Controlling

LiLyxLui · 03-19-2003, 09:11 AM

there's two questions each for girls/guys?

Guys: do you dislike girls controlling you? what if girls did do, what will you to do? #2 question: will you wants to controlling girls or more than that? or did done that?

Girls: do u dislike girls controling you? what if guys did do, what will you to do? and #2 question: do u feel you wants to controling guys or more than that? or did done that?

if guys are controlling me so much, for sure i would dare dumping guy and leave guy, thats about it, period!
and i dont like 2 contorlling guys, cuz i don't do that to guys- i've never did to guys!

deafgal01 · 03-19-2003, 10:03 AM

I don't like to control guys, and I don't like them controlling me period! However, I do realize that relationships require teamwork. Both the guy and girl should be able to communicate clearly and agree on issues (while working out disagreements over other issues they might not agree on). So it's kind of like a partnership if you think about it.

Edit: By the way, I would for sure, dump the guy if he did not stop controlling me! That's mentally/physically abusing me if he controls me. I prefer being INDEPENDENT to make my own choices.

sweetstrawberry · 03-19-2003, 10:39 AM

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Originally posted by deafgal01
I don't like to control guys, and I don't like them controlling me period! However, I do realize that relationships require teamwork. Both the guy and girl should be able to communicate clearly and agree on issues (while working out disagreements over other issues they might not agree on). So it's kind of like a partnership if you think about it.

Edit: By the way, I would for sure, dump the guy if he did not stop controlling me! That's mentally/physically abusing me if he controls me. I prefer being INDEPENDENT to make my own choices.

I agree with you.

sweetstrawberry · 03-19-2003, 10:42 AM

I don't like someone did control on me and also I don't like control any guys.. I'm not type is control. my type is share,let whatever go out with friends,family and gf/bf for enjoy time and be happy for positive thing.

BabyPhat21 · 03-19-2003, 07:36 PM

I dont like controlling guys and I usually say I am busy, dont talk to them or go out with them ever again. I have to admit I do sometimes try to control the guy like that he shouldnt flirt/look at other girls and should call me. Also try to tell them what to wear and how to act, but that was in high school....

LiLyxLui · 03-19-2003, 08:40 PM

ic ic.. intersting

allisonjoy · 03-20-2003, 07:28 AM

why bother to control?? one of the important key in a relationship is TRUST. if someone controls me, i wouldn't be able to put up with it any longer

sweetstrawberry · 03-20-2003, 08:50 AM

oh yeah..you are right,allisonjoy

LiLyxLui · 03-20-2003, 12:49 PM

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Originally posted by allisonjoy
why bother to control?? one of the important key in a relationship is TRUST. if someone controls me, i wouldn't be able to put up with it any longer

Yea, True..i've a agreed with you

wildzerica06 · 03-26-2003, 10:43 PM

not worth to stay in relationship if u have a controlling bf of gf just leave him and find happiness that is important than stay in dark and suffer?

MDCodeRedFreak · 03-26-2003, 11:05 PM

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Originally posted by prettybebe78
not worth to stay in relationship if u have a controlling bf of gf just leave him and find happiness that is important than stay in dark and suffer?

yeahhhh - agreed

illustrator · 03-27-2003, 11:11 AM

both need to be domain equal in the realtionship, make it strong - don't be chicken out.

03-27-2003, 11:43 AM

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Originally posted by prettybebe78
not worth to stay in relationship if u have a controlling bf of gf just leave him and find happiness that is important than stay in dark and suffer?

DeafDot · 03-28-2003, 12:12 AM

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Originally posted by deafgal01
I don't like to control guys, and I don't like them controlling me period! However, I do realize that relationships require teamwork. Both the guy and girl should be able to communicate clearly and agree on issues (while working out disagreements over other issues they might not agree on). So it's kind of like a partnership if you think about it.

Edit: By the way, I would for sure, dump the guy if he did not stop controlling me! That's mentally/physically abusing me if he controls me. I prefer being INDEPENDENT to make my own choices.

You said it very well, deafgal.

My girlfriend and I don't control each other - we both are very independent and we respect each other's boundaries. Teamwork is the right word - we learn from each other and synchorize with each others' needs and desires.

Communication is the key. Controlling one another isn't the answer - it would only lead to disaster.

However, each party would need to be willing to try their best to focus on changeable traits within themselves to show their subtle appreciation for one another.

Willingness to recognize and accept one another's flaws play a major factor in relationships. After all, we're all human beings; nobody's perfect.

Willingness to recognize one's own flaws and accept the fact that they need to be worked upon, is also another major factor in an effective relationship as well.

A relationship is a two-way street. "One-way, MY way" views would only clash and eventually end in chaos. Both parties need to work together in the form of - as deafgal so aptly said - "teamwork."

eternity · 03-28-2003, 12:20 AM

Being a control by someone?

Scoff...

I already seen that and know what it's like.

it sucks. It's like there is no way out or something like that.

illustrator · 03-28-2003, 10:45 AM

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Originally posted by eternity
Being a control by someone?

Scoff...

I already seen that and know what it's like.

it sucks. It's like there is no way out or something like that.

You! clean my pant!

LeviathanC · 03-28-2003, 06:36 PM

Hell no, I don't want to controll them. I don't let any girl do same thing to me. If I feel like I am controlling by girl, then Good bye to her. I have ZERO tolerance for that.

***Alex*** · 04-01-2003, 06:15 AM

It's good to know many of you are against controlling other people just because one feels like it, because I agree 110%. Controlling someone is forcing that person to change who they really are. And when that person is not being him/herself, after a while, he/she will lose self-esteem and break down in the end.

That's not something I want to do to anyone, nor have anyone do that to me.

***VamPyroX*** · 04-01-2003, 10:01 AM

I don't like controlling women. I know a few who were controlling and they are giving their boyfriends hell.

Slver1FineDude · 04-02-2003, 09:20 AM

I don't like gal controlling over me, If so, I would broke up.

Fly Free · 04-02-2003, 11:40 PM

relationships that has so much control by the significant other is a dead end relationship thats how i look at it -- so i agree with u guys on ur comments

SeXi ChIcK21 · 04-03-2003, 11:05 PM

I've seen alot of controlling mens and womens on talk show. It does suck that your mind tells you to not love them but your heart still do... How the HELL does the person still love the partner when he/she controls or abuse. Just walk out of his/her lives! MOVE ON and find someone who will cherish you...

Controlling, Abuse and Jealousy.... " Get a LIFE!"

Lasza · 04-06-2003, 06:02 AM

I used have several controlled relationships before. No fun I am telling ya. What did I learned about controlled relationship is not able to open communication. That affect self-esteem become low, brainwashing, and abused. Vow myself that not letting again in the future. Hope so.

Fly Free · 04-06-2003, 01:10 PM

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Originally posted by Lasza
I used have several controlled relationships before. No fun I am telling ya. What did I learned about controlled relationship is not able to open communication. That affect self-esteem become low, brainwashing, and abused. Vow myself that not letting again in the future. Hope so.

its happened to me too!

javapride · 04-16-2003, 07:18 PM

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Originally posted by Fly Free
its happened to me too!

I have gone thru that same thing with my x almost 5 yrs ago NEVER AGAIN!

prostock19 · 04-17-2003, 07:12 PM

I would like a girl to have some control over me, but not much. Maybe its not control, but make decisions. I don't like making people upset by making the wrong decisions.

04-18-2003, 06:05 PM

i will kindly invite him to dinner at my place for dinner. then i would cook the worst and nasty ass food to serve him. i would watch him taste and make small talk with him while he tried to act like he likes my food while i'm eating my cookie 'n cream ice cream. after he is done with the food then tell him that i done with him and he better not said jack but ordered him to leave and never come back without any explaination from me. if he don't leave, he will see that i will hit "home" with my fave baseball bat.

naw, i would just tell him to get to STEPPIN' without any explaination from me, period! Have a good life because i'm going out with my friends!

racheleggert · 01-20-2004, 11:11 PM

I hate it when a guy tell me what to do.... He isn't my dad!!! My ex fiance and boyfriend (guy I dated months after I called off engangement) were very controlling, want me to move out of Twin Cities, give up my political career that I built up since mid 1990's, must be with them all of time, tell me where to go, DUH!!! I know where to go... Joshua Morris and Mike Klappenbach are jacka**es, I will never date or talk to them ever again!!! Now I am with someone who understands me and accept who I am.
I wanna to

at my exes who used to control me because they are

!!!!!!

Cheri · 01-20-2004, 11:21 PM

I don't like it when a guy controls me tell me what to do where to go what clothes to wear what to eat. I don't put up with that. There a door open it up and slut it on the way out. heh

03-19-2003, 09:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
LiLyxLui Viet pride Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: FUCK_OFF! Posts: 457	Controlling there's two questions each for girls/guys? Guys: do you dislike girls controlling you? what if girls did do, what will you to do? #2 question: will you wants to controlling girls or more than that? or did done that? Girls: do u dislike girls controling you? what if guys did do, what will you to do? and #2 question: do u feel you wants to controling guys or more than that? or did done that? if guys are controlling me so much, for sure i would dare dumping guy and leave guy, thats about it, period! and i dont like 2 contorlling guys, cuz i don't do that to guys- i've never did to guys!

03-26-2003, 10:43 PM	#10 (permalink)
wildzerica06 -Erica- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: california Posts: 4,340 Blog Entries: 2	RE: not worth to stay in relationship if u have a controlling bf of gf just leave him and find happiness that is important than stay in dark and suffer?

04-01-2003, 06:15 AM	#18 (permalink)
*Alex* Administrator Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: New Jersey Posts: 3,415 Blog Entries: 1	It's good to know many of you are against controlling other people just because one feels like it, because I agree 110%. Controlling someone is forcing that person to change who they really are. And when that person is not being him/herself, after a while, he/she will lose self-esteem and break down in the end. That's not something I want to do to anyone, nor have anyone do that to me. __________________ "Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can read." - Mark Twain

04-01-2003, 10:01 AM	#19 (permalink)
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03-19-2003, 10:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
deafgal01 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Lost in the woods of Indiana Posts: 203	I don't like to control guys, and I don't like them controlling me period! However, I do realize that relationships require teamwork. Both the guy and girl should be able to communicate clearly and agree on issues (while working out disagreements over other issues they might not agree on). So it's kind of like a partnership if you think about it. Edit: By the way, I would for sure, dump the guy if he did not stop controlling me! That's mentally/physically abusing me if he controls me. I prefer being INDEPENDENT to make my own choices.

03-19-2003, 10:42 AM	#4 (permalink)
sweetstrawberry Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 410	I don't like someone did control on me and also I don't like control any guys.. I'm not type is control. my type is share,let whatever go out with friends,family and gf/bf for enjoy time and be happy for positive thing.

03-19-2003, 07:36 PM	#5 (permalink)
BabyPhat21 Sex Univ. Head Mistress Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: CALI Posts: 3,107	I dont like controlling guys and I usually say I am busy, dont talk to them or go out with them ever again. I have to admit I do sometimes try to control the guy like that he shouldnt flirt/look at other girls and should call me. Also try to tell them what to wear and how to act, but that was in high school....

03-19-2003, 08:40 PM	#6 (permalink)
LiLyxLui Viet pride Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: FUCK_OFF! Posts: 457	ic ic.. intersting

03-20-2003, 07:28 AM	#7 (permalink)
allisonjoy t e d d y s GIRL Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: rhodey isle Posts: 1,124	why bother to control?? one of the important key in a relationship is TRUST. if someone controls me, i wouldn't be able to put up with it any longer

03-20-2003, 08:50 AM	#8 (permalink)
sweetstrawberry Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 410	oh yeah..you are right,allisonjoy

03-27-2003, 11:11 AM	#12 (permalink)
illustrator Love in Jesus Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Benbrook Posts: 4,594	both need to be domain equal in the realtionship, make it strong - don't be chicken out.

03-28-2003, 12:20 AM	#15 (permalink)
eternity :naughty: Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,623	Being a control by someone? Scoff... I already seen that and know what it's like. it sucks. It's like there is no way out or something like that.

03-28-2003, 06:36 PM	#17 (permalink)
LeviathanC Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,312	Hell no, I don't want to controll them. I don't let any girl do same thing to me. If I feel like I am controlling by girl, then Good bye to her. I have ZERO tolerance for that.

04-02-2003, 11:40 PM	#21 (permalink)
Fly Free Living Life! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: In the loving arms of my butchboi! Posts: 9,101	relationships that has so much control by the significant other is a dead end relationship thats how i look at it -- so i agree with u guys on ur comments __________________ Enjoying life!

04-03-2003, 11:05 PM	#22 (permalink)
SeXi ChIcK21 Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Boring Illinois Posts: 33	I've seen alot of controlling mens and womens on talk show. It does suck that your mind tells you to not love them but your heart still do... How the HELL does the person still love the partner when he/she controls or abuse. Just walk out of his/her lives! MOVE ON and find someone who will cherish you... Controlling, Abuse and Jealousy.... " Get a LIFE!"

04-06-2003, 06:02 AM	#23 (permalink)
Lasza Premium Lurker Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Mile High State Posts: 2,509	I used have several controlled relationships before. No fun I am telling ya. What did I learned about controlled relationship is not able to open communication. That affect self-esteem become low, brainwashing, and abused. Vow myself that not letting again in the future. Hope so.

04-17-2003, 07:12 PM	#26 (permalink)
prostock19 BAH HUMBUG!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Formerly RI, Now Albany, NY Area Posts: 3,308	I would like a girl to have some control over me, but not much. Maybe its not control, but make decisions. I don't like making people upset by making the wrong decisions. __________________

04-18-2003, 06:05 PM	#27 (permalink)
blackmercedez Guest Posts: n/a	i will kindly invite him to dinner at my place for dinner. then i would cook the worst and nasty ass food to serve him. i would watch him taste and make small talk with him while he tried to act like he likes my food while i'm eating my cookie 'n cream ice cream. after he is done with the food then tell him that i done with him and he better not said jack but ordered him to leave and never come back without any explaination from me. if he don't leave, he will see that i will hit "home" with my fave baseball bat. naw, i would just tell him to get to STEPPIN' without any explaination from me, period! Have a good life because i'm going out with my friends!

01-20-2004, 11:11 PM	#28 (permalink)
racheleggert Chode! Chode! Chode! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Twin Cities, MN Posts: 2,253	controlling dates I hate it when a guy tell me what to do.... He isn't my dad!!! My ex fiance and boyfriend (guy I dated months after I called off engangement) were very controlling, want me to move out of Twin Cities, give up my political career that I built up since mid 1990's, must be with them all of time, tell me where to go, DUH!!! I know where to go... Joshua Morris and Mike Klappenbach are jacka**es, I will never date or talk to them ever again!!! Now I am with someone who understands me and accept who I am. I wanna to at my exes who used to control me because they are !!!!!! __________________ Happy Summer!

01-20-2004, 11:21 PM	#29 (permalink)
Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,618	I don't like it when a guy controls me tell me what to do where to go what clothes to wear what to eat. I don't put up with that. There a door open it up and slut it on the way out. heh __________________ God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow and sun without rain, But God did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.

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