As a child - Page 2

DeafSCUBA98 · 09-07-2003, 09:39 PM

instering stories that you all have... some are same as mine..

as for me, i become hard of hearing when i was 2 yrs old with menigits.. my mom suddenly decide to learn Sign Language, she even took me, my brother to sign language class so we all can learn. as time goes by, i lose my hearing and become serve hearing loss when i was in my teenage years. I normally speak to my family with voice, they sign to me, almost all of my family (mostly woman) learn basic sign such as my aunts, grandmother, and cousins. but my uncles and grandfather didn't learn... yeah mens are like that huh? but my stepfather and brother is only one who's willing to learn. sometimes i do feel left out. but kindly at dinner time my aunt told me what they're talking about, or grandma told me what they're talking about.. this helps a little.. anyway, still wish they know more signs...

linneaelliott · 09-08-2003, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by bbnt

How well did you communcate with your family.
For those with deaf parents i'm sure you
communicated pretty well.

Was it difficult? Did your parents make an extra
effort to listen to you? Did yur family keep you
involved in ongoing conversations?

I'm HOH, so my family and I just talk to each other. I didn't learn to sign until 2nd grade. My mom did learn the basics (stop, restroom, shut up). My brother and sister both can fingerspell and know a few basic signs. My mom and sister took an ASL class but they have forgotten a lot of it, since they never use it. My dad has never really learned to sign. When he's with my fiance' (who's deaf) he depends on me to interpret. Sometimes he makes gestures. Now I am a Senior in college and its the same as its been all my life.

About the family gatherings, I still go to them, but I do feel left out. I can't hear very well when there's a lot of other things going on. I just bring my fiance' or another deaf friend with me to keep me company.

e · 09-08-2003, 11:20 PM

There's an ironic thing going on between me and my parents. They both knew sign langauge before I was born because I have one of two older sisters who's deaf. My mom became interpreter little while after I was born. Converstaions between her and me was no problem, typical mother-daughter relationship.

Almost everytime there was a family gathering together, my mom almost forgot to interpret for me or difficult to get her to listen the conversations. So, most of time I missed out the converstaions and never become interested being involved with family gathering. I stopped visiting families on holidays after (or a little right before) I got out of HS. I was very sick and tired of being left out. I was holding out my feelings too much and then too much to handle I was crying uncontrollably in front of my family. It was very embarassing! My parents started to realize and finally let me make my own deicison and do whatever is best for me.

There are mixed feelings between hate and guilt. I knew whole time they are my family but I hate sitting there and watching them laughing or shocking. It's always been difficult of wanting to be part of it or not wanting to be. :-/

RosesNY · 09-08-2003, 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ~Heather~

Yeah, I always been left out and I don't see the point of going for family gathering or whatever...I rather not to go. Last summer of 2002, there was family reunion, my dad wanted me to go but I

, told him that I ain't coming. Im just sick of being left out all the time, tap their shoulders ask them what they all are talking about and all...

so fuck it...

yea I was like that too.

Cheri · 12-28-2003, 12:42 PM

I do felt left out alot during my family gathers... Sometimes I feel that maybe they forget I am around them.. But my hearing sister knows very good asl.. and she would talk to us sometimes... My step mom loves my jokes so she would just sit by the table and listen to my jokes for hours .. we would have a good laughs.

Anne · 12-28-2003, 01:16 PM

I avoid family get-togethers because they just seem to talk amongst each other as if I don't exisit and I don't like visiting my father because he never talks to me face to face, he says something and my fiance repeats it to me. Only person who speaks to me face to face and slowly is my grandma. My parents never bothered to learn BSL because they said I wouldn't be using it much...... how WRONG they were!! I learn't BSL at comprehensive school and I still use it

Even my fiance has taken an interest

09-07-2003, 09:39 PM	#31 (permalink)
DeafSCUBA98 my cute fish of the year! Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: land of 10,000 lakes and living by one of them Posts: 4,640	instering stories that you all have... some are same as mine.. as for me, i become hard of hearing when i was 2 yrs old with menigits.. my mom suddenly decide to learn Sign Language, she even took me, my brother to sign language class so we all can learn. as time goes by, i lose my hearing and become serve hearing loss when i was in my teenage years. I normally speak to my family with voice, they sign to me, almost all of my family (mostly woman) learn basic sign such as my aunts, grandmother, and cousins. but my uncles and grandfather didn't learn... yeah mens are like that huh? but my stepfather and brother is only one who's willing to learn. sometimes i do feel left out. but kindly at dinner time my aunt told me what they're talking about, or grandma told me what they're talking about.. this helps a little.. anyway, still wish they know more signs... __________________ Nucleus Freedom 04/18/05 activiated 05/16/05

12-28-2003, 12:42 PM	#35 (permalink)
Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,628	I do felt left out alot during my family gathers... Sometimes I feel that maybe they forget I am around them.. But my hearing sister knows very good asl.. and she would talk to us sometimes... My step mom loves my jokes so she would just sit by the table and listen to my jokes for hours .. we would have a good laughs. __________________ God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow and sun without rain, But God did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears and light for the way.

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09-08-2003, 11:20 PM	#33 (permalink)
e AD First Lady Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Neeewwwww Yawk! Posts: 1,138	There's an ironic thing going on between me and my parents. They both knew sign langauge before I was born because I have one of two older sisters who's deaf. My mom became interpreter little while after I was born. Converstaions between her and me was no problem, typical mother-daughter relationship. Almost everytime there was a family gathering together, my mom almost forgot to interpret for me or difficult to get her to listen the conversations. So, most of time I missed out the converstaions and never become interested being involved with family gathering. I stopped visiting families on holidays after (or a little right before) I got out of HS. I was very sick and tired of being left out. I was holding out my feelings too much and then too much to handle I was crying uncontrollably in front of my family. It was very embarassing! My parents started to realize and finally let me make my own deicison and do whatever is best for me. There are mixed feelings between hate and guilt. I knew whole time they are my family but I hate sitting there and watching them laughing or shocking. It's always been difficult of wanting to be part of it or not wanting to be. :-/

12-28-2003, 01:16 PM	#36 (permalink)
Anne Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: London, UK Posts: 92	I avoid family get-togethers because they just seem to talk amongst each other as if I don't exisit and I don't like visiting my father because he never talks to me face to face, he says something and my fiance repeats it to me. Only person who speaks to me face to face and slowly is my grandma. My parents never bothered to learn BSL because they said I wouldn't be using it much...... how WRONG they were!! I learn't BSL at comprehensive school and I still use it Even my fiance has taken an interest