How long do u get to know that person before become boyfriend or girlfriend....

yagazn · 07-05-2008, 06:46 PM

Let's say for example, "I want you to become my boyfriend". And he was like "Whoa, wait a min, that's too fast, I barely know you for like a month now, I want to get to know you more for one year and see what happens".

Some people who date for like one week or so. Then quickly become boyfriend or girlfriend but you don't know her or him that well yet.

As for me, I'd rather to get to know that person first for like 6 month or 1 yrs. It depends and see how that goes. I'd rather be friend first then date then boyfriend. and importantly is communicate and develop feeling, If you know what I mean.

How long have you known that person before become boyfriend or girlfriend.

Peace

CrzyMeg · 07-05-2008, 06:59 PM

I rather wait and get to know the person first before dating.

Bottesini · 07-05-2008, 07:38 PM

I think it is smarter and safer to know the person for a while before starting to date.

KarissaMann05 · 07-05-2008, 08:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

I think it is smarter and safer to know the person for a while before starting to date.

I heartily agreed! My opinion, it's actually so importance for having a date when you know so much enough about this person you are interested.

shel90 · 07-05-2008, 08:49 PM

20 years!

Pepsi · 07-05-2008, 08:51 PM

Most of the men I been with I had know for a longtime before becoming a couple

Everlucent · 07-05-2008, 09:09 PM

That depends, does your tagging as boyfriend girlfriend required to do certain things??

CrzyMeg · 07-05-2008, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Bottesini

I think it is smarter and safer to know the person for a while before starting to date.

That I agreed to.

Jiro · 07-05-2008, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Everlucent

That depends, does your tagging as boyfriend girlfriend required to do certain things??

of course... aka "obligation"

Everlucent · 07-05-2008, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by jiro123

of course... aka "obligation"

well in that case i would say 5 maybe 7 minutes

inochi · 07-05-2008, 11:09 PM

It depends on the level of seriousness in becoming a "boyfriend/girlfriend" Some people will instantly labeled themselves as boyfriend/girlfriend after 1 date but nothing serious. Some people would rather wait a bit more longer before they will give themselves that label.

Maria · 07-06-2008, 12:28 AM

Well, that depends in between 2 persons. If, there's a chemistry, an understanding & maturity levels, same commons, same interests, same feelings for each other and all, then you will know the answer. Most of all is trust and honesty.

My significant other already said " I love you " after getting to know each other for 2 months. We get along great and move on to the next level....the next level is that we are going to meet each other for the first time in a couple weeks. Of course, I am very anxious. That day is drawing near for me to fly...... *gulp* Lol

sara1981 · 07-06-2008, 12:49 AM

i got e-mail from that man name is James Windsor but im quiet unexpecting to receive that e-mail messages from James Windsor so he and me been friend for while they he asked me be his girlfriend i would honour but he and me been e-mail they im exchange e-mail of my own.Since he found me on my own e-mail messages when im member of Royals forums and he very polite and handsome.

James our boyfriend and me been dating for one years but he and me been e-mail lots everyday because he very busyman i always kept touch him on e-mail lots.

he and me not getting rushed to married like my parents DID that but i wanted wait whatevers ages to getting married in future when im ready or James ready if he and me says time for married.

I told James on e-mail messages that i would like meet him somedays when im going back to London,England for second times meet James and he cant wait see me very much i would be so damn meet him one days!!!!!!

when im been e-mail message to James our boyfriend and i tell him says "i love you" and he says "i love you" also

dead money · 07-06-2008, 01:22 AM

most successful relationships are built on the foundation that 2 people underlying romance and sex have a strong friendship with one another before anything. Theres no real time table on that kind of thing but obviously it cant happen overnight. My last long term relationship, it only took like 3 weeks. Another it took closer to 5 months. Just depends.

deafbajagal · 07-06-2008, 03:33 PM

So no one here believes in the "love at first sight concept?"

IslandBreeze07 · 07-06-2008, 06:34 PM

8 months

Pepsi · 07-06-2008, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by deafbajagal

So no one here believes in the "love at first sight concept?"

It happen to me a longtime ago and I ended up with a broken heart

Jiro · 07-06-2008, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by deafbajagal

So no one here believes in the "love at first sight concept?"

not anymore. that was a simpler life back then... now we're much more complicated with complicated social issues.

Tousi · 07-06-2008, 09:50 PM

How about a club and a loincloth?

Jiro · 07-06-2008, 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Tousi

How about a club and a loincloth?

sara1981 · 07-06-2008, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by jiro123

that funny pics

Everlucent · 07-06-2008, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by deafbajagal

So no one here believes in the "love at first sight concept?"

I do, did you not read my post?

CrzyMeg · 07-06-2008, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by deafbajagal

So no one here believes in the "love at first sight concept?"

I don't believe that.

***VamPyroX*** · 07-07-2008, 12:07 AM

I would rather get to know them for at least a month (after dating frequently) before deciding whether we want to get serious.

I've seen some people who suddenly become boyfriend/girlfriend after one or two dates altogether. I even know some people who suddenly become boyfriend/girlfriend after one drives halfway across the state to see the other for the first time.

Freaky Cat · 07-07-2008, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I would rather get to know them for at least a month (after dating frequently) before deciding whether we want to get serious.

I've seen some people who suddenly become boyfriend/girlfriend after one or two dates altogether. I even know some people who suddenly become boyfriend/girlfriend after one drives halfway across the state to see the other for the first time.

and noticed that several said he/she is my new boyfriend/girlfriend after meeting each other like 2 weeks or whatever via internet but never meet in person??

so it is their business and i wish them best!

coolgirlspyer90 · 07-14-2008, 02:12 AM

I would get to know them for maybe a year or a couple of months. More like 7 or 8 months. I known my crush from our 8th grade summer band camp last year for a few weeks, and then i got to know him through Honor band for about 3 months now and we're keeping in touch by IM. :-)

dead money · 07-14-2008, 02:45 AM

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Originally Posted by deafbajagal

So no one here believes in the "love at first sight concept?"

it still exists. But for it to be mutual is a different story altogether.

When i saw Megan Fox in transformers it was love at first sight but i doubt she'd feel the same way *smirk*

deafbajagal · 07-20-2008, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by dead money

it still exists. But for it to be mutual is a different story altogether.

When i saw Megan Fox in transformers it was love at first sight but i doubt she'd feel the same way *smirk*

Ok, you got a good point there!

deafbajagal · 07-20-2008, 04:06 PM

There was a couple I know who dated for about five years before they got married. They knew each other for a long time before they even dated. They were divorced within a year.

Another couple met online..."dated" for about three months. Met one time and got married. I was like, "Whoa." But they have been married for seven years...and are the happiest couple I've ever seen in my life.

Goes to show. Never know what might happen. I guess I'm a romantic-freak. I still believe in "soulmates" - that there's one right person for every one.

paperclip · 08-23-2008, 10:36 PM

One month is good enough for me. To be honest, I don't see friendships and dating as being very much different. Dating is more purposeful in the friendship. I don't say yes to guys unless I think the friendship will last more than 6 months. You meet so many people in your life (at least I do), but not all of them become your friend. I am mature and purposeful in how I relate to people that I do not ruin friendships with guys by dating them. However I've only dated two guys so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.

07-05-2008, 06:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
yagazn taking a break from AD Join Date: May 2008 Location: Yag in Neverland Posts: 2,493	How long do u get to know that person before become boyfriend or girlfriend.... Let's say for example, "I want you to become my boyfriend". And he was like "Whoa, wait a min, that's too fast, I barely know you for like a month now, I want to get to know you more for one year and see what happens". Some people who date for like one week or so. Then quickly become boyfriend or girlfriend but you don't know her or him that well yet. As for me, I'd rather to get to know that person first for like 6 month or 1 yrs. It depends and see how that goes. I'd rather be friend first then date then boyfriend. and importantly is communicate and develop feeling, If you know what I mean. How long have you known that person before become boyfriend or girlfriend. Peace __________________ Mummy: I'm watching you because you spend too time on AD...Nah, It's a joke Last edited by yagazn; 07-06-2008 at 02:50 AM. Reason: double check

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inochi Eternal Life Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 515	It depends on the level of seriousness in becoming a "boyfriend/girlfriend" Some people will instantly labeled themselves as boyfriend/girlfriend after 1 date but nothing serious. Some people would rather wait a bit more longer before they will give themselves that label.

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Maria Premium Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 10,140	Well, that depends in between 2 persons. If, there's a chemistry, an understanding & maturity levels, same commons, same interests, same feelings for each other and all, then you will know the answer. Most of all is trust and honesty. My significant other already said " I love you " after getting to know each other for 2 months. We get along great and move on to the next level....the next level is that we are going to meet each other for the first time in a couple weeks. Of course, I am very anxious. That day is drawing near for me to fly...... gulp Lol

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sara1981 Pandy the Beagle Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: North Little Rock,Ar Posts: 4,834	i got e-mail from that man name is James Windsor but im quiet unexpecting to receive that e-mail messages from James Windsor so he and me been friend for while they he asked me be his girlfriend i would honour but he and me been e-mail they im exchange e-mail of my own.Since he found me on my own e-mail messages when im member of Royals forums and he very polite and handsome. James our boyfriend and me been dating for one years but he and me been e-mail lots everyday because he very busyman i always kept touch him on e-mail lots. he and me not getting rushed to married like my parents DID that but i wanted wait whatevers ages to getting married in future when im ready or James ready if he and me says time for married. I told James on e-mail messages that i would like meet him somedays when im going back to London,England for second times meet James and he cant wait see me very much i would be so damn meet him one days!!!!!! when im been e-mail message to James our boyfriend and i tell him says "i love you" and he says "i love you" also __________________ WWE Dave Batista

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dead money Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,439	most successful relationships are built on the foundation that 2 people underlying romance and sex have a strong friendship with one another before anything. Theres no real time table on that kind of thing but obviously it cant happen overnight. My last long term relationship, it only took like 3 weeks. Another it took closer to 5 months. Just depends. __________________ mike matusow...or god for short.

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*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 31,473	I would rather get to know them for at least a month (after dating frequently) before deciding whether we want to get serious. I've seen some people who suddenly become boyfriend/girlfriend after one or two dates altogether. I even know some people who suddenly become boyfriend/girlfriend after one drives halfway across the state to see the other for the first time. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

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coolgirlspyer90 I'm all about ~MuSiC~ Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 861	I would get to know them for maybe a year or a couple of months. More like 7 or 8 months. I known my crush from our 8th grade summer band camp last year for a few weeks, and then i got to know him through Honor band for about 3 months now and we're keeping in touch by IM. :-)

07-20-2008, 04:06 PM	#29 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,634	There was a couple I know who dated for about five years before they got married. They knew each other for a long time before they even dated. They were divorced within a year. Another couple met online..."dated" for about three months. Met one time and got married. I was like, "Whoa." But they have been married for seven years...and are the happiest couple I've ever seen in my life. Goes to show. Never know what might happen. I guess I'm a romantic-freak. I still believe in "soulmates" - that there's one right person for every one.

08-23-2008, 10:36 PM	#30 (permalink)
paperclip Registered User Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: upstate NY Posts: 141	One month is good enough for me. To be honest, I don't see friendships and dating as being very much different. Dating is more purposeful in the friendship. I don't say yes to guys unless I think the friendship will last more than 6 months. You meet so many people in your life (at least I do), but not all of them become your friend. I am mature and purposeful in how I relate to people that I do not ruin friendships with guys by dating them. However I've only dated two guys so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.

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