Biologist: Having sex on a first date may lead to long term relationship - Page 2

lumbingmi · 05-04-2007, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by PuyoPiyo

Nah that don't work for me.

Just depending on the personality.

You would likely to be successfully to get sex on the first date with men more than women.

Pity women do not understand men's need

PuyoPiyo · 05-04-2007, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by KINGOFNOOBS

You would likely to be successfully to get sex on the first date with men more than women.

Pity women do not understand men's need

True about me have sex with men than women..

Yeah I understand what you mean.. It's just frustrating...

shel90 · 05-04-2007, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by KINGOFNOOBS

You would likely to be successfully to get sex on the first date with men more than women.

Pity women do not understand men's need

Ok..now this is where I don't get it. Men complain that women r hard-headed about having sex on the first date or so quickly with a new date but if a woman does do it quickly, she is called a slut and dumped by the guys because she is too "easy" and not relationship material. U can't have it all.

Liza · 05-04-2007, 05:52 PM

Well, nothing wrong with first date sex between two consenting adults if they have same goals I guess

If they don't, well, it's considered a lesson maybe?

Liza · 05-04-2007, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Ok..now this is where I don't get it. Men complain that women r hard-headed about having sex on the first date or so quickly with a new date but if a woman does do it quickly, she is called a slut and dumped by the guys because she is too "easy" and not relationship material. U can't have it all.

They call that double standard, shel!! LOL

lumbingmi · 05-04-2007, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Ok..now this is where I don't get it. Men complain that women r hard-headed about having sex on the first date or so quickly with a new date but if a woman does do it quickly, she is called a slut and dumped by the guys because she is too "easy" and not relationship material. U can't have it all.

One word for you Jealous

Why? Because more if not often a guy would want to keep woman all to himself for sex purpose. Of course that woman (unless she's sex worker) wouldn't want to stand up to that kind of treatment. Then woman wld move on to other man. Thus men tend to degrading woman by calling them nasty names so they could have their own self-gratitude.

lumbingmi · 05-04-2007, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by PuyoPiyo

True about me have sex with men than women..

Yeah I understand what you mean.. It's just frustrating...

Basically if you re looking for quick and fun, you just go for men. If you re looking for long term commitment , you go for women. Am i right or wrong?

PuyoPiyo · 05-05-2007, 12:27 AM

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Originally Posted by KINGOFNOOBS

Basically if you re looking for quick and fun, you just go for men. If you re looking for long term commitment , you go for women. Am i right or wrong?

Correct!

But I still can make a love to men too

shel90 · 05-05-2007, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by KINGOFNOOBS

One word for you Jealous

Why? Because more if not often a guy would want to keep woman all to himself for sex purpose. Of course that woman (unless she's sex worker) wouldn't want to stand up to that kind of treatment. Then woman wld move on to other man. Thus men tend to degrading woman by calling them nasty names so they could have their own self-gratitude.

There are some women like that but there are some women who really honestly like the guys and the guys says they feel the connection. Suppose they know each other as friends for several years and then they go out on a date. They discuss about deep issues relating to life and love. Then, they go to his house and start making out..whoops! Sex happens. No harm done right? They date a few more times but the guy keeps bringing up about moving too quick on the first date and obsessing about it. The woman doesnt make a big fuss about it and just want to go with the flow. The guy finally tells the woman he is not sure about having feelings for her all because she moved too fast on the first date.

He moved as fast too so what's the big fuss? Excuses or just too paranoid thinking that the woman could be a slut? Sometimes people just make a big deal over everything and this was one of those times.

lemontree · 05-08-2007, 06:20 AM

ROFL. Of course, only a man would write such a book and talk about how having sex on the first date with someone can improve your chances of being in a long-term relationship with that person. How long is long-term? 6 months? A year? 5 years? Why didn't he say first-date sex would improve one's chances of marriage? That's what I thought.

Cheri · 05-08-2007, 06:59 AM

I don't buy that stuff.

Liebling:-))) · 05-08-2007, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

There are some women like that but there are some women who really honestly like the guys and the guys says they feel the connection. Suppose they know each other as friends for several years and then they go out on a date. They discuss about deep issues relating to life and love. Then, they go to his house and start making out..whoops! Sex happens. No harm done right? They date a few more times but the guy keeps bringing up about moving too quick on the first date and obsessing about it. The woman doesnt make a big fuss about it and just want to go with the flow. The guy finally tells the woman he is not sure about having feelings for her all because she moved too fast on the first date.

He moved as fast too so what's the big fuss? Excuses or just too paranoid thinking that the woman could be a slut? Sometimes people just make a big deal over everything and this was one of those times.

There're happened often like that...
I see nothing wrong if a person attract sexuality to other person whom they know each other well with no serious. Some people who are friends and rather to have sex each other. Some agrees to have night stands.

Sometimes it happened suddenly which they doesn't mean it...

It doesn't bother me really. The people are adult and know what they are doing. If anyone who label them as whore or slut then is their ignorant and closed minded.

I ask to myself often... why the women are being label slut, whore, etc, not men?

Phillips · 05-08-2007, 07:39 AM

Interesting!!!

lumbingmi · 05-08-2007, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Liebling:-)))

I ask to myself often... why the women are being label slut, whore, etc, not men?

News Flash. Men do get labeled too but in different and nicer words.

Gamer12 · 05-08-2007, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Liebling:-)))

I ask to myself often... why the women are being label slut, whore, etc, not men?

what? like king said men do get labeled from women -

"jerk"
"asshole"
"pervert"
"bastard"

so on and so on.

revving to the topic - my other half and i are living proofs of this study.

shel90 · 05-08-2007, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Gamer12

what? like king said men do get labeled from women -

"jerk"
"asshole"
"pervert"
"bastard"

so on and so on.

revving to the topic - my other half and i are living proofs of this study.

Yea I know what u mean and know what Liebling means.

Several men when young like to play around and so do women too. Those women get looked down while men r considered the "studs" or the "big" man for scoring a lot of women. Can't women get called the same if they want to play around?

After my divorce, I didn't want a serious relationship since I had been with my ex since I was 17 years old. Was the only serious relationship I had so I wanted to experiment. Dated a lot but I got labeled a whore. Fine..if it makes me a whore, so be it but at least I got to have fun.

no regrets..just sad that I get called names as if I was sleeping with every single guy dated.

Gamer12 · 05-08-2007, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by lemontree

ROFL. Of course, only a man would write such a book and talk about how having sex on the first date with someone can improve your chances of being in a long-term relationship with that person. How long is long-term? 6 months? A year? 5 years? Why didn't he say first-date sex would improve one's chances of marriage? That's what I thought.

of course one might not want to insert another side - i wonder how many couples stay married after many months and years of dating and commited relationships? why didn't she say a long-term and relationship wouldn't always improve one's chances of marriage? there was a classmate of mine who had a divorce within only a few months of marriage - he had a long-term [11 years] relationship with his exwife before married her. shocking! shocking! not.

there is no one-for-all formula in rendering a successful marriage. none whatsoever. what might work for me don't always work for you.

Gamer12 · 05-08-2007, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Several men when young like to play around and so do women too. Those women get looked down while men r considered the "studs" or the "big" man for scoring a lot of women. Can't women get called the same if they want to play around?

i reluct to give in but you're right. i had a similar discussion with women before but the one thing that bothers me about this game bullshit - why don't women just walk from them and chase after men with better qualities? because of my position, i listened to many complains from women about men they dated. but why don't they just select the right type of men and save themselves the headaches? it certainly will kill the game since they will take away the ammos men used for the game.

anyone knows an answer will win a free subscription to AD and its topics! approved by alex*

*no he didn't.

PuyoPiyo · 05-08-2007, 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Gamer12

what? like king said men do get labeled from women -

"jerk"
"asshole"
"pervert"
"bastard"

so on and so on.

revving to the topic - my other half and i are living proofs of this study.

I'm DEFINIELY with you!

Missus_Philos0phyK · 05-09-2007, 12:27 AM

sorry to busted yall's bubbles, boys...

there's a lot of pros & cons for sex on the first date.... the reasons why its not good thing for first time or it could be whilst it last.

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Sex on first date - right or wrong?

By BELLA BATTLE
April 30, 2007

SEX on a first date is for one-night stands, right? Well, actually, no.

According to new book The Rough Guide to the Brain, sleeping with someone early on can INCREASE your chances of a long-term relationship.

Author and biologist Dr Barry Gibb reckons romps spark chemical changes in the brain that lead to love.

He explains:
Sun Online

Missus_Philos0phyK · 05-09-2007, 01:12 AM

the correct url, mind the discussion section - its the error..

here's the link. The Sun Online - Sun Woman: Is sex on a first date wrong?

Gamer12 · 05-09-2007, 01:44 AM

missus - thanks for the link. but women just shared their opinion -- not the facts or hard data -- with us. i found it intriguing that the author asked the sexperts, not marriage experts, for their advices on long-term relationships or marriages. it's just like asking terrorists for their opinions on how to stop the terrorists.

still, a sex researcher from the article you posted earlier supports Dr. Barry Gibb's theory -

there’s certainly evidence of couples who’ve slept together fairly early on and have stayed together.

I slept with my partner the first night we went out and we’re now expecting a baby together.

But some guys have double standards where they really like you, sleep with you and then decide they don’t want to be with you.

It’s probably not going to work with the kind of man who’s likely to judge you or leave you based on certain things you do early on in a relationship.

bingo. choose a right man and the headache's over. it just shouldn't be this difficult. but again, jerks and assholes are good at posing as good guys[tm] to get women into their pants.

Missus_Philos0phyK · 05-09-2007, 02:37 AM

once again.. I know I had made bad posting.. but here it goes.. the actual post!

for the marvelous input!

that was the exact opinion I just had thought of, but eh it was too long 4 me to type it out. ha! thanks for filling my spot!

btw, men has their ways of trying to win or suceed their game chart to scored the "prizes" so that it will represented themselves as "I'm the man!" I don't know what men actually thinking or considering but no offense & I did knew about the influence of the pornstars & women outside of pornography world - beautiful models in their sexual fanatasy.

that goes for women, too.. no matter what names that called us out aka "hoes, slut, whore, bitches, cheap" (we will take these to the conscience at that judgement on self-esteem or self-conscious with respect compliments.

we can be beautiful in our unique original ways. its our choice to embrace it or throw it way in dumpster.

Simple desires are easy to satisfy.

yes, it is to tempting to think of whether we are right or wrong.. it just the way of life making each other happy or better.

& funny thing, animals.. mammals never had 1 bit of complaints for each male & female's arguement in sexually way. they will just claim them or kill them. doesn't it sounds like its inhuman reasonable for them, too? although, we all have responsiblity for our pride & self-esteem.. at last I can only say.... be careful.

PuyoPiyo · 05-09-2007, 03:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Missus_Philos0phyK

that goes for women, too.. no matter what names that called us out aka "hoes, slut, whore, bitches, cheap" (we will take these to the conscience at that judgement on self-esteem or self-conscious with respect compliments.

Ok then we will wear our shirt that we are bastard, jerk, asshole, studs, etc whatever the women label us, we will be proud of it who we are, the MEN!

Men should be proud to be Men
Women should be proud of Women

Equalize is Finalized

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Missus_Philos0phyK strongwise, only funnier Join Date: May 2005 Location: Funnyville in Tejas Posts: 642 Blog Entries: 1	the correct url, mind the discussion section - its the error.. here's the link. The Sun Online - Sun Woman: Is sex on a first date wrong? __________________ just love responsibly. -PEACE-

05-09-2007, 02:37 AM	#53 (permalink)
Missus_Philos0phyK strongwise, only funnier Join Date: May 2005 Location: Funnyville in Tejas Posts: 642 Blog Entries: 1	once again.. I know I had made bad posting.. but here it goes.. the actual post! for the marvelous input! that was the exact opinion I just had thought of, but eh it was too long 4 me to type it out. ha! thanks for filling my spot! btw, men has their ways of trying to win or suceed their game chart to scored the "prizes" so that it will represented themselves as "I'm the man!" I don't know what men actually thinking or considering but no offense & I did knew about the influence of the pornstars & women outside of pornography world - beautiful models in their sexual fanatasy. that goes for women, too.. no matter what names that called us out aka "hoes, slut, whore, bitches, cheap" (we will take these to the conscience at that judgement on self-esteem or self-conscious with respect compliments. we can be beautiful in our unique original ways. its our choice to embrace it or throw it way in dumpster. Simple desires are easy to satisfy. yes, it is to tempting to think of whether we are right or wrong.. it just the way of life making each other happy or better. & funny thing, animals.. mammals never had 1 bit of complaints for each male & female's arguement in sexually way. they will just claim them or kill them. doesn't it sounds like its inhuman reasonable for them, too? although, we all have responsiblity for our pride & self-esteem.. at last I can only say.... be careful. __________________ just love responsibly. -PEACE-

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05-04-2007, 05:52 PM	#34 (permalink)
Liza Cranial protocologist Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: St Augustine, FL Posts: 4,161 Blog Entries: 2	Well, nothing wrong with first date sex between two consenting adults if they have same goals I guess If they don't, well, it's considered a lesson maybe?

05-09-2007, 01:44 AM	#52 (permalink)
Gamer12 the biggest jerk Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 281	missus - thanks for the link. but women just shared their opinion -- not the facts or hard data -- with us. i found it intriguing that the author asked the sexperts, not marriage experts, for their advices on long-term relationships or marriages. it's just like asking terrorists for their opinions on how to stop the terrorists. still, a sex researcher from the article you posted earlier supports Dr. Barry Gibb's theory - there’s certainly evidence of couples who’ve slept together fairly early on and have stayed together. I slept with my partner the first night we went out and we’re now expecting a baby together. But some guys have double standards where they really like you, sleep with you and then decide they don’t want to be with you. It’s probably not going to work with the kind of man who’s likely to judge you or leave you based on certain things you do early on in a relationship. bingo. choose a right man and the headache's over. it just shouldn't be this difficult. but again, jerks and assholes are good at posing as good guys[tm] to get women into their pants.