What is your opinions on Open Relationship ?

PePe LePew · 06-13-2008, 02:16 AM

whats does a open relationship mean?

It is when 2 people that are committed to each other emotionally and have a great deal of trust in one another have sex with other people or couples.

It's difficult to understand this lifestyle- obviously one or both partners aren't getting what they want sexually in the relationship, but are still emotionally attached to their partner. A woman on TV who was into this said she loved her husband but wasn't attracted to him sexually-Thats too bad, but what of all the jealousy that could arise, or the STDs she could bring home to him, or even meeting up with some perverted dangerous people in 'the scene'. I dont know if it's always selfish, but it seems that way; the question is do people really really really need sex to be happy or can they be happy without it in their relationship ?

Liebling:-))) · 06-13-2008, 02:27 AM

I'm too selfish to have my hubby for myself, not share with others...

Brian · 06-13-2008, 02:45 AM

Adultery and such are BIG NO in my book!

I hope I won't be going through this with my future wife/girlfriend. Should she feel the need to do adultery, we could seek professional help but I won't force her. I would rather to be out of the relationship before she starts to shag with other people.

NorCal20 · 06-13-2008, 05:36 AM

open relationship is no way for me. Its makes so sick.

PePe LePew · 06-14-2008, 01:52 AM

I agree with all of you, I wouldn't do such things like that where there's Aid, Hiv and Std are spreading, it is dirty and unclean to be sleeping with other people even strangers, scary.

I don't understand why a married couple or boy/girlfriend wants to have a open relationship and sleeps with other people, I thinks it is GROSS & NASTY.

Everybody has different germs in their body, even for the bloods and fluids, especially sleeping with people without protection is for Dummies.

Me and my fiance refused to have an open relationship, we're scare of nasty diseases goin' around, we say for get it!

We want to keeps our body clean and to protects our body from bad diseases, we want to be happy and free of nasty diseases, that many are livin' with it and are not happy.

Not many people here had much to say about this, interesting.

***VamPyroX*** · 06-14-2008, 02:03 AM

I know a few people with that kind of relationship.

I honestly don't see what's so good about it.

All it does is increase the risk of the other falling in love with someone else.

***Jolie77*** · 06-14-2008, 02:16 AM

The open relationship is a no-no in my book.

Actually, I don't see what's special about having the open relationship. Some argue that it has no strings attached and it is only mutual but others argue that they cannot keep the emotions and logics separately when being involved in a open relationship.

If a couple were encountering an issue as to not being able to satisfy each other sexually, they can always go to a sex therapist or to a place where they can try to find different ways to romanticize each other. That is what it is for rather than going out to do a bam-bam session with someone else.

Matilda · 06-14-2008, 02:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Liebling:-)))

I'm too selfish to have my hubby for myself, not share with others...

Same here!

This open relationships will create new jealousy issues which my hubby & I do not want to be a part of.

Angel · 06-14-2008, 11:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozzie

Same here!

This open relationships will create new jealousy issues which my hubby & I do not want to be a part of.

Absolutely, same here....

shel90 · 06-14-2008, 11:59 AM

Will Smith and his wife, Jada, have an open relationship. I know this couple who has been married for almost 25 years who have an open relationship too. They said they dont indulge in it all the time..like once in a while. Interesting. Anyways, I am too chicken to do that! LOL!

Oceanblue7 · 06-14-2008, 10:33 PM

An open relationship is a big NO-NO in my book. If I was married or dating guy its only me and him exclusively. I have to agree with norcal20" it makes so sick".

shel90 · 06-14-2008, 10:35 PM

Like I have always said about gay/lesbain relationships, what people do in their private time is none of my business so if there are married people who have open relationships, it doesnt bother me. It doesnt affect me and none of my business. I am not the one to dictate on what people do behind closed doors. I have few friends who have open relationships and I accept them for their friendship not for their sex lives.

GarnetTigerMom · 06-14-2008, 11:15 PM

Well, I can tell you for sure that open relationship is a no no in my book also. I know lot of people are like that too. When I think about open marriages, I can only conjure a stereotype: deeply unsatisfied adults, most likely going through a mid-life crisis, pathetically searching for hot sex as a solution. It turns me off and it not right. It raise the red flag when I see this.

inochi · 06-14-2008, 11:22 PM

Open relationships may work for some but not something for me to be in

***~SG~*** · 06-15-2008, 07:06 AM

Open relationship is no-no in my book. If I was married or taken, I rather only me and him, no one else.

SpaceyUFO · 06-15-2008, 07:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ozzie

Same here!

This open relationships will create new jealousy issues which my hubby & I do not want to be a part of.

It can fucked up the relationship!

Freaky Cat · 06-15-2008, 12:34 PM

no i dont b elieve in open relationship due to std and etc.. I am too selfish to share my future man/future bf with other lady...

GarnetTigerMom · 06-15-2008, 01:04 PM

I wouldn't share my future husband with another woman or a gay man for that matters. Three is a crowd! No thanks ha.

sequoias · 06-15-2008, 01:06 PM

I wouldn't want an open relationships, too much drama and screw-ups so I'll pass on that one there.

NEWIDME · 06-16-2008, 01:46 PM

SEX is so over-rated!

The Highlander · 06-16-2008, 02:15 PM

I am sex freak but open relationship? not interesting.

deafbajagal · 06-16-2008, 08:22 PM

A big NO for me. I'm the kind of person that want to be committed to one person only. There should be more to a relationship than just sex and physical contact.

What a sad world we live in.

dead money · 06-17-2008, 08:16 PM

its an interesting concept but as a couple its a no-win situation in the long run, so theres no real point in trying it.

~*Kaelei*~ · 06-17-2008, 08:24 PM

Hubby and I are not into Open Relationship but we are thinking about Swinging....we're curious about it but we're not sure if we achually want to do it.

Wokamuka · 06-17-2008, 08:50 PM

For many, the question (or issue) of open relationships is a question (or issue) of psycho-sexual maturity.

inochi · 06-17-2008, 08:56 PM

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deafbajagal · 06-17-2008, 09:15 PM

The word "couple" means TWO.

GarnetTigerMom · 06-17-2008, 09:50 PM

I honestly don't believe open relationship works, it will not work. It can cause lot of strain in the relationships and can destory the relationship as well. Open relationship is more like cheating so I don't approve of that because cheating and swinging is not cool. I know people that have open relationship, I think perhaps some people are more inclined to one or the other. But human beings are not monogamous by nature. So, I think it all boils down to choice. That and social conditioning, naturally. I think many more people would choose open relationships if polyamory was presented as a choice that is just as valid as monogamous, heterosexual marriage. Then that their choice, not mine. I would rather be with one person that it.

Gemma · 06-17-2008, 09:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

Will Smith and his wife, Jada, have an open relationship. I know this couple who has been married for almost 25 years who have an open relationship too. They said they dont indulge in it all the time..like once in a while. Interesting. Anyways

06-13-2008, 02:16 AM	#1 (permalink)
PePe LePew PePe LePew Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Paradise Posts: 591	What is your opinions on Open Relationship ? whats does a open relationship mean? It is when 2 people that are committed to each other emotionally and have a great deal of trust in one another have sex with other people or couples. It's difficult to understand this lifestyle- obviously one or both partners aren't getting what they want sexually in the relationship, but are still emotionally attached to their partner. A woman on TV who was into this said she loved her husband but wasn't attracted to him sexually-Thats too bad, but what of all the jealousy that could arise, or the STDs she could bring home to him, or even meeting up with some perverted dangerous people in 'the scene'. I dont know if it's always selfish, but it seems that way; the question is do people really really really need sex to be happy or can they be happy without it in their relationship ?

06-13-2008, 02:27 AM	#2 (permalink)
Liebling:-))) My 3 darling princesses Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Germany Posts: 27,021	I'm too selfish to have my hubby for myself, not share with others... __________________

06-13-2008, 02:45 AM	#3 (permalink)
Brian Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: United States Posts: 3,015	Adultery and such are BIG NO in my book! I hope I won't be going through this with my future wife/girlfriend. Should she feel the need to do adultery, we could seek professional help but I won't force her. I would rather to be out of the relationship before she starts to shag with other people. __________________ -Brian

06-13-2008, 05:36 AM	#4 (permalink)
NorCal20 -superdorky :o) Join Date: May 2008 Location: Golden State Posts: 3,162	open relationship is no way for me. Its makes so sick. __________________ Phil.4:13- "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" I play USSSA, not ASA! Rest in Peace, Mrs.C.Yoshitake. You'll be always wonderful teacher. i will sorely miss you and my heart goes to your family. We will meet again.

06-14-2008, 01:52 AM	#5 (permalink)
PePe LePew PePe LePew Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Paradise Posts: 591	On Open Relationship I agree with all of you, I wouldn't do such things like that where there's Aid, Hiv and Std are spreading, it is dirty and unclean to be sleeping with other people even strangers, scary. I don't understand why a married couple or boy/girlfriend wants to have a open relationship and sleeps with other people, I thinks it is GROSS & NASTY. Everybody has different germs in their body, even for the bloods and fluids, especially sleeping with people without protection is for Dummies. Me and my fiance refused to have an open relationship, we're scare of nasty diseases goin' around, we say for get it! We want to keeps our body clean and to protects our body from bad diseases, we want to be happy and free of nasty diseases, that many are livin' with it and are not happy. Not many people here had much to say about this, interesting.

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06-14-2008, 02:03 AM	#6 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 27,844	I know a few people with that kind of relationship. I honestly don't see what's so good about it. All it does is increase the risk of the other falling in love with someone else. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

06-14-2008, 02:16 AM	#7 (permalink)
*Jolie77* Love all, trust a few. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Kentucky, USA (The Bluegrass State) Posts: 5,508	The open relationship is a no-no in my book. Actually, I don't see what's special about having the open relationship. Some argue that it has no strings attached and it is only mutual but others argue that they cannot keep the emotions and logics separately when being involved in a open relationship. If a couple were encountering an issue as to not being able to satisfy each other sexually, they can always go to a sex therapist or to a place where they can try to find different ways to romanticize each other. That is what it is for rather than going out to do a bam-bam session with someone else. __________________

06-14-2008, 11:59 AM	#10 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,119 Blog Entries: 1	Will Smith and his wife, Jada, have an open relationship. I know this couple who has been married for almost 25 years who have an open relationship too. They said they dont indulge in it all the time..like once in a while. Interesting. Anyways, I am too chicken to do that! LOL! __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

06-14-2008, 10:33 PM	#11 (permalink)
Oceanblue7 Patriots Rock! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Gillette Stadium Posts: 4,418 Blog Entries: 8	An open relationship is a big NO-NO in my book. If I was married or dating guy its only me and him exclusively. I have to agree with norcal20" it makes so sick". __________________ Ps.103:12 He washes our sins away into the ocean

06-14-2008, 10:35 PM	#12 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 16,119 Blog Entries: 1	Like I have always said about gay/lesbain relationships, what people do in their private time is none of my business so if there are married people who have open relationships, it doesnt bother me. It doesnt affect me and none of my business. I am not the one to dictate on what people do behind closed doors. I have few friends who have open relationships and I accept them for their friendship not for their sex lives. __________________ ~Shel~ "A child educated only at school is an uneducated child." -George Santayana

06-14-2008, 11:15 PM	#13 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,862	Well, I can tell you for sure that open relationship is a no no in my book also. I know lot of people are like that too. When I think about open marriages, I can only conjure a stereotype: deeply unsatisfied adults, most likely going through a mid-life crisis, pathetically searching for hot sex as a solution. It turns me off and it not right. It raise the red flag when I see this. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

06-14-2008, 11:22 PM	#14 (permalink)
inochi Eternal Life Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 515	Open relationships may work for some but not something for me to be in

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*~SG~* Super Moderator Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Australia Posts: 3,979	Open relationship is no-no in my book. If I was married or taken, I rather only me and him, no one else. __________________

06-15-2008, 12:34 PM	#17 (permalink)
Freaky Cat My cat Oreo :) Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: ArKaNsAs Posts: 10,182	no i dont b elieve in open relationship due to std and etc.. I am too selfish to share my future man/future bf with other lady... __________________ When you miss me just look up to the night sky and remember, I'm like a star; sometimes you can't see me, but I'm always there! Freaky Cat's Blog

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GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,862	I wouldn't share my future husband with another woman or a gay man for that matters. Three is a crowd! No thanks ha. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

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sequoias Subaru rules! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: The Evergreen State Posts: 12,774	I wouldn't want an open relationships, too much drama and screw-ups so I'll pass on that one there. __________________

06-16-2008, 01:46 PM	#20 (permalink)
NEWIDME Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Location: Detroit Posts: 447	SEX is so over-rated!

06-16-2008, 02:15 PM	#21 (permalink)
The Highlander Bạnned Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,244	I am sex freak but open relationship? not interesting. __________________ Z'ha'dum is the homeworld of the Shadows. No one leaves the same as they arrived. --Delenn If you go to Z'ha'dum, you will die. — Kosh to John Sheridan

06-16-2008, 08:22 PM	#22 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,107	A big NO for me. I'm the kind of person that want to be committed to one person only. There should be more to a relationship than just sex and physical contact. What a sad world we live in.

06-17-2008, 08:16 PM	#23 (permalink)
dead money Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 1,267	its an interesting concept but as a couple its a no-win situation in the long run, so theres no real point in trying it. __________________ mike matusow...or god for short.

06-17-2008, 08:24 PM	#24 (permalink)
~Kaelei~ Slytherin Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Seattle, Washington Posts: 193	Hubby and I are not into Open Relationship but we are thinking about Swinging....we're curious about it but we're not sure if we achually want to do it. __________________

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Wokamuka 1.20.09 : end of an error Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: U.S.A. Posts: 1,827	For many, the question (or issue) of open relationships is a question (or issue) of psycho-sexual maturity. __________________

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06-17-2008, 09:15 PM	#27 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,107	The word "couple" means TWO.

06-17-2008, 09:50 PM	#28 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,862	I honestly don't believe open relationship works, it will not work. It can cause lot of strain in the relationships and can destory the relationship as well. Open relationship is more like cheating so I don't approve of that because cheating and swinging is not cool. I know people that have open relationship, I think perhaps some people are more inclined to one or the other. But human beings are not monogamous by nature. So, I think it all boils down to choice. That and social conditioning, naturally. I think many more people would choose open relationships if polyamory was presented as a choice that is just as valid as monogamous, heterosexual marriage. Then that their choice, not mine. I would rather be with one person that it. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan