him. He says that I don't have depression that I am just a lazy "effing" bitch. He says he is tired of always petting me and that I need to get off this self pity parade I am on and grow up. I am going to hate to see him when his dad and his little sister die if they die in his lifetime. He says he doesn't care for his mother, he even calls her by her given name instead of mother or mom or anything. She did leave early in his childhood but she calls every week and she sends us presents on our birthdays and holidays and our anniversary. I don't know what to do I love him but I am getting to the point that when I know he is coming home my stomach turns because I know before he goes to bed he is going to start at least one fight and say it is my fault that I started it when I haven't even spoken the first word. Help you guys, PLEASE, I don't know what to do or how to do it. I have no blood relatives left and only a few friends in this area, should I go to the housing authority and apply for an apartment in the housing projects? should I wait like I was told by some other people because I don't need to be making major life decisions like this till at least a year after the last major event? does both your parents dying within 3 months of each other give me the right to be depressed and to have my own pity parades as he says?

08-31-2008, 05:01 AM

You should leave your husband, he is doing verbal abuse, run away as fast as you can!

Miss-Delectable · 08-31-2008, 06:50 AM

I agree with APeterson28.

Leave as soon as you can. But be sure to stash a bit of money. You'll have to cut corners on grocery bills and whatnot to get the money if your husband is not giving you much money.

Steph, you have to leave because you're frightened of him and you shouldn't be living in fear. He'll move to the next stage and that is hitting you. You don't deserve it.

Go to the police or social service and ask what your options are.

Hang in there and be strong

PS: by the way, don't start buying into his verbal crap on you.

Pepsi · 08-31-2008, 08:16 AM

I agree with APeterson28 and Miss-Delectable, get away from him.

It sounds like you can use a hug

good luck

Liza · 08-31-2008, 08:33 AM

I hope you will speak with a therapist and a lawyer to explore your options. It does not sound very healthy for you to be in that situation with a verbally abusive and unsupportive partner, and a change is definitely needed. If your hb doesn't want to change for the better.. then you have to make the change yourself, without him in the picture. It does sound like he is an alcoholic since drinking seems to contribute to some of the problems.

Saline Eyes · 08-31-2008, 09:33 AM

Unfortunately even though you've experienced some life changing events very recently, it sounds as if this next change is necessary. You've just gone through a very trying time and depression is a natural response. His verbal and emotional abuse will only take a toll on you. I personally would request that he start going to a counselor with and without you, and if he refuses to do so, work quietly on getting a place of your own. I'm very sorry for everything you've been through, especially that which is completely and grossly unnecessary. I hope everything works out for the best.

Koala · 08-31-2008, 09:34 AM

Steph, if I were you, I would get out of there and get a legal advice soon as possible. I hope you got a friend who is willing to let you stay over at their place for a little while until you find a place for yourself. Also see a social worker who could put you in a right direction. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

TweetyBird · 08-31-2008, 09:39 AM

u should leave him once before too late never know he may hurt u later.. who know.. and better move out.. not worth be with him and where is YOUR HAPPY???? think abt it..

rockdrummer · 08-31-2008, 09:45 AM

While I am not an expert my belief is that it really depends on what is causing the problems. Sometimes it's the other spouse that contributes to the problems but since communication has broken down, you never really get to the bottom of it. Since we are only hearing one side of the story it's not fair for anyone to make a judgement and answer your question. I'ts also unfair of you to ask it of us without providing the opportunity to hear the other side. Even then there are probably only few people here that are qualified to answer that question.

If you love your husband maybe you guys should go and talk to someone about your relationship and try to figure out what is going on. If you have children then it's in their best interest for you to work out your differences and stay together. If you are unable to do that I wish you all the best.

***~SG~*** · 08-31-2008, 09:46 AM

I agreed with others in here. You will need to leave as soon as possible.

Gather up most of the stuff you need and stay at your friend's place temporary until you find a place of your own.

Hang in there and be strong.

Chevy57 · 08-31-2008, 09:49 AM

I agree that you better leave your husband. Do you have children? how long been you married?

rockdrummer · 08-31-2008, 09:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by rockdrummer

While I am not an expert my belief is that it really depends on what is causing the problems. Sometimes it's the other spouse that contributes to the problems but since communication has broken down, you never really get to the bottom of it. Since we are only hearing one side of the story it's not fair for anyone to make a judgement and answer your question. I'ts also unfair of you to ask it of us without providing the opportunity to hear the other side. Even then there are probably only few people here that are qualified to answer that question.

If you love your husband maybe you guys should go and talk to someone about your relationship and try to figure out what is going on. If you have children then it's in their best interest for you to work out your differences and stay together. If you are unable to do that I wish you all the best.

Repeating myself. Everyone here should really stop telling her to leave her husband because that is a serious matter that one should not seek an answer to on a message board just as many on this board are really not qualified to provide that kind of assistance especially based on one side of the story. I am not siding with her husband but only pointing out that every relationship has two sides. If there are children involved then that is a whole different picture.

Maria · 08-31-2008, 10:28 AM

Steph9700,

I agree with some of the posters here. I think it is a great idea for you to apply for the housing through Housin' Authority. It may take up to 2 years on the waiting list. Don't know, how you feel about this, but there are some shelters that you can go for women who are abused by their husbands/boyfriends until you find a place of your own to move in. They could help you with this. Just explain to them about your situation and they will help you what you need.

If, you have your own church where you usually attend on Sundays, then you may ask for someone to help you as well.

Brian · 08-31-2008, 10:29 AM

I'm in agreement with rockrummer.

Steph, there is an organisation that a well-known columnist highly recommended for married spouses with martial problems. From my brief research on the organisation, high percentage of married couples have said it helped them. I cannot think what it is called, but I have the link bookmarked on my computer. I'll post the link here as soon I get to my computer.

IslandGal · 08-31-2008, 11:00 AM

There is a organization called Deaf Hope that you may want to contact. Their website is Deaf Hope

Brian · 08-31-2008, 11:07 AM

Okay, my friend knew what I was talking about, she found the link for me.

So here is the link:
Retrouvaille Marriage Help for couples with marriage problems.

CrzyMeg · 08-31-2008, 11:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by APeterson28

You should leave your husband, he is doing verbal abuse, run away as fast as you can!

I agreed with you

KweenSasha · 08-31-2008, 12:26 PM

Your marriage will only get worst if he doesnt get help. No, you both need help! Smt, If i was you I would've kick him to da curb, quick and hard as I can.
There nothing positive that can come out of an abusive relationship, there are no signs of love there. Love doesn't hurt. Love is patient and kind. Obviously he is a axxhole.
How a man treats his mother, he will treat you! He don't give a damn about his mother, he don't give a damn about you. Sorry to say but he gots to go. You deserve better than that. I think you are puttin up with him because u feel as tho u have no one else. Is that true? You have yourself. No one can love you unless you love yourself!Be strong and make the wise choice.
Good luck!

sequoias · 08-31-2008, 12:30 PM

I agree with many posters out there, I think it's best for you to leave soon as you can have some money and find new life elsewhere. He's not doing you any good.

shel90 · 08-31-2008, 01:01 PM

Steph...my best friend who is deaf is in the same shoes as u are. She has been suffering that kind of abuse for 10 years and many people have repeatly told her to leave him but when she finds the courage to leave him, he changes and starts treating her how she wanted to be treated...like a human being who is valued, respected, and loved...so she decideds to stay with him only to have him to go back to his old ways. This would go on for 10 years..she has gone to counseling, family therapy and tried to meet his needs. Now, her spirit is dead and she is so afraid of her own shadow...afraid of speaking her opinions, afraid of what everyone else thinks of her, afraid of pissing her husband off, afraid of hurting her girls' feelings...I wish she had left him a long time ago.

Maybe try marriage counseling but if he does change for the better for a short time before falling back to his old way, pls get out because u will get yourself caught in a vicous cycle. If he changes for the better and keeps it that way, great!

Pls do not suffer this for another 10 years that my friend did and still is.

Here is a

Nobody deserves to be treated like that.

dead money · 08-31-2008, 01:37 PM

no.

dont leave him.

divorce his ungrateful ass.

LovelyBlkGal · 08-31-2008, 02:00 PM

I agree with them... But ur not only steph9700 it's does happen to my roommate bec she want out of married too i was told her it's her's own desicion if they wanna discuss try work out or not and she knows i m back off i just help advil(sp)to her that's all before she need think twice abt that ..

I wish you good luck and you gotta leavin ur hubby cuz of ur hubby's behave is seem like abuse or something which not worth to stay with ur hubby if he don't help you whatever you need from him since ur parent are passed recently..

Hang in there ok

David · 08-31-2008, 02:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

Steph...my best friend who is deaf is in the same shoes as u are. She has been suffering that kind of abuse for 10 years and many people have repeatly told her to leave him but when she finds the courage to leave him, he changes and starts treating her how she wanted to be treated...like a human being who is valued, respected, and loved...so she decideds to stay with him only to have him to go back to his old ways. This would go on for 10 years..she has gone to counseling, family therapy and tried to meet his needs. Now, her spirit is dead and she is so afraid of her own shadow...afraid of speaking her opinions, afraid of what everyone else thinks of her, afraid of pissing her husband off, afraid of hurting her girls' feelings...I wish she had left him a long time ago.

Maybe try marriage counseling but if he does change for the better for a short time before falling back to his old way, pls get out because u will get yourself caught in a vicous cycle. If he changes for the better and keeps it that way, great!

Pls do not suffer this for another 10 years that my friend did and still is.

Here is a

Nobody deserves to be treated like that.

I agree. This is some heavy stuff. I suffered for 12 years with a verbally abusive ex-wife, who sometimes beat me with a broom while I was sleeping (in front of our children). I left. You need to leave, too. Quickly and quietly.

SCBassist · 08-31-2008, 03:37 PM

It may help to visit a womens center in your area, they cater to situations like yours. Anyway you can do it, you need to separate yourself from him for time to think about your relationship and where you want it to go. Thinking about it while the source of temsion is present will not give you the ability to think clearly, but you are definitely at a crossroads to decide whether if it truly is worth continuing the marriage. When you are thinking about your relationship, not only consider his faults but yours as well. Believe me, you, me, or any of us are not saints, it takes two to make a marriage what it is. Sure, "faith" helps, but don't wait for it, go somewhere to clear your mind and think hard about it. Good luck!

08-31-2008, 03:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CrzyMeg

I agreed with you

Thanks!

web730 · 08-31-2008, 05:58 PM

Sorry that one had to suffer like her. I don't know what or how to advise but think she needs help real time. It sounds real bad enough yet I often don't advise anyone to divorce. Remember the wedding promise?

diehardbiker · 08-31-2008, 06:50 PM

Whats the point to stay in abusive relationship? I see too many signs are there to tell you to get hell out of there.

There are plenty of shelters for battered women. Please find these places.

08-31-2008, 04:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
steph9700 gearin up 2 move 2 B'ham Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Alabama soon to be in Jefferson county Posts: 395	Should I leave my husband? He is refusing to help me with anything that involves my parents and he is drinking more every night than he ever has. My mother died in March and my Dad died in June. They left with no insurance to pay anything off or any way to pay any other bills including their funerals except from the military benefits. Every time I ask him to help me or find some one to help me he says all his friends and co workers want their days off for themselves that they want it to be with their families not helping move a bunch of stuff out of a dead couples home. I found a storage place and I have a lock on it. I have about a third of it moved but still need help finishing it up. most everything that has been done is what I have done myself with some help from a few of my friends. He has gotten to where he calls me stupid and lazy and a bitch and says I need to get off my arse and clean his house since he works all the time. He is right all he does is work, drink and sleep. when he is home he is working over the internet for his job and gets drunk while he's doing it and the closer to time for him to go to bed the uglier his mouth gets, like tonight his exact phrase was since you didn't do the "effing" dishes tonight your lazy "effing bitch of a fat ass can sleep on the G.D. couch out in the living rooms with the "effing" dogs. I actually prefer the dogs, they don't bite me or hurt me in any way, they let me curl up with them and are happy to see me. I think I should find a place to stay & take the dogs and myself and bare minimum things to make it and tell him it is either the alcohol or me because I can't take his verbal attack on me anymore. He said my mom was a control freak but it is him. He says that I don't have depression that I am just a lazy "effing" bitch. He says he is tired of always petting me and that I need to get off this self pity parade I am on and grow up. I am going to hate to see him when his dad and his little sister die if they die in his lifetime. He says he doesn't care for his mother, he even calls her by her given name instead of mother or mom or anything. She did leave early in his childhood but she calls every week and she sends us presents on our birthdays and holidays and our anniversary. I don't know what to do I love him but I am getting to the point that when I know he is coming home my stomach turns because I know before he goes to bed he is going to start at least one fight and say it is my fault that I started it when I haven't even spoken the first word. Help you guys, PLEASE, I don't know what to do or how to do it. I have no blood relatives left and only a few friends in this area, should I go to the housing authority and apply for an apartment in the housing projects? should I wait like I was told by some other people because I don't need to be making major life decisions like this till at least a year after the last major event? does both your parents dying within 3 months of each other give me the right to be depressed and to have my own pity parades as he says? __________________ REST IN PEACE MY SWEET BROTHER, STACY, MAY 17TH 1968 TO SEPTEMBER 20TH 1996REST IN PEACE MY MOTHER & BEST FRIEND JUNE, SEPTEMBER 25TH 1940 TO MARCH 20TH 2008 REST IN PEACE MY CRAZY FUN DADDY, JOE, JULY 20TH 1939 TO JUNE 30TH 2008I MISS YOU ALL SO MUCH. MAYBE TIME WILL HELP HEAL BUT I KNOW MY FRIENDS HAVE BEEN THE TRUE ANSWER TO MY CALL TO GOD FOR HELP.

08-31-2008, 06:50 AM	#3 (permalink)
Miss-Delectable Capt Tony Nelson, Jeannie Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: No.1 Shopping Capital in Australia Posts: 8,855 Blog Entries: 3	I agree with APeterson28. Leave as soon as you can. But be sure to stash a bit of money. You'll have to cut corners on grocery bills and whatnot to get the money if your husband is not giving you much money. Steph, you have to leave because you're frightened of him and you shouldn't be living in fear. He'll move to the next stage and that is hitting you. You don't deserve it. Go to the police or social service and ask what your options are. Hang in there and be strong PS: by the way, don't start buying into his verbal crap on you. __________________

08-31-2008, 08:16 AM	#4 (permalink)
Pepsi The One and Only Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Posts: 3,406	I agree with APeterson28 and Miss-Delectable, get away from him. It sounds like you can use a hug good luck __________________

08-31-2008, 09:34 AM	#7 (permalink)
Koala Cuddly bear Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Australia Posts: 4,422	Steph, if I were you, I would get out of there and get a legal advice soon as possible. I hope you got a friend who is willing to let you stay over at their place for a little while until you find a place for yourself. Also see a social worker who could put you in a right direction. Good luck whatever you decide to do. __________________

08-31-2008, 09:39 AM	#8 (permalink)
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08-31-2008, 05:01 AM	#2 (permalink)
APeterson28 Guest Posts: n/a	You should leave your husband, he is doing verbal abuse, run away as fast as you can!

08-31-2008, 08:33 AM	#5 (permalink)
Liza Cranial protocologist Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: St Augustine, FL Posts: 4,161 Blog Entries: 2	I hope you will speak with a therapist and a lawyer to explore your options. It does not sound very healthy for you to be in that situation with a verbally abusive and unsupportive partner, and a change is definitely needed. If your hb doesn't want to change for the better.. then you have to make the change yourself, without him in the picture. It does sound like he is an alcoholic since drinking seems to contribute to some of the problems.

08-31-2008, 09:33 AM	#6 (permalink)
Saline Eyes Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 351	Unfortunately even though you've experienced some life changing events very recently, it sounds as if this next change is necessary. You've just gone through a very trying time and depression is a natural response. His verbal and emotional abuse will only take a toll on you. I personally would request that he start going to a counselor with and without you, and if he refuses to do so, work quietly on getting a place of your own. I'm very sorry for everything you've been through, especially that which is completely and grossly unnecessary. I hope everything works out for the best.

08-31-2008, 09:45 AM	#9 (permalink)
rockdrummer Always 1 beat off Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Chicago area Posts: 3,008	While I am not an expert my belief is that it really depends on what is causing the problems. Sometimes it's the other spouse that contributes to the problems but since communication has broken down, you never really get to the bottom of it. Since we are only hearing one side of the story it's not fair for anyone to make a judgement and answer your question. I'ts also unfair of you to ask it of us without providing the opportunity to hear the other side. Even then there are probably only few people here that are qualified to answer that question. If you love your husband maybe you guys should go and talk to someone about your relationship and try to figure out what is going on. If you have children then it's in their best interest for you to work out your differences and stay together. If you are unable to do that I wish you all the best.

08-31-2008, 09:46 AM	#10 (permalink)
*~SG~* Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Australia Posts: 3,979	I agreed with others in here. You will need to leave as soon as possible. Gather up most of the stuff you need and stay at your friend's place temporary until you find a place of your own. Hang in there and be strong. __________________

08-31-2008, 09:49 AM	#11 (permalink)
Chevy57 Premium Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,258	I agree that you better leave your husband. Do you have children? how long been you married?

08-31-2008, 10:28 AM	#13 (permalink)
Maria My love and I Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 8,725	Steph9700, I agree with some of the posters here. I think it is a great idea for you to apply for the housing through Housin' Authority. It may take up to 2 years on the waiting list. Don't know, how you feel about this, but there are some shelters that you can go for women who are abused by their husbands/boyfriends until you find a place of your own to move in. They could help you with this. Just explain to them about your situation and they will help you what you need. If, you have your own church where you usually attend on Sundays, then you may ask for someone to help you as well.

08-31-2008, 10:29 AM	#14 (permalink)
Brian Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: United States Posts: 3,015	I'm in agreement with rockrummer. Steph, there is an organisation that a well-known columnist highly recommended for married spouses with martial problems. From my brief research on the organisation, high percentage of married couples have said it helped them. I cannot think what it is called, but I have the link bookmarked on my computer. I'll post the link here as soon I get to my computer. __________________ -Brian

08-31-2008, 11:00 AM	#15 (permalink)
IslandGal Hi ya! Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Sunshine State Posts: 4,323	There is a organization called Deaf Hope that you may want to contact. Their website is Deaf Hope

08-31-2008, 11:07 AM	#16 (permalink)
Brian Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: United States Posts: 3,015	Okay, my friend knew what I was talking about, she found the link for me. So here is the link: Retrouvaille Marriage Help for couples with marriage problems. __________________ -Brian

08-31-2008, 12:26 PM	#18 (permalink)
KweenSasha Registered User Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: The Bahamas Posts: 289	Your marriage will only get worst if he doesnt get help. No, you both need help! Smt, If i was you I would've kick him to da curb, quick and hard as I can. There nothing positive that can come out of an abusive relationship, there are no signs of love there. Love doesn't hurt. Love is patient and kind. Obviously he is a axxhole. How a man treats his mother, he will treat you! He don't give a damn about his mother, he don't give a damn about you. Sorry to say but he gots to go. You deserve better than that. I think you are puttin up with him because u feel as tho u have no one else. Is that true? You have yourself. No one can love you unless you love yourself!Be strong and make the wise choice. Good luck! __________________ `~Confusion Is The Name Of The Game, A Misconception, A Vast Deception, Something's Got To Change~` Never Say Die, Never I Will Fail... I'm Not Looking For a Place Ashore...I'M GONNA WIN!! Never I Will Give Up...Never I Will Give In...I'M GONNA WIN...

08-31-2008, 12:30 PM	#19 (permalink)
sequoias Subaru rules! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 12,774	I agree with many posters out there, I think it's best for you to leave soon as you can have some money and find new life elsewhere. He's not doing you any good.

08-31-2008, 01:01 PM	#20 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,119 Blog Entries: 1	Steph...my best friend who is deaf is in the same shoes as u are. She has been suffering that kind of abuse for 10 years and many people have repeatly told her to leave him but when she finds the courage to leave him, he changes and starts treating her how she wanted to be treated...like a human being who is valued, respected, and loved...so she decideds to stay with him only to have him to go back to his old ways. This would go on for 10 years..she has gone to counseling, family therapy and tried to meet his needs. Now, her spirit is dead and she is so afraid of her own shadow...afraid of speaking her opinions, afraid of what everyone else thinks of her, afraid of pissing her husband off, afraid of hurting her girls' feelings...I wish she had left him a long time ago. Maybe try marriage counseling but if he does change for the better for a short time before falling back to his old way, pls get out because u will get yourself caught in a vicous cycle. If he changes for the better and keeps it that way, great! Pls do not suffer this for another 10 years that my friend did and still is. Here is a Nobody deserves to be treated like that. __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

08-31-2008, 01:37 PM	#21 (permalink)
dead money Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,267	no. dont leave him. divorce his ungrateful ass. __________________ mike matusow...or god for short.

08-31-2008, 02:00 PM	#22 (permalink)
LovelyBlkGal It's me :-P Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Somewhere in OHIO Posts: 4,083	I agree with them... But ur not only steph9700 it's does happen to my roommate bec she want out of married too i was told her it's her's own desicion if they wanna discuss try work out or not and she knows i m back off i just help advil(sp)to her that's all before she need think twice abt that .. I wish you good luck and you gotta leavin ur hubby cuz of ur hubby's behave is seem like abuse or something which not worth to stay with ur hubby if he don't help you whatever you need from him since ur parent are passed recently.. Hang in there ok

08-31-2008, 03:37 PM	#24 (permalink)
SCBassist ...And your point is? Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Spartanburg, SC Posts: 885	It may help to visit a womens center in your area, they cater to situations like yours. Anyway you can do it, you need to separate yourself from him for time to think about your relationship and where you want it to go. Thinking about it while the source of temsion is present will not give you the ability to think clearly, but you are definitely at a crossroads to decide whether if it truly is worth continuing the marriage. When you are thinking about your relationship, not only consider his faults but yours as well. Believe me, you, me, or any of us are not saints, it takes two to make a marriage what it is. Sure, "faith" helps, but don't wait for it, go somewhere to clear your mind and think hard about it. Good luck! __________________ Complaints Division Here

08-31-2008, 05:58 PM	#26 (permalink)
web730 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 1,822	Sorry that one had to suffer like her. I don't know what or how to advise but think she needs help real time. It sounds real bad enough yet I often don't advise anyone to divorce. Remember the wedding promise?

08-31-2008, 06:50 PM	#27 (permalink)
diehardbiker ... ...- .-. ... - ... Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: One of Embassy Posts: 6,165	Whats the point to stay in abusive relationship? I see too many signs are there to tell you to get hell out of there. There are plenty of shelters for battered women. Please find these places.

08-31-2008, 07:17 PM	#28 (permalink)
web730 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 1,822