What Does It Mean When Your Partner Won’t Introduce You To His Family And Friends?

GarnetTigerMom · 11-20-2007, 11:30 AM

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN YOUR PARTNER WON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS?

A woman been dating a man for nine months who won’t introduce her to his family and friends. She know he has children from a former marriage, and she haven’t even met them. Most of the time, they spend alone at her apartment or his condo, and when they do go out, it’s always at the last minute. He claims that he is a private person, and that he doesn’t want to bring other people into our relationship, but something doesn’t feel right to her. What does this mean? So what would you advice her on this? Let hear some of your opinions.

Buffalo · 11-20-2007, 11:44 AM

A former co-worker was in the same situtation. She never had been to her boyfriend's house, either. It turned out that he is married. She is out of that relationship.
Another reason popped in my head. If she is deaf and the bf is not deaf, maybe he is ashamed that she is deaf and refused to introduce her to his family. It sounds like he only want her for sex, nothing else. If I were her, I would drop him fast.

**Reba** · 11-20-2007, 12:34 PM

It's certainly a red flag that something's not right in the relationship.

Schermy · 11-20-2007, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by GarnetTigerMom

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN YOUR PARTNER WON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS?

A woman been dating a man for nine months who won’t introduce her to his family and friends. She know he has children from a former marriage, and she haven’t even met them. Most of the time, they spend alone at her apartment or his condo, and when they do go out, it’s always at the last minute. He claims that he is a private person, and that he doesn’t want to bring other people into our relationship, but something doesn’t feel right to her. What does this mean? So what would you advice her on this? Let hear some of your opinions.

My first thought is this guy is married............but she should talk to him and ask him why.

Deafilmedia · 11-20-2007, 01:19 PM

She isn't ready.

And also, her family and friends might tell him things that would embarrass her.

Her family and friends might criticize her.

Raykat · 11-20-2007, 01:24 PM

DUMP HIM....DUMP HIM.......DUMP HIM..........real fast!!!!!
He's either married or ashamed of her so why lose her self respect for a loser.

GarnetTigerMom · 11-20-2007, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Buffalo

A former co-worker was in the same situtation. She never had been to her boyfriend's house, either. It turned out that he is married. She is out of that relationship.
Another reason popped in my head. If she is deaf and the bf is not deaf, maybe he is ashamed that she is deaf and refused to introduce her to his family. It sounds like he only want her for sex, nothing else. If I were her, I would drop him fast.

You could be right but what if the guy is deaf too? he could just have been having same behavor pattern like hearing guys too. smile.

GarnetTigerMom · 11-20-2007, 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Deafilmedia

She isn't ready.

And also, her family and friends might tell him things that would embarrass her.

Her family and friends might criticize her.

it not her, who embrassas,, the the guy himself is embarrass or either not ready to introduce her to his family.

GarnetTigerMom · 11-20-2007, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Schermy

My first thought is this guy is married............but she should talk to him and ask him why.

I’ll bet she known deep down inside herself, but haven't want to face it, because it means confronting him and if she have any self-respect, she should end the relationship immediately. I believe the respect is the key word here. He obviously didn't want to respect her so his behavior is totally disrespectful. I think this may sound terrbile that he may be married or invoved with someone else and that call it cheating. So the sneaking around and staying inside and keeping her isolated from the rest of his life seems not right. She should asked herself why she put up with this kind of treatment for so long? What in her emotional past attracts her to the men who treat her like she not important? What are some ways she can kept her self in denial about something that so obvious the kind of man he is?

I think it time for her to love herself enough to know she don't deserve to be treated like some awful secret. THe man who is lucky enough to be with her should be proud and honored to have her in his life and showing her off to people he knows. I think she better off to someone better.

ilvocean · 11-20-2007, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by GarnetTigerMom

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN YOUR PARTNER WON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS?

A woman been dating a man for nine months who won’t introduce her to his family and friends. She know he has children from a former marriage, and she haven’t even met them. Most of the time, they spend alone at her apartment or his condo, and when they do go out, it’s always at the last minute. He claims that he is a private person, and that he doesn’t want to bring other people into our relationship, but something doesn’t feel right to her. What does this mean? So what would you advice her on this? Let hear some of your opinions.

Tell you honest that man is wrong.. woman need to dump him Because he not open person in relationship to her... I believe that relationship require to be open to each others to be trust. I think maybe this man is dating few different women at same time because he won't introduce her to meet his family and friends so it seem he is hiding something..

J'explique · 11-20-2007, 02:47 PM

This dude is a cheater.

Gemma · 11-20-2007, 03:11 PM

I have a girlfriend who was dating this LOSER off and on for 10 years. During the entire time, he DID not bring her home or even tell anyone they were dating. I told her he is a jerk and she wouldn't talk to me for a year. Yikes!

I played matchmaker recently for this friend and he already took her to meet his parents and friends!

She now says she really regretted wasting ten years on this loser.

GarnetTigerMom · 11-20-2007, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemma

I have a girlfriend who was dating this LOSER off and on for 10 years. During the entire time, he DID not bring her home or even tell anyone they were dating. I told her he is a jerk and she wouldn't talk to me for a year. Yikes!

I played matchmaker recently for this friend and he already took her to meet his parents and friends!

She now says she really regretted wasting ten years on this loser.

ahh I know that feeilng my sister dated a guy and married the jerk and finally divorced him. They say that love is "blind", she didn't speak to me for 5 years. But we are better now. :-)

Gemma · 11-20-2007, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by GarnetTigerMom

ahh I know that feeilng my sister dated a guy and married the jerk and finally divorced him. They say that love is "blind", she didn't speak to me for 5 years. But we are better now. :-)

Believe it or not, she and this guy s parents lived across the street from each other!! Neither parents knew - he would claim that he wasnt ready or he was depressed or he was too poor to be really "dating" ..blah blah blah

My girlfriend is now dating this guy of only THREE weeks and he is already so damn proud of her. Clearly he has nothing to hide or be ashamed of.

Gemma · 11-20-2007, 03:51 PM

From my own experiences, I do not bring home a guy unless I am very certain that I feel very strongly about him. I wouldnt want my parents to meet 100 Daves or 50 Joes or 75 Mikes LOL as I have dated quite frequently in my lifetime.

I think that this guy is clearly not ready for a relationship - he just wants a companion to be around when HE wants it. Booty call, friends with benefits, etc ..you name it.

She has 2 choices - either run or stay - but unfortunately if she has poor self esteem, she may not run and hopes instead that he will come around to his senses.

GarnetTigerMom · 11-20-2007, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemma

Believe it or not, she and this guy s parents lived across the street from each other!! Neither parents knew - he would claim that he wasnt ready or he was depressed or he was too poor to be really "dating" ..blah blah blah

My girlfriend is now dating this guy of only THREE weeks and he is already so damn proud of her. Clearly he has nothing to hide or be ashamed of.

ah some guys never learn do they? tsk There not too many good guys around to be proud of the woman they date to show her off. wow.

hohDougRN · 11-21-2007, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by GarnetTigerMom

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN YOUR PARTNER WON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS?

A woman been dating a man for nine months who won’t introduce her to his family and friends. She know he has children from a former marriage, and she haven’t even met them. Most of the time, they spend alone at her apartment or his condo, and when they do go out, it’s always at the last minute. He claims that he is a private person, and that he doesn’t want to bring other people into our relationship, but something doesn’t feel right to her. What does this mean? So what would you advice her on this? Let hear some of your opinions.

Haha, that sound like my ex with the :asshole: she cheated on me with! nuf said.

Handsome_Smiley · 11-21-2007, 01:30 PM

sounds like he is cheating or living a double life. See if you can find any of his friends

**shel90** · 11-21-2007, 01:38 PM

I agree with many of u here. Something fishy is going on so it is time for this woman to take some action.

GarnetTigerMom · 11-21-2007, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

I agree with many of u here. Something fishy is going on so it is time for this woman to take some action.

Let pass the woman a big Gorilla and the gorilla can chase the guy around the cage and beat him to the pulp!

Freaky Cat · 11-24-2007, 03:18 PM

sound like hes a loser big time.. hes not worth it...

**Angel** · 11-24-2007, 03:26 PM

OR does it means that he and his parents are not in speaking terms?...I know from my friend's experiences, her bf and his family hasn't spoken within each others for more than 10 years, that's why she hasn't met his parents yet...

I personally believe it would be wise to find out the truth first before making assumptions IMO...

**Cheri** · 11-24-2007, 07:21 PM

Good point Angel.

He could be either a cheater, married or embarrassed.

I had a boyfriend who hasn't brought me to his house during the several months we've been dating, I had no clue where he lives either all I know is the city of where he lives. A friend of mine told me to follow him one day, and find out if he's married or not, so I took her advice and followed him home, I did knocked on his door and an older lady answered, I thought it was his mother because she looks older enough to be his mother, But, she says she's the wife.

**shel90** · 11-24-2007, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Good point Angel.

He could be either a cheater, married or embarrassed.

I had a boyfriend who hasn't brought me to his house during the several months we've been dating, I had no clue where he lives either all I know is the city of where he lives. A friend of mine told me to follow him one day, and find out if he's married or not, so I took her advice and followed him home, I did knocked on his door and an older lady answered, I thought it was his mother because she looks older enough to be his mother, But, she says she's the wife.

Ouch!
So what did u say to her?

justbeautiful · 11-24-2007, 07:36 PM

wow If I were her... i would investigate. the best place to start would be his computer. or his pager or cell phone. call all numbers you see.... like i said, dont be afraid to investigate.

**shel90** · 11-24-2007, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Angel

OR does it means that he and his parents are not in speaking terms?...I know from my friend's experiences, her bf and his family hasn't spoken within each others for more than 10 years, that's why she hasn't met his parents yet...

I personally believe it would be wise to find out the truth first before making assumptions IMO...

Garnetigermom did say that the boyfriend wont introduce his girlfriend to his kids and friends. That is what makes it kinda suspicous.

**Cheri** · 11-24-2007, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Ouch!
So what did u say to her?

Nothing, I just left. I don't want to be the one hurting her with the fact that her husband is cheating on her with me. sometimes it's best to leave things unsaid after-all it isn't my marriage. But, I did dumped the dude.

**shel90** · 11-24-2007, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Nothing, I just left. I don't want to be the one hurting her with the fact that her husband is cheating on her with me. sometimes it's best to leave things unsaid after-all it isn't my marriage. But, I did dumped the dude.

Good for u!! Nice of you to spare the woman pain but hopefully she has learned the truth from her own husband some day.

GarnetTigerMom · 11-24-2007, 08:41 PM

I agree with you all, once a cheater is always a cheater type of guy. tsk!

GalaxyAngel · 11-25-2007, 12:02 AM

*smell* Red Flag!

11-20-2007, 11:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,958	What Does It Mean When Your Partner Won’t Introduce You To His Family And Friends? WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN YOUR PARTNER WON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS? A woman been dating a man for nine months who won’t introduce her to his family and friends. She know he has children from a former marriage, and she haven’t even met them. Most of the time, they spend alone at her apartment or his condo, and when they do go out, it’s always at the last minute. He claims that he is a private person, and that he doesn’t want to bring other people into our relationship, but something doesn’t feel right to her. What does this mean? So what would you advice her on this? Let hear some of your opinions. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

11-20-2007, 11:44 AM	#2 (permalink)
Buffalo Registered User Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 4,025	A former co-worker was in the same situtation. She never had been to her boyfriend's house, either. It turned out that he is married. She is out of that relationship. Another reason popped in my head. If she is deaf and the bf is not deaf, maybe he is ashamed that she is deaf and refused to introduce her to his family. It sounds like he only want her for sex, nothing else. If I were her, I would drop him fast. __________________ “The problem is not that the (deaf) students do not hear. The problem is that the hearing world does not listen. “- Rev Jesse L. Jackson ( American Civil Rights Activist, Minister)

11-20-2007, 12:34 PM	#3 (permalink)
Reba Granny Terp Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: South Carolina Posts: 39,521	It's certainly a red flag that something's not right in the relationship. __________________ Tell us the truth about Benghazi!

11-20-2007, 01:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
Raykat Registered User Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Auckland New Zealand Posts: 277	DUMP HIM....DUMP HIM.......DUMP HIM..........real fast!!!!! He's either married or ashamed of her so why lose her self respect for a loser. __________________ I'd rather be deaf than brain dead www.pindrop.org.nz

11-20-2007, 02:47 PM	#11 (permalink)
J'explique Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 289	This dude is a cheater. __________________ *Relax...It's only a joke.

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11-20-2007, 01:19 PM	#5 (permalink)
Deafilmedia Banned Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 1,579	She isn't ready. And also, her family and friends might tell him things that would embarrass her. Her family and friends might criticize her.

11-20-2007, 03:11 PM	#12 (permalink)
Gemma Registered User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,127	I have a girlfriend who was dating this LOSER off and on for 10 years. During the entire time, he DID not bring her home or even tell anyone they were dating. I told her he is a jerk and she wouldn't talk to me for a year. Yikes! I played matchmaker recently for this friend and he already took her to meet his parents and friends! She now says she really regretted wasting ten years on this loser.

11-20-2007, 03:51 PM	#15 (permalink)
Gemma Registered User Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 1,127	From my own experiences, I do not bring home a guy unless I am very certain that I feel very strongly about him. I wouldnt want my parents to meet 100 Daves or 50 Joes or 75 Mikes LOL as I have dated quite frequently in my lifetime. I think that this guy is clearly not ready for a relationship - he just wants a companion to be around when HE wants it. Booty call, friends with benefits, etc ..you name it. She has 2 choices - either run or stay - but unfortunately if she has poor self esteem, she may not run and hopes instead that he will come around to his senses.

11-21-2007, 01:30 PM	#18 (permalink)
Handsome_Smiley Registered User Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Area 1, Korea Posts: 980	sounds like he is cheating or living a double life. See if you can find any of his friends __________________ My Mini City \|Move into the city \| Open up a business \| Help with the roads \|My Mini City

11-21-2007, 01:38 PM	#19 (permalink)
shel90 Audist are not welcome Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A place where crabs are popular Posts: 40,492 Blog Entries: 3	I agree with many of u here. Something fishy is going on so it is time for this woman to take some action. __________________ "Wine improves with age. The older I get, the better I like it." --- Anonymous

11-24-2007, 03:18 PM	#21 (permalink)
Freaky Cat Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Central ArKaNsAs Posts: 10,221	sound like hes a loser big time.. hes not worth it...

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Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 19,089	OR does it means that he and his parents are not in speaking terms?...I know from my friend's experiences, her bf and his family hasn't spoken within each others for more than 10 years, that's why she hasn't met his parents yet... I personally believe it would be wise to find out the truth first before making assumptions IMO... __________________ "When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is brought in our life, OR in the life of another." ~ Helen Keller

11-24-2007, 07:21 PM	#23 (permalink)
Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,818	Good point Angel. He could be either a cheater, married or embarrassed. I had a boyfriend who hasn't brought me to his house during the several months we've been dating, I had no clue where he lives either all I know is the city of where he lives. A friend of mine told me to follow him one day, and find out if he's married or not, so I took her advice and followed him home, I did knocked on his door and an older lady answered, I thought it was his mother because she looks older enough to be his mother, But, she says she's the wife. __________________ Avoid being a victim of a stroke, a stroke can happen to anyone at anytime. You will never know how devastating this could be until you had live through it. It affects everybody. So Support Stroke Awareness to find a cure and hope.

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justbeautiful Registered User Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Portland Posts: 27	wow If I were her... i would investigate. the best place to start would be his computer. or his pager or cell phone. call all numbers you see.... like i said, dont be afraid to investigate.

11-24-2007, 08:41 PM	#29 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,958	I agree with you all, once a cheater is always a cheater type of guy. tsk! __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

11-25-2007, 12:02 AM	#30 (permalink)
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