Marriage... Divorce or Death? - Page 2

D-neen · 05-06-2008, 08:51 PM

Well for those who are thinking or wanting to getting divorce with your spouse... the best thing go to the marriage counsler or Christian Counsler. Most important is pray and seek God's guide. My husband who is hearing and I am deaf..we have been married for 28 years and we still holding on no matters what we have been facing through. We know the devil wanted so much to win over the people. God always want to blessing you and your life to be joyful in Him in everything in your marriage. It's hurts the children more than the parents. That's high rate of children hurtful more than the parents feels . So think and sit back and pray and ask God for His help and He will sustain you before you will find in awes in you. God loves you so much .. He doesn't want you to feels hurts by through divorces . You are always loved by HIM..You are loved.. that's you .:-)

KarissaMann05 · 05-06-2008, 09:43 PM

I'd rather to be dead than have a divorce, otherwise, I will go to Hell for breaking a law of the Bible. IMO as Christian's view. ^_^

D-neen · 05-06-2008, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by KarissaMann05

I'd rather to be dead than have a divorce, otherwise, I will go to Hell for breaking a law of the Bible. IMO as Christian's view. ^_^

That's what I feel the same way. Marriage is hard work and marriage is forever till death do us apart. That's Christian point of view in God's Words.

sara1981 · 05-06-2008, 10:20 PM

many million widow who still lose of spouse as wives and husband every months and every years dues illness,accident,whatevers dues of death reasons.

many million married couples always kept in marriages strongs because more trust,obey,god,whatevers in relationships as "I DO" in marriages till people get old and still get every years of marriages 5,10,15,20,25,30,35,40,45,50,55,60,65,70,75,80,85 wedding anniversary.

many million divorces couples have hard times because got argues as rocks on marriages or whatevers in relationships.

many million remarried couples can get married again if know each other online dating or meet face to face,etc.

my parents got divorces when i was 9 years old and i acceptance when my parents got divorces but i dont like divorces on my parents but my parents share join child custody of me and my brother till im reach 18 years old and same my brother they later in years my mom got remarried to my step-dad till he passes away in 2000 but my dad dont plans to remarried but he still singles for longtimes.

KarissaMann05 · 05-06-2008, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by D-neen

That's what I feel the same way. Marriage is hard work and marriage is forever till death do us apart. That's Christian point of view in God's Words.

Heartily agreed. If you lost a spouse, you can go to find an another spouse. It won't have a problem at all.

But I rather to have no spouse at all RIGHT AFTER death of my spouse because I don't want to go and search for new love. Total a waste of time, imo.

D-neen · 05-06-2008, 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by KarissaMann05

Heartily agreed. If you lost a spouse, you can go to find an another spouse. It won't have a problem at all.

But I rather to have no spouse at all RIGHT AFTER death of my spouse because I don't want to go and search for new love. Total a waste of time, imo.

That's exactly right.

Pinky678 · 05-06-2008, 10:39 PM

Agree with you. That's good point! Amen!

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Originally Posted by D-neen

Well for those who are thinking or wanting to getting divorce with your spouse... the best thing go to the marriage counsler or Christian Counsler. Most important is pray and seek God's guide. My husband who is hearing and I am deaf..we have been married for 28 years and we still holding on no matters what we have been facing through. We know the devil wanted so much to win over the people. God always want to blessing you and your life to be joyful in Him in everything in your marriage. It's hurts the children more than the parents. That's high rate of children hurtful more than the parents feels . So think and sit back and pray and ask God for His help and He will sustain you before you will find in awes in you. God loves you so much .. He doesn't want you to feels hurts by through divorces . You are always loved by HIM..You are loved.. that's you .:-)

avwdng29 · 05-06-2008, 10:56 PM

the line is "til death do us part" sooo..yea i guess die id rather both of us die together at the same time..but thats highly unlikely

***VamPyroX*** · 05-07-2008, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Pinky678

Vampy, You know 50 percent of marriage to divorced. It's not always true. It depend on everyone individual of marriage couples. I am wonder are you married or single??

Everyone are divorced for reason why? Abusive, violent, drugs abuse, problem with money, affair, cheating, not happy together, wrong soul mate, disrespect women feeling and too much stress with kids' misbehave. And never get communicate together, no faith with god, don't want to have sex for fun.

The most children parents' divorced cause get rebel in teenager, depress, not obey parent's rules, live in 2 places like at mother and father's. The kids do need parent's money to buy them a clothes or go out for somewhere with friends or go mall with no money. Some parents do not have make an enough money when they are final divorced. That's so sad!

Do you know why most men want to do suicide themselves?? They didn't want to divorce with women because of money and pay the child supports and split the money from wife and husband. Every women get everything men's things from the house to keep it. Men do live on the street, small apt, and live in the car. Men can't have his stuff out of his ex wife's house. Some men do have mental illness or disorder and use on drug abuse addict can cause kill his ex wife and children.

Everyone are marriage for long term. Do you know why?? Because they are good in communicate, find a right relationship and marriage from God's answer their pray what they want to be together and be happy marriage, the marriage couple always talk a faith to god, need to spend time together go somewhere for a special romantic, go out of eat, need to love more than money, they have to share with money in budget balance together, want to have a true family and etc.

Have you experience with divorce or break up with your gf??

I am going to get marry next 5 weeks left to go. Me and my soon to be husband together for 4 half years now. We are happy together. I rather not be die at young age. I prefer until we get an elder maybe live so long. LoL

50% is based on statistics... not personal experience.

If you say that you won't get divorced, then you are part of the 50% that won't get divorced.

Remember, the 50% is based on the United States population... not just you.

D-neen · 05-07-2008, 05:55 AM

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Originally Posted by avwdng29

the line is "til death do us part" sooo..yea i guess die id rather both of us die together at the same time..but thats highly unlikely

Well it's not your will to die. God's will and His timing when He is ready for you to die. His testing on His people that He want you to be strong and trusting in Him more when or after you face it what you have been through. Just remember God is faithful He will help you through if you ask Him.

Liebling:-))) · 05-07-2008, 06:30 AM

Look at highlands' signature...

Opal · 05-07-2008, 06:47 AM

http://http://www.mapsofworld.com/wo...orce-rate.html

Sad to see USA came 3rd by highest divorce rate in the world.

Freaky Cat · 05-07-2008, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by D-neen

Well for those who are thinking or wanting to getting divorce with your spouse... the best thing go to the marriage counsler or Christian Counsler. Most important is pray and seek God's guide. My husband who is hearing and I am deaf..we have been married for 28 years and we still holding on no matters what we have been facing through. We know the devil wanted so much to win over the people. God always want to blessing you and your life to be joyful in Him in everything in your marriage. It's hurts the children more than the parents. That's high rate of children hurtful more than the parents feels . So think and sit back and pray and ask God for His help and He will sustain you before you will find in awes in you. God loves you so much .. He doesn't want you to feels hurts by through divorces . You are always loved by HIM..You are loved.. that's you .:-)

FYI we have went to marriage counselor 3 times and my husband was wrong but did he listen? no he wont. I have prayed to God and ask him for his guidance and help to fix the marriage but it didnt help any even with counselor.

he told me I cant talk to my son's father at all? BUT i have right to talk to my son and his father. Also my mother? The father have custody of my son. How you feel if you don't know if your kid is ok or not? I love my son and i want to make sure my son is ok. over and over again he told me I cant talk to my son's father or my son. He cant tell me what to do no matter what cuz my son's father and I have to deal with our son till our son turned 18. My husband is wrong, period. he have to understand that I am a mother.

Guess what he did? he cut phone off without discussing with me. He didnt care. My mother is sick too and i have to take her to doctor appointments, and get her medicines etc. he cut the ties off to my son and my mother. Oh that made me so MAD! he doesnt care. I have tried to make him reason with this. Did he listen ? No. he said I still MUST draw a line. I cant not from my son. I have right to talk to my son anytime i want to. so whatever to him! The counselor have told him that he is wrong and he need to apologize to me. Did he apologize to me? No he didnt. He wont acknowledge what he did in first place. He still think he is right and I am wrong. jeez sigh.

till he have a kid then he will understand why I am like that .. being concern for my son and want the best for TJ. I just cant stay where controlling are and not being loved etc. I cant stay in a controlled and loveless marriage, forget it.

It wont work. so its over for good.

Reba · 05-07-2008, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

50% is based on statistics... not personal experience.

If you say that you won't get divorced, then you are part of the 50% that won't get divorced.

Remember, the 50% is based on the United States population... not just you.

What about these statistics?

"The divorce rate in 2005 (per 1,000 people) was 3.6 -- the lowest rate since 1970, and down from 4.2 in 2000 and from 4.7 in 1990. (The peak was at 5.3 in 1981, according to the Associated Press.)"
Divorce Statistics, Marriage Statistics: Divorce Rates in America, Marriage

highlands · 05-07-2008, 10:42 AM

that's strange ,freaky . The happenings you mentioned should not have taken place . A relationship begins and lives with trust. Love, trust, talking are keys

Freaky Cat · 05-07-2008, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by highlands

that's strange ,freaky . The happenings you mentioned should not have taken place . A relationship begins and lives with trust. Love, trust, talking are keys

I know thats why i cant stay in trustless, no love, and not talking marriage with someone who is always cold to me ? so it wont work.

I like it if someone is flexible with me but yet trust me and love me FOR who I am. my husband said he love me for who i am.. but after we got married.. he said he doesnt like the way i look and complained lot? is that love? it is not. so forget it.... it does hurt.

its funny.. he said he is a christian.. but really he is a blind christian.

being a christian mean you have to accept, trust, respect, love, forgive, ask, listen, encourage, give, comfort and laugh... we have Zip of that in our marriage.

highlands · 05-07-2008, 11:12 AM

I am sorry to see that your man didn't try to understand that you are not his carbon copy.. anyways, you have a son to enjoy your life with

Freaky Cat · 05-07-2008, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by highlands

I am sorry to see that your man didn't try to understand that you are not his carbon copy.. anyways, you have a son to enjoy your life with

Don't be sorry. You didnt do nothing wrong.

hehe..

yep at least I see TJ every week and summer is coming. I will have him full time. I cant wait!

***VamPyroX*** · 05-07-2008, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Reba

What about these statistics?

"The divorce rate in 2005 (per 1,000 people) was 3.6 -- the lowest rate since 1970, and down from 4.2 in 2000 and from 4.7 in 1990. (The peak was at 5.3 in 1981, according to the Associated Press.)"
Divorce Statistics, Marriage Statistics: Divorce Rates in America, Marriage

Don't forget... the facts you pointed out is by year, not by overall.

Let's look at 10 couples. All got married between 1999 and 2001. 1 couple got divorced in 2002, another in 2003, another in 2005, another in 2006, and another in 2008. If you were to look at it by year... that's less than 10%. Overall, it's still 50%.

Read further down... you'll find the overall rate.

"As of 2003, 43.7% of custodial mothers and 56.2% of custodial fathers were either separated or divorced."

Reba · 05-07-2008, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

Don't forget... the facts you pointed out is by year, not by overall.

Let's look at 10 couples. All got married between 1999 and 2001. 1 couple got divorced in 2002, another in 2003, another in 2005, another in 2006, and another in 2008. If you were to look at it by year... that's less than 10%. Overall, it's still 50%.

Using that formula, within 10 years they would all (100%) be divorced. That does not compute.

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Read further down... you'll find the overall rate.

See, that's misleading. Not 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. It does not mean that if 100 couples marry today that 50 of those couples will divorce before one of the spouses dies.

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"As of 2003, 43.7% of custodial mothers and 56.2% of custodial fathers were either separated or divorced."

That's a percentage of "custodial" mothers and fathers; if they are still married and not legally separated, then they aren't "custodial" mothers and fathers but they are "parents". The rest of the percentage of custodial mothers and fathers were never married in the first place.

Pinky678 · 05-07-2008, 08:48 PM

That's true! I don't believe in divorced. It can hurt their children. My parent never get divorced.

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

50% is based on statistics... not personal experience.

If you say that you won't get divorced, then you are part of the 50% that won't get divorced.

Remember, the 50% is based on the United States population... not just you.

shel90 · 05-07-2008, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Pinky678

That's true! I don't believe in divorced. It can hurt their children. My parent never get divorced.

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