Messages I Never Got

deafbajagal · 06-18-2008, 09:46 AM

Last night a friend came over and plugged up my old answering machine (and it is OLD. lol) to see if it was working. There were messages on there that I never got. She interpreted the messages for me. People left messages for my hearing husband (now ex) to tell me. I know that he always pressed the message button as soon as he got home from work. Then he always told me, "Those were for me." or "Nothing important."

"Tell (my name) that we appreciated her casserole! It was wonderful!"

"Tell (my name) that this is her Momma. She needs to call me when she gets home. Tell her I love her and hope she feels better!"

"Hi, this is (name)! I'm in town for the day! I would love to see you! Can we grab a coffee? My phone number is ..." (This was my best friend whom I hadn't seen in years, and my husband KNEW I would have wanted to see her.)

"HEY, (my name)! Thank you for standing up for me in the meeting! I totally appreciated your support! Gimme a call when you get home."

"I need help. I really need you to come help me. Jeff (my ex), please, please tell her to call me at (phone number)." (crying voice)

"(my name), give me a call when you can. This is (friend's name) at (phone number)."

"This is your father. Call me when you get home, (my name). Your mother needs you. Thank you, hun."

"I just wanted to call you - and let you know you're the best friend I've ever had. Thank you for being in my life. I'm so damn lucky to have you as a friend to stand by me during this shitty time of my life."

"Hi! This is ----. I just bought a new TTY! So you can call me directly. "

And from my father...he hardly ever told me he loved me. I can count the times on one hand.

"(My name). This is Dad. Thank you for the card. I love you, hun."

Messages I never got.

Secretblend · 06-18-2008, 10:00 AM

That is horrible! He is a jerk for not relaying those messages to you and for saying "not important" Those were and are very important! Glad you did find out the truth instead of them being erased and never knowing it!

Gemma · 06-18-2008, 10:15 AM

Oh my God

I would be livid if it was me - how can he NOT tell you? These were heartfelt messages - messages of love, friendship, appreciation and pleas for help.

I would love to smack him for you!

NEWIDME · 06-18-2008, 10:21 AM

I am soo sorry you did not get your msg's. Thank God for Karma. Somehow this will all balance out and he will fucked twice.

PowerON · 06-18-2008, 10:58 AM

That's shock. That's something I would never know if being with sponsor and wouldn't make equal communicate. Eek.

PowerON · 06-18-2008, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemma

Oh my God

I would be livid if it was me - how can he NOT tell you? These were heartfelt messages - messages of love, friendship, appreciation and pleas for help.

I would love to smack him for you!

Your hand is so soft and smooth. That wouldn't work. Put the spike glove and punch him!

Gemma · 06-18-2008, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by PowerON

Your hand is so soft and smooth. That wouldn't work. Put the spike glove and punch him!

How in the heck did you know that?

you may be correct - will do that.

Freaky Cat · 06-18-2008, 11:52 AM

Oh my goodness. I am glad you aren't with that jerk. He doesn't deserve you at all! Don't Worry karma will get him back one day.

Jiro · 06-18-2008, 11:57 AM

deafbajagal - now that your husband is your ex (sorry to hear about that)... and obviously you don't use answering machine anymore - what do you use to receive voice mail? answering machine or cell phone?

BTW - you know you can call to your own answering machine via relay service so you do not have to rely on somebody else.

Maria · 06-18-2008, 12:01 PM

Your ex-husband is very dishonesty ! Unbelievable ! I am glad you are not with him anymore. You are too good for him.

PowerON · 06-18-2008, 12:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemma

How in the heck did you know that?

you may be correct - will do that.

I know pretty girl always have soft and smooth.

lilylover72 · 06-18-2008, 12:24 PM

Your ex is so jerk! Throw him out!!!!!!!!

PowerON · 06-18-2008, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by lilylover72

Your ex is so jerk! Throw him out!!!!!!!!

I thought she already throw him away.

moonflower · 06-18-2008, 12:48 PM

OMG what a !@#$%^& he is scoffs good thing you are not with him
AND now you know what he is like smh
hugs

sequoias · 06-18-2008, 01:46 PM

I'm shocked that your ex hubby hasn't told you those messages! That was really selfish of himself! I'm glad you got those messages and it didn't get erased, whew! It's better late than never!

***VamPyroX*** · 06-18-2008, 01:55 PM

Gee... that sucks!

I can't believe he would do that to you.

Good thing he's now your "ex".

Better late than never.

Did you ever get back to those people to explain your long waited response?

The Highlander · 06-18-2008, 01:59 PM

Throw answering machine to his head.

Brian · 06-18-2008, 02:09 PM

Ouch, that's terrible, DeafBaja.

How about playing the messages to your parents so they would know how he was and that you had never gotten any of their message?

Oceanblue7 · 06-18-2008, 02:11 PM

I am glad he's your ex- now , what a jerk to hide the messages from you. I am sure, those people will understand the situation for replying a long wait. I am sorry, he did this to you that's horrible.

Tousi · 06-18-2008, 02:18 PM

Sorry to hear that, DBG. I guess that meant you had go expend a lot of energy to mend fences when you found out about this....

***VamPyroX*** · 06-18-2008, 02:31 PM

I sorta know how you feel.

I've gone through communication problems with my ex. If anyone asked me to leave a message for her, I always did. If anyone asked her to leave a message for me, she rarely did. If someone was concerned about something I did, they would tell her... but she wouldn't tell me. It was basically anything from herself and no one else.

After we broke up, I started hearing a lot of things from others. "Why didn't you do this?" "Huh? What you talking about? I don't know anything about it." "I told her since she was your girlfriend." "Oh, she never told me anything about it."

I almost lost a few friends because of this.

Maria · 06-18-2008, 02:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I sorta know how you feel.

I've gone through communication problems with my ex. If anyone asked me to leave a message for her, I always did. If anyone asked her to leave a message for me, she rarely did. If someone was concerned about something I did, they would tell her... but she wouldn't tell me. It was basically anything from herself and no one else.

After we broke up, I started hearing a lot of things from others. "Why didn't you do this?" "Huh? What you talking about? I don't know anything about it." "I told her since she was your girlfriend." "Oh, she never told me anything about it."

I almost lost a few friends because of this.

Aww I am so sorry to hear this.

Matilda · 06-18-2008, 06:33 PM

Whoa! that is a violation of trust, of not passing on phone messages to you. What a rotten, low-down jerk!

As Vampy said ... did you get back to those waiting for explanations?

inochi · 06-18-2008, 06:40 PM

The just move forward, what ever happened from you ex, those messages on the answering machine, it's a shame that you didn't get these messages but now that you truly know what kind of a person that your ex is now because of this. That's too bad.. He shouldn't have done that.

Pepsi · 06-18-2008, 07:38 PM

deafbajagal,I sorry about you not getting your messages that is so wrong.My husband does the same thing to me he knows I can't hear on the phone even with hearing aids it's very hard and I ask him why don't you tell me and he always say your hearing lost is not my problem.

inochi · 06-18-2008, 08:13 PM

he say that right now? your husband?

Secretblend · 06-18-2008, 08:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pepsi

deafbajagal,I sorry about you not getting your messages that is so wrong.My husband does the same thing to me he knows I can't hear on the phone even with hearing aids it's very hard and I ask him why don't you tell me and he always say your hearing lost is not my problem.

That's a horrible thing for your husband to say. He made it his "problem" when he married you. As your husband, he should love you enough to help you whenever he can cause of your hearing loss. That is a huge cop-out!

Matilda · 06-18-2008, 08:20 PM

^^ I second that!

06-18-2008, 09:46 AM	#1 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,107	Messages I Never Got Last night a friend came over and plugged up my old answering machine (and it is OLD. lol) to see if it was working. There were messages on there that I never got. She interpreted the messages for me. People left messages for my hearing husband (now ex) to tell me. I know that he always pressed the message button as soon as he got home from work. Then he always told me, "Those were for me." or "Nothing important." "Tell (my name) that we appreciated her casserole! It was wonderful!" "Tell (my name) that this is her Momma. She needs to call me when she gets home. Tell her I love her and hope she feels better!" "Hi, this is (name)! I'm in town for the day! I would love to see you! Can we grab a coffee? My phone number is ..." (This was my best friend whom I hadn't seen in years, and my husband KNEW I would have wanted to see her.) "HEY, (my name)! Thank you for standing up for me in the meeting! I totally appreciated your support! Gimme a call when you get home." "I need help. I really need you to come help me. Jeff (my ex), please, please tell her to call me at (phone number)." (crying voice) "(my name), give me a call when you can. This is (friend's name) at (phone number)." "This is your father. Call me when you get home, (my name). Your mother needs you. Thank you, hun." "I just wanted to call you - and let you know you're the best friend I've ever had. Thank you for being in my life. I'm so damn lucky to have you as a friend to stand by me during this shitty time of my life." "Hi! This is ----. I just bought a new TTY! So you can call me directly. " And from my father...he hardly ever told me he loved me. I can count the times on one hand. "(My name). This is Dad. Thank you for the card. I love you, hun." Messages I never got.

06-18-2008, 10:58 AM	#5 (permalink)
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06-18-2008, 11:52 AM	#8 (permalink)
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06-18-2008, 01:46 PM	#15 (permalink)
sequoias Subaru rules! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 12,774	I'm shocked that your ex hubby hasn't told you those messages! That was really selfish of himself! I'm glad you got those messages and it didn't get erased, whew! It's better late than never! __________________

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06-18-2008, 10:00 AM	#2 (permalink)
Secretblend Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 1,653	That is horrible! He is a jerk for not relaying those messages to you and for saying "not important" Those were and are very important! Glad you did find out the truth instead of them being erased and never knowing it!

06-18-2008, 10:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
Gemma Registered User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 941	Oh my God I would be livid if it was me - how can he NOT tell you? These were heartfelt messages - messages of love, friendship, appreciation and pleas for help. I would love to smack him for you!

06-18-2008, 10:21 AM	#4 (permalink)
NEWIDME Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Location: Detroit Posts: 447	I am soo sorry you did not get your msg's. Thank God for Karma. Somehow this will all balance out and he will fucked twice.

06-18-2008, 11:57 AM	#9 (permalink)
Jiro YOU DOMESTIC DISSENT! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 7,358	deafbajagal - now that your husband is your ex (sorry to hear about that)... and obviously you don't use answering machine anymore - what do you use to receive voice mail? answering machine or cell phone? BTW - you know you can call to your own answering machine via relay service so you do not have to rely on somebody else.

06-18-2008, 12:01 PM	#10 (permalink)
Maria My love and I Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 8,725	Your ex-husband is very dishonesty ! Unbelievable ! I am glad you are not with him anymore. You are too good for him.

06-18-2008, 12:24 PM	#12 (permalink)
lilylover72 I love purple! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: USA Posts: 2,871	Your ex is so jerk! Throw him out!!!!!!!!

06-18-2008, 01:55 PM	#16 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 27,844	Gee... that sucks! I can't believe he would do that to you. Good thing he's now your "ex". Better late than never. Did you ever get back to those people to explain your long waited response? __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

06-18-2008, 01:59 PM	#17 (permalink)
The Highlander Bạnned Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,244	Throw answering machine to his head. __________________ Z'ha'dum is the homeworld of the Shadows. No one leaves the same as they arrived. --Delenn If you go to Z'ha'dum, you will die. — Kosh to John Sheridan

06-18-2008, 02:09 PM	#18 (permalink)
Brian Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: United States Posts: 3,015	Ouch, that's terrible, DeafBaja. How about playing the messages to your parents so they would know how he was and that you had never gotten any of their message? __________________ -Brian

06-18-2008, 02:11 PM	#19 (permalink)
Oceanblue7 Patriots Rock! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Gillette Stadium Posts: 4,418 Blog Entries: 8	I am glad he's your ex- now , what a jerk to hide the messages from you. I am sure, those people will understand the situation for replying a long wait. I am sorry, he did this to you that's horrible. __________________ Ps.103:12 He washes our sins away into the ocean

06-18-2008, 02:18 PM	#20 (permalink)
Tousi Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 8,240	Sorry to hear that, DBG. I guess that meant you had go expend a lot of energy to mend fences when you found out about this....

06-18-2008, 02:31 PM	#21 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 27,844	I sorta know how you feel. I've gone through communication problems with my ex. If anyone asked me to leave a message for her, I always did. If anyone asked her to leave a message for me, she rarely did. If someone was concerned about something I did, they would tell her... but she wouldn't tell me. It was basically anything from herself and no one else. After we broke up, I started hearing a lot of things from others. "Why didn't you do this?" "Huh? What you talking about? I don't know anything about it." "I told her since she was your girlfriend." "Oh, she never told me anything about it." I almost lost a few friends because of this. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

06-18-2008, 06:33 PM	#23 (permalink)
Matilda Boxing Kangaroo "Jack" Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 2,176	Whoa! that is a violation of trust, of not passing on phone messages to you. What a rotten, low-down jerk! As Vampy said ... did you get back to those waiting for explanations?

06-18-2008, 06:40 PM	#24 (permalink)
inochi Eternal Life Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 515	The just move forward, what ever happened from you ex, those messages on the answering machine, it's a shame that you didn't get these messages but now that you truly know what kind of a person that your ex is now because of this. That's too bad.. He shouldn't have done that.

06-18-2008, 07:38 PM	#25 (permalink)
Pepsi The One and Only Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: USA Posts: 3,406	deafbajagal,I sorry about you not getting your messages that is so wrong.My husband does the same thing to me he knows I can't hear on the phone even with hearing aids it's very hard and I ask him why don't you tell me and he always say your hearing lost is not my problem. __________________

06-18-2008, 08:13 PM	#26 (permalink)
inochi Eternal Life Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 515	he say that right now? your husband?

06-18-2008, 08:20 PM	#28 (permalink)
Matilda Boxing Kangaroo "Jack" Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 2,176	^^ I second that!