LOVE?! help me please

Jessica.+* · 10-03-2006, 10:01 PM

Ok people i need help. I met this guy over the internet, We've been talking for about a year now. And I fell in love with him. And he fell in love with me.We talk on the phone ALOT! just i don't know.. I'm 15 and he's 17.. is it possible for me to love at my age? I mean i know i love him, but at my age should i want to spend my life with someone already? + He dosen't know what i actually look like. I know i'm not ugly i've been told i'm not and i'm not fat. I'm an average size. I'm just really scared that he wont want to love me? my friend offered her pictures and iv been sending them to him instead! he says he loves me but do you think he'll still love me after finding out that the girl he thinks he loves dosen't look the way she does in the pictures? is love all about your appearance? or is it loving the person that they are inside? someone help i am sooo confused!!!

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You dont want to waste your time talking to him/her for months and only find that he/she lied about her appearance. I dont care about communication and personality but hey you would like to date a nice looking person rather than UGLY FAT MUTHFUCKER.

that's what i don't want him to end up thinking.

10-03-2006, 10:04 PM

Girl, why on the EARTH did you send him a different photo? You have to remember that men in general are very visual.

I cannot answer whether he will still love you after finding out that you sent photos of your friend instead. Im sure that at first he will feel betrayed...but I dont know how he would react. We cannot answer for him.

But overall, Jessica, you have to take pure honest risks with love. It is not worth sending false photos.....it will screw everything up.

If I were you, I will confess immediately and see how he reacts. None of us can tell you how he would feel/react/think/act.

Jessica.+* · 10-03-2006, 10:09 PM

I know! I sent them before more as a safety thing. I didn't know him
he could have been a freak? I fell in love after and after i found out
that he had the same feelings back it became harder and harder to
tell him the truth. I'm really scared to tell him

10-03-2006, 10:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica.+*

I know! I sent them before more as a safety thing. I didn't know him
he could have been a freak? I fell in love after and after i found out
that he had the same feelings back it became harder and harder to
tell him the truth. I'm really scared to tell him

Honey, you have to tell him. Tell him that you sent him a false photo due to safety risk. But now you have gone too far and it is time to confess. You have no other way to find out whether his love for you is genuine or not.

Jessica.+* · 10-03-2006, 10:16 PM

i know i know.I didn't wanna make it this complicated! I'm really self conscious and i used to the photo for safety reasons. but i mean it's
really hard to tell him. I don't want him to feel betrayed or to lose any
feelings for me. I love him!!! I don't want him to think of me as ugly
or anything. it's a perfect way to see if his love is genuine yes, still
it's hard and i don't want to lose him. I'm super scared to tell him!

10-03-2006, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica.+*

i know i know.I didn't wanna make it this complicated! I'm really self conscious and i used to the photo for safety reasons. but i mean it's
really hard to tell him. I don't want him to feel betrayed or to lose any
feelings for me. I love him!!! I don't want him to think of me as ugly
or anything. it's a perfect way to see if his love is genuine yes, still
it's hard and i don't want to lose him. I'm super scared to tell him!

Simply copy and paste what you said above and email him.

I wish I have magic answers for you but like I said earlier, you went too far with the safety reasons and it is now time to confess. If he truly loves you, he WILL understand your reasons behind your deceit.

I know that you are very young and think it will mean end of world if you tell him but it is called maturity when you finally confess and all that. It will be a valuable lesson for rest of your life

fei ku · 10-03-2006, 10:22 PM

tell him early better than later dont postpone or else it will become harder and harder and dont hold it back just get it out before too late

Jessica.+* · 10-03-2006, 10:27 PM

I'm also kinda really embarassed. he has my freinds emails and stuff.
i'll be super embarassed if he tells them. I feel sorta stupid that i did
this. Maturing is a big issue in this and i made this problem myself,
but , i mean think about it! how would the guy u love react if he found
out that u don't look the way u claimed u did.

10-03-2006, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica.+*

I'm also kinda really embarassed. he has my freinds emails and stuff.
i'll be super embarassed if he tells them. I feel sorta stupid that i did
this. Maturing is a big issue in this and i made this problem myself,
but , i mean think about it! how would the guy u love react if he found
out that u don't look the way u claimed u did.

Again - you have no choice but to reveal the truth. If your friends are your real friends, they would understand that you made an error.

Again - I said that the guy will feel BETRAYED but we all here on AD cannot tell you how he would act.

Angel · 10-03-2006, 10:32 PM

I truly can understand why you send him those pictures of your friend instead of yourself, but still isn't that lying?...Please don't take this the wrong way but will he be able to trust you again after what you've done, maybe if you explain your reason behind this all, maybe he will give you a chance, but I don't think his feelings will change over a picture, maybe he fell in love with you for who you are not for what you look like...

Be honest with him, and tell him the real reason behind this I wish you all the best girl and beside isn't he a bit old enough since you're only 15? and he could get himself in huge trouble! I wouldn't let my 15 years old son date a 17 years old girl, no way ! Yep I'm an overprotective mom!!

Jessica.+* · 10-03-2006, 10:33 PM

Ok well i copy pasted what i said. so when he gets the e-mail, i'll see his reaction then. I'm super nervous lol I revealed the truth finally!! i should feel the weight off my shoulders disappear yet it feels heavier. I hope he forgives me!!!

10-03-2006, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica.+*

Ok well i copy pasted what i said. so when he gets the e-mail, i'll see his reaction then. I'm super nervous lol I revealed the truth finally!! i should feel the weight off my shoulders disappear yet it feels heavier. I hope he forgives me!!!

Be strong, girl

You will finally find out whether it is a true love or not

Hugs

Jessica.+* · 10-03-2006, 10:38 PM

thanks you guys. u've been a major help!!
I can't wait to see if it is a true love or not.
i hope it is. I love him soooooooo much! it's crazzy!
hopefully he feels the same way after he realizes
i am a liar:S

Liebling:-))) · 10-04-2006, 07:28 AM

I'm glad that you took Gemtun's advice...

I would give you the same advice as Gemtun. I hope everything will goes smooth for you... Sure, it might hurt a guy... I hope he will forgive you but we can't garantee you if he feel being betray by you and can't forgive you for that... because you hurt his trust... You improve your mistake next time if you meet someone one day... TRUTH is the best... Tell him who really you are...

Good Luck

Reba · 10-04-2006, 05:06 PM

"Love" over the internet is dangerous for teenagers. How do you know that the guy isn't lying? He might really be a 30-year-old married man.

I hope you don't make any plans to meet him alone in a private place.

BTW, love isn't all about appearance but it is all about honesty and trust.

Jessica.+* · 10-04-2006, 08:01 PM

kay so basically, i messed everything up? oh my god..
great omg im sucha idiot!

Jessica.+* · 10-04-2006, 08:42 PM

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"Love" over the internet is dangerous for teenagers. How do you know that the guy isn't lying? He might really be a 30-year-old married man.

I hope you don't make any plans to meet him alone in a private place.

BTW, love isn't all about appearance but it is all about honesty and trust.

Ouch..

darkflare83 · 10-04-2006, 08:49 PM

well i cant really decide for you but hope everything ll work out i met an women online too she and i re doing great we both talked thru webcam she knows what i look like and what she looks like and we consider each other cute and pretty i told her everything ab out myself and she told me everything about herself including apperance besides i suggest you to find out his real age by telling him to get on an webcam that way yo u ll know his real age some people re right 30 years old can act like an 17 years old because psychocally some 30 years old thinks they re 17 years old or something liek that lets just say there s alot of smart and sneaky guys out there that re an pervert and an freak so just becareful you re only 15 you can fall in love nothing wrong wth that just becareful thats all

Jessica.+* · 10-04-2006, 08:56 PM

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well i cant really decide for you but hope everything ll work out i met an women online too she and i re doing great we both talked thru webcam she knows what i look like and what she looks like and we consider each other cute and pretty i told her everything ab out myself and she told me everything about herself including apperance besides i suggest you to find out his real age by telling him to get on an webcam that way yo u ll know his real age some people re right 30 years old can act like an 17 years old because psychocally some 30 years old thinks they re 17 years old or something liek that lets just say there s alot of smart and sneaky guys out there that re an pervert and an freak so just becareful you re only 15 you can fall in love nothing wrong wth that just becareful thats all

I know i'm just worried about what his response to it all may be.I did it for safety reasons yes. but i mean i want him to still love me!! what if he dsoent?

darkflare83 · 10-04-2006, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Jessica.+*

I know i'm just worried about what his response to it all may be.I did it for safety reasons yes. but i mean i want him to still love me!! what if he dsoent?

dont worry kid, you have so much potential in you you will find an right guy if he s not the one i my suggestion is go with the flow and dont worry let time sort things outyou ll only hurt yourself i fyou keep worrying about this so just lay down and relax until you get the respondse its like worrying about when you ll die you know? no point doing that i know it hurts and y ou re scared out of your mind but like i said dont worry just relax

Jessica.+* · 10-04-2006, 09:26 PM

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dont worry kid, you have so much potential in you you will find an right guy if he s not the one i my suggestion is go with the flow and dont worry let time sort things outyou ll only hurt yourself i fyou keep worrying about this so just lay down and relax until you get the respondse its like worrying about when you ll die you know? no point doing that i know it hurts and y ou re scared out of your mind but like i said dont worry just relax

thanks!what u said makes alot of sense. I just hope he is the one and accepts me for who i really am. I don't want him to be disappointed. and he may not say that he is to me directly , but he can think it ya know?
I just don't want this to end and then me realize it was all my fault that it ended up in disaster. i couldn't bare to have that feeling in me. it'd prolly kill me.

Jessica.+* · 10-05-2006, 10:06 PM

OK! so he took it horribly.
said it was fucked up and ended
the sentence with but w/e.
said it was a way to get someone
to trust you. I feel.. like im going to be
nautious. I love him , and he hates me
for doing what i did. I feel terrible.
like i just screwed something that could
have been a once in a lifetime oppurtunity.
I guess his love wasen't genuine Gemtum.
he loved what he *thot* i looked like.
not the real me. or my personality. I've learnt
my lesson. never lie to a guy about what u look like
and don't waste your time on someone that dosen't
*TRULY* love you.
sadly.. i guess it's the end?

Angel · 10-05-2006, 10:18 PM

Aww I'm sorry to hear that

sometimes we lose someone we truly love but it also show us it wasn't meant to be, so keep your chin up hon, cause there's this speical guy out there somewhere, just have to keep looking for that someone....

Hang in there, I know whats it like to have a broken heart but be glad you're young cause you have a whole life ahead of you and there are more guys out there that will love you for who you are and your pesonality!

Jessica.+* · 10-05-2006, 10:35 PM

he hates me..
i feel terrible!
like i wanna cry..
and watch stupid love movies
lol pathetic.. and sad? yes very.

Angel · 10-05-2006, 10:43 PM

Nooo he doesn't hate you, you made a mistake and you're young, so I'm sure you've learn your lesson, I've done tons of mistakes in my life, sometimes I would sit in the bathroom and cry it out but then again I know things will get better later on I just have to believe that, and it did, so I hope you will do the same when the time is right...Don't cry girl cause no man is worth your tears

Jessica.+* · 10-05-2006, 10:56 PM

yes he really hates me. he thinks i played him said he didn't wanna talk to me.
he HATES me

Jessica.+* · 10-05-2006, 11:06 PM

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From : Adam brown <timber_royalking16@hotmail.com>
Sent : October 5, 2006 9:11:07 PM
To : jessica.xox24@hotmail.com
Subject : haha

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lol pretty good safety thing playin me a little nicely done
but yea sorry i wasent a creepo..and bye

oucch.. =(

Jessica.+* · 10-06-2006, 12:12 PM

well um today we've been talking.. and it's awkward we havent spoken about what happened and stuff really yet. um we're talking casually like i said its very awkward. i don't know what to say do i ask him if he still loves me? or if he hates me? what do i do/say? he said bye yesterday. now he's talking to me.. what is he doing? i am soo confused

10-03-2006, 10:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	I know! I sent them before more as a safety thing. I didn't know him he could have been a freak? I fell in love after and after i found out that he had the same feelings back it became harder and harder to tell him the truth. I'm really scared to tell him __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-03-2006, 10:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	i know i know.I didn't wanna make it this complicated! I'm really self conscious and i used to the photo for safety reasons. but i mean it's really hard to tell him. I don't want him to feel betrayed or to lose any feelings for me. I love him!!! I don't want him to think of me as ugly or anything. it's a perfect way to see if his love is genuine yes, still it's hard and i don't want to lose him. I'm super scared to tell him! __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-03-2006, 10:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	I'm also kinda really embarassed. he has my freinds emails and stuff. i'll be super embarassed if he tells them. I feel sorta stupid that i did this. Maturing is a big issue in this and i made this problem myself, but , i mean think about it! how would the guy u love react if he found out that u don't look the way u claimed u did. __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-03-2006, 10:32 PM	#10 (permalink)
Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 19,088	I truly can understand why you send him those pictures of your friend instead of yourself, but still isn't that lying?...Please don't take this the wrong way but will he be able to trust you again after what you've done, maybe if you explain your reason behind this all, maybe he will give you a chance, but I don't think his feelings will change over a picture, maybe he fell in love with you for who you are not for what you look like... Be honest with him, and tell him the real reason behind this I wish you all the best girl and beside isn't he a bit old enough since you're only 15? and he could get himself in huge trouble! I wouldn't let my 15 years old son date a 17 years old girl, no way ! Yep I'm an overprotective mom!! __________________ "When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is brought in our life, OR in the life of another." ~ Helen Keller

10-03-2006, 10:33 PM	#11 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	Ok well i copy pasted what i said. so when he gets the e-mail, i'll see his reaction then. I'm super nervous lol I revealed the truth finally!! i should feel the weight off my shoulders disappear yet it feels heavier. I hope he forgives me!!! __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

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10-03-2006, 10:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
Gemtun Guest Posts: n/a	Girl, why on the EARTH did you send him a different photo? You have to remember that men in general are very visual. I cannot answer whether he will still love you after finding out that you sent photos of your friend instead. Im sure that at first he will feel betrayed...but I dont know how he would react. We cannot answer for him. But overall, Jessica, you have to take pure honest risks with love. It is not worth sending false photos.....it will screw everything up. If I were you, I will confess immediately and see how he reacts. None of us can tell you how he would feel/react/think/act.

10-03-2006, 10:22 PM	#7 (permalink)
fei ku Taken by someone Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: anime world Posts: 1,115	tell him early better than later dont postpone or else it will become harder and harder and dont hold it back just get it out before too late

10-03-2006, 10:38 PM	#13 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	thanks you guys. u've been a major help!! I can't wait to see if it is a true love or not. i hope it is. I love him soooooooo much! it's crazzy! hopefully he feels the same way after he realizes i am a liar:S __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-04-2006, 07:28 AM	#14 (permalink)
Liebling:-))) My 3 darling princesses Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Germany Posts: 27,021	I'm glad that you took Gemtun's advice... I would give you the same advice as Gemtun. I hope everything will goes smooth for you... Sure, it might hurt a guy... I hope he will forgive you but we can't garantee you if he feel being betray by you and can't forgive you for that... because you hurt his trust... You improve your mistake next time if you meet someone one day... TRUTH is the best... Tell him who really you are... Good Luck __________________

10-04-2006, 05:06 PM	#15 (permalink)
Reba Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 17,240	"Love" over the internet is dangerous for teenagers. How do you know that the guy isn't lying? He might really be a 30-year-old married man. I hope you don't make any plans to meet him alone in a private place. BTW, love isn't all about appearance but it is all about honesty and trust.

10-04-2006, 08:01 PM	#16 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	kay so basically, i messed everything up? oh my god.. great omg im sucha idiot! __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-04-2006, 08:49 PM	#18 (permalink)
darkflare83 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: milwaukee state of wisconsin Posts: 647	well i cant really decide for you but hope everything ll work out i met an women online too she and i re doing great we both talked thru webcam she knows what i look like and what she looks like and we consider each other cute and pretty i told her everything ab out myself and she told me everything about herself including apperance besides i suggest you to find out his real age by telling him to get on an webcam that way yo u ll know his real age some people re right 30 years old can act like an 17 years old because psychocally some 30 years old thinks they re 17 years old or something liek that lets just say there s alot of smart and sneaky guys out there that re an pervert and an freak so just becareful you re only 15 you can fall in love nothing wrong wth that just becareful thats all __________________

10-05-2006, 10:06 PM	#22 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	OK! so he took it horribly. said it was fucked up and ended the sentence with but w/e. said it was a way to get someone to trust you. I feel.. like im going to be nautious. I love him , and he hates me for doing what i did. I feel terrible. like i just screwed something that could have been a once in a lifetime oppurtunity. I guess his love wasen't genuine Gemtum. he loved what he thot i looked like. not the real me. or my personality. I've learnt my lesson. never lie to a guy about what u look like and don't waste your time on someone that dosen't TRULY love you. sadly.. i guess it's the end? __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-05-2006, 10:18 PM	#23 (permalink)
Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 19,088	Aww I'm sorry to hear that sometimes we lose someone we truly love but it also show us it wasn't meant to be, so keep your chin up hon, cause there's this speical guy out there somewhere, just have to keep looking for that someone.... Hang in there, I know whats it like to have a broken heart but be glad you're young cause you have a whole life ahead of you and there are more guys out there that will love you for who you are and your pesonality! __________________ "When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is brought in our life, OR in the life of another." ~ Helen Keller

10-05-2006, 10:35 PM	#24 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	he hates me.. i feel terrible! like i wanna cry.. and watch stupid love movies lol pathetic.. and sad? yes very. __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-05-2006, 10:43 PM	#25 (permalink)
Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 19,088	Nooo he doesn't hate you, you made a mistake and you're young, so I'm sure you've learn your lesson, I've done tons of mistakes in my life, sometimes I would sit in the bathroom and cry it out but then again I know things will get better later on I just have to believe that, and it did, so I hope you will do the same when the time is right...Don't cry girl cause no man is worth your tears __________________ "When we do the best we can, we never know what miracle is brought in our life, OR in the life of another." ~ Helen Keller

10-05-2006, 10:56 PM	#26 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	yes he really hates me. he thinks i played him said he didn't wanna talk to me. he HATES me __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)

10-06-2006, 12:12 PM	#28 (permalink)
Jessica.+* yo! ahaha Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 56	well um today we've been talking.. and it's awkward we havent spoken about what happened and stuff really yet. um we're talking casually like i said its very awkward. i don't know what to say do i ask him if he still loves me? or if he hates me? what do i do/say? he said bye yesterday. now he's talking to me.. what is he doing? i am soo confused __________________ JESSICA.<33 (L)