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04-10-2008, 05:55 PM
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Deaf partner or hearing?
I'm a hearing person but I could so see myself with someone that was deaf. All my friends think I'm crazy and say I shouldn't do it. Should I only date hearing JUST BECAUSE I'm hearing?
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04-10-2008, 06:15 PM
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As long as you two are a great match. Look for the best qualities you want in the special someone...and see what flaws you can live with. Anyone with flaws you can't tolerate, not worth it. Have fun dating and the right person will come to you. It won't matter if deaf or hearing. You will just know. The best relationships happen when you are NOT looking. My man happened when I was not looking. Now it has been over ten years and two children.....
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04-10-2008, 07:24 PM
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Hi Hearing u, I just read your comment. I am deaf all my life. I have my wonderful hearing husband for 28 years! Don't listen to the others what they are telling you. You will know who's the right person for you no matters hearing or deaf. I have 2 grown children and they signs as well. ll my families and reliavtes as well . God will brings you to it when you can't see through it. :-)
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04-11-2008, 12:08 AM
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bloody phreak from hell
 
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Don't listen to them.
One very important part in all relationships is... communication. If you and he can communicate very well, great. Just make sure you don't leave him out too much. I have deaf friends who dated hearing people. Those hearing people knew how to sign, but they would often forget that my deaf friends were there and end up leaving my deaf friends out. |
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04-11-2008, 05:24 AM
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Sun Whorshipper
 
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I am deaf and married to a wonderful hearing guy.
However, if u are looking to date just deaf men just simply cuz they are deaf, it probably wont work. Just like I used to refuse to date hearing men and dated only deaf while I was single. Of course, with that kind of mindset, most likely it wont work out. I agree with the other ADers. Great advice here and so true! 
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04-11-2008, 10:40 AM
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I just got engaged a few weeks ago to my fiance (dating for 3 years), he's deaf and I'm hearing. It doesn't matter what one or the other is, all that matters is that you're with them because you want to be with them. What others think should not be the end all-be all.
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04-11-2008, 11:15 AM
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As long as you love for who they are not just cuz they are deaf or not. That is not the important except communication and get along great etc. then I dont see any plm in the relationship being flourinshed. Good luck!
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04-11-2008, 11:22 AM
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I wouldn't listen to others, follow your heart, be it.. if they can't accept you then they aren't your friends smile
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04-14-2008, 02:14 PM
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IMPORTANT for your relationship is COMMUNICATION with each other so you guys won't feel left out! |
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04-21-2008, 10:18 AM
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My advice is just listen to you heart, and let that guide you. Don't listen to other people say that you can't date this person because he or she is different. Life is all about taking chances with someone no matter who is deaf or hearing. Just feel what your heart tell you, and then you will know what you want to do. :-)
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04-22-2008, 12:29 AM
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Mrs. Pffty! :p
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I am getting marry next 2 months left to go! My fiance is hearing and know sign language very well. I am deaf. :-)
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04-22-2008, 11:34 AM
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04-23-2008, 04:37 AM
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CONGRATS to both of you looking forward on your wedding day ! My husband is hearing too and I am deaf. We have been married for 28 th years! CONGRATS! Hope you have a wonderful ... happy...above all ..most important knowing that marriage is forever till rest in peace.
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04-25-2008, 08:36 PM
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Mrs. Pffty! :p
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04-25-2008, 08:40 PM
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Yeah, Marriage is very important. I am happy for you're married for 28 years now. That's so perfect! Keep it up! I believe in god. I don't believe in divorce or unmarriage and have children cause break up. My parents never get divorced. My new husband's parents got divorced. It hurt him a lot. He didn't want to be same as his parent. He wanted to look for a perfect relationship and marriage from god. I found a right hearing man from god answered my pray. I am so happy! I can't wait to get over with wedding plan. It drove me crazy! LoL I can't wait go to honeymoon. Quote:
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05-01-2008, 04:23 PM
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I was sitting here wondering, why r people making a issue i guess about dating, marrying a deaf or hard of hearing person?? Do u see people saying about a handicapped person?? like oh my boyfriend/girlfriend is crippled, should i marry that person?? Oh, my boyfriend/girlfriend is blind should i go out with that person?? i mean theres so many people out there with different disabililities....why is there a problem?? as long as the heart is there with that special person in ur life, why worry about it?? wouldnt u worry about can we spend a lifetime together? will we be able to support each other? deaf or not, we all have feelings about our special person....in our lives and if we really want to be with that person ......not becuz that person is deaf....maybe im tooo touchy??
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05-02-2008, 01:00 PM
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Your friend would be jealous or feel so stupid when they realized your relationship with deaf person is strong and happy for long time, I am deaf and will be 26 yr old next month and I am engaged to this soon to be 21 yr old hearing girl, when I first met her she never knew how to sign and I was first deaf person she met, we shared cell phone to indructioned oursself, she invited me to her family reunion they never met a deaf before and her parent and her brother and sisters ended up know sign language they took asl class just forcommunicate with me after 3rd of month relationship her dad starting to let me borrow his duramax with 30 ft rv trailer, and rven let me take his 28ft boat out to lake, they treat me like a family they told me they hated all her old hearing exs and they loved me , and her sisters ended up jealous of her but they treat me reallly good with respect and a lot of her friends enjoyed hang out with me and talk with me so, prove your friends wrong if you find the right deaf person with great personality
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05-02-2008, 05:37 PM
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Nice story, Prerunnerchevy. It gives hope that good people with caring, supportive families are out there . . . if we grant ourselves the time to look and the faith that they are the norm, not the exception. Hang onto that girl and make 'em all proud.
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05-03-2008, 05:40 PM
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I'm so glad you beleive in God. Yes marriages is very important . It's hurt children more than parents. Whom God as joined us together let's no man ashuer(spell*)Marriages is forever that's what God wants. I also am a Christian too . Stay strong in Him and you will stays strong in your marriage no matters big or small. Because God is Greater than any problem you have. So leaning on Him daily and He will sustaining you in everything. |
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05-06-2008, 11:00 PM
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Mrs. Pffty! :p
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Aww
Yeah I believe in God. Marriage is very important! I am christian too.  My fiance is my true love. The argue about money is normal but LOVE is very important than money! You know I mean. I learned it from my mom taught me through. She wanted me to be happy to have a marriage instead of depress single. Quote:
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05-08-2008, 07:21 PM
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Hi, How are u doing today,just to say hi to u there and ill like to know u better You can reply me bcak to as to know u better.. Stay bless and save. Fra |
